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A dynamic, nested possibility space, shaped by constraints and defined by perspective.

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Haha. Next time, be sure to cover all your basis.

Need for Cognition is an important one as well. Men do seem to generally have higher NFC. Just look at male-female chess player ratios, but I think the gap is narrowing a lot in recent years. But think about. Most guys aren’t even interested in chess. You need a high NFC for that. Low-NFC men exist in large numbers.

It’s better to generalize by personality type rather than only allowing yourself two categories. Most men I know do not engage with forums. But you know who does? INTPs. INTP males make up the majority of Reddit and forum users. There are women INTPs out there who would be forum warriors if it weren’t considered weird. Culture kinda forces them into roles they otherwise wouldn’t assume. I know a16 year old INTP girl who doesn’t do INTP stuff only because she’s trying not to be weird. Also, most men I know do not enjoy conversing on deep topics, so it’s not just “men”. It’s more so personality type. There doesn’t seem to be much utility in these overly broad generalizations about men and women.

@The Caretaker - Not sure how accurate that test is, but if you're unsure, I think this test is one of the most accurate: https://personalityhacker.com/pages/take-your-personality-test

Don't ignore your intuition. A lot of online forum talk about pickup is coming from INTPs. They feel empowered by pickup. INTJ do as well, but cannot ignore what the Fi tells them.

Yes, being locked in Fi makes you that way but most of my time is using Ni-Te. When I do get rolling around in Fi, I become selfish. Good point. As uncomfortable as I fumble about with Se, I know I’m weak there and submit to higher skill. I used to work construction under a skilled and moody ISTP who was 15 years older than me. He was often on my ass, making me feel like a total fuckup. Lol. I usually allowed it because I knew I was fucking up. It was uncomfortable, but it was good for me I think. But of course, I used my Te to accept that, which the INFP likely won’t be able to do.

Haha, yes, that too is inevitable. Your energy will still press for expression though.

Acknowledge inherent worth; practice self-forgiveness; connect with others who affirm your value. Accept that mistakes are part of growth. Small acts of care or responsibility; exposure to inspiring, supportive environments that awaken will. Is the life of a newborn baby inherently valuable? At what point does life lose its value? Your life was once precious, just like that of a newborn, and it still is, but you’ve forgotten. If you know how to love someone else, give that same love to yourself. Try to see you are inherently valuable and deserving of life and love just because you exist.

Yeah, he knew it would resonate with his target audience. I remember being quite entertained by such tactics. It was delivering insight via entertainment, which is awesome. I used to laugh so hard at some of the shit he’d say, and I don’t even think he was trying to be funny, which made it even funnier.

Do you allow yourself a window or specific meal times? I usually eat whenever I want within an 8hr window. Kinda fell off the wagon as of late. Been doing OMAD and feeling decent.

When I first started getting on here, he kept popping up on me talking about “mirror effect”. I was like, “who is this Dunning Krueger mother fucker”? Lol. But here lately, I actually think he has a lot of potential since he’s only 21. Independent thinker and access to insight. Some of it is actually good if you look close.

True.

Yeah, I’m having to learn this. Some perspectives seem so trivial or foolish to me that I dismiss them and even experience agitation from them. But the other night I remembered that I can learn even from those. They show me how I get agitated. I experienced a spiritual opening I hadn’t felt in a long time when I dove into that insight. Not sure if this is coherent but essentially, I saw how to rid myself of cynicism. Something like: The shallow teach you what matters. The foolish remind you what not to do. The arrogant teach you how to spot fragility. The boring teach you where your attention dies. The hostile teach you how to stay centered. The dishonest teach you how to detect misalignment. The needy teach you the pull of validation. The clumsy teach you about patience. The close-minded teach you how to open further. The scattered teach you the value of focus. Everyone has something to offer.

I don’t think that’s why I do it. I think I just like their nature better. Not as much to prove. Open. Soft, even if not expressed. I like that.

It would definitely change. Lol. I tend to be softer with females. I was thinking the other day, I think I’ve gotten more insight from female perspectives here than males, if I were to add it all up.

Im waffling back and forth on if he’s actually a bot. Lol. Or maybe just opened an account to plug Kortex AI.

Makes sense to take into account. I mean, the whole point for me eating blueberries is the antioxidants, so if they’re being diminished by the banana in the smoothie, that’s no good. I also intuited this was happening with all sorts of foods but the complexity compounds quickly. I was thinking it might be best to take multiple antioxidant shots in between meals to avoid any possible diminution, but also to have a more steady supply in the bloodstream. Thought about doing this with anti-inflammatory compounds as well. Something like 4 shots per day of black seed, broccoli sprouts, turmeric + pepper. Tried it out for a while but it’s a lot of work. Need a good system to maintain it.

Plus traffic accidents and fatalities. It’s like the most obvious thing, yet people insist on following 1 or 2 car lengths apart at 60+ mph.

I was specifically thinking about ENTP women. I like how open they are. I don't like ENTP men. My best friend throughout life was INFP. Their selfishness was always a nagging thing in the background. They do more often than not value the Te, but they don't always respect it and will put their feels above it, even if you use Te to perfectly show them why that's a mistake. Sometimes, they can agree with you and accept everything you've laid out, but they still can't bring themselves to accept the truth. Even if you get them to follow every line of the Te and they agree with it, they will not accept the logical conclusion if their Fi is involved. That's annoying. But at least they're willing to put up with us. lol.

😂Sounds about right.

That's a good point. I never thought about it like that before, but that's spot on.

You may be setting a standard that reality doesn't easily reach. People are what they are, and if you're too intense for most of them, you can double down and say you're not going to settle for anyone who can't handle it, or you can learn to modulate it - turn it up or down as needed. Also, them pulling away may not just be about the intensity - it could be about the presentation. Like this line: "Can you express what you want to express right now without words". If you often say things like this, many people will start to think you're "weird" and that could cause them to pull away, the more of this "weirdness" you expose them to. I can tell you now, if you take 10 similar lines and say them all within the span of a week, most people will get "strange" vibes and be put off. So, there's really no way around the fact that if you want a sustained relationship, you will have to measure and calibrate your communications. Which means, you'll have to do what you don't want to: tailor your interactions. lol.

Have you tried not trying? LIke, just going out to have fun and not trying to pick anyone up? Putting myself out there when I was younger was difficult for me as well due to social anxiety, but a few drinks always opened me right up. If I were to set the intention of picking someone up, it would only increase my anxiety. When I dropped that intention, I was able to have fun, which attracts women. No effort required. Just have fun. If you're like me and find that difficult to do in social settings, have some drinks. If your goal is to master pickup, state, frame, methods, and all that stuff, I have no experience with that stuff and I'm biased against it.