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I was working really hard today and very busy, on the move. Unlike me as I usually surf daily which leaves me with “blue mind” and often detaches me from work. (Background: I did a 1.2g mushroom trip a few days ago, and had a therapist help me integrate it.) Whilst I was feeling ungrounded, I went and jumped in the ocean which brought me back to earth and out of my head, I had been ruminating on my social status, and scheming all day about how I was going to position myself to get more sexual partners (just thoughts haha). I’ve been getting this urge lately to abandon my housemates and move in with only “conscious” people in a different house (I’m smiling writing this haha). I have a CBT therapist recently call me out on these thoughts gently, and I admitted that I believe I was superior to others in my social circle because I’m “more ambitious”. I was thinking “who most emulates who I want to be?”, and it’s probably this sexy, hippie musician from my local area, my next question was “what is he thinking right this second?”; I think this question allowed me to let go of something, because existentially I don’t know this person. It takes the hype out of fame for me which I get swept away by, not that it’s all bad but sometimes I get desperate. Also people shit on talk therapy a bit but I find it really grounding, that famous person insight is sometimes hard for me to remember, I recall conversations I have in therapy and follow their trail to grounding.

Likely because you’re addicted to your phone and haven’t studied marketing. Andrew and Tristan are polarising figures who create content around finance, sex and health. All of which are needs you may not have met, and keep you hooked with controversy, humour and drama. leo begun Actualized.org talking about money, sex and health. This wasn’t an accident

I've seen self amusement work really well on message

my strategy is trying to build skills that are high ticket, but will also propel your life purpose. Leo talks about smooth transitions in the LP course, is there a skill that you yourself need in you LP niche that you could develop and sell to other businesses? examples not intended to bias you: - perhaps you need a high speed landing page to get permaculture clients, you could go really deep on building functional websites and sell this service as a freelancer - perhaps people in your niche want to start making high quality digital products but don't have the technical skills to do it themselves. You could learn production and film and then subcontract the funnel to a digital marketer on Upwork.

@Leo Gura Ignore my PM if you see this. I want to understand how you demonise chasing money and sex as it will corrupt the mind, but these are human needs and you have already benefited from them. And also what are the alternatives?

Finally finished the LP Course. After literal years of procrastination. My purpose is to create incredible music, that inspires people and helps them to heal.

There's a lot of high level paradigm thinking on this part of the thread. People attempting to integrate dating and socialising with their spiritual cosmology, which is fine and something I also enjoy. But if you're still rolling through Orange like myself, working through social awkwardness a negative self image, breaking out of this should feel very active. Something I have been doing lately: Me and my close friend go for a long night walk and have a conversation, much like the discussions on this forum, where we air our social problems. As soon as my friend says something that sounds like a limiting belief I invite him to deconstruct the belief. We then use Leo's limiting belief exercise that's available in the tail end of the LP Coures (I'm sure there are others equally effective out there, perhaps in an old video) to guide each other to deconstruct the belief, often discovering deeper beliefs e.g. I believed that establishing a sex life would be very difficult, grindy and hard, and discovered that this was because I believed I was not likeable.

Against community guidelines. Edit: apologies I initially misinterpreted the topic of this thread, thought it was a pro-Blackpill rant.

You sound pretty young, so just general inexperience could be a cause of this. The main issue here is calibration, you’re possibly being extremely open in your communication, like you would to a close friend, but it’s causing you to air dirty laundry in the presence of someone you’re trying to attract. This is definitely not the place to do so. “I feel sick” after having sex with someone is probably the worst most offensive time to say something like this, mentioning incel and pickup ideology on a date is literally the worst time to bring up these topics - This is communicating to me you have a history of isolation and lack of friends. You haven’t exposed yourself to a lot of social situations so you have trouble ‘sensing’ in what situation to say one thing, and in what situation to say another. Remember in Leo’s getting laid video he talked about the law of state transference. Think about how you felt in your body, physically and emotionally when on these dates. Were they fun? Or were you tense and nervous? Still trying to be philosophical? But what’s awesome is you are exposing yourself to new situations, and you’re getting feedback on a self help forum - average person doesn’t do this. Keep dating, keep getting rejections, and reframe beliefs. Super important that you are working on limiting beliefs. If you have a belief that you’re low status for example, you could be using that belief to avoid meeting people “they are cool and high status, I’m a loser I shouldn’t meet them”, which would literally be stopping you from solving the problem, because the only way to elevate your status is to meet more people. Do you see what I’m saying? You could have beliefs that cause you to avoid solving your problems. what would someone have to believe to get the results you’ve described in this post?

Could holding this perspective lead to a Red and or Orange shadow?

