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I really appreciate you posting this and I can relate (I'm also of a similar age). I started self actualisation properly last June, but was aware of it late 2017 but got distracted by a relationship. Around July, I cut ties with my friend group, one of the people in the group was my absolute best friend for a number of years and up until that point, we had a very strong genuine bond, but along the way we both became very materialistic, trying to up our social status, and I got to a point where I reconsidered everything in my life and just gradually pulled away from all that stuff, which left me and him to not be close, we also had an issue over money around that time. Point is, I have no proper friends, there's people I like, but I've not been social at all for a number of months, and my mum was worried about me not socializing, and due to this forum, I was opened to the idea of friendships still being a viable option and that it's sometimes good spiritually to just go out and chat with a buddy over dinner, so I did, and it felt good, even though we talked about pretty surface level stuff but nevertheless I enjoyed it. Its great you still love your friends, and I'd agree with others encouraging you to try and make deeper, stronger relationships with them in a way you want to, where you talk about deep topics, personally if they didn't give a shit or thought it was dumb or tried to drag you down or whatever, then I'd strongly consider just removing yourself from them, you don't have to dislike or hate people to cut ties, sometimes you have to seem like a dick to others to do what is truly best

@pluto also I'm not sure how familiar you are with Love Island but there was a girl called Camilla once on the show that was definitely not a typical reality TV star, she was introverted and she enjoyed reading and had a job in like clearing explosive devices in countries after conflict, very stage green/yellow. I'd like to think im getting more and more yellow (hence my username) and she was very well received. Also I've started noticing also companies like PrettyLittleThing make adverts on social media with a caption like "Positive vibes, positive mind" which is of course a strategic move, a lot of girls (young girls) are now more interested in mental health, but show no signs of any actual good advice but that sort of stuff caters to them and strokes their ego like "yaaaassss positive vibes positive mind?✌️"

Okay so recently I've been watching Love Island (a popular reality TV show in the UK) and I'm aware of the fact that it's just kinda silly entertainment, but I'll go through phases of paying close attention and being mindful in watching it. Seeing how relationships unfold and seeing couples argue. And I was wondering what it would be like to go on there as someone who has a fairly good understanding of relationships, masculine and feminine, and just whether I'd even do it. Part of me would like to, and just pick people's brains about their understanding of relationships (which they generally have a low level of) and would enjoy teaching the viewers through what they're seeing on TV with me talking to other people about relationships Would you see that as something that would be worthwhile for you and for others?

Yeah, I'm sure there's manipulation going on, and they'd use scenes that portray people to come across a certain way, so you're right they probably wouldn't enjoy someone trying to help others in the way I'd like to, itd be nice to see that, but that's just not the reality of TV

Of course! He's mentioned in his spiral dynamics videos that he has videos directed towards stage orange that are helpful to people in stage orange, i don't know if that was intentional back then, but we've seen him gradually go up the spiral dynamic stages over time

I'd love to hear a video dedicated to how Leo thinks his content has changed and improved, and if he'd advise people to not take the advice in certain videos. For example the How to be Masculine pt 1 was much more surface level and stage orange than the second part he did a couple years later. Which was one of the best videos I've watched from him so far.

Name: Owen Dawes Age: 18 Gender: Male Location: North Wales, UK Occupation: Unemployed Marital Status: Single Kids: No Hobbies: Personal development, playing the keyboard, hip hop I was introduced to the idea of personal development in 2017. I was a very stage orange person, and I watched videos on men's health, learning about fashion, how to dress, skin care, exercise. Which stemmed from my low self esteem and wanting a girlfriend. Some videos I watched touched on mental health, and about low self-esteem. This struck my interest as something that was very much worth trying to improve. So I found Leo's channel and did a little personal development. I then got into a relationship that just distracted me fully from myself and it was June 2018 when I properly got into personal development work. Personal challenges I've overcome: Letting go of the obsession with how I appear to other people I've removed toxic relationships from my life entirely and now I am alone, but not lonely I've become more mindful of my emotions and I get frustrated less easily I am less emotionally unstable when it comes to things I would label as bad things Getting over the loneliness hump after removing my toxic relationships What I'm working on now: Working on my introversion and social anxiety Working on eating less sugar Working on finding what is authentic to me Working on finding a job and my future plans Working on improving my meditation habit

I agree with this for the most part and see your perspective, but it's like, we spend so much of our lives working, unless you're in a job where you can just be on autopilot and able to be mindful all day and use that time to improve yourself, shouldn't you strive for work feels more authentic to you? But you've actually given me a good insight with you're not a slave unless you think you are, if you can genuinely just not care about the work you're doing and are fully accepting of the circumstances, then you can be more fufilled than someone working a job hoping it'll fufilling them.

Just different ways you can supposedly communicate with spirits

@Gabriel Antonio 12?! Wow I always felt like I was a little more aware than people around me, but at the same time I was very immature and pretty annoying through high school, and things like going out and drinking and going to parties, raves whatever felt like "this is just what teenagers do" it was such a relief escaping from that life. People are always in search for an answer, a key to a fufilling life, and people waste their lives away trying to search for it in illusory things, and I just feel super relieved at 18 to know that self actualization is the key to a fufilling life. I even feel contempt with my life right now, but I'm looking forward to future possibilities.

@Rinne oh hey.. another x fan

Personally I plan on saving up and having a mini house, that's a good few years away though I haven't looked at the logistics of this yet. Probably much cheaper than actually buying a house

@RawJudah @RawJudah No, not a YouTube life coach, a local one in my area

Well... Why are you asking then?

