Ayla

@jes This is a VERY complex topic but to resume it - from personal experience and studying it in depth for a while now, consider this: Cut off any type of communication with your dad. Bluntly, abruptly and with no explanation! (none will work) work on profound healing on yourself (self-esteem, boundaries, co-dependency) work on radical forgiveness for your dad (ho'oponopono or tonglen or any other type of technique you can find out there) - Hint - when you have forgiven truly, the thought and image of your father will only bring tears of love and joy. ( now you might absolutely LOVE fire, but you wouldn't throw yourself into it, would you?) if you feel the need AFTER the first 3 points, get back in "limited contact" where you can say STOP at any given time.

If you eat a pear, where does it go? Does it become you? What's the separation between you and the pear then? Does the pear reincarnate? If so, into what? And who chooses? And how many times? and when? and where did the pear come from in the first place? ... we can go on and on... and on mind and imagination and intellect go... and where do those come from? And where is the separation? Can you find one? The one thinking it is incarnated and one? .... oops! on and on it can go!

SO Beautiful ! ! !

The Guest House This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. - Rumi

@zasa joey I strongly suspect that you have suffered from abuse from a NPD parent (narcissistic personality disorder). Here's some help with that - see if it resonates: https://www.youtube.com/user/SPARTANLIFECOACH Another type of help: https://www.youtube.com/user/NoahElkrief/playlists Good luck

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@Magnifico Your mind is absolutely right ! Now do YOU believe it? Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Your choice really....

@isabel

Take every point you wrote here and LOVE it! Use whatever technique you want... but you need to first love all that sh*t about yourself before you can move anywhere. If you can't bring yourself to love that about yourself, love your resistance (inability) to love those points.

What tells you that she is smiling and happy? A thought? These are not emotions, it is an instinct, pre-programming, a "default". Every species has it so that small animals are being liked by parents and their own species and so that they can survive.

I guess the answer is in your question. Do you want to live in the knowing or in the fear? Begin asking who is the one that feels both the "knowing" and the "fear".

Is it really ? As for the video, Leo is spot on ! Only, most people will take lifetimes to get to that point ...

Medicine from a dear friend: Come out of the mind and into the senses: look for the acceptance of what it is that you are FEELING within your body. If acceptance cannot be found, embrace the resistance itself. (Resistance is acceptance in slow motion.) Engage with the sensations, because even though they may seem like threatening your life because of how uncomfortable they feel, in fact nothing is happening that is not trying to PROTECT you in some way. Gently ask the sensations: what is it that you are trying to show me or protect me from? ( sometimes an image or brief words may appear, other times, nothing comes, other times mind intervenes with yet another story - embrace). Tell the sensations that it is OK and that their efforts are greatly appreciated! Tell mind: "thank you for trying to control and protect... but your role will change to a new exciting one now" and then disengage from it. Bring body feelings to the forefront and treat them as you would a teddy-bear. Gently, softly, playfully. Some kind of a "release sign" will come up at one point - a huge sigh, a yawn, a burp... This too....shall pass!

@Endew RUN !

no.

They do. It is though only an emotion coming and going. Anger is only a cover up emotion for running away from being hurt.

Yes, but it isn't the only way to come there. In my current view, it is pure luck or pure pain Only, all the "shit" you didn't manage to integrate in this life, will push you into the next - worst of all - with the same souls... Whatever it is "solid" in you right now, will drag you into the next life. When there's no solidness left, you're free! *solidness = disgust, hate, blame, shame, doubt, etc....

Nothing ! OKAY ?

Any of you young scientists have an idea if something could soon be developing in this field? It'd be cool eh?

ENOUGH !

@Isle of View @Socrates Please! Postings here need to be related to the thread, not your private disagreements, so please take those somewhere else.

Ayla..

I love you Keep searching! One day, you will be sick of it and will abandon the search. That day, you'll be free!