zambize

Oh I'm all for you wanting sex, and wanting to have sex with other people who also want to have sex, and it can be as crazy as you want, pull out the strap-ons for all I care. I know I didn't add any relevant advice, I was just pointing out that you made a thread on how to connect with women spiritually, and I guess I was expecting you to ask questions more along the lines of, "how can I help my partner open up?", "what are the best ways to show my love without being overbearing?", or "what is the best way to spring up spiritual topics to someone who doesn't consider themselves spiritual?". Something more aimed along that route. That's not to judge what you consider spiritual/not-spiritual, it's just how I interpreted the thread title, and how I think some other people like Nahm who focused their response on the less physical side of things. Does that make any sense? If so could you clarify how you are trying to satisfy a woman and kind of what you mean by spiritually?

I guess I'm confused on the post at least a bit because you're wondering how to satisfy a woman spiritually, but use examples of watching videos on attraction, sex, and squirting, which I guess confuses me a bit tbh. I really think that depends on the woman if it's even a possibility, and even if it was, I really don't want a woman squirting all over my bed. The thread is about satisfying a woman spiritually according to the title, but the content of your post focuses on your knowledge and ability to be physically intimate with women. I guess I don't really consider slamming meat suites together as spiritual, even though it is fun

Well to each their own haha, personally wouldn't trade legitimate sex and the ability to have children for vagina grapes, but I guess they are grapes that will land perfectly in your mouth without hitting your lips, I think I'd find that entertaining for at least three grapes

I don't think you want to eat vagina grapes my guy, like no matter how good the grapes are themselves

Oh come on you have 2k posts, you either dont believe yourself or you are spending a lot of your time "not really helping people"

Wait why 1^n? You do realize that 1^n is always one right? Regardless of the value of n haha

Only a small subset of women go to the bars, and judging by your attitude towards women (no offense), on a small subset of women going to bars are going to talk with you or go home with you. Your personal experience says that all women are sluts, based off of your observations at the club/friends etc. This is just bad science. If you're sure this is just a fact of life, then do the research and get the data and show me it. But right now you are projecting an image of women that you've acquired from getting your dick wet at the club, and women who aren't like these women. who know they aren't a slut, and see your image of a woman that just doesn't capture them, probably think you're stupid as fuck. I assume you'd like a woman who loved you for who you were, didn't give a shit about your good looks, really understood and loved you fully. If that woman exists, what do you think her reaction to this post would be, are you attracting the right women?

Dayum boy

Same-ish, I went from doing three hours formal daily for a while to about one hour formal, maybe less. I'm very happy I did 3 hrs a day formal when necessary to get the results I wanted, but after meditating for a while, it seeped into the rest of my day enough where I feel like I'm meditating throughout it, especially listening to music. That being said, some of the more subtle emotions and experiences may need the extra focus from formal practice, but I think there is a tipping point where one lays off the gas a bit

Yes I think you can really hurt someone, and if they don't have many connections/relationships in their own life that are as genuine as what you are offering her or anyone else you work with, they can fall in love with you, or get SUPER clingy. This cling isn't out of love for you as an individual often, it's because you're a tool that can help them with their anxiety/depressed ridden life. That's not to say that's all the time, often, or something you need to by afraid about. But it does happen, and you should be aware of he impact you can have on someone's life. I would keep helping though if you think within a reasonable level that you can help this person live a better life and are open with what kind of relationship you are comfortable having with this person. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brain-bootcamp/201010/falling-in-love-your-psychiatrist

Honestly the more I've read on it, the more I believe that tech giants such as youtube have atleast to some degree exaggerated the impact article 13 will have because their profits are at stake. In truth the EU commission has no intention of banning a lot of the things people claim they are targeting. I'm not saying I'm for article 13, I just dont think it's this big bad evil bill out to silence the public and their memes.

Same! This can be so stressful. I read this quote once, and it was something simple like "perfect is the enemy of good", and that's really true. Me not being able to be happy with good for the day, always chasing perfect made me feel like a hamster on a wheel that I wasn't enjoying. A lot of my progress revolves around letting go more and more, learning to relax fully. Yet I had taken relaxing so seriously, that I wasn't really relaxing anymore. I feel for you because I've kinda also taken my self-appointed task of learning to love more, be happier, stress less, and relax better and stressed out about that too. Which seems really silly typing it out, but yeah. that's crazy it took you three hours haha it's like sponge bob in that episode he has to write and essay and spend hours on "The". Anyways, hope it gets easier, maybe take a day to treat yourself could be handy, but it sounds like you know what you're doing anyways

Many guys are in this same boat, we kind of grow up wanting to be big and tough and kind of having an idea of who we should be that isn't really conducive with being happy. It's possible to go from wanting to kill yourself and feeling empty, to loving life, so I hope you don't lose hope. Maybe stick around the forums a little bit and give it a few months before you come to any conclusions about you not being able to be in relationships. You want to feel again, that's something, something that I think will turn into a lot for you but we will see. Have you been meditating out of curiosity?

