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@Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj ahahahaha @quantum Thank You

@quantum Wow, lovely! I'm fascinated by the spiral dynamics model and the idea of evolving your psychology in such a way. Thanks for your perspective! I think I'm 70 - 80% Orange and 20 - 30% Green. Got any tips for transitioning more into Green and Yellow?

I think exercising cognitive abilities is my favorite one

@JustinS Are you in Yellow?

Oo, you've reached Yellow? High 5! Good work Good for you Could you describe what your perspective is, and how it changed from Green? Thanks!

@Elton That is the thinking that maintains the dogma. Your justifications for why you believe what he says "he's a pro at personal development", "he has referenced many books" are very similar to the ones I had. It seems that because he's studied so much and experienced so much that he must be right, right? No. Just because he's well read doesn't necessarily mean he's right. Try to see why he might be wrong. Try to see why enlightenment, although probably true, may also not be true. At least not true for you. What Leo says may be true for him, but how do you know whether it's true for you? You need to experience and study what he's studied to form your own opinions and worldview.

@Ivansmarks Hey An important step in your self development would be to start relying on yourself to make such decisions. The fact that you're developed shows that you're becoming increasingly mature and this means that you're also becoming more self reliant. And to be self reliant is to be able to make decisions for yourself. If you know the benefits of visualization and meditation and why they work well, you should have natural motivation to pursue them, because you understand their importance. Based on the circumstances of your life, and based on the benefits of these activities, and based on how sustainable it will be, what amounts of time and frequency will be best? Ask yourself this and think of the answer. I'm not saying you shouldn't ask for advice. No, ask for it. But when receiving it, use your own independent judgment. Here's my advice: Meditate daily and maintain the habit for years. If you maintain this long term focus, over time the structure of your brain is literally going to change and you will receive permanent changes. The functioning of your brain will have improved. It is important to commit to doing it every day no matter what. By doing this, you'll give your brain no leeway for making excuses and you'll be far less likely to quit. If you're not meditating presently, you can start at even 5 minutes. I think this is far better than starting with an hour or even half an hour, because you won't be used to it and are more likely to quit. Do 5 minutes every day for a week, then when you feel more comfortable, increase it a notch to 10 minutes the next week. The third week make it 15 minutes. If in the fourth week you're still not totally comfortable with 15 minutes, maintain it. In the fifth week, increase to 20 mins. At one point you'll hit a stop, perhaps at 30, 45 or 60 minutes, depending on your goals. As for your chess, I think there's nothing wrong with that. But remember, use your own judgment and think for yourself. You should be able to decide whether or not it's good for you. I think that if chess is increasing your self confidence you should definitely continue playing it. Having something in which you are better than most others can give you stronger self confidence. Hope this helped Best of luck, Vishal

@Elton It was only a few weeks ago when I transitioned from Blue to Orange. During that time, I was trying to think increasingly rationally, as Rationality is a key trait of Orange. If you think the stuff Leo tells you is absolute truth and undeniable, you're probably being dogmatic. You're totally convinced that what he preaches is true. However, you need to rethink this, and you need to discover the truth that you can never be certain of anything. Realizing that absolute truth does not exist will be a big step towards Orange. Continue trying things and aiming towards Orange and psychological evolution. This is important and in my experience more than worthwhile. I was conscious of the change in my psychology as it was happening. Although transitioning from one stage to another one happens gradually, there is a tipping point after which you totally pass on to the next stage. The change takes place in the unconscious mind, and you will experience a reconceptualization of reality. You motivation in life will change and you'll become a more effective human being. As you make more progress and move into Green and Yellow, you will be rewarded will a psychology that is increasingly agile, effective and adaptive. I could feel my emotions changing and consequently, my perception of the world and myself too. My values also changed. Although I'm not totally sure what caused my tipping point, I used an affirmation the two nights leading up to it. In bed, before sleeping, I would tell my subconscious to make my mind increasingly agile, efficient, and effective. I'd say this twice or thrice, and then again in the morning after I woke up. Maybe that did the trick Best of luck, Vishal

