Joshe

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  1. You've already leveled up. If you did nothing but work as a paramedic for the rest of your life, that's already enough to die proud on your deathbed having lived a meaningful, responsible, impactful life. So I'd maintain that first and foremost and I'd put a check on the desire to be more, and I'd fully embody my lot and only my lot for a good while. Paramedics would be held in much higher regard in a more sane world. As far as I'm concerned, they're in the trenches doing God's work. I'm actually struggling to come up with a career that could facilitate your self-development better. If you remain conscious, the career itself would develop you far more across every line of development than any self-dev or spiritual bootcamp you could fathom. It's also worth considering that even if you were a successful self-dev coach, it would be hard to do more good as a coach than you could do as a paramedic. Becoming a coach could easily be a step down if your goal is to actually be of service. And spoiler alert: There is no mountaintop. The mountain top is a narrative the ego thinks will satisfy it. The mountaintop narrative works like this: ego generates a destination it will never let you reach, because reaching it would end the story, and the story is the ego. The ego identifies a gap between what you are and what you could be. This creates a a hunger. Close that gap (reach the mountaintop) and you'll finally feel complete and the hunger will be satisfied. But the ego has no interest in actually closing the gap because the closed gap means the ego would have nothing left to do and it would die, so of course it creates another mountaintop, to infinity, until you see the mechanism. "Ascending" is the ego's favorite trajectory. This is not to say don't strive for better. Just to remain suspicious of what actually is fueling it.
  2. If you have very high confidence that Forrest Gump said “ life is like a box of chocolates”, then you have high confidence in something that isn’t true. Lol. It doesn’t matter if it’s trivial or irrelevant. It’s good to understand the implications of this.
  3. Lmao. Come on baby, wrap your mouth around this latex.
  4. This is the whole reason statue of limitation exists. Memories eventually become unreliable unless they're kept alive. The Mandela Effect comes to mind. Was there a show called "Sex In The City" or "Sex and The City"? Is it "Oscar Meyer" or "Oscar Mayer"? Is it "Sketchers" or "Skechers" shoes? Did the Monopoly Man have a monocle? Is there a hyphen in KitKat? Did Forrest Gump say "Life is like a box of chocolates"? Did Curious George have a tail? How did Mickey Mouse hold up his pants? Did Sinbad play a genie in the movie "Shazaam"? lol Answers: https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/entertainment/g28438966/mandela-effect-examples/ Aside from making shit up, we also create memories by imagining things, and then in the future we sometimes mistake what we imagined for an actual experience. For example, when I was a kid I heard stories about traumatic situations that I was too young to remember, and so I created really vivid pictures/clips in my head about what took place, and for most of my life I thought those imaginings actually occurred. We're all susceptible to these things.
  5. lol, he's the first video that shows up when you search YT for "surface lexicon vs deep lexicon". If not, it's this dude: Not sure about that particular video though. If not, you should be able to search his channel for "lexicon" to find it.
  6. The reason you can easily wake up at 4am to catch a flight but not to go for a run is because you don't perceive real consequences of not going for the run. Same with your boss. Not meeting your work obligations/deadlines has real, immediate consequences. What seems to be highly driven people is usually just people avoiding consequences. Self-help tells you these people are operating on some kind of drive, grit, and determination. But really, those are downstream of them just avoiding pain. This goes for the grandiose egotist as well as the guy who quit his job to start his own business. Not doing the thing has severe consequences for both. Trying to manufacture a meaning structure around the thing you want to do will not work. You have to see and feel the consequences and they have to be real. Consequence motivation doesn't need maintenance like narrative motivation. You don't have to remind yourself that it matters when the consequences are real. The energy comes from keeping the inevitable consequences in mind.
  7. Same here. Writing is fine but real-time conversation sucks. Just some rough ideas I've played with: "Articulation skill" depends on many complex things. "Domain familiarity" is just one of the factors involved in how well you can translate your understanding to speech. What often looks like good articulation is actually an emergent result that arises when high verbal fluency and high domain familiarity combine with a specific cognitive structure operating with specific values. lol On Facebook, I was just watching a live stream of a fella I grew up with in my class who has apparently gone insane and is doing a walkabout in Mexico and thinks he's the devil. He talks with such verbal fluency it's mesmerizing and I'm jealous. Verbal fluency alone can produce the illusion of good articulation, but combine that with high domain familiarity, and we start to see what looks like great articulation. But it's not as simple as having a ton of domain familiarity either. It's also how your brain processes and stores information, which directly affects how accessible it is to be verbalized. I don't have the cognitive aspect fully figured out but I think one of the biggest things that handicaps people is non-linear perception/processing. More linear/sequential thinkers will have an easier time translating their understanding because how it is processed in sequence. I think people such as myself will just never be able to articulate very well across the board due structural contraints of the mind. I could learn to articulate well on specific topics, but it wouldn't transfer over to other domains. If I wanted to improve, I'd zoom in on the specific topic, drill specific vocabulary and phrases, collect canned phrases for various situations, transitions, etc, and simply practice verbalizing. But trying to get good at articulation in general seems incompatible with my hardware. I could make some small gains, and I'm not saying it's impossible to make a lot, but I'm pretty sure it would require never-ending maintenance on a scale that wouldn't make sense. There's a dude on Youtube who has some good ideas about surface lexicon vs deep lexicon.
  8. lol. No, walking and listening to an audiobook.
  9. Damn, that sucks it's happening there too. Same thing happened to the amazing dive site I went to. Not sure if it's too many tourists touching the coral or just the water is more polluted.
  10. That looks like a fuckin alien lobster, lol. You ever scuba dive the Great Barrier Reef? I've heard it's the best scuba experience. Scuba diving felt very spiritual to me. Heightened sense due to risk of death, a totally new world with all new creatures, diminished mobility and all you can hear is your breath. One of my favorite experiences.
  11. Never really took selfies much but I found one from a year or so ago:
  12. @UnbornTao My boy looks like yours except for the tongue, lol. And when he was younger:
  13. The same way you’d quit anything. By getting lost in the weeds of something else.
  14. You only need a solution for fear if it's a problem. And it's easier to endure fear when it comes than to live in fear of it coming.
  15. Leo

    Obviously. Seems to me that if you actually do have love/compassion for Leo and care about the community, you'd be concerned about the highlighted behavior rather than pretend it doesn't exist or whitewash it.