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You can't be responsible for someone else's feelings. That's codependency. You can make agreements to do or not do certain things so that the other can feel good and safe. That's a relationship. No relationship, no agreement.

Coaching works because of the accountability and the outside perspective. Many people who are stuck, have a multitude of smart thoughts about what they could do to get unstuck. Some of those options they think of will be right for them, but then they will dismiss them, using logic that is grounded in fears, fears that they are not aware of. Fears of failure, fears of looking stupid, fears of humiliation, fears of losing friends and family or their support or approval. Fears of getting out of the matrix and never finding their way back. Fears of success. When I do life coaching with people, I find that the techniques I have to use to truly get someone past a blockage, resembles what a therapist would do. So those fields do overlap a lot, the difference being that my client would already be mentally healthy, or whatever society considers mentally healthy. My opinion is that happiness and mental health are actually the same thing, or extensions of each other, but that's an unpopular opinion.

I've "rebounded" in my earlier relationships and that led to other great things. The next relationship. Or sometimes not. Sometimes I was in a broken space and nobody wanted to come near my needy ass. But who cares. The pity fucks I got here and there were still mutually beneficial. Nothing wrong with a bit of comforting each other. I've gotten back together with an ex and it was the best decision I've ever made in my love life. Making rules about these things is a silly ego game. Just trust your judgment on a per-situation basis, and hone it.

@Michael569 He didn't come across to me as an ingenuine person, so I decided to google what he would be selling (from his marketing efforts) But now I see: David Sinclair, if you read this, I'm very disappointed in you. It was all to sell your rock albums. You're going to have to take a lot of that NMN, if you're going to wait for us to buy your music.

Congratulations on the material successes you've had, such as getting a good degree and a job, and having great friends! You're actually so lucky. Because people whose life is in shambles, they blame the "I'm not truly living" and "not good enough" feelings on external circumstances. Which makes sense, if the external circumstances need improvement. It's easy to rationalize feelings of selfishness, not being good enough and being a loser that way. I did that when I didn't have a degree, didn't have friends, didn't make any money. So you're lucky because you have your life together enough, that it becomes obvious that this problem is internal. The way you feel doesn't match your life, and so, we have to look inwards. This is my domain of expertise. My feelings of notgoodenoughness started to shift when I started healing my childhood. You can do this through self-regression or regression therapy with a professional. I've experienced both, actively practice it and help others with guided sessions. Here's some resources: And you can try this exercise on the "not good enough"ness: https://youtu.be/qjG_4MSZDP0

@Leo Gura Do I even need to comment?

It seems ridiculous yes, to the one who hasn’t experienced regressing to their own birth memories and feelings. To the ones who have, it becomes self-evident. You can become directly conscious of the reason and source for all the quirks in your personality as well as the neurotic symptoms and psychosomatic ones. Once you become directly conscious of it through regression, there is no more argument or doubt.

Yeah... but Sinclair still takes it. I'm assuming that's for a reason.

No he didn't. Notice how you're talking to your former self more than to OP (so much so that it blurs your perception of what he's actually saying)

At least you're getting laid now! That's great, congratulations.

This is why you had depression. Not because you have something inherently wrong with your brain chemistry. Or hormones. It's almost criminal that people get put on these pills and told a story that they are defective in some way. Anyways, if you find a therapist who can work with childhood trauma and can do regression therapy, you'll be good. You can even heal yourself. This is the domain I work in, you can ask me questions about it via pm also.

"I am living my best life" is too vague. What does that even mean? How should your subconscious work on that for you? Affirmations must be concrete and represent continuous evolution.

So? That's a lot of friends already. Why are you making yourself meet people you don't like? Is the real question, IMO. Before we go on diagnosing you with stuff, aren't you just preferring fewer high quality connections over being in a large herd? Herds are stressful to me too because you can only be a superficial self.

Boi doesn't even know about resveratrol and NMN? Lithium?? I think he's self-medicating a psychological issue.

