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Also, I find Tracy Mcmillan's instagram page quite interesting. She takes up relationship questions from her audience and answers them via a short video. And her TEDx Talk is worth a watch.

I have found books that deal with it, not in their entirety but they changed the way I look at relationships: 1. The road less traveled - by Scott M. Peck 2. Conversations with God, book 1, by Neale Donald Walsch 3. The art of communicating, by Thich Naht Hanh 4. The power of now by Eckhart Tolle. 5. Gifts of imperfection by Brene Brown and... articles/quotes/books on relating and love by Osho.

Semolina/ Sooji or Rava as it is called, is a form of wheat that is very healthy compared to regular wheat or refined wheat flour. It is also lighter on the stomach and digests easily, doesn't raise blood sugar. If you look up Indian cuisine, there are tons of dishes made from it. Are you a vegan or have given up dairy? Fresh homemade curd and/or ghee are valuable to health. Just not the processed store bought ones.

Here's the thing: French fries by themselves don't make you fat. BUT if you only eat french fries, it means zero dietary fibers. This applies to all foods, when it is fried, all fibers go away. It doesn't directly make you fat, it deposits the fat in liver and may get converted to toxins and also cause constipation which may lead to many other diseases. Make a rule that if you wish to eat french fries, you will go buy potatoes, peel them yourself and cut them, soak them, refrigerate them and fry them into fries yourself, and that would put you off the whole idea of french fries or make a promise to yourself that you would eat only fibers following the next two meals after french fries. Your body is a system. If you put something in, make sure you know how to get it out. Otherwise don't.

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

YES. Though the exercises need to be different for the mind and the body both: "The body benefits from movement. The mind benefits from stillness."

I believe it used to trigger me when I had unhealed parts of it within myself. Now I know when something triggers me, I need to look within myself. After doing some inner research, I find that I'm not triggered by it. I'm just mostly amused. It's sometimes difficult to keep a straight face when someone's trying to argue with you.

Hey! I suffer from this impostor syndrome from time to time. And I have a degree. I got good grades in school and better ones at the university. But that's the thing about feeling like an impostor. Education doesn't cure it. You have to educate yourself out of whoever or whatever educated you into believing it. This doesn't mean you don't go to university. Go join the university if it makes you wonder and attends to your curiosity. Take some trial classes if you get an opportunity to do so. Otherwise, just buy books on topics you wish to learn and start reading. Watch videos on that topic. Set a timetable for yourself like you would get in a uni. And stick to it. And then you'll see, day by day, you don't need a degree for knowledge. You just need time and earnestness. You will find mentors once you start talking about the topic you are learn and you will start talking and thinking about it once you start learning it. Also, I'd like to know which was the mathematics book you were talking about? I had an aversion with math all my life. And now I know why. I was forced to memorize maths because I couldn't understand it as easily as other kids did! Until I came across an article on Vedic Maths that changed my perception.

@lmfao You can check out this video I find very interesting on this topic. Though if you're not an Indian, or know about the food culture here, a lot of it might sound alien.

Yes. Though I'd suggest not to take in anything anyone says by word. Test it out and experiment it yourself. Whatever he says is a generalized broad opinion to cater to a majority of the people. We are responsible to decide whether it applies to us or not, individually. Garlic and onion are very good in treating cold and flu symptoms, but when taken regularly, after being cooked, they don't do anything much in terms of nutrition. Also if you give up garlic and onion, you might have to give up some foods, that are hard to digest as garlic and onion aid digestion and prevent gas. I know people who don't eat them and have a lot of joint pain issues due to this. So it depends. If you wish to read more about it, check out books on 'Ayurveda'. It is not a black and white list of what is good and bad or wrong and right food, it is mostly a system of combining foods - which ones go with which and when, depending on your personal body type and the weather.