Contemplate socialising. I came to the insight that it’s kind of futile for me to keep seeking validation when people have different value sets and therefore will validate different things. Lately I’m noticing a change in myself where if I don’t get validation, I just drop it and keep moving with the conversation e.g. I say a joke no one laughs “oh well that wasn’t funny, moving on” and being able to let that go. In the past I would just keep hammering the joke until someone acknowledged me. If you have the LP course, do the limiting belief exercise in the making it real section. My friend and I who also has the course guide each other through this exercise, you will discover layers of limiting beliefs that you need to work through. Then once you reframe that belief you can do an affirmation for 5 minutes a day, for a period of 7 days to remind your subconscious mind of the reframe. Then repeat the process - thats my strategy at least I believe it’s well informed.

Probably not as simple as “Red or Orange” simple because multiple memes can be active at once within people and collectives. However I see Red meme reflected in the porn industry is the description of Red work environments in the Spiral Dynamics book: - Red meme is incredibly lazy, it is hard to motivate people with this active meme to do anything; often people get into porn because they believe it means they don’t need to do as much labour for more money - Red employees will “put up with a lot as long as their basic needs are met often” (probably a misquote); I think “putting up with a lot” is an understatement when it comes to porn. On the other hand, I saw an interview the other day, a guy was interviewing nomads in Bali. One girl was an OF creator and her favourite part of living in Bali was the “tax benefits” she gets as an Australian. No other meme than Orange imo would give that response. But then there’s explicitly feminist/progressive porn creators out there, once I saw an interview with a pornstar who believed she was an Occultist (possibly purple), there’s that Vice episode on people who do porn that reflects their Mormon upbringing which I guess could be Orange because they are demonising Blue etc. Lots of active memes like any milieu.

@Emerald Pickup done correctly will save a man from becoming an Incel, not turn him into one.

Try find the Kino Escalation Ladder pdf on google.

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Don't make excuses. Make a budget and do things that fit into it (e.g. day game will always be free) and/or find a way to increase your income.

Watch tone here please - "Show a level of respect & humility. Demonstrate kindness, friendliness, and compassion towards fellow members." (stated in guidelines)

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I have a rule for myself that if I ever become a life coach, it will probably be through an iPEC training, and I have to pay for it myself 100% through an entrepreneurial venture.

You’d be surprised how deep you can go with improv as a study my dad used to teach this actually he mentioned some really interesting old school teachers - I can pass on the name for you, (probably too late for me to text him now where I am) PM me if interested and it’ll remind me to ask him.

Have you read the 80/20 rule? It’s a pretty quick audiobook. What are the ‘results’ of each of the things that you want? Traveling, biking, skateboarding… Would you say the result of these are, is it movement, excitement, adventure (a mix). What are the 20% of all of your hobbies that give you the most of what you want?

Thanks for the share, I start an Accounting/Bookkeeping online certificate at a community college in two weeks. My first year self-employed I didn't do proper accounting and ended up $7k in debt, have vowed never to make that mistake again.

There's a depressant named Kava native to the South Pacific, can produce similar effects to alcohol such as relaxation but does not contain alcohol.

I have been living in Melbourne Australia for the last 2 years, moved home recently to a smaller town about an hour away. i have been bitching and moaning for the past 2 years about how ‘woke’ Melbourne is, and how they can’t integrate any views outside what shows up on people’s TikTok feed. People in Melbourne are obsessed with their sexuality, their pronouns, will jump on any bandwagon that sounds remotely progressive. I realise now how much I took this for granted, it is so rare to have a culture that it predominantly stage green. Where I moved home to is predominantly blue and orange. I realise this is actually a symptom of a culture having its base necessities, and a culture of people growing up in supportive households.

@Leo Gura A vision that really touches me is to make live music that generates enough revenue, to create physical systems that reduce pollution. E.g. a huge music festival that uses revenue to create an organic farm, devices that collect plastic in rivers, creating conservation properties. Lol picking a lane is so hard, I want to develop and share profound wisdom, I want to creatively inspire people with my music, I want to protect the environment by creating actual infrastructure that brings more nature into the world by planting trees and help to reduce the toxic load of the world, not just talking about it and being an "activist". My role models are people like Rudolph Steiner who was a philosopher, but also invented a sophisticated agricultural system. Steve Irwin who used revenue from his Zoo to create conservation properties, James Cameron who is a successful artist but also does observational science work, and has his own school with an awesome education structure. I thought of starting by putting on gigs in my city that crowdfund for community gardens, equipment for river cleanups, and then scaling this model as high as I can take it. Does it sound like I'm ambitious and am visioning as an expression of my values? Or am I being greedy and not facing the emotional discomfort of picking a niche lane and niche impact? I turned 22 in April, I'm really late to the party, but if I committed my life to being maximally insightful, impactful and creative I think I'd die trying.