@Saarah Nice! Here's one: Let he who moves the world first move himself. I believe it was Socrates

@brovakhiin @Norbert Somogyi Me too! Cheers guys

I'm up for it, and I'm committed to self actualization! @Sarah_Flagg , if you want someone who will take action, I'm the guy. I hope to improve your coaching skills and practice. Time zone: GMT/UTC +03.00

Being introverted does not necessarily mean that you are shy. It does not necessarily mean that you're anti-social. An introvert can be very social and outgoing. However, introverts tend to be more reserved. They focus on their inner worlds. Extroverts tend to be more talkative. They focus on their outer worlds.

Haha, no, @Leo Gura, you're not INTP, you're INTJ. INTP is similar, but you're INTJ. Read the description and you'll see it's true. https://www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html http://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality

I know Leo has suffered with severely low self esteem and those associated issues too: insecurity, caring about what others think, lack of confidence, self criticism, self doubt, self sabotaging behavior, neediness etc. How did you overcome this Leo? How did anyone else overcome this? How can you overcome insecurity, or feeling insecure? Perhaps you could explain what causes the feelings, why one can feel that way?

Thanks @Mat Pav :)

Wow, thank you @Endew! Okay, I will do it. How long do I do this for?

Wow, thank you @Endew! Okay, I will do it. How long do I do this for?

Wow, thank you @Endew! Okay, I will do it. How long do I do this for?

Nice

Thanks for the reply! How can I overcome insecurity? What I mean by that is, I feel fear when I think someone is about to find out that there's something wrong with me. I have insecurities around money. And so I feel insecure when I think that someone might realize that. Similarly, I have other such insecurities. I think essentially it's a fear of others realizing that I'm inadequate and unworthy.

Realize that it is possible to overcome your low self esteem and lack of self confidence! Many have done so already. Low Self Esteem (LSE) is complex and deep, it has many layers and aspects to it. Anticipate that it is going to take time to overcome it. It's a long term goal and will take at least a year to accomplish. First, raise your awareness on how it runs in your life - the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are caused because of it. To do this, you'll need to study it. For a start, read Breaking the Chain of Low Self Esteem by Marilyn Sorensen and The Six PIllars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. These are a must read - mandatory! No excuses. Learn about and use NLP techniques. These work amazingly well for such emotional issues. Learn how to effectively overcome limiting beliefs. At it's core, your low self esteem is caused by a deep seated belief in your unconscious that there is something wrong with you, that you are deficient, that you are inadequate. This is the mother of all your limiting beliefs. You also probably have other beliefs such as "I'm not good enough", "What makes me good enough is other people thinking well of me", What makes me good enough is being perfect", "I'm incapable", "I'm incompetent" and so on. You must learn how to effectively challenge all of these beliefs so that they crumble and break down. You challenge them by challenging their validity. Ask questions such as: Where did this belief come from? Holding this belief helps me feel protected from harm, like a baby blanket, in the following way... How is this belief only a partial perspective on the world? An alternative – equally valid – interpretation of the facts that caused me to adopt this belief is... How is this belief flat out false? What would an impartial 3rd party say about my holding this belief? Three counter-examples to this belief are... An alternative belief that might be even more accurate is... (I'd like to credit the above questions to Leo Gura). Challenging your beliefs in this way will either release them entirely, or replace them with a more accurate and empowering belief. First, identify and gain awareness on your limiting beliefs. Then, challenge them until they break down. Reprogram your unconscious mind. Get 15 cards. On each one of them, write a positive trait that you have. It could be a small phrase, maybe a long sentence or short paragraph. If you have difficulty coming up with them, ask your friends and family. Then, read each one every morning for the next 90 days consecutively - this is very important! Anticipate that this will not be easy. The first week will be easy. The second week will get a bit harder. The second month will be much harder. Your mind will tell you that you've already memorized all of them and so what's the point. To program your unconscious mind, you need a period of 90 days. And you cannot miss a single day in between. Discipline your mind to do it every single day for 90 days, no excuses! Stay strong. I wish you the best.