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You just don't care about it enough?

I wouldn't date anyone so secretive who refused to tell me why. You fucked yourself over by not having standards for openness and honesty, and accepting this nonsense. Result: a relationship that she doesn't take seriously. I doubt you'll change that now.

Cool, so why do you need many people to like it then?

Isn't this what the LP course is for?

You're way overthinking it. You like him. Ask him out or laugh at his jokes and drop hints so that he'll ask you out.

If you don't let him take initiative at least sometimes, you're taking away a chance to feel manly. Why are you wondering whether you can stop pursuing? Doesn't that mean you're already doing it out of fear? If you feel like pursuing, I'd do it in a womanly fashion, dropping hints of what you'd like to do together but still letting him take the actual initiative. E.g. "I've never seen X movie before." "Would be totally awesome to Y." "You could totally get me to Z;)" so that his dumb man-brain can still go: "Let's do X/Y/Z tomorrow" and feel like he asked you out. If all else fails and he just doesn't take initiative, there's two possibilities: 1. He's just not that into you. 2. He hasn't integrated some parts of manhood and is in some ways still a boy. And that's okay, if you're cool with that, but the healthy way to deal with that is not to fall into the masculine role and do the work for him, because it will harm the sexual dynamic, but to inspire him to grow into the man role more, within your interaction. If you don't hear anything in two weeks, you might tell him straight up that you are still waiting for him to ask you out.

I have a great relationship with my mom and she checks in on my only every 2-3 weeks or so. But yeah... that's moms... How capable of change is she? How young is her brain would you say? Reason I ask is because some people are so stuck in their ways, they'll never adapt in your lifetime. And others are pretty fluid still. Emotional intelligence is also a factor

@28 cm unbuffed Primal therapy is a large field, and during the retreat I did, we did a lot of different exercises, it's a carefully crafted journey... But this (catharsis) is one of them, and it's a good one to do. I can also provide you with some Spotify playlists that help with that in PM if you're interested

@28 cm unbuffed Until you tried primal therapy, you haven't scratched the surface

Don't need a job to practice entrepreneurship. And talking to potential customers (on facebook for example), will enable you to practice your listening skills. Become aware of the balance of consumption vs production. How much time in the day are you consuming content, and how much time are you producing? (meaning, being creative) Where do you want this balance to be? Too much consumption is going to give you an overstimulated brain and sleeping problems. Your brain needs moments of no input, like a walk, to put the subconscious to work, process what you have learnt, and generate ideas for your creative work later. I have ADD and had to learn this too. It's important to keep some hours of silence. In the long-term, you basically only retain knowledge that you use actively at the same time that you learn it, so reading tons of books on some skill or field while not working in it or combining it with practice, is almost pointless.

@28 cm unbuffed It's not about the relationship with your physical mother of today. It's the relationship with the copy of the parent that we keep in our head, a result of imprinting, that still runs our lives. That is what needs to be transformed. After I did Primal Therapy, I felt like I was truly separated from my parents, none of their emotional baggage was mine anymore, and I was a grown-up like I never thought possible. The relationship with my live parents is better than ever. My shadow parents in my head are dead. My self esteem is fixed. My confidence is transformed. I attract amazing people like never before. Puja Lepp is the one who helped me. I can't recommend her enough. She has a website. But there are other good primal therapists.

@Rishabh R Awesome! Yes, research, practice, and belief busting techniques like the sedona method and byron katie's the work, or just general contemplation, it's a path that has to be unique to you. I confess I actually meant no more mister nice guy, that one I've read and is good too. Also the way of the superior man by deida is a must read, I think

Mescaline. I just came out of an huachuma ceremony... and mescaline is SO MUCH about awakening the divine masculine...it feels like a coming of age ritual, where your ancestral grandfathers are taking you by the hand and carrying you from boyhood into manhood. You'll feel like a man after that. Whew. Also it releases blockages. My nose and third eye are unblocked now. Sounds weird I know. Apart from that: tantra. (I can recommend a workshop) That's where I got the most growth and insights regarding masculinity. Because you are interacting with conscious women who want to bring it out in you, and bonding with conscious men where the sense of brotherhood will awaken your masculine. And remember: it's already inside you. You just need to remove what is in the way. @gar-4-field hope that helps?

