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@Rudolflores Excellent book indeed.

There is nothing profound about LSD. It's an autodestructive drug that effects your perception for a limited amount of time and causes addiction.

Yes, it's awesome. Don't expect immediate results. Consume it on daily basis for a few months and you shall see what happens. Although you will notice some changes even when you've just started consuming it. Recommended doses is 3-5g. I don't measure it, takes too much time, I do it approximately, I take 1 1/2 teaspoon. I am sure you know that this won't solve your deeper issues, it's just a quick fix that will help you out a bit. =)

I consume this on a daily basis so you have my recommendation: handful of walnuts; maca powder; 2 bananas I already had a pretty decent sex drive even before I consumed maca powder, yet it amplified. Bananas and walnuts aren't mandatory, maca is.

@Nomad Hi Nomad! Understanding something intellectually has no value whatsoever when it comes to actualizing. When you understand something from the "I" perspective, and admit to yourself "I feel", "I behave" like this and that.. facing reality.. that's growth. Well done for your work so far. I feel like sharing smth about my relationship with my parents. I thought that while I am on a path of change I will bring them up and transform our relationship. I have inspired some changes in their lives, but only to some point. I was foolish to think that I will have an excellent relationship with them. The truth is, once you set up some changes, they can't really follow, because they are still playing their own games, they haven't come to their source of suffering, they are still in pain and I can't help them.

Wasabelll, first of all I understand you. Everyone here who commented wanted to help you out. I believe they don't truly understand the place you are coming from. Therefore take seriously what Nomad said to perhaps do some of it now, some of it later in life, everything else especially the advice of learning from and with your parents about your/their emotions - that is just one big no, no!! That is an excellent advice actually. Unfortunately that advice isn't for a person in your situation, it's better to baby step something and than go to some hard-core methods. Not everyone is in the same place when it comes to actualizing. Do everything you can to move away from your parents for starters. From there you can build up your relationship with them (if that is what you want) and from there you can build up a relationship with yourself by baby stepping it. You staying with them and trying to work on your issues from there is like me choosing to build up myself to be a better parent by going to an Islamic country and fighting a war because that will strengthen me and teach me how to protect my kids! That is ridiculous. I wouldn't have what it takes to survive in that war. Not everyone has the same background and that is okay. Your family is your source of your greatest suffering. It's like you are in a war zone there. Don't try to work on yourself there, first of all get your little butt out of the war zone!!!!!!!!! I understand how difficult it is for you now that you are back, I feel for you and I empathize with you. If you want to grow, set yourself in an environment that isn't as toxic as yours. Here and there you can write stuff down when you recognize a spot that needs to be worked on (when you feel pissed etc.) or reading material that Nomad suggested, that is excellent as well. Do not burden yourself with trying to work on that, simply pin point stuff you can work on once you are out of your war zone! For you walking away from there is going to be a challenge. Everything else (including dabbling in self help work) is just going to be a distraction from doing that. This is my opinion. If you want I can elaborate more.

Humans in general need (yes, it's a need) social contact. The fact that you are asking this question could mean one out of few things. You either want more friends/social contact or want a deeper connection as in girlfriend/boyfriend or you are doubtful "is it right" to invest your time and energy in your education at the slight expense of socializing with people. The thing is that it's totally fine whatever you choose to do. Perhaps find more friends or continue doing what you already are (investing your energy in your education that will pay off big time later and sacrificing your social life a bit). Either way it's cool. PS. You don't have to go out more to meet new people.

Everyone here already gave you awesome advice. Whatever his issue is, it is not situational, because he mentioned having the same issues before. Making it clear - it is HIS issue. I was in your shoes once, although his problem was situational, without any history of anything similar. He simply felt super pressured to preform (first three times in a row). And me, I was emphatic - I ended it. Why is it emphatic? Because you are in pain, he is in pain and ending it eliminates it so that you can find someone else. And he can resolve it. Or not? Whatever you do, don't kid yourself how you are a "good person" if you drag it out with him for some time. If you want to help him out, that is cool as well of course if it resonates with you. Btw the same guy that felt pressured preforming called me up after a few months and told me how grateful he is for meeting me and how I inspired him to change up some things (not sexual, it hasn't happened to him again....... why? coz it was a psych thing).

