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@Farnaby Yikes, you're spot-on! I hate group think and I am clinging to the idea that I can stop it and wake people up in every case. There is attachment to control the narrative, as well. I get easily triggered if someone contradicts my views in front of me, wanting to 'correct' them, and yet I seek to contradict others' beliefs and trigger them in that way. The symmetry is uncanny So, in a way, I'm fighting myself... Just like I am having the most arguments with the biggest control-freak, although I understand him perfectly because I used to be that way. So, does that mean that if I were nicer to myself about being controlling, OR about being intolerant of contradiction, would that make me nicer to others as well? It is true that I'm very strict with myself about always being open to logical argument. I want to always be open to discussion, but in many cases I fail this requirement and will try to shut people up in unfriendly and uncalled for manner. And I hate that about me, so it is indeed a shadow.

Yeah, that would be great! I am accepting some consequences though. It's fine if it causes people to not like me. Because it does cause me to like me more. A part of me loves to trigger people by speaking my truth, and enjoys the chaos it creates. But am I prepared to then get fired for example? Hmm... Maybe. It seems to be going in that direction. Like the brakes are off, filters are lifted and come what may. However, it does seem that in some cases it's worth it, and in some it is not... What is well-meaning? - With intention to do good What does it mean to do good? - To act out of love and do what the Heart says is right. Acting for any other reason is a sin I'm not sure what to ask next... In the case that caused me to start this topic, it feels not right. So maybe I should meditate every time I feel the urge to defy...

@Serotoninluv Some extremely valuable insights, thank you! Feels spot-on? It's going to take me some minutes to process. (Although that might be an avoidance strategy of the ego) Definitely recognize the desire to control the narrative. Had I come up with the idea, I may have happily applied the change that I'm calling stupid at the moment. Because if I give in to someone making me do something, it feels like I'm losing.

I don't think blaming people for their own cancer is healthy discussion. It is what happens in a low-quality gossip thread, though

@Angelite I see. So the rules of the book of revelations determine what is good and what is bad, ultimately. And if I do something that is against the rules in the books of revelation (which are the Gospel of Jesus, the Psalms of David, the Torah of Moses, and the Scrolls of Abraham, and the Quran, if I read correctly), then it is bad for me physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. It seems pretty straight forward. But how do I know that those books are genuine? I mean, they were written by people, and people make mistakes. It even says so here: And I assume that the books were written by followers. If you had a revelation today and wrote it down, wouldn't that be equally true?

I see. Are there also actions that are good for you in that sense? How do you tell them apart from the opposite?

@Angelite What makes a misdeed? What constitutes a bad action?

@aklacor727 If you are committed, you could make a journal in the section Self-Actualization Journals. I'd follow and encourage.

@Angelite What are sins?

Watched the "Inside Bill's Brain" miniseries about Bill Gates. What a great guy. He just picks a problem and works obsessively to solve it. Reads whatever he has to. Ask whomever he has to. Works around the clock. And I recognize parts of my young self, when I was learning programming. I would just obsessively work on the problem, and maybe sleep a bit here and there. My parents had to bring me food if they wanted me to eat. The question arises what is the difference between me and him? His brain crunches more data than mine (he reads 10 books on some days and retains almost everything) I'm going to disregard that though, because A. I'm looking for things I can take inspiration from and take action on, B. I am smart enough, you don't have to be a genius to be successful, and C. When I am done simplifying my life I will read more, and that will make me smarter. He picks real-world problems, and I somehow never really did that. He solved scheduling problems for schools, at an age where I was programming little games for the heck of it. I did scheme and think obsessively about real-world applications, from energy generating gyms to a radically different model for 3D positioning in games. But somehow I didn't think it was real. It felt like a fantasy, and I could only actually do something maybe after I went to university. Did my parents give me that idea? Where did that come from? Bill was presented with real-world problems at a very young age. Schools saw he was smart and asked him to make a system. Then the rumors spread, and the Navy (or something) needed him to program something. What would have happened if real businesses had asked me to make things when I was young and obsessed? There is something missing. I was obsessed, and was scheming, and reading, and having great ideas. But somehow I did not think that I could make them happen. Crossing the divide to making something a reality did not seem like a real option. He had great parents. His parents were both very successful, and especially his mother pushed him to expand his horizons, and created the idea that he was to be a successful figure and a community figure/leader. My parents were sweet but anti-successful (poor and taught me that rich people are evil) He obsesses about his mission (building Microsoft, eradicating Polio, safe nuclear energy) whereas I obsess over my sex life, my diet, my self-actualization journal, my meditation habits, my social life, my life purpose, my this and my that. My my my. This whole self-actualization journal business is one large clusterfuck of navelgazing!!! Why are we even so obsessed about our little lives and our little musings and our little anxieties?! Nobody is that special. It doesn't matter. What am I doing for the world??! I feel like thanks to Primal and all the other stuff I did, my cup is full, and the damaging limiting beliefs from my parents have been lifted. Now I can focus outward.

