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Read it it's one of my favourite teachings

But you are right that I was overthinking. I left her alone for a week, then we started casually talking again and actually we'll meet this Saturday. Only thing is, she wants to be exclusive and I can't do that

That's not because of the pickup. They get into it because of the desperation, and to improve and grow out of that. Why would you shame them?

Since you don't seem willing to explain this with arguments, which is fine, let's just agree to disagree then I guess.

Go take up a new hobby and join a public class. Preferably something that inherently involves communication and gets you loose and out of your comfort zone, anyway. Examples: improv, acting for beginners, storytelling, public speaking. Sports will also work, if you're into that. Another thing you can do just to practise is go to music festivals (with chill vibes) by yourself. Everyone is open and in a good mood, guaranteed success.

Amen to that!

Creativity is not something you do. You let go and then it happens. How do you let go? Practise it. I recommend improv classes. You need to get yourself to a stage where you don't give a fuck anymore whether what you say will offend her, and you are just saying shit to entertain yourself. That's where the magic will happen.

False. I have known many successful couples who are still together, who found each other on Tinder. Now that the stigma is lifted, many couples admit they met via Tinder. It doesn't matter how you meet.

I don't want to start an argument, but I just want to go on record to state that this is very bad advice in my opinion. Especially harmful for a guy at this stage, still thinking about what to say et cetera. At that stage you need to take action or nothing happens. I feel qualified to say this because I banged 2 new girls over the weekend, so I'm 'in the zone' right now. If @JohnnyBravo's recent results are better, I will shut up and take back my words. This is not meant to brag. I'm still a socially awkward loser with social anxiety most of the time. I'm just saying, listen to people who get some kind of results that you want

@Alex14 You're quite right. The "letting things happen by themselves" viewpoint is a great way to get nowhere with your girl and feel very zen about it. You need practical tips. Basically do whatever the fuck you want. What you honestly want. This is what's attractive to a woman, that you feel free enough to do what you authentically want. Do you want to make out with her? Do it. See how this escalates things "by themselves" as long as you don't hold back your authentic desires? So just be mindful of what you really want. Get a boner? Time to make a move. Boner goes away and random funny thoughts appear? Share the random funny thoughts. Simple but takes balls Oh and do it reasonably soon. Chances are she's waiting for you to make a move. If you do (badly executed or not) she will be grateful. If you wait too long she will lose interest and deem you to be a pussy. This can happen rather quickly (within a week) and there's no recovering from that. You could keep seeing her but you will be stuck forever as a friend that she doesn't respect, and you will have to watch her date other guys. Ask yourself, are you willing to tolerate some awkwardness right now to avoid this fate. So it doesn't matter what you do to escalate things, it matters that you do SOMETHING. Could be awkward as fuck and still work. I've had threesomes doing really awkward shit trying to escalate. It will still work if she's game.

Also, when the conversation falls silent but you're still looking at each other, and it feels awkward/tense? This is when you kiss her. Or basically whenever you feel like.

Naah, having a dinner date puts WAAY too much pressure. You have to treat her as a casual buddy that you happen to make out with. None of this traditional dating shit. So what do you like to do for fun on your own? Play a video game? Walk in the park? Propose that she join you for that. Don't ask, propose. So a sentence that starts with "let's" and doesn't end with a question mark. I had a good date recently playing airhockey and snooker. It went well because I liked it.

Sweet Abundance Have to work, story soon...

I'm still convinced that OP is trolling. Who in their right mind would suggest doing something way unhealthy to get a little health benefit.

It's an addiction, like coffee or smoking. When you quit bread and wheat you will realise that what you thought was hunger was actually withdrawal symptoms. And actual hunger is way less intrusive and intense. It's trippy man. Treat it like an addiction. Quit all wheat products (preferably also sugar) cold turkey, and assume that you will feel like crap for a bit and then won't even miss them after a week. Sounds like a good deal to me. @Manjushri And keep a journal about it in the journals section of the forum. Best way to stay motivated. How's it going?

Also if you want some practical tips, I think these are pretty solid in my opinion:

I'm back in ketosis I can tell because the brain fog cleared up, my breath is bad and I seem to have unlimited energy even when I'm exhausted and should go to sleep. I am letting the dating game distract me too much I consider this a similar trap to letting your girlfriend convince you to spend less time on your LP. The feminine energy is trying succesfully to lure me off my purpose. I went on Tinder and suddenly I have two dates lined up already. This got me addicted super quickly. This morning I skipped my morning routine and instead spent two hours swiping women on my phone. Still in bed. It's awful, I know. This is not how I want to live. I think dating cool people is a good addition to my life and I value it. If I don't spend any time on dating, I get neurotic, guilty feelings and start to feel like I'm not living my life right. However it was not my intention to then be neurotically checking and swiping on my phone all the time. That's just as much of a distraction from self-actualization as the lack of sex is. One good thing is that I'm going for the really hot girls now. Where I used to avoid connecting to super attractive people, because that seems more intimidating, I'm now shifting to the mindset that my time is my most valuable commodity, so if I'm going to spend some of it on dating someone, I better be really attracted to them. And also I'm shifting from feeling like I'm pretending to be an attractive man, to actually knowing that I am. I feel like a man, not like a boy. And I'm feeling secure about how I'm living my life. I also noticed yesterday and the day before that I can be very calm. A grounding energy. I notice this especially around nervous people. It seems that other people's nervousness and mindfuckery shifts me into calm, grounding presence so I can transmit it to them. Hmm. It's like I'm shedding the skin of a hyperactive boy, and making room for a calm masculine unwavering presence. Feels good I must say. Also during the socializing yesterday, and afterwards (still processing this), I became very aware of how simple it actually is to be your attractive self around people. It's not the shit you say but the place it's coming from. Just maintain some awareness on from what place you're speaking (trying for something? Or just happily sharing?), and you can let go of what it is you're saying. And trust that even if you offend, you can recover from anything. And if not, then that's how it was supposed to be after all. It's very freeing. I will trust that I will find a balance. I don't know how yet, and that's okay. But one thing is certain: I must not check my messages or any apps before finishing my morning routine. This is where a mechanical alarm clock would really help. Got up at : 9:45 Days in a row with morning routine : 0 Number of women approached : 18 Total infield time : 12 hours Total meditation time : 11h55 Speeches given : 2 Books read : 0 Currently reading : Stealing Fire - Steven Kotler et. al. Days without smoking : 54 alcohol : 0 caffeine except tea : 0 TV : 0 grains : 2 sugar : 1 dairy : 8 Porn & Peak Orgasm : 4 I reset sugar because the day before yesterday I put ketchup in my salad. Am I being too strict here? Hmm, it feels more like I enjoy teaching myself to be super vigilant about ingredients. I don't need to have a super long streak to feel good about myself. I value self-honesty.

@LambChop Easy on the motherly, the healthy masculine doesn't need/want that (most of the time) from his intimate partner. Being motherly is a good way to kill sexual tension. If you want to attract masculine men, you need to become more acquainted with being in your feminine. Don't worry, you already have this. Even men have it. This means being comfortable letting go of control, not having a plan, and trusting others to lead. Empower your man to lead you, and he will allow you to bloom in your femininity. I don't think you have to curb your aggression too much, as probably you are looking for a man who is not scared away by that. But I'm not an expert on how to get there as a woman. Obviously. This guy David Deida is, though. I know it's weird that it's a man teaching this but I am friends with many women who agree that he really knows his stuff from the other sex's side as well. I recommend this book: https://deida.info/dear-lover/ Probably you can find an audiobook somewhere.

I like this, I wholeheartedly agree and thank you for writing it!

> I think we should hang out. I'll make you a deal. I will shower. And then we can hang out. (Friend nods approvingly) I pull out my phone and make a new contact and give it to her. "This is where I say that, like, I have a boyfriend..?" (softly and averted eyes) > That's okay, I'm a lesbian. We'll be best buds. We'll gossip about your friend. *saves number* I was smooth as FUCK tonight. This was a hot girl, too, like a legitimate stunner. I don't have particularly high hopes for that going anywhere, but it doesn't even matter: I just feel blessed to experience a night where I'm just ON: girls love me, I'm fearless, guys love me and approve of me dating their friend, I'm making friends, everything. Just ON. Wow. Need to sleep now, will expand on this later.

@ZenDancer Hey there Lucas, Thank you so much for sharing that! It means a lot to me. And it keeps me motivated to hear such things.

@How to be wise Being able to program really well is enough to get a job. Some employers require university education.

@How to be wise I've been blessed to be earning enough to live by myself and even buy the healthy food

I'm tired and feel sick to my stomach because I drank three glasses of wine yesterday. I felt I had to, to compensate for the jitteriness of the caffeine, and not lie awake all night. Not a healthy pattern. But hey, at least I got up at 6:25 Got up at : 6:25 Days in a row with morning routine : 1 Number of women approached : 15 Total infield time : 9h20 Total meditation time : 11h45 Speeches given : 2 Books read : 0 Currently reading : Stealing Fire - Steven Kotler et. al. Days without smoking : 52 alcohol : 0 caffeine except tea : 0 TV : 0 grains : 0 sugar : 6 dairy : 6 Porn & Peak Orgasm : 2 It's kinda depressing resetting these counters all the time for small mistakes. But if I don't, where does it end? I do want them to mean something. Still, I'm doing quite well on most diet goals. For most of 2019, I have successfully avoided wheat bread, sugar and dairy. And smoking. I will remind myself of this, the fact that the bigger picture vision of my diet habits is being realised. To offset all these zeroes

@How to be wise Prayer helps with: Maintaining a state of gratitude, humility and awe Listening to intuition Reminder of nondoership and to trust Making the day flow easier Getting into a flow state when speaking in front of people I work 4 days of 8 hours a week as a software engineer.