@mrPixel I experienced that when I quit smoking. Like you said, I got so depressed it was scary. People were worried. I had a cigarette again, and everything was fine. Now I have been a non-smoker for some time, and I quit coffee a week ago. And I feel more energetic and positive than ever. Here's why: Sometimes (often times) a substance habit can help to suppress a depression that is already there. But not to worry, depression is merely old painful feelings from the past, waiting to be re-experienced. Re-experience them, you can let them go. Let them go, no more depression. No more depression, no more need for coffee or cigarettes. You might want to check out my video about me quitting caffeine where I also explain a bit about how the underlying depression works.

@ElenaO I appreciate you reading my journal. Let me clarify that I'm just exploring my own origin story here. I'm not saying "people shouldn't". I'm not mad at my parents for inducing me. I don't feel victimized by it. But my psychedelic experiences and my shadow work tells me that something around birth is the source of the "I'm not ready" reflex that permeates my entire life. In Imprints, Arthur Janov describes how different types of birth experiences determine how people do everything in life, it's the biggest influencer of personality. I highly recommend reading it, perhaps asking about your own birth and thinking about the way you live life, making some connections. It's very interesting!

Yes, I really think so.

@Federico del pueblo That's awesome!! I'm very happy to read this. Yes, it's possible to "get into it" without a guide, and you succeeded! The more of this you do, the better you'll start feeling. Excellent excellent excellent. You gotta want it. But the pathway to healing is already mapped within you. Yes. Depending on the intensity it's normal to feel the same feeling/situation once, or even for weeks on end. Birth is so intense that people work on it for months. When the tears stop, you ask: "Is there an earlier beginning?" and see what other situations/stories your subconscious feeds you. Great!

What it was like to live inside my head when I was heavily affected by neuroticism when socializing.

@Thought Art I know. I'm suggesting that they go elsewhere, to /r/seduction for example. Come back when they have reached the maturity to (at least want to) hold and grow a relationship. Wouldn't it be nice to have no more "is it true that women are liars" type questions...

@Leo Gura Thank you Leo. A container being tightly held makes one feel safe. Would it also be an idea to just remove the "Dating/Sexuality/Relationships" area and just do "Relationships" or something? And just not discuss dating and how to get laid here anymore. That topic is the source of 95% of toxic ideology that gets dumped here. Conscious relating is a juicy topic, that I feel doesn't get enough attention (I hardly was able to talk about it over all the horny teenagers). All the thirsty guys and gals who want to get laid can just go watch your episodes, and discuss further on /r/seduction. That was never the strength of this forum anyway, and Leo is wasting tons of his own time trying to explain the basics again and again, in response to dumber and dumber questions.

Mingling? Codependency can only be solved with therapy which addresses childhood trauma and toxic family systems. Teach people different behaviors all you want, when it comes down to it in a stressful situation, their emotions will compel them to follow their familiar patterns.

That's great and I'm on board with that. I'd like to point out though, that followers tend to resemble their teachers/leaders. There might be some noise on the communication line that causes misunderstandings. For example, the tone in the videos doesn't project humility and openness. It projects "there's no human that could ever know better than me" It's the opposite of humility. You're basically saying "Do as I say, not as I do" @Leo Gura Soooo.... which one is it? Shouldn't you be telling people to be more arrogant then, if that's what helped you?

Ahh... This sounds straight-up misanthropic to me though. I don't think he faked that. @Leo Gura If this is what you think is cool, what are we to say, it's your life purpose, do it in your style. I would bet that Vernon Howard's followers had some severe self esteem issues though, that he didn't help them solve. I think that that's what kept them coming back. I think he also got frustrated with his followers' stupidity, them not doing the serious work he recommended. Not realising that most of them were there for the lashing.

There you go. That's really traumatic and as an infant you no doubt believed you were going to die, be killed, or have to kill in order to live. This type of trauma causes a "death feeling" in people, that can sometimes come up when it's triggered, and make people temporarily suicidal or fantasize about death of themselves and others. I've seen this. I've lost a friend to this. @Lana Faye I'm just saying: you're not crazy. This is why you feel like this. Birth trauma gets triggered when you yourself give birth. Maybe that can provide some solace.