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The reality of it, is that there's also a bit of a Mozart theme because it can become jazzy. Read serious articles about the "post awakening" dark night of the soul.... even if you have had one before (that drove you to awake).

@Lynnel Look for Noah Elkrief on YouTube.

@Hardik jain , for the same reason why you have a back pain when you carry 30 kilos on your back, and no pain when you just walk around.. We all learn through pain until we understand that the carefree walk in the park, has its lessons too if you pay attention (present moment/awareness)

Leo will approve that.

@Damien here:

@DizIzMikey Have you ever heard of "whatever you resist - persists?" Let go of the fear. It is just a thought. You are thinking a thought about another thought... in other words, you're looping

I feel that breakups remind us energetically of the separation from Self and coming into duality. That's why they hurt so badly. "Turning in" is actually the only way to become whole again. There are very few people that really turn in. Most of the tools presented out there, are ways of distraction - including "classic" self-development work, work out, new diet, new whateva'. Once you've mastered the power to really feel the pain in your body and to let go of associating it with the ideas you have about what said pain tells you, you're fine. As a little joke, I think the best idea I came up with, for "correctly" dealing with a breakup, is to find someone to tie you to your bed and sit there with you for a week or so, give you paper tissues and water, and put a pillow on your face to cover your screams. Oops

Prayer is your "actual vibrational state" - what you put out there through your emotions, your moods, your beliefs. That is the actual prayer. What is commonly known as prayer... is just: "please God (whomever that might be), let MY will be done!"

@Skenderberg Little flesh down near your username > account settings > delete account

What is dying - is your conceptual image you (and imprinting) created. If those feelings occur again, let it be. You'll experience first hand that actually... YOU cannot DIE ! That right there, is your ticket for freedom. One of them. There'll be others.

@NoOne , There is too much of an "I" there.... Who are you??? Who's that "I" doing or not doing so many things????

First, you need to curl up in bed with a large bottle of pure water near you. Stop telling yourself any stories, just watch how all this is being felt in your body: constriction, burn, tingling, cold, hot, convulsion... etc. Don't put any names on any of that. Just let it be there. These situations are actually GOOD. They are showing you the dead ends. You are supposed to go in another direction. Self development will show you what that is.

Let go. Let God.

@NoOne Physical pain is emotional pain manifested.

The theory is that it can work out, of course. In practice, the chances are very limited... You can convince nobody to take up this kind of work, even though they might do it for a while, their motivation is FEAR of losing the relationship and not a genuine transformative search.

@NoOne Her suffering has nothing to do with you. It has to do with the image she has of you. As you no longer correspond to that image, the relationship will deteriorate, or she will have to begin loving "new you". You know the answer to that already... Look into the mirror of "self-validating" that she is holding for you.....

If you let go of this THOUGHT... is there a separation you can find somewhere?

Yes, that is a common occurrence. As you raise your vibration (in lack of a better term), people will find it difficult to relate to you any longer. Your tastes will change, often quite radically. Your way of speaking. Your smell, your looking at things... Quite often (and understandable), people that "loved the old you", will not like whom you have become and they will either raise or leave. This is usually a point that brings people right back to sleep. The price of "losing" their relationships seems too big..

Can you find some delimitation somewhere between "you and this larger" thingy?

@RandomPaul , this issue has two facets. One is your mainstream "new-agey" perpetual seeker that "goes into" spirituality as a "hobby" - this one does not seek a single thing. The other form of this "arrogance" does come up on the path to enlightenment in the form of "I GOT IT" - but it goes away exactly as it came. From nowhere to nowhere.

Every human being suffers from PTSD ( or better said, Complex PTSD) ! It is part of the human conditioning at this point in our evolution. Every other serious emotional issue is a byproduct of PTSD. Panic attacks is the most common one. If you are experiencing panic attacks frequently, here are some techniques to deal with them: 1. Train yourself during the day to breathe in and out 7 times as deep as possible. Your body and brain will immediately switch to this calming way of dealing with stress as soon as panic comes (instead of going into "fight / flight / freeze" mode) 2. "7-8-4 breathing" : Breathe in counting to 7 - hold breath counting to 8 - breathe out counting to 4 (also useful for insomnia) 3. keep a paper bag handy and breathe inside it to avoid hyperventilation. Focus on just closing your mouth and breathe through nose. 4. if you are not used to bringing yourself in the moment and your mind races forward, only think of the next 5 seconds. Focus on the next five seconds with eyes open. This will help you see that there is no immediate real danger. 5. close your eyes and mouth. let yourself breathe through nose and mentally rotate your eyes in circular motion. ( you do not need to do it physically - just thinking about it works) Use these whenever in extreme stress, but try to experiment with them outside those moments, in order to train your brain to automatically go there when panic strikes. <3

@StonerLord Do not think of any of that. It is different for each person. Even 3-4 minutes a day is enough for some. Working won't be negatively affected.

@bernieboy20 NO !

@shouldnt , You need to look into the NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I've had a mother like what you describe, and also attracted same type of mirrors - people into my life, until I realized that these people were there for a purpose: to have me heal the wound (scapegoat). Think about it as a tooth ache. If it would not hurt, you'd never go to the dentist. There is a lot of info on youtube about this matter, and I agree with the no-contact advice, but not with the hatred that is being built upon the narcissist. Hatred only hurts yourself, nobody else.

@DizIzMikey , I'm sorry, but you quit nothing at all...You're just replacing one addiction with another. The energy that keeps them there, is still present inside