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@NoSelfSelf just some basic Wim Hof breathing, or generally being Dutch, helped to survive that Especially in the long hike back through the snow, we really needed the breathing technique to warm back up. Way to add some memorability and intensity to a date though

@Emrie Some nice ideas! I like the idea for the thread too. However, it's going to be most useful if you list the ideas that you have a good personal experience with, so I'd like to know which of those ones you listed have you tried out personally? I will submit a few that I had a good experience with: Punching a hole in a frozen lake and doing an ice bath, then having frozen sex in the snow after, that was like the best date ever Walking in the park Hanging out in the park Swimming in the lake next to the park Doing a picnic in the park Petting zoo! which is also located in the park Hmm, common theme here...

@mmKay Well said

@Someone here You need to go longer than 24 hours. Like any dependency. It gets worse before it gets better and the cravings go away. For sugar it's about a week, if it's your first time. Caffeine 2-3 weeks. In your case, I would strongly recommend just focusing on quitting smoking, and not wasting your will power on other things.

Just take Mind Lab Pro, it's affordable, has only verified (brand name) ingredients and works really well without side effects. (except if you count the side effect that my fiancee thinks I'm too overintellectualizing on it and it annoys her)

https://www.healthshots.com/intimate-health/feminine-hygiene/top-7-foods-for-a-better-smelling-vagina/ I used to ask girls on Tinder whether they like pineapple as an opener, then they'd say sure why, then I'd say ok what about cinnamon, then send them this link Can't say all women appreciated it but it made me laugh.

and what's your impressive job? aren't you a work in progress when it comes to socializing either? does that mean you're past your prime / a bad apple?

No, I slow down and relax my body: This is the simplest way. I'm giving you a condensed step by step. You can also practice it by yourself. Just when you're at 90%, practice relaxing your entire body including cock and ass, and let the tension flow up the spine. You'll see that your arousal level is "reset" after that.

Ok so do you want to cum out of your belly button? Or maybe out of your eyes, while you look her in the eyes? As long as we're doing surgery, may as well have some fun with it.

@Emrie I just like to stick to my basic principle that I don't mess with nature if I don't have to. Whenever people think that they are smarter than nature, they create nasty side effects. Especially when the tech is new. Drugs to make birth easier creates a life long trauma for the child. Painkillers that were safe to use during pregnancy have caused horrible disfigurement ("sorry guys") Aluminum in deodorant (anti-perspirant) "innocently" blocks up your pores and adds more toxicity. Silicone nets that were put inside women's bodies to uphold their organs after C-section caused horrible problems when pieces broke off and moved throughout the body. And then there was no way to remove them, ("sorry again guys"). I see the pattern now: people think they're smarter than nature, invent things that people have a need for, make a lot of money from it, and only 70 to 100 years later find out what a bad idea it was. Don't even get me started on lobotomies. And every generation thinks they're cutting-edge compared to a few decades ago, they really have everything figured out now, sure sure. We're still living in the stone age compared to 50 years ahead. The female pill creates nasty side effects, for example changing their taste in men, and overall personality. So I don't believe in messing with hormones if you don't have a dangerous deficiency. The guy in the video doesn't even know if his sperm count is going to come back! Probably it is, but he doesn't know. And clearly the hormones are affecting him, because he's getting chubby. In my opinion he's insane. He'd rather recklessly risk becoming infertile than practice some self-control. The body is a delicate balance, everything affects everything, messing with anything will cause unknown side effects. Blocking up passageways can't be healthy. Silicone inside my body? No thanks. For all I know a piece could break off and cause a blood clot somewhere. If I don't want to impregnate her, I don't shoot inside her + use a condom when she's fertile, and that's good enough for me. In fact, I don't shoot a lot at all, maybe once or a couple times a month, which is why that's easy for me. People are too addicted to cumming to properly enjoy sex. But I digress.

@ivankiss Sex is great and I can relate to a lot of what you're saying... I've basically made most of my twenties about sex. I sort of regret that now if I think about it, I realise that if I had just first done more trauma release, I wouldn't have had to work so hard and bend over backwards to get laid, also if I had buckled down sooner I could have been financially independent already and then there's always time for sex later. Anyways, I had some great times and more to come. Here's what I learnt: I symbolized heavily on sex and the girls I had sex with. Symbolizing means unconsciously trying to get old needs fulfilled through present means. So if I for example lacked belonging in my teen and child years, which is a core need, (I never was popular or accepted), I could sleep with a girl and make that mean that now I was a worthy, cool guy who would be accepted. It sound illogical but the subconscious works in strange ways. You can also symbolize with other needs, for example people who had a cold or stressed mother who didn't touch them enough as a young child, will try to seek that Symbolizing makes the experience way more stimulating, addictive and important than it really is Sexual transmutation is real. The more I'm in action mode with my life purpose, the less I'm thinking about sex, it actually feels like a distraction to me. So you might also ask yourself if you are doing something with your life that you are so obsessed with, that is so meaningful that sex is a joke compared to that. If not, find it.

