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Leo's video talks about making only one change at a time. But if I were to make the change of waking up early, then because that is the only change, does that mean I just be lazy everyday, and not do anything else until this is an ingrained habit?

I love David Deida personally.

@Kailash Bhattarai Yeah it's a scary move isn't it. The girl I approached was sitting on a bench in a park, and I was hesitating for maybe 15 seconds, then I just walked straight up to her and introduced myself. After the interaction was over I felt like I could do anything.

@Username Oh fuck yeah, I've got one of those!

Become fit and healthy, and be clear on your calling. And practice approaching women in person, I did my first cold approach the other day, it was really self-esteem boosting.

Have you questioned whether you need that particular woman? -- When I feel needy towards a woman, I ask myself "Do I need this woman?", and I look into my current experience, close my eyes and wander my attention around my body. I have never found a "need" for a woman. Perhaps it may evoke some positive emotion having certain interactions with a woman, but the notion that I "need" her or that her being in my life is alarmingly important isn't true in my experience. -- There is this girl that I hang out with sometimes. And when I talk to her I literally feel like I'm contemplating reality, and when I look at her face I feel like I've discovered everything I could ever want in a woman. She is sexy, hard working and philosophical, I couldn't ask for any more. The day after we made out for the first time, she told me that she didn't want to pursue anything romantic with me, and didn't even say that she explicitly wanted to continue being friends. In the process of trying to process this information, I was singing about it on my guitar, and I came to the realisation that right now, in this moment, I don't really need her. As I kept singing about her I noticed that in this moment I am without her, and I'm fine. In saying this, I met this cute girl whilst walking my dog the other day, and I felt like I my mind was getting really needy towards her. And as I questioned it I was brought back to this insight: right now I don't need her, maybe I would feel good with her, but I can live without her. So I don't think I am liberated from these tendencies. But I have a feeling that this is because I am not clear on what my calling is yet, once I am more clear about what I want, and have a really inspiring vision that emotionally drives me, then this will probably override my desire to use women as a scapegoat of satisfaction.

@Blacksmith Thankyou mate. I thought this was a really great strategy and implemented it the other day.

This question is for people who have read David Deida's book "The Way of the Superior Man", and implemented the physical exercises he recommends, or people who practice sexual yoga: Deida describes an exercise where you contract the anus and the perineum, causing the testicles to contract whilst doing this. The purpose being to allow the ejaculation to shoot up the rather than spilling out of the penis, causing a full-body blissful experience. He says to practice such contractions 20 times, four times a day, holding each contraction as long as possible. Which made me wonder, that would be a lot of contracting such muscles. Because I think I could hold in my perineum and anus for a very very long time. The instruction of as long as you can confuses me a lot e.g. in a Hatha yoga practice I have been initiated into, I am apply the same principles to a dynamic exercise, and I have often thought to myself "gosh, what do they mean 'as long as possible', if I really pushed myself, I bet I could do this all day". So in summary my question is: Does "as long as you can" really mean to do something "until you're tired or uncomfortable"? And also, for those who have implemented Deida's practices, did you actually sit down and do such practices, or did you just contract the muscles whilst doing your daily tasks? Thanks

Just to clarify, I have been in a very similar situation to what you are describing, and my suggestion is to just cut those people off immediately. You will probably relapse and go back to those people, but this is okay because you know why you don't want to see them and you will eventually cut them off. My friends during high school did not understand me, they all valued fun and excitement, when my values leaned towards health and consciousness. I used to talk shit with "the boys" for hours on end, the whole weekend. Smoking weed occasionally, drinking. I stopped drinking and smoking, because I felt that I valued being alert and energetic more than the temporary excitement I experienced, so eventually I stopped altogether. The people I was hanging around did not share such values, and this caused genuine tension is social situations. Do not listen to people who tell you to give such people "a chance", "time" because they could change. You are in no way obligated to hang around with anyone that you don't want to for literally any reason, this is your life not theirs, you do not owe them shit. I'm sure they have good qualities, but f they stand in the way of your mission, let them go. PS: sorry for the double post, I just really wanted to make sure I shared the lessons from my own experience because they were really significant in my life.