(Spirituality) Eckhart Tolle Neale Donald Walsch Osho Pema Chodron Oriah Mountain Dreamer Marcus Aurelius Seneca Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj (Mind- thoughts and emotions): Brene Brown Elizabeth Gilbert Natheniel Brandon Thich Naht Hanh Sadhguru M. Scott Peck Byron Katie General Personal Growth overlapping above two: Sandeep Maheshwari Leo Gura Brendon Burchard Body and nutrition: My dad (He's a surgeon)

I don't think it has a bad effect in a large sense. There are subtleties though. For example, some grains are harder to digest than others, some vegetables require more chewing than others, etc. and so eating the same thing everyday might hamper the use or elasticity of stomach muscles or the exercise it provides it? I try not to go by calculations of proteins and fats and carbohydrates. If you are sensitive to your body, it will ask for certain foods and you have to feed it those foods. That takes care of whatever is needed. How do I know? - I crave sweet things when my blood sugar drops very low. I crave bananas when I'm low on energy. Of course, I don't have to get this tested every time. The craving vanishes when you eat foods that satisfy the 'deficiency'. You might need to test it out though, I'm speaking from personal experience.

Haven't watched TV in over 22 years ever since my parents threw it out when I was 10. I do like to watch a few things now and then, but it's mostly once a week or so. And I do watch somewhere around 5-10 movies a year. Works fine. Saves money and time. You can do so many things in the time you spend lodged in front of a box.

Also depends on what kind of healthy food. I guess, the correct way is to eat what your body requires and your body's requirements change every single day. So if you eat the same thing over and over again, mindlessly, even if it is 'healthy', it becomes unhealthy. I think you might observe that you feel more hungry in winters than in summers. You feel like having hot/spicy/fried food in rains, its the natural way your body manages to deal with the climate. Depending on where you live, eat local seasonal foods. And by that you can eat the same meal, just the ingredients change. I have been eating the same breakfast of fruits and dry fruits for 2.5 years now. But the fruits vary according to their availability. Some days I'm not very hungry, so I skip the dry fruits. Some days I'm not at all hungry, then I skip the fruits as well. So follow signals from your body. Don't make rules or habits ;).

I'm curious, if anyone who works in an industry that is seemingly an opposite from path of spirituality, something that thrives on consumerism, how do you blend the two? Or how do you keep them separate and why? How do you navigate through the conflict of values? I'd like to hear your story or if you know of anyone who's done that. For example, someone working in the fashion industry, coming up with an idea of long lasting fabrics and setting a trend of wearing the same thing over and over again as a fashion statement, and yet making monetary profit off it? I know of many people who keep it separate, but I'd really like to know if anyone has blended it well together.

Dry fruits- cashews, figs, dates, raisins and walnuts. And ghee- pure cow ghee (clarified butter). Use this for cooking instead of oil. If you have a sweet tooth, add jaggery to it and it becomes a Nutella-type consistency - you can use it as a spread on breads and stuff. Both of the above have a lot of calories, and tend to increase HDL Cholesterol and lower the LDL one. Ghee is also very good for joint pains. Replace your oil with ghee and cook in it like you do with oil. It's more expensive, but worth it. Just make sure it is pure and unadulterated.

@Sombra Wow thanks. How do you manage to read so much?

@LfcCharlie4 I believe my issue has to do with values. So I work as an interior designer and I get this question all the time - "How does this look?" or "Will this look good?" And frankly, honestly, I don't care how it looks. I believe one shouldn't take any decisions based on how it looks, especially if you're going to be using something for a long time. But I find I need to work for people who are very very bent on how it looks at the cost of function and convenience and maintenance. And then I tend to lose interest in that project because it clashes with my personal values. My question is how do I keep interested in the work I'm doing if I believe I'm being a phony to myself? Or do I decide that I'm going to keep doing this until I can manage to bag projects that align with my values?

