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That's exactly what I'm saying. You have a choice in how you are going let external events affect you. External events. Not internal events

Because trauma is caused by other not self.

Trauma is an outward experience.

Trauma has nothing to do with it. Self esteem isnt brought on by trauma. Self esteem is self esteem. You create that. That's why I think this js BS about trauma and getting women affects your self esteem. Yeah I guess it could of you let it. But it shouldn't have anything to do with your self esteem. That should come with within.

😀 Im a lot older than you. If I wasnt good in my own skin I would have offed myself. Im good. Women are very hard to live with. Right now.i got a girl. That's good enough. I'm not doing pickup anymore.

Are you my psychiatrist now or do I just wanna fuck?

What i am saying is you guys are too much into the books. Get more into her vagina and the trauma Will dissipate

Let me be clear gents. Trauma has absolutely nothing to do with getting pussy. It just takes being comfortable in your own skin. All this bullshit overcomplicates things.

@Valach bro you made Having a high body count is a sign of trauma? Why? You guys have been reading to much PUA. Its kinda comical actually. Keep studying it guys.

No no. See. This is where I am going to be getting spiritual. And you have never been to the spiritual forum. There is no trauma. Its completely imaginary. If you aren't conscious of it simply doesn't exist. So. Its not a coping mechanism Its that it was an illusion. External reality doesn't exist. So your trauma is imaginary. There was never a self to experience that. So. If you want to feel the pain of trauma to the self so be it. But you don't have to let that stop you by any means

Well. Its bulllshit. Trauma has to do with your overall sense of contentness. Not getting laid. I have over 300 women. Have i.had trauma sure. But do I let it bother me. Hell no. You have a choice. And dont think you don't.

Do you have evidence of.this? Where do you get this from

@Valachi am not sure why you are bringing trauma into this discussion. That is not pertinent and could confuse others. And cause them a lack of confidence

Yeah but we can't always have it like that. But you're right. There are certain women from my past I was just comfortable with getting it up for. Others made me nervous. But also those same others I wasnt always nervous. Its all about you.

You don't believe in that? It is what makes the world go round. If you can talk to people you can do almost anything in life. It's not limited to women.

Wrong again. Its not that. Its social skills. Yeah there are some who lack confidence but do you think @Olaf does? Absolutely not. He just needs to.know how to say the right things.

Right. But Its not even confidence its anxiety. Nervousness. Alcohol takes all that away. But after a while you find you can do it without the lubricant. Kinda like getting your dick into a dry pussy 🤪

@Valach see..this brings us back to what women want. They want authenticity. But they are more interested in your communication skills initially. How honest you are won't come up yet.

I don't agree. Alcohol is a lubricant. But a lot of guys don't know how to talk to women period

Even with alcohol..what you are gonna say has to be there. Alcohol just gives you the nerve. Yah?

Precisely. So. Here's the reality. Just like awakening. Sometimes you have the gift and sometimes you don't. Unfortunately you can't cheat and take psychedelics to get laid. So he's going to have to work on the quality of his game rather than quantity. @Olaf understood? We are tying to help you here. Don't get so caught up in how many you talk to. That's awesome. But you want quality interactions. Because that's what leads to your end game. Now. What your endgame is. That could differ. But you'll sleep with her. What you want to do after is up to you.

If you want me to be transparent. I think we need to move him past this phase. I think fear might be setting him back. The reason I say this is because when we talked about approach anxiety, and i was just viewing that thread..sorry all for my poor grammar. Its my phone. He said he's never gotten to the point of intercourse anxiety. Otherwise known as emotional or psychological ED. I had it for a spell. Maybe a few months. And it was the worst. But it goes away. Now..he has never even gotten to that point. So I think maybe he needs a little push to get past this initial phase. But hopefully none of you guys have to experience that. Its terrible.

Exactly. But we have been telling him this for weeks. Me, you, @Zenterus. I think he just likes gameplay. His end goal might differ from mine. I want the holy grail.

So then what is the end goal..just to practice game? If so fine. But if his intent is to take one home on the same night then he shouldn't be so focused on volume. But yeah. Im old fashioned and from the states. So if I get a girl interested and get a number I usually can tell if it was real. He's not dumb. He can tell.

Lol.