Ayla

Yeahhh !!! So Let's !

@falobma , what I suspect here, is that your mind is tricking you in a very special way so that it can sabotage your success In other words, your inner trauma is expressing through some form of doing something contrary to your beliefs (telling your friends while suspecting it will do no good to the "crush"). There is something in you that is not ready for a relationship. This telling your friends is just how it gets done. It could be anything else: putting your clothes backwards, not washing for a week...etc. So the telling isn't the problem. The problem is that you do not feel ready and confident enough to have a relationship Work with that for now.

@Pierre, would you like some pictures too ? Sorry, don't take me seriously, just following up your "humor" pointing

Too Much Joy !!!!! God, let this transpire outwardly! Open us up God so that one and all see they beauty of what IS!

The funny thing is, there's no YOU to become anything. It feels more like, words are choosing you than the other way around And than, there's always the CONCEPT of truth, and there's the TRUTH! ...

Not in THIS mind it doesn't Mercifully, in THIS body, Mind has become a tool, and was fired from his job as Master...

LOL @Leo Gura hahahhaaa SO FUNNY !!! Place that in a video, would you please?

I've not only seen that happiness @Leo Gura is talking about, but I AM THAT. It is worth 1000 billion hours to find THAT. Take advantage of the energy of this Forum and go towards THAT instead of letting your mind shy you away from it . Let Mr. Mind do its circus and go straight for the TRUTH of who you are. The reason people find it difficult, is because they assume it is . People do not realize that the clarity they are looking for with their minds, ARISES WITHIN the clarity of where they are looking FROM. Also, people are so trapped into seeing themselves as persons, as individual minds confronting other individual minds, that it all gets mixed up, and consciousness has no room to whisper its TRUTH to you, no matter how many hours of "meditation" you might engage in... I will stop here. WAKE UP !

A Psalm of David. The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the LORD forever. There's so much LOVE here for you GOD! So much JOY for merging with YOU, dancing with YOU, being YOU. Such a deep disentanglement from the person-hood, from thoughts, from images, from time, from everything. So much space is being expanded from the lack of questioning, of asking, of praying! So much gratitude for what IS!

@seeker11 You are right to be worried. This is the most un-talked about trap the human Ego gets us into If the Truth of who you are is always present, it must be there now. Isn't it? Ego is the one that operates in time and needs to clear, to go "deep", to keep searching, to search (invent) problems that it can sort out (or not). ALL your problems as illusory. Discard them as such. Whatever does not feel like complete love, is an illusion of Mr. Mind. There is not need at all to go after them. Now if your day to day life you are confronted with some kind of circumstance that you cannot discard because something inside is clinging to it, that is your signal that you are dealing with a trauma and needs to be felt fully so that your body does not react to it any longer (through the "fight, flight or freeze"). Start meditating, inquiring who it is that is stuck in the clearing. Start asking the good old question: Who am I? Search this forum for ideas that suit you, and take them all with a grain of salt

TOO MUCH LOVE! I love you God! Thank you! I love you!

I have been a HSP for as long as I can remember. A yawn on TV triggered my yawning. Couldn't sleep on full moons. An animal showing signs of discomfort triggered me for days.. My view now... is that you are too identified with your personality (Ego), and the savior. You take it all to be either your fault or your responsibility. Yes, this is a "good human quality". No, it does not serve who you really are. Sit with it, let yourself feel into it. Your body needs to experience it. Let it.

@kkk OK good. One thing at a time. Focus on one positive thing about your friend. For YOU, not for him! Worthlessness - look it up on youtube!

@jip , you seem to have such an attachment to your logic and reasoning, yet such a good egg! The questions you are asking yourself are great for a philosophy University, but they will not get you There. Get a little bit of humility, a spoonful of compassion, a sprinkle of love, mix them, drink up Leave it, drop it, burn it... all this accumulated knowledge you seem to be attached to... look at it as if it was a big pile of luggage that's keeping you at bay. What is it that you really want? What is it that's wanting all that?

Have you read Anita Moorjani's book? Eben Alexander? Watched youtube videos on NDE's ? No, that is not true. You do not become automatically enlightened after an NDE even though that might be of great help. Keep undoing. Keep searching for who you really are

@kkk Envy is a real poison. It is VERY common, so take a bit of the pressure off yourself please. It is one of humanity's biggest conditioning. Of course, that does not make it right. You know why? Because this will not hurt anyone else but yourself! In fact, you being envious of your friend, means that you are concentrating all your energy on that and bringing it into your reality. YOURS, not his! Your friend is not the one hurting you. It is your own hurt that keeps you a prisoner of your own fear and envy and hate. You don't want to live like that, do you? Why would you? Try to find one good thing about your friend and only focus on that. Every single time you see him, focus and concentrate on what it is you admire about him, Also, listen to as many videos you can from Teal Swan and Noah Elkrief on youtube for free. Learn to breathe without pause between breathing in and out. Learn as many breathing techniques you can. That is also free. Last thing: smile. Have you ever tried to remain upset while smiling?

Grateful for the Sun giving us light and warmth every single day. Grateful for the free perfume of a field flower Grateful for the tree giving us shade and life for so many living beings Grateful for the people working for us to have our little "life commodities" Grateful for being breathed Grateful for the gift of sight, and hearing and smell and touch Grateful for the love that emanates from all of you here Grateful for the energy of the sea heard in the background Grateful for being where and what I am Grateful for the wind blowing Grateful for the peace I live in Grateful for the shelter and the food Grateful for the experiences that brought me here Thank you for the music and the dance Thank you to my Guru Thank you God I love you Ayla

@Leo Gura - no they don't

This just inspired me to start a new topic in self-actualization sub-forum about gratitude....:)

OK. First, you were not ready and not interested in a relationship. That is, before he told you he had no real feelings for you. That triggered some kind of competitive feeling inside, and you decided that you were interested after all. That's the first IK! You are not interested in this guy...it is just the feeling of being unloved and rejected that triggers you. Look into co-dependency issues, self worth, and abandonment, all that, independently of this relationship

@Water deal! Might take me a while....and migh have to lock up neighbours first hangdrum is s******tly expensive ps: don't you just love life?

@FairyTale, the problem should be included in those 3 phrases...and I don't see any. I see perfectly what you are trying to do... but if you really want to find help, you need to be atrociously self honnest

That is EXACTLY why last week I have bought a Vibedrum !!

@FairyTale , what I do with my clients is have them shorten the story to maximum 3 sentences. This will help you see more clearly into your own troubles. Please try that. Max 3 sentences out of what you just wrote above

@Sarah_Flagg, I'll send you pictures if ever...