Is seeing people work in the food industry make you see the suffering? Or just the suffering of oupeople in general? Because I think people who are dreading their work, are suffering. People who like their work, anywhere, doing anything, are not. Is it empathy? That you absorb everyone's emotions unknowingly? I find that people, just in general, anywhere, exhaust me beyond limit. I am now trying to pay attention and remain present. I try this exercise, every time I go for a walk in the park, I pay close attention to people passing me by. Not how they look or the expression on their faces, just how the air around me changes very subtly- their vibes, if I dare say. I do the same with trees too. And there is a consistent pattern I notice, the vibes around trees, children and some aged people, is very similar. Very few adults have the same vibe. I cannot say which is good or bad, I just try and feel it and over a period of time, I've noticed each person has a different vibe or type of vibe. Should apply this to places and things too. When you say you're participating in this devilry, do you mean you are participating in causing their suffering, or alleviating their suffering? Cause it might be they really need that job and you're helping them by purchasing from them. Either way, being mindful is the way- learning to observe without absorbing.

@Zigzag Idiot Thanks, will check these out. @modmyth I read fiction too, but the very little, probably 1 for every 20 of non-fiction. Let me know if you have any good recommendations.

So I've been exercising and eating well for a couple of years, also intermittent fasting. However, none of this was a conscious choice. I could say I just started craving healthy foods and eating less as a result of exercising (?). I have zero desire to touch ice- creams and processed sugars of any kind. I had been feeling really good about my health, until now. Recently, I have been having weird cravings, of healthy food, but they are weird because I cannot seem to let go the urge to eat them. Or skip them. For example, I had to eat khichri (A very healthy mix of boiled rice and lentils) for 6 days in a row. Still have that often, like 3 times a week. Recently it is ghee (clarified butter). I want to put it in anything and everything. This same ghee which used to make me nauseous earlier. It's weird because I cannot seem to control it. Just like earlier I used to crave unhealthy foods, now I crave, really crave healthy foods, but I'm afraid it will go out of control or something? Rationally I know I need to have some variations, but I cannot seem to let it go until I've had the same thing enough for a few days in a row. People around me are going crazy because I cook for them and they get to have the same thing that I eat . Anyone experiences such cravings? If yes, how long they last or don't last? Or how to navigate through them?

I do get this feeling of 'heat flowing out' from one sole or one palm or one ear ringing for a few seconds, and then it stops. Happens randomly but most noticeably when I'm not doing anything in particular or when my mind is calmer. I am not sure if it is some sort of Kundalini symptom or just something wrong with me. Either way, it doesn't feel bad so I try not to take it seriously.

I find music in 'loops' useful for certain types of tasks, but anything that requires my full attention, I prefer doing it without any music. It just so happens that if you really focus on the task at hand, you won't even notice the music, so then there's no point of it. But if you need it, say to keep yourself awake or do some creative tasks (as opposed to intellectual tasks), I suggest you check out a channel called 'Meditative Mind' on YouTube.

@Alex bAlex Yeah Litres of black coffee plus RedBull plus caffeine tablets, to keep myself awake I drink all kinds of tea, even find that some with caffeine have a calming effect, it just depends on the blend. Mainly I like mild flavours, even if black/green tea. I think tea has a lot less caffeine compared to coffee, so it helps. But I bet it is as easy to get addicted to tea as to coffee, I used to be earlier.

Lived alone for 9 years, but I'm usually a solitude loving person so it was a welcome move for me. I've concluded that you learn a lot about the world when you live alone and learn a lot about yourself when you live with people. So if I have one advice, though, is to build some neighborhood connections, people whom you can contact in emergencies. It sucks when you're sleeping alone in your apartment, well over midnight and your room is flooded because the balcony pipe is jammed with concrete, your mattress is wet and you wake up not knowing what the hell just happened or where to begin asking for help. Then there is a time when thieves break in and hide behind curtains. OR when the bathroom gutter back-flows bringing a swarm of flying cockroaches in the living room. OR when your stove gives out mid-cooking while having someone over for dinner. Or when you have to clean the ceiling fan. Or when you meet with an accident and cannot walk. And such other tiny struggles, nothing much else. And one more: Try to be alone, really alone: without your phone or TV or anything to distract you from your own thoughts.