Okay so I'm conflicted. I want a relationship, I don't need a relationship, or emotional support, I'm clear on the idea of most relationships being distractions and I've gone through that myself. The problem is, the way attraction works, doesn't really comply with self actualization, I don't think. Okay so like, you're talking to a girl, and you don't want to always be available. You want to have stuff going on that means there's time for the girl to think about you etc. But for me, like I'm generally doing nothing all day. I write in my journal at night every few days, I watch Leo's videos most every night, not a full one at that. And I'm working on being on reducing how much low consciousness activity I'm engaging in (I'm currently unemployed at home all day also). So I never have plans, I broke off from my old friend group, rarely see family. So I'm kinda always free, but I don't want to be always free, I enjoy the me time and that's important, but there's just parts of my day where I'm available to do whatever. I just find the dynamics of dating and Self Actualizing colliding on multiple different levels. Id appreciate some words of advice, thanks guys. (And girls)

Why does it matter? Are you dependant on new content from Leo? You'll benefit from going over his slightly older work again, even if you think you don't need it. He also said he's going to reduce the number of videos he creates from now to focus on himself and have time to plan some high quality content

You gotta find the right balance between self actualization and living a normal life. Keep your grades up, depending on how far you are into this stuff, it may seem tempting to just throw off school, but that's the system you're in, you can escape later, don't fight against it. At least pass everything you can. Self Actualizing doesn't require you to be studying every single day, you must be committed to gradual change, that's what's important, if you're too focused on changing super quick just for the sake of it, high chance that you haven't really learnt anything of real value, because yeah it's nice and cool to have a slightly deeper understanding of something's, but you have to experience these things for yourself for them to become real, leo is just a guide.

@RawJudah Watch Leo's video on how to escape wage slavery I'm 18 right, Ive never had any clear idea what I want to do in life because I think I always knew I didn't want to dedicate my life to something I didn't enjoy. My dad has worked in the banking industry for 20 years to provide for us and be the bread winner. He is a total wage slave but he's doing what he has to do to raise his kids and Ive always appreciated how hard he's worked, but he doesn't actually need to do that. But yeah that's swayed me away from dedicating my life to one area of work. And I've never really wanted to face the fact of I'm gonna just have to work half my life doing something I feel indifferent or miserable about. But after Leo's video it's helped me want to look into becoming a life coach. You need to use your brain creatively to earn a wage, be somebody high value. But yeah simply watch the video.

@cirkussmile @Gabriel Antonio Agreed also, being in a relationship, especially one in which it's super dysfunctional, teaches you so much about why it didn't work, and what to avoid in potential partners. At times my neediness was just killing me when she wasn't available, and I didn't have the strength to end it earlier cause I needed that distraction. This then lead to a super messy break up where I felt I couldn't leave, because even though her attraction lacked, whenever I tried to cut things off, she would go insane and I was just worried she'd do something crazy. It eventually ended when she just decided it wasn't working and we were wasting each other's time

@Gabriel Antonio I actually had this conversation with myself on a walk with my dog. I try not to go too hard on myself, and like it's okay to be on my phone, watch TV etc, there's nothing inherently bad about those things, I just would like to feel the need not to do that stuff, from my current understanding anyway. I'm aware that stuff is years away from me. But also, it's like, why can't I just be contempt in my own head all day? Why do I find that unpleasant? Surely there's something im avoiding here? But one thing I've not thought about is those things being good for you spritiually. How so?

I was smiling like an idiot by the end of it, amazing video, I honestly can't believe this information is free on YouTube, its amazing stuff

I'm not sure how many people are aware of him in this sort of space, but he was someone who was very into this sort of stuff He called his fans a cult/family/ my people He once said that he kinda wanted to be like a prince He never promoted any weird stuff, he asked his supporters to just be there for him and treat him with respect If you're familiar with his actions in terms of the advice he gave and how he began to carry himself towards the end of his life, I'd appreciate any sort of insight

@Socrates id definitely agree with that, you get rappers now trying to be like X, but in an inauthentic, boring way. They'll just be like "I know what it feels like to be alone guys I love you all??" Like I can just tell that's not genuine, I'd have to see them talk about something of actual substance in a vlog or interview. Also, if you're well versed in spiral dynamics, (which I am not, I watched the whole mini series Leo did once, still some of the most interesting content Leo's ever made imo) where would you place X? You seem to know enough about him, idk if you've ever listened to his words of wisdom per say, I'd place him half green half yellow with bits of orange left over.

@JohnnyBravo I really appreciate your comment, infact my viewpoint has changed. When I wrote this, I was under the belief that I need to act a certain way to attract girls (which is generally still true) and that any desire I have to act another way comes from a place of insecurity and is something I shouldn't listen to. And that I need to be an alpha male, I listened to the second part of "how to be a man" which leo made and Its one of the better and more useful videos I've watched from him so far. To be masculine is to be authentic and true to you. My version of masculine may include me being girly and weird or emotional, and that I should just do as I please and let my experience change my mindset.

@7thLetter @Socratespersonally I've never questioned his growth, I've questioned his ego, he said he had no ego, he must of done, he may of dissolved it to an extent but it takes years likely to truly reach enlightenment. His growth always seemed very natural never forced, he even kinda documented it with his hair colours, and in fact, the spiritual meaning of the colour indigo, which is what X called his hair (it did fade to blue yes but intended to be indigo) is entirely based around service to humanity, a protector. And that's truly what he was. He at times cared for his fans more than himself, and I think he was truly a beam of light and just had so much good in his heart coming from all the negativity is nothing short of amazing, I truly struggled with his passing more than anything I've ever experienced, it's like I lost a best friend, I know keep him in my heart, and think about him supporting me in times where I feel uncomfortable. I feel very close to him.