@Eternal Unity Yes you have to actually believe that it's normal and proper for a woman to buy you a drink. You believe on some level that it's too narcissistic, therefore it can't work

Sounds like you can already start the first one. Then you could give some workshops about what God really is, take that money and travel to the next place, hang up some flyers, repeat? Probably that experience will help you write a better book.

@Someone here what happened, did you relapse or something? Edit: oh I see you did. Yes, I've been there, I have tried to quit smoking off and on for 10 years, since I was 19 or so. I have written pages and pages in my diary about how it undermines my willpower, my self-esteem, and how it makes me depressed that it will make me sick, and still I'm not stopping. It's a really bad thing for your self-image, because you're doing something you don't believe in, thereby constantly contradicting your integrity. Are you desperate enough to open up to the possibility that you might have to heal some childhood trauma in order to become less prone to addiction?

Anything is better than saying "I'm broke" like an asshole. That's like a girl saying "I've got crusted period blood on my pussy lips" and expecting you to take her home.

Maybe it won't work on you but I've done it plenty of times

@AJBrew I'd love to say that it's just willpower, but if I'm honest, it's a combination of that and social pressure which helped me cultivate that. The social influence that helped me was twofold: I was active in a neotantra community for a while, got to know a bunch of men and women who practice abstaining from peak-orgasm as a lifestyle, in order to have better sex, and I wanted to be one of them Because that better sex and more masculine energy is something my girl became accustomed to, I also wanted to keep it up because of the positive effects on my relationship So if you wanna do it, get some social accountability Also, if you refuse to ejaculate, your girl will go crazy for you. Because she wants to make you cum, and making you cum is also her gaining some power over you. If you don't let her, she'll be mad at you and insanely turned on at the same time.

@Someone here I made that mistake when I quit smoking in my early twenties. Just ended up smoking cheap cigars, like 10 in one day at one point ? I wasn't ready. When you've just quit, I wouldn't mess with anything nicotine like for a good while. Me, I smoke a pipe every once in a while. I actually allow myself to smoke cigarettes once a month, if I want to. Which I don't recommend you fool yourself into thinking you can because I tried it many times before and failed.

Indeed. I don't do anything complicated, I haven't read any Mantak Chia books. I avoid going above 80% arousal within the first 20 minutes. Then my body starts to be more warmed up and doesn't cum by accident. Then I periodically let the built-up sexual energy disperse from the cock area, by relaxing and letting my spine shake and just unclenching everything, imagining it moving up the spine. The first few times it doesn't feel very orgasmic, but in hour 2 it starts to be very much like orgasm. And then when she's on top and I let her ride me, somehow that back-to-front motion feels like constant orgasm. But you gotta be warmed up and not have tension in your body. If you feel the sexual pleasure only in your dick, you're not warmed up and loose enough. I tend to feel it throughout most of my body, and the dick feeling becomes only a small part of the pleasure feeling. @AJBrew It's three weeks bro, trust me Well, you can do this sooner than three weeks, it's just harder in my experience. Very difficult to not ejaculate within the first 2 weeks, after week 3 it starts becoming easy.

I am the value.

Instead of telling her you're broke, probably better to get her to buy you drinks. Brokeness is a turn-off. Having hoops for her to jump through is not.

@Antor8188 People who get laid and are successful and happy, usually spread joy, positivity and give people chances. A true alpha is generous. What's going on with those people, is they are telling you their problems. And if it hurts you, that means that it might still be also a bit your problem, part of you still thinks that's true, otherwise it wouldn't hurt. So then you have that problem in common with those guys, you're just dealing with it in a more positive way. In order to not let it hurt, I'd recommend some trauma release work, like IFS or things like this (my link) You can transform this issue out of your reality pretty quickly, if you have the balls to do some uncomfortable emotional work.

Girls should be offering their number to you on their own initiative. If that never happens, something's off in the way you present yourself. Are you being your vulnerable bold ballsy self, or putting on a front?

@Norbert Somogyi Thank you as well, I was able to turn that response you inspired me to write into a new text on my website Journaling here helped me a lot, good decision!

It's insightfully described and I think it would have helped me, to hear this, when I was 24, so I decided to share it here.