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And/or maybe just making it more visible? Increased awareness/knowledge of the opposite sex has came online. 20yr old males these days have a ton of knowledge they can access. We didn't really have that growing up. If we did, I think we'd have been just as immature with it. When you get cheated on these days, you can easily find half-truth content that makes you feel better at the expense of the whole truth. This wasn't available in such abundance when I was coming up. I'm not sure if it leads to more or less immaturity after the dust settles. It would be different for everybody. I think more conscious individuals will eventually see their errors, as is typically the case with more conscious people, and less conscious people will continue to ignore their errors, same as always. It just seems like humanity on the whole is going through necessary adolescent challenges and eventually will grow out of it. Maybe in several hundred years or something.

Another factor is her perception of the guy's status and achievement in society. A man with material wealth and/or who is desired by many women doesn't have to work as hard to keep girls from cheating. Johnny Depp's girlfriend will swallow a lot more neglect and mistreatment than should would from a normal guy.

Of course, but I was zooming in on women.

Yes, age is one of many factors that play into whether a woman would cheat. Most young women don't even know what their wants and needs are, thus can't communicate them. When you ask them why they cheated, they often say "I don't know". So, of course younger women are more likely to cheat than older women. But you can't generalize from a single axis or whatever.

Joining the marines actually could be a good idea. I know a few guys who stuck it out for 20 years and now they’re basically retired at 40. They still work but they don’t have to. It made me think “shit, I should have joined the military.” 20 years will fly by. Plus, you’ll make friends in the marines. There’s also the benefit of externally imposed life structure. A lot of people want to wake up at 5am but can’t. When you’re in the marines, you don’t have a choice. It’ll definitely grow you.

This is the average woman: genuinely attached while things are good, but with an always running background process that evaluates the relationship against alternatives and unmet needs. Not consciously scheming or looking for a trade in, but also not unconditionally devoted. She can cheat on him for something as simple as her man is too nice, too boring, etc. If wants/needs go unmet for too long and other options appear, she gone!

Your view on women is biased. It's simply false to say that "women" are loyal to a fault. You're making the same mistake you're claiming OP is making but in the opposite direction. Loyalty is contingent on how fulfilled they are. You don't have to do anything seriously wrong for them to be disloyal. It depends on their personality, which obviously varies from woman to woman. There's the full spectrum of attachment styles, novelty-seeking tendencies, impulse control, etc, etc. Ride or die types are not very common. Maybe 10-15% if I'm being generous. And it's not because they're "loyal" and choosing you over everyone else. These types are loyal to a fault because of how they're wired - dependency, seeking security, etc. Being devoted in relationships is just who they are, but most women aren't wired this way. That you know of lol. You gotta keep them long enough for the novelty to wear off - when the boredom and resentment phase hits. Make it to this phase and your odds of being cheated on skyrocket. Women will remain loyal so long as they're fulfilled, which is a part time job, at minimum.

If the lump sum is around 50%, that's 500 million. Keep 10 million for spending money and put the remaining 490 million in treasury bonds, which would earn around $65k per day in interest, which is about 23.5 million a year in interest alone. I'd probably be a philanthropist and donate the majority of interest earnings, or use it to fund my own non-profits. I'd probably also set up a shadow operation that didn't play by the rules and would be a force against other powerful orgs that are detrimental to humanity. Working quietly in the shadows to sabotage them, lol. That seems fun.

We can easily agree on the experience of chocolate because it's a tangible thing. The nature of experiences are not. With chocolate, we can point to the same object, confirm we're eating the same thing, compare notes with some confidence. "Infinite Love" has none of that. Words cannot grasp experience of things in the abstract. So how can you know your experience of "infinite love" matches Leo's experience of it? You can't, yet here you and many others are saying that you know EXACTLY what Leo means when he says "infinite love". How do you know it was "infinite" and not just really big? Is it really big, "infinite" or boundless? These are different things. For all I know, I've experienced it myself but never put a label on it, because I'm not gonna map Leo's labels to my own experiences - that would be a mistake. I'm betting a high percentage of Leo's followers unquestioningly adopted the idea of "Alien Consciousness" as well. Saying things like "I can't wait to discover Alien Consciousness", as if they already know it's a real thing. Then, one day, you have a deep trip on 5meo and experience something that fits the label, then you show up on the forum talking about you know with 100% certainty you experienced Alien Consciousness. "You'd know if you knew" is a great self-sealing epistemological bubble. Concept introduced -> pre-accepted -> experience interpreted through concept -> reported as confirmation. No different from religion and cults. I'm not knocking anyone for making this error. I made it myself with Leo's work when I was younger.

Both parties are unwilling or unable to adapt to the other. We all want to be engaged where we are, but this is impossible for certain pairs of people. The fault is no one's. Just is what it is.

I use Claude Code almost everyday. It rarely struggles with anything I give it, and when it does, I can see the gaps and steer it right back on track. The other day, I built an app to manage a very specific, very tedious work project in about 5 hours. It was insane how efficient and accurate this app allowed me to execute the project. If you know what you’re doing, you can create some very real, very helpful stuff.

