Joshe

Damn bruh.

The financially desperate demographic is huge, so of course there are tons of offers out there to solve this problem. I'm sure there are some legit courses on how to sell courses. Not all of them would be useless. But I wouldn't even look for courses on how to make money. The macro steps for building a course are simple. One sequence might look like: 1. Validate your idea with market research 2. Make the course 3. Package it well 4. Make it accessible 5. Distribute 6. Collect market feedback and reiterate until you get buyers. You just have to flesh each of these out. AI would likely serve you better than random courses. For example, at each phase, you can ask AI "what are the most common mistakes at this stage?" or "what is the likelihood my project would fail and if it were to fail, why?" or "why do most endeavors like this fail?" or "what is the actual difficulty level and level of effort required for this stage?". AFter you ask enough questions and get clarity, the pathway might light up.

Neediness happens when wanting gets mixed with a lack of self-respect, self-trust, or inner stability. The outcome gets psychologically attached to something deeper, like safety, identity, self-worth, etc.

Yeah, that frame makes compassion and love for other easier for me as well. Although I admit, I don't hold it as often as I'd like to.

I added it back. I didn't feel sure about it. Glad you like it!

Good point. I don't live like I'm playing a game. It's only in specific reflection that I would see it that way. And it is more common to view others as playing games than oneself. There might be something to seeing others as playing games that prevents compassion/love from blossoming. Good thinking!

The impulse to call out other people's games is itself a game - a common one. We're all just humans playing meaning-games together. And there's no shame in that. Without games, there'd be nothing to discuss. But it's easy to get caught up in thinking your game is superior just because it's more coherent or truth-aligned. We're all on this forum because we're seeking recognition and resonance - we want our existence to matter in relation to others. We just play different games to achieve that end.

I could see how these metaphysical mechanics would usually serve to spiritually bypass the underlying fragility. For most, it would be a coping mechanism and a magic pill solution to avoid the work becoming antifragile.

True dat

Engage with the nuance bro. You don't get to flatten all distinctions and then tell everyone your flattened frame is basic common sense. lol. Nice try.

Also, how one deals with "uncertainty" is near the root as well. Neediness = fear-driven attempts to eliminate uncertainty and to secure safety. So, maybe part of the solution is courage has to be cultivated. And/or you have to cultivate groundedness in the absence of guarantees.

@UnbornTao Totally agree. In my first reply I had something like "it's helpful to distinguish between want and need", but I removed it after I started thinking about the complexity it invokes. It feels like "want" becomes a need at a certain point, so I started thinking of "desire" as the base phenomenon on a spectrum of intensity, but then couldn't figure out the rest of the framework. Also, it's not so simple because you can have both an intense want and an intense need. Where things become unstable is when not getting an intense want is mistaken as some sort of existential threat. So neediness seems to have to do with your relation to the desire - how high you believe the stakes are or thinking your safety will be compromised if you don't get it. At the end of the day, I think neediness is a symptom of a fragile self. Find what is fragile and make it not fragile.

OP is asking for mechanics. “How does it really work”. It’s like they’re saying they want a deep understanding of how an engine works and some distinguished mechanic chimes in: “combustion”. Anyone have any insights into the mechanics of it?