Fuck yeah. This is so healthy. I applaud you. Maybe you'll be vibing so well, you'll meet someone there!

Why not suffer? Suffering leads to enlightenment. Not suffering keeps you stuck.

@Rishabh R Why don't you try it? Yes it's a good book, I can recommend it

That is true and fine, but it is unrelated to masculine/feminine energy. It is indeed a trap to turn it into a strive to be some way. That's a mistake. It doesn't mean that masculine and feminine energies are not real. They are very real and every person has both. And everyone can embody one or the other in any given moment, but they are distinct: when in your masculine, you will be atttacted to femininity, when in your feminine, you will be attracted to masculinity. I bet you haven't experienced yourself switching polarities consciously before. Once you experience that, it is a realisation that is undoubted, you can not unsee it, and actually being aware of your feminine and masculine energies, and learning to let go and embodying them fully, creates the freedom to be whichever way you want to be, in any moment. Paradoxically, it frees you of the restrictions from your ego saying: "but you have a penis, you should behave masculine right now" Hope that helps?

@KGrimes I agree it's paradoxical. However, depriving your ego of what it wants is not a moral or spiritual good in itself. It is not "more spiritual" than having everything you want. It is only one spiritual practice that can be used to deconstruct your ego, watch it squirm under the discomfort, so you can examine it and let go of unhealthy attachments that you discover. It is only one technique, and you don't have to use it. There's a million ways to spiritually progress. You can get enlightened without self-deprivation. And even if you choose to use it, its function is temporary. And when you are done using it, you are done with renunciation: after enlightenment, you can do whatever you want again. Because why not? You think Eckhart Tolle abstains from sex? Why would he? Why would God abstain from being God? After a prolonged ego death last night, I realised: after realising you are everything and nothing, you still have to entertain yourself as God. That's why God created you. To entertain and explore itself through characters. So it wants you to experience! After enlightenment, you still have to eat soup. And chop wood. And you might as well love and enjoy people around you with all your senses, because that's what You created them for! Hope that makes sense?

Not do both: because mental energy is a scarce resource, and also if you believe in your own success, there's no need to invest in someone else's company. That would basically be a hedge against your own success, which makes no sense. Also an investor is going to ask why you are not all in on your own idea. They probably would refuse you, because it's not about the idea but about the person. And if the person doesn't even believe that he is his own best investment, why should someone else.

@KGrimes Cool, so now you know! Making a move isn't a must. Only when you feel like it

Dude that's awesome. If you make it into this big and meaningful quest like this, and make projects that can help other people, you are doing true Alchemy: turning your suffering into gold. I have no doubt that you'll fix this. Maybe a few years still. I also have no doubt that you can do it. Who knows how many people you will have reached before then? And after? Have you thought about making a youtube channel? Seems like a good specific niche to provide help for. Keep doing what you do, it's awesome. Yes I get that it sucks and I can't comprehend how much - the only thing I can compare it to is a bad MDMA hangover, I don't know if that's similar, but those only last a day. Give the shrooms time - they do have some hardcore brain healing capabilities. Also other mushrooms, like lion's mane. Paul Stamets has a good microdosing regimen that he recommends. He's a good resource. Also I was reminded of this: It's about adderall damage, not SSRI, but still contains some good info

@Podie45 I'm sorry that you are going through this. I'm sure it can be solved. There's so many things to try! And when you find it, now you can help others. Out of curiosity: what happens when you work out really hard for an hour, and completely exhaust yourself? Don't you feel a little good after? What happens when you take a lot of psilocybin?

So... why didn't you kiss her or have sex with her on one of those nights? What did you expect would happen if you don't make a move? They lose interest, of course. Not making a move after being given a couple of opportunities, causes women to lose interest. Especially when the opportunities are as obvious as her showing up to your house. If you can't take the hint even when she shows up at your house, then there's nothing more she can do, is there?

@fridjonk I couldn't agree more. I just was under the impression that it was more enjoyable for others than it was for me. Thanks for clearing that up I still much prefer cold showers

@fridjonk Then I can do it but I don't understand what you love about it