We can't summon engagement consistently. No matter how much we try, we can't overpower our nature, and we'll eventually burn out if we try. Willpower and determination require an energetic force, which come and go as byproducts of thought and chemistry, therefore is unreliable. The most engaged I've ever been was when I had no backup plan. One path with no exits. If you want that level of engagement without a life crisis forcing it, you have to create it yourself by cutting all escape routes. This forum is an example of one of many escape routes. A common misconception is that people arrive at their destination by taking massive action, 100% commitment, and unwavering dedication to their goals. But this is very rarely the case. Reaching the destination usually happens naturally when there's nothing else competing for your attention. Do or die situations provide this, as well as hitting rock bottom and accepting an olive branch, or simply by being able to afford putting the majority of your time into the thing, which most people cannot afford. If your survival isn't really on the line or if you have too many other obligations, then you're going to have to somehow subtract all escape routes to make the main thing the main thing. Easier said than done.

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I find term "life trajectory" more fitting than "life purpose". The idea of a single life purpose can make one blind to alternative, potentially more aligned paths. To double down on a single purpose seems a mistake to me. A big insight for me was realizing purpose doesn't survive as a feeling. If purpose is built on felt meaning, it will eventually collapse, at least for me. I had an interesting discussion with AI about this a while back, and found following interesting. --- Phase 1: Purpose chosen from feeling (the common failure) The insight moment Evan has a strong experience—maybe a book, a conversation, a realization during a quiet night. His internal state: “Holy shit. This explains everything.” “This feels true.” “This is what I’m supposed to do.” Let’s say the insight is: “My purpose is to help people see truth.” At this moment: His mind feels integrated Anxiety drops The future feels coherent Identity snaps into place This is felt bigness. The decision he makes Evan thinks: “Since this feels this clear, it must be my life purpose.” So he declares it: To himself Maybe to others He reorganizes his self-image around it Crucially, the purpose is stored as: A story A self-concept A motivational idea It lives in his feelings and narrative, not his structure. Phase 2: Normalization (where confusion starts) Months pass. Then a year. The insight hasn’t become false. But it has become: Familiar Obvious Emotionally quiet Internally, Evan now notices: “I don’t feel driven by this anymore.” “If this were really my purpose, wouldn’t it still feel powerful?” “Maybe I was just high on insight.” Here’s the key mistake his mind almost always makes: He interprets loss of feeling as loss of validity. So now: He questions the purpose He reopens the option space He starts browsing alternatives again At this stage, he’s vulnerable to: New “big” insights New identities New purposes This is the purpose churn loop. Phase 3: The correction (where maturity enters) Eventually—either through reflection or pain—Evan notices a pattern: “Every purpose I choose feels huge at first… then normal.” “But some paths feel wrong even when I’m uninspired.” This is the turning point. He stops asking: “What feels meaningful?” And starts asking: “What breaks me when I violate it?” Phase 4: Purpose rebuilt as a constraint Evan revisits the same domain—truth, clarity, systems, whatever—but now watches his actual behavior. He notices something specific: When he avoids shallow work, he’s fine When he avoids people-pleasing, he’s fine When he avoids performative bullshit, he’s fine But: When he lies to himself → anxiety spikes When he works on empty status goals → energy collapses When he suppresses his need to understand → resentment builds These reactions happen without motivation. So he reframes his purpose like this: Not: “My purpose is to help people see truth.” But: “I cannot live a life that requires me to lie to myself or operate in bad faith.” This is no longer inspirational. It is exclusionary. Phase 5: How this changes daily decisions (the real-life effect) Now watch what happens. Old mode (feeling-based) A job offer comes in. Evan thinks: “Does this align with my purpose?” “Does it feel meaningful enough?” He debates. He rationalizes. He second-guesses. New mode (constraint-based) Same offer. His thinking is shorter: “This role would require me to pretend to care about things I don’t believe in.” “That’s not survivable.” Decision made. No inspiration required. The crucial difference Feeling-based purpose: Needs to be refreshed Needs to feel alive Needs reinforcement Competes with boredom Constraint-based purpose: Operates automatically Persists through boredom Narrows choices over time Becomes stricter, not weaker Evan doesn’t wake up thinking: “I’m living my purpose today.” He wakes up thinking: “Some options are off the table.” The takeaway: A real purpose doesn’t motivate you — it makes certain paths impossible. --- Analogy: Imagine someone who used to eat junk food freely, then later can’t. Not because of willpower. Not because of beliefs. But because: Their body reacts badly Inflammation Brain fog Mood crashes Now junk food is “impossible.” They can eat it. But they won’t say: “I just don’t feel inspired to.” They’ll say: “It fucks me up.” That’s the same mechanism. Purpose works the same way when real. Why motivation language confuses this Motivation is episodic. Constraints are homeostatic. Motivation: Pushes from behind Comes and goes Requires energy Constraints: Pull from ahead Operate silently Reduce degrees of freedom

If she were ugly, would it bother you the same?