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You should put abundance of health first. Because without that none of the other stuff really means much. I try to put fitness before anything...and a healthy diet. I have fallen off the wagon before so I am not claiming to be perfect. But for the majority of my life that's always been at the forefront.

Once that gets into your head it can become a mental thing and start to happen every time because you are thinking about it. Like you said simply move past it and disregard. Eventually it will pass and you won't get nerves. The way out is the way through.

Of everything you've ever said this might be the wisest 😀

Ya for realz Don't play with fire.

I did it well into my 50's. We will see how it goes with the ex. She has a good job now so we can do things and not just on my dime 😀 My last taste of one under 30 was at 52 and it was quite the treat. But that was lucky. I'm well-off but I don't have the funds to be a hugh Hefner. I don't mind having one these days as long as it's still fun. And the ex is still 10 years younger which isn't bad.

Yes it is definitely a complex system. Chaos theory in physics immediately comes to mind. Adventure is my middle name, but I am too old for all of that now. Now I am just glad to get out of bed.

Wouldn't that conflict with Einstein's claim that God doesn't play dice.

Well that's a different dynamic. That's actually the one I prefer and I have had several girlfriends on board with that. That is the best option in my opinion. You're getting something fresh and she's cool with it. Only certain chick's are cool with that kind of stuff. But they're great. Of course..there is always a risk. You could fall somehow for that third girl. Then what. Heartbreak for your girl. You could incorporate her into your other dynamic. But again what happens when the next girl comes.out to play.

@LordFall The problem with guys is we are always looking for something new. Something fresh. If your goal with two girls is to give you more selection - it will never be enough.

I gotcha. Well. If all this is the case, then this is no different than monogamy but just plus one. To me..all this would do is complicate things. And I'll tell you why. It's because you aren't plus one on the guy. Just the women. So it opens up feuds between women on who you love more. Really think it through. For it to be fair you would have to add a guy and then for each woman to have the same love for each guy.and vice versa. Otherwise it is never an even playing field. You talk about me having no experience with polyamory but how much do you? I've been with the one girl who was in an open relationship and we went with different partners and I shared her. Turned out I didn't like it very much. So how would your two women feel sharing you. Why would you need the second girl.

Outstanding. The whole premise rests on everyone engaged being of the same mindset. But that's not realistic. For example..I didn't ask you if yuu encountered a third partner interested in joining the relationship. I asked you if you guys are all out partying one night and she presented herself. Would you do her. And what are the ramifications of that. You would need extreme sexual discipline to do what you are describing. And this type of lifestyle seems contradictory to that. So would you fuck her and bury it perhaps? Or would you hold true. I guess this is more of a character question. But if you already have multiple partners what's the harm if no one finds out?

Well you being bisexual I'm sure adds some complexity to that but let's go with that. You have two girlfriends and no one can sleep with anyone else. Sounds like the perfect life, until you want a third 😀 Can you restrain yourself if she presents herself.

Understood. The science and beauty behind polyamory and love co-existing lies in a deep mutual understanding between two partners deeply in love, to know that sex with other partners bears no emotional commitment but is empty. With full devotion being towards their primary lover.

And as we spoke before I don't think you were OK with another guy caressing her and going inside her. But. Correct me, if I'm wrong.

Plenty of people have is not an adequate benchmark. Plenty of people have thought the earth was flat. Have you experienced love? Just an honest question.