Social media isn't my thing. I am in a way forced to have accounts for work purposes and to maintain a certain number of "followers". I don't like the idea of people I don't really know, knowing something personal about me like - who are my friends, where I go out etc. I have a lot of acquaintances and friends, meeting people is easy for me. When it comes to social media - don't like it on one hand, it is useful on the other. And yes, usually number of followers resembles your social activity. And for the other question you had - I do not know, all I know is that I don't find it comfortable and I limit it. =)

When does beauty really matter? Always of course.

@Lynnel Keep up the good work you.

How to meet new people? Seek and you shall find. I meet new people on the way, waiting for a bus. It's really that simple. Seek and you shall find.

Indeed. A bit off topic, I love the way you think Lynnel. I tend to agree with you. I find your posts super useful and wise when folks poke you with the right questions. =)

@tropicana You don't want to be a loner. I feel you. What is it that you aim for here, what are you searching for?

Club is a place where you have fun. It is a legit way to meet someone. I have a bunch of friends who would never EVER sleep with someone on a first night even second, third.... yet they go out and meet people on the night out. You absolutely don't have to sleep with a person you've just met. And even if you do - that's ok too. You can build a relationship from that if you have other things handled. Also in a club you can meet a person you normally wouldn't (through social circle). I find that awesome. PU pushes you to improve your socials skills. While meeting people through your social circle.. eh.. not that much really (it has it's own pros tho!!) Therefore I wouldn't discredit clubs that easily.

I feel you!! I can't stress how awesome this is. I am working with coaches and NLP trainers on my working hours. Having coaches or/and an NLP trainers as a coworkers with whom you spend 8h a day is priceless! I've never experienced so much transformation in such a short period of time!! You answered your own question, Indeed. How does working on something take you to fantasy land? I would strongly disagree. Perhaps you meant to say something else?

Awesome video as usual. Lynnel mentioned in one of his posts how he journals about his progress. I have my notebook where I write notes as well. Also I use NLP to do the inner work (changing personal history) + I meditate an hour a day + I have a personal coach to whom I go to twice a month. It's how I do inner work. I would like to point out a different perspective and give the same pros to the outer world which Leo gave for the inner one. Outer world is soooooo important because it gives you insight about the inner world. I perceived myself in one way in one area of my life and by doing a lot of outer work, a lot of things clicked in the inner world. I realized.. ooooohh...... I am not like that.. actually I am more like this. Outer world in a way pushes you (at least me) to be even more hard core on our inner work. It's like reality unables you to bullshit yourself about things. For example you think you are great at sports. And then you go out and play.. and what happens is that actually you are good, but you aren't great. You have to work harder than you thought. Reality as in outer world thought you that what you think of yourself is an illusion. For example as a man you can have an illusion about being super masculine and super hard core, alpha or smth like that. You don't date women that much, you don't know how to attract women, but you perceive yourself as hard core alpha and protect your image of yourself by not approaching women. Then you go out, use PU to get girls and all of a sudden you realize how you attract more masculine women and how you behave towards them isn't that alpha, you are behaving gentle and more feminine.. And boom! Your illusion is blown. Of course that is just one out of many illusions you have. The point is, outer world is awesome as well, it can give you growth if you do things wisely, if you use it as a tool to do the inner work. The only thing that is important is the balance between the two - the inner and the outer world.

@jasonjp1016 Cool. I think PU is great, you can learn a lot from it and indeed it is challenging! Have fun going out!

Going out is only 1 out of 3 ways to meet people. PU is not the ONLY way two people can meet. You can meet someone through your social circle. If you don't have that many friends - make new friends. Build your social circle up and new people will come into your life, people you have stuff in common with. Also, you can go to self-help seminars/work shops if you are into self help and meet women there as well. If you want to expand yourself in a way through PU then that is great! Also you can go past PU and be better at dating/relationships, there are other ways you could do that if going out isn't your thing, keep that in mind.

Failure/rejection doesn't exist, result does. That is one of main principles in NLP. You just keep going and learn from it.

You are experiencing life. Good for you. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, time will tell you.