please share with us how to become immortal, I bet more people would be interested. Ontopic: I HIGHLY recommend Primal Therapy for childhood related problems. Puja Lepp has a great 7 day intensive retreat, it worked worders for me.

How is this a topic related to Self-Actualization? Are we just gossiping and talking shit about celebrities now? I thought there were different forums for that. The Petersons are surely not benefiting from us second-guessing their diet choices now, and neither are we. Grow up guys.

If you must go to college, choose bioengineering.

That inspired me

Sounds like at the moment, spirituality is supporting your business goals. Nothing wrong with that. Possibly later in life, your business will be supporting your spirituality goals. Balance is a tricky thing: I used to think it meant "doing a nice little bit of everything". That got me nowhere in particular. The way Leo explained balance as a dynamic process I like much better.

^ This. NOT THIS (redpill is heavily toxic, will make you feel bad inside, I recommend RSD instead, they teach everything and more in a positive non-cynical way) @7thLetter Also, if it is indeed your number 1 or 2 priority, work with a real-life pickup coach If you actually do hundreds of approaches and only score very few dates, you need feedback from a pro.

@Alfonsoo It is all in you. If the conversation dries up, chances are that you are thinking something that you are not willing to share. Break through that barrier.

@CreamCat You started this entire discussion based on false claims. The source you cited is questionable by itself (Creationism dot com?? Frequent references to what the Holy Bible says throughout the article) And then on top of that, you either didn't read it, or simply decided to lie about it to fit your story. I'm not nitpicking. I'm pointing out that you're being purposefully deceptive to the people here. Otherwise known as your pants being on fire?

@CreamCat Either you don't know what veganism is, or you didn't even read the article you linked.

You don't need a certification for that. What are you bringing to the table? If you know your stuff, just start coaching people and see how it goes!

Learn to access your own emotions while talking, and transmit them. What you feel, they feel.

That's not a lot. And you are putting in the work. My suggestion: Look into Tantra. This can help you restore your relationship and trust with the other sex, deepen your empathy, and get honest feedback from women. Probably there is an organisation in your country that organises courses. I've had amazing jumps in development thanks to 'TheNewTantra', which is in Europe and Scandinavia.

@Dlavjr So we've determined that 18% of women meet your criteria. So the bottleneck is not the criteria. Why are we even still talking about that?! The bottleneck here is how many women you're meeting! Pickiness is a non-issue until there actually are women to pick from. How many are you meeting a week? Per month? And how? Because based on previous calculations by @Spiral, every 6th woman should be a good one!

I love how you guys are on a similar path, with one a few steps ahead, and able to share wisdom to actually help quicken the development and save some time. Very fruitful topic, this one. ?

@fridjonk Alright, that's good money, congratulations! Are they of temporary nature? If so, how come?