Inliytened1

I think it is about holding true to your values even when in situations where it would be easier to abandon your values in order to fit in. And it is definitely about being truthful- but most importantly being true to yourself.

You don't NEED enlightenment for happiness, necessarily. But the difference is being a player in a video game and not knowing it's a game, vs beating the game, jumping out of it, and looking down at it as the developer for what it is. Then going back in. Now..with so much more consciousness, a lot of the previous obstacles that kept you from being happy are no longer there. Fear being at the top.

And this is so out of balance with costs as take home pay. You really need double whatever these numbers are to live comfortably, save, and take vacations based on cost of living.

Now a mon of 4 in Frankfort, IL - Corie Walsh - who had been infatuated with this case has hung her 2 year old in the basement while trying a suicide attempt in the bathtub with a knife. Frankfort is only like 30 minutes from me. A copycat killer. I guess they think that psychosis defense gives them a free pass.

How do you know how attractive they are and isn't being attractive relative to the person. Your perspective of an attractive woman may be completely different than someone else here. It's not always the long legged girl bending over the Ferrari.

You should put abundance of health first. Because without that none of the other stuff really means much. I try to put fitness before anything...and a healthy diet. I have fallen off the wagon before so I am not claiming to be perfect. But for the majority of my life that's always been at the forefront.

Once that gets into your head it can become a mental thing and start to happen every time because you are thinking about it. Like you said simply move past it and disregard. Eventually it will pass and you won't get nerves. The way out is the way through.

Of everything you've ever said this might be the wisest 😀

Ya for realz Don't play with fire.

I did it well into my 50's. We will see how it goes with the ex. She has a good job now so we can do things and not just on my dime 😀 My last taste of one under 30 was at 52 and it was quite the treat. But that was lucky. I'm well-off but I don't have the funds to be a hugh Hefner. I don't mind having one these days as long as it's still fun. And the ex is still 10 years younger which isn't bad.

Yes it is definitely a complex system. Chaos theory in physics immediately comes to mind. Adventure is my middle name, but I am too old for all of that now. Now I am just glad to get out of bed.

Wouldn't that conflict with Einstein's claim that God doesn't play dice.

Well that's a different dynamic. That's actually the one I prefer and I have had several girlfriends on board with that. That is the best option in my opinion. You're getting something fresh and she's cool with it. Only certain chick's are cool with that kind of stuff. But they're great. Of course..there is always a risk. You could fall somehow for that third girl. Then what. Heartbreak for your girl. You could incorporate her into your other dynamic. But again what happens when the next girl comes.out to play.

@LordFall The problem with guys is we are always looking for something new. Something fresh. If your goal with two girls is to give you more selection - it will never be enough.

I gotcha. Well. If all this is the case, then this is no different than monogamy but just plus one. To me..all this would do is complicate things. And I'll tell you why. It's because you aren't plus one on the guy. Just the women. So it opens up feuds between women on who you love more. Really think it through. For it to be fair you would have to add a guy and then for each woman to have the same love for each guy.and vice versa. Otherwise it is never an even playing field. You talk about me having no experience with polyamory but how much do you? I've been with the one girl who was in an open relationship and we went with different partners and I shared her. Turned out I didn't like it very much. So how would your two women feel sharing you. Why would you need the second girl.