Idk if you are a woman or not? If you are then I suggest these two books - Getting off: A Woman's guide to masturbation by Jamye Waxman and WomanCode: Perfect your cycle, amplify your fertility, supercharge your sex drive and become a power source by Alisa Vitti

I asked the same question a friend of mine who runs a fashion blog. She gave me practical advice. Her: Who are you, what kind of impression do you want to leave on people? Me: ............. I am not yet like that, but I want to be. Her: Ok. You do know that how others see us is a matter of how we behave and who we are, right? Clothes can't really help you with that, that is something you have to develop. However I can tell you how clothes can give a hand there. (I will list out things that can help out no matter in which direction you want your style to go) Always buy clothes that are made out of natural fabric. ALWAYS. If it isn't, no matter how much you like it, simply pass by (everything else looks cheap, the better the fabric, the better it is for maintaining clothes, smelling nice and looking fabulous) Pick what colors you want to where and only buy clothes that are of the color you want to wear if it isn't the right color, no matter how much you like it - pass! (every color gives certain associations, you can even google that) Make a list of clothes you want to own (not JUST before you shop, but a list that you always edit, long term list) because when you have a list you always know what your looking for and mind looks for it when you are shopping Check out what people you admire when it comes to clothes, what styles you like (on fashion blogs, people you meet etc.), experiment, be open to new things and possibilities Sort out your clothes. Get rid of clothes you almost NEVER wear, get your wardrobe in order by sorting out what's for where - if it's for gym, for home or for out and about/work. If you want a certain image - it doesn't matter (most of the time) if it's for work of for a night out. I used to separate clothes for work and clothes for a night out. Then I realized that I want to look FABULOUS no matter where I am at. I want to maintain a certain style. (For her and me this meant that a woman should always look fabulous and a skirt/dress that is too short for work/collage is too short for anywhere! because that's how a woman who respects herself should dress. For you this can mean that adopting your work mode to your casual mode is okay, depends where you work of course and what dress code you have to follow) This advice is very painful to follow if you are a woman, yet it pays of tons! Tell me how it went for you if you decide to follow it. More practical stuff: Stop wearing clothes that you don't feel comfortable in. If you have teeth that aren't that white - by all means avoid the color yellow when you dress. Research what colors go well together, learn the rules and follow them. Accessorize. If it resonates with you try wearing jewelry (personally I love a guy with a ring or earrings or a silver necklace), scarfs, sunglasses, etc. Take care of your hair Smell nice Another thing, one time I stumbled upon a You-Tube channel Alpha m. (as in alpha male). I found the guy extremely annoying. Plus there are better folks out there teaching men how to be men. However I remember him having practical stuff about developing a style as a man, check him out, perhaps you will find it useful. He has style! If you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

In one of his videos Leo talked about how when a person triggers animosity in us because of a trait he/she has then that's because we ourselves are not ok with the same trait we have. So when you find how other person is behaving irritating then you are not ok with the same thing about yourself and you are missing that. Of course it's normal to notice something when you meet someone that perhaps you don't like or don't consider a good quality. The thing is when you notice that and you are ok with it (emotionally), it has no meaning to you, it is not something you should work. Secondly that can be perceived like this - if you are developing communication skills when you talk to other people you will notice how they communicate and perhaps compliment them on that. If that is not your interest, if you are occupied with looks or something else, you will examine more how they dressed, makeup and that stuff. Therefore your focus on other people is where your own focus is. Thirdly if we look at that at a max zoom out mode, then the way we treat other people is a way we treat ourselves. If you are a person who is constantly criticizing others (your thoughts are trapped on their negative sides), you are doing that to yourself as well internally when you do something wrong. If you are a person who is constantly trying to please everyone it's because you want to please your internal parent. Therefore you are externally looking for that. I got the impression that you want to be in a way popular in a crowd. The good way to do that is being a "star" (check out what behavior that implies in a book called The art of seduction). Basically it has nothing to do with pleasing others, it has everything to do with you giving people attention, being interested in them, interacting with a lot of people, approaching them, being social, talking about stuff YOU find fun and interesting.

@Lynnel does learning PU get a guy better in relationships as well? Can all the concepts be applied there as well or not? I always wondered that.