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An I walks into no bar, full of nobodies...

What if it's harming the one providing 'entertainment'? Knowingly or unknowingly.

@matoriii Confusion lives in thinking only. Take a breather, do simple joyful things. Things you love. Take care of your wellbeing, everything else will fall right into place.

Life is not a walk in a park. If you think it is, there's not much for us to talk about. You are simply way too blind, numbed out and in denial. Truth is... if you dare to stand for something in this crazy world, if you have a path, if you are walking your talk and staying true to yourself... you're going to be crossed. Tempted. Challenged. Betrayed. Fooled. Played. Hurt. All that jazz. It's inevitable. Unavoidable. Life is a game too complex and intricate and advanced for you to not get burned. It is anything but harmless. Anything but danger - free. It can get quite hostile and ruthless. Life devours itself to keep life going... it's usually not a pretty sight. The more you are blind and numb to this... the more you try to distract yourself from feeling everything that wants to be felt... the more defected and limited of a human being you become. Emotions are an important aspect of being. Incredibly important. And it should be quite obvious that at large, today in our modern society, thought is God. We are quite literally obsessed with thinking. We value ideas so fucking much, and we run away from feeling anything slightly uncomfortable. Society at large is at a stage of infancy on the scale of emotional intelligence. Most people are emotionally retarded. And that's not coming just from the accumulation of my personal frustrations and disappointments... it's just how it is. With or without me in the picture. You must dare to feel. Everything that arises within being. A step beyond that is understanding the emotion, knowing how to transform and/or channel it, create something out of it, use it as fuel, etc. The deeper you know emotion in all of its endless forms and colours, the more you know yourself. You become whole. You do not walk around half - crippled, completely cut off from half of your being. You let it all be and do its thing. You understand the intelligence behind it all. Just because you can ignore a feeling or distract yourself from it... it doesn't mean it seizes to exist. It will keep coming back, knocking on your door. And if you ignore it long enough, it's going to become this huge ball of raw nastiness and it's going to eat you from the inside out. Have balls. That's the first step. Have the balls to feel, in this dark, cold world that has renounced and forgotten its own humanity. You are not weak if you dare to let out a tear, or put on a smile... You are weak if you numb yourself out and hide in your head, like all the other neurotic monkeys. The world would be unrecognizable if feeling was of an equal importance as thinking. If both thought and feeling were fully understood and utilized. In fact, all the terror and all the atrocities happen because some people are emotionally retarded. Mentally too, don't get me wrong... But that's not the topic here. Be honest with yourself, if you can. For some people honesty is a luxary. Or a completely alien thing, even. You see how that can be a problem... there is no truth without honesty. You literally cannot be your true self if you are incapable of being honest. And you most likely can't feel much of anything, either. There's levels to emotional numbness and dumbness... where do you consider yourself to be at?

Can you say that you truly, honestly love something, someone? Is love known or is it foreign? Do you have access to it, right this moment?

How do you know that?

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@mmKay I hear you, and it's a nice idea, but the reality is that 99.99% of people don't go to clubs for personal development purposes. They go out precisely for the opposite reason. To distract themselves from ever doing any introspection or work on themselves. Clubs are just nasty. If you're not all numbed out already, and you can tune into the collective vibe of the place... it will make you wanna throw up, without consuming any alcohol. Yes, you might bump into someone genuine and cool too, but highly unlikely.

That's why they all have to get shitfaced every weekend, yes. Because they have great social skills.

@Yimpa This is hilarious, hysterical, outrageous and sad.

Very nice post. Flew over most people's heads here, but nevertheless. Outside of thought, outside of understanding, is infinite being.

For a moment I actually thought you were going to make a good point. I was wrong. No one's judgement is 'more special' or 'more authentic'. We are all constantly judging the crap out of everything. Those who say they don't, are inauthentic.

Loving both replies. Very cool stuff so far. Thank you.

Obviously, I am. Not necessarily onto you, just out there. Plenty of people think what I like sucks ass too. It's not necessarily an age thing. In fact, it's not, at all. Also; rather judge from an authentic place, then pretend to be judgment - free, or judgement - immune.

Fuck no. I avoid hippies by all means necessary. I think going out with the intention to hit on chicks is lame. That's exactly the kind of people I don't want to party with. If anything... jazz/rock concerts are my thing. But almost exclusively because of the music. Because I really want to experience the band playing live. Could not care less about drunk, drugged and stinky people around, trying to get lucky, acting like clowns.

More facepalm with a chair.

Making myself a big ass bloody stake right now. It's nearly an enlightening experience.

@Bazooka Jesus Never heard of it. Might check it out at some point, thanks!

Oh, and btw, what you're paying with is not necessarily cash. It could be as simple as attention. Affection, time, effort. Someone is getting something out of it, one way or the other. No matter how in denial. Trust me.

@Ishanga Pretty much spot on, yes.

How it feels to go to a club when your frontal lobe fully develops:

Oopsy. Accidentally posted here instead of the relationship/sexuality section. Would kindly request the thread to be moved.

Epic!

Pusti klošare You cope with not getting what you want by realizing you don't need it in order to be who you are. You are not getting what you want, because you're not really being you. And that's because you don't actually know you.

It is true from a limited point of view, of course. Not absolutely. However, I'd say many can relate. Yes. But then I became even more truthful with myself and understood how it's really all just about me. Even if disguised as if it is about someone else. In this thread, maybe, yes. Not in general. Obviously, the post is incredibly one - sided. That's why it's potent. And funny. Yes. Also, capitalize on them. Manipulate and shape them against their will. Super selfish shit. Yes. Yes.