Right now my main focus is expanding my consciousness, with a result that the quality of emotions improves. What it feels like for me is that there are two points of tension/distortion, one kind of deep in my third-eye, and the other kind of in my stomach a bit below my belly button. By focusing on these areas and letting go, its kind of like some tension gets released, the point feels more free and lets more light/love in, and I become a bit more aware. It's that awareness which makes the emotions feel so much better, and I'm not sure if that's because you're more aware so it's easier to let go of what you're more aware of, and letting go makes the emotions feel better. Or if because you've practiced letting go, you're now more aware of what you've let go and that's what makes the emotions feel better. But the trajectory is just letting this tension dissolve further and further, I assume this will continue to make my days brighter and brighter, and maybe at the end instead of a mini tension snap, it'll be like the whole balloon which feels like is blowing up will just pop and I can be fucking free of my own resistances D::: fingers crossed

From what I've seen, I'd probably prefer a gay parent. No offense to my parents, but it seems like a lot of gay guys are more accepting of their emotions, which I like, because people who are in-tune with their own emotions are often in-tune with others and that has a lot of utility to the child in terms of developing properly. It's also kind of a common thought that maybe gay couples lack some kind of X-factor that comes from a heterosexual relationship, and I think a lot of gay parents try to really do a number on that stigma by kind of going super-parent, and telling everyone fuck you I can be a good parent too. Or maybe it's because it's "natural"? Because only a man and a woman can have a child, only a man and a woman can raise a child. I wouldn't look into this much, the fact that they are just as competent of parents is a pretty well researched topic, and I imagine they love their kid just as much. I grew up watching my friends parents be largely dismissive, knew a lot of alcoholic parents, a lot who don't really understand their kids. I think gay couples are more than capable of loving their kids far more than a lot of the kids I knew growing up https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/adopting-reason/201611/kids-can-thrive-gay-parents

Hopefully we can come to our senses, as sad as the destruction we cause our planet is, more and more people are going to hop on board as that destruction gets worse and worse and effects them just as much as it effects polar bears. We will see, I think our next president will probably be pretty telling of our trajectory

Yeah we have some knots to unravel, I often have the thought "wow, these are the dark ages", just because we have soooooo far we could go in society. I guess with climate change my worry is that kind of everyone has to be onboard at some point, we can't have a few countries destroying the planet for everyone, so maybe there are hang ups in say getting China to not pollute like China does. I could see a few species going extinct, and maybe some cities getting flooded on the coast line, but i don't see it existentially threatening us. I mean we literally are going to have lab grown meat soon.

I don't think it will be pretty, but when has social reform been pretty. It's not like it was roses and sunshine integrating different races/religions/political ideologies to the point we have now. A lot of men just feel hurt, and it's sad to see that coming out in toxic ways, but it seems like the culture around "men don't cry" is starting to go away especially for younger generations. Looking at younger generation guys, I don't really think they fit societies current views of manliness haha. I actually haven't been so worried about climate change, I'm sure it could really damage our planet, but I guess I don't expect it to kill off everyone, but I could be convinced I'm sure.

You could actually argue that the world would be a much better place if some people didn't have their penis, that's probably a long list

Yeah I think green taught by green is pretty indigestible by men, I also think a lot of it is a reaction to being hurt by toxic aspects of green. I think right now our men need other men in yellow to help bridge that gap and educate them on emotional intelligence and integrating their feminine side. I'm pretty optimistic because I feel like I've been able to have pretty good talks with both women in green and most men in my generation about these issues, but that's definitely alarming that people are still questioning whether women should have the right to vote or not. I mean maybe that's what we should expect being monkeys and all, but in a relative sense, it does surprise me WIDE range of development we got here with us

Well I'm sorry that's a pain in the ass to deal with, as strong as I like to think I am, I'm sure i'd be pretty hurt if I was a woman in this world

Fair fair, I missed that. I think it would maybe sound more "animalistic" to me if it had more thought put into it. It became pretty apparent how silly this would look in reality, going around catching women like they are those coin collection things where you put a quarter from each stare in its place, but instead you're looking for women from each of the races to build up an army with different skin colored kids under the pretense that genetic variation lies primarily in our skin tone, or it's at all relevant to happiness etc. So maybe that's an accurate word, but it accurately describes something that itself was probably thought up within 10 seconds with not much of a mental revision taking place

That might be the case, but it seems maybe you have a similar view. Your upset with him for his views on women which you feel like he treats like an animal, and that is wrong my your standards as far as I can tell. But then you call HIS views animilastic and kind of treat him like an animal, commenting so far as to say he needs to make some effort to jump into the 21st century. I just dont think the best ways of getting someone to agree with you is calling their ideas animalistic, but then again maybe thats not your goal idk

I guess that's certainly possible, but it could just be you wanting to masturbate, I know i want to probably more than I'd like to admit

I'm not mocking you, seriously think about that. If you can't name politicians that want you to masturbate, then you're blaming someone wanting you to masturbate on people who you don't know, for reasons you aren't sure of. Doesn't that explanation seem so much more complicated than you just aren't that interested in girls sexually? Which is totally fine