I understand the feeling of not being fulfilled after hanging out with people, even know it was once fun or made sense. In my experience, cutting out bad relationships is like giving up any habit habit; there will be relapses because you want that escape, so the concept of Homeostasis is one to be aware of in this circumstance. Sometimes I feel like a narcissist for cutting out some friends, but then keeping others for their "good" qualities, it feels like I am using the people I keep in my life for their good qualities. But I don't think that this matters too much as if the people I do keep in my life are bothered by me wanting to hang out with them, it is their choice to stop doing so, and this is fine with me. In conclusion, people who are difficult to be around will not fulfil you, you will lose energy being around them and it will just continue to be a poor use of time. Surround yourself with people who you feel only grow you and people who will make the effort to understand you when you speak to them, people who you would trust to trip sit you, people who you can have dialogue with about your ambitions.

Peter Ralston advises not to intellectualise teachings about consciousness work. Leo states that you cannot grasp the highest teaching through thought, it realised through mystical experience. If the mind is so deceptive, what is worth thinking about?

I make my own gluten free roti bread with chicipea flour, rice flour and spices. My family and friends love it!

Sounds True is the company that publishes the books of Brent Kessell, David Deida, Ken Wilber and many more. The website is a fantastic resource that I am sure many people on this forum have heard of, yet I have not contributed to this thread yet and wanted to. https://www.soundstrue.com/

Some valid points on this thread e.g. Tiktok promoting toxic habits and stage orange valued. However, people can gain large followings in relatively short periods of time on this platform, and there is a prevalent and popular self-help niche on Tiktok. - If someone wants to escape wage slavery, I think utilising this platform would be an awesome way to attract eyeballs and market yourself in the world, even know the video format of Tiktok doesn't really allow for content that has impact (due to the maximum of one minute long maximum videos). The most inspiring stuff I have seen on the platform are the nature clips that people share, and the acoustic music. Some of this stuff is really gorgeous.

RationalWiki also essentially accuses him of being paedophile. Which I found entertaining considering their justification was the old Actualized logo matched that of a paedophile collective insignia.

Does anyone have some good books, videos, articles regarding fasting? Topics such as: - intermittent fasting - fill day fasting - dry fasting Peace and thanks

Just keep working at it, you'll start to like it.

@Mada_ @Average Investor @UDT @Consept @tashawoodfall @Leo Gura @Preety_India @Hello from Russia Thankyou everyone very much for your replies, all of them have been very helpful!

Greetings from Australia also. I am not an artist, but i have grown up in a house where both of my parents were artists as occupations. My brother also goes to VCA in Melbourne. Creativity and art has always been a big part of my life, although not my occupation. I would always recommend contemplation for coming up with ideas. When I contemplate with a journal, I tend to look at ideas or the general trajectory of the thought process and think "how could I depict this as an image." I often see paintings and photography ideas in my head that are quite original. Also depicting your vision and values as an artist, I think, is really a really special gift that visual artists posess. When visualizing your future, you can commit to creating a detailed andinteresting depiction of what you want, I think this would be a wicked vision board. Good luck

@LfcCharlie4 How old are you?

Yesterday I tried waiting until I was hungry to eat, usually I have three substantial meals. I am 6'3 and 19 years old. I ended up eating a moderate sized salad with lots of quinoa and two eggs in the late afternoon. With a couple bananas for dinner and a few hand fulls of almonds. Is it healthy to wait until your body asks for food, do you give it three meals based on some theory and experience of consequences?

So is it potentially impossible for me to become a world class master in anything? Or is this what "Zone of Genius" is?

I interviewed Linda for a school media project. She used to live close to me, but moved a state over. On the one day she came back to my state, was a day she agreed to have an interview with me. Linda is a zen meditation teacher who has done serious consciousness work with various teachers. She has been interviewed on 'Buddha at the Gas Pump'. The thing that resonated with me most about my encounter with Linda is when she said that what people truly want is to "find out why we are here". This was a very inspiring way to put things.

@Nahm @Average Investor @Identity @Sahil Pandit Thankyou so much for all of these powerful responses, they have truly lit me up inside.

Is an effective strategy for starting a business to work a normal job to finance a passion, and attempt to make your initial business a reflection of you deepest values? e.g. Leo loves personal development, so Actualized.org is a personal development channel. Or do you go straight for a wellspring of wealth first (e.g. Reselling, drop shipping) and then transition to a business that is your passion? I feel like I kind of answered my own question as I wrote it (I always do that lol.) But I'd love to hear some of your journeys, and any advice you might have. The steps I have taken recently towards entrepreneurship - Begun the LP course - Collected a list of finance resources e.g. Youtube channels, podcasts, books - Applied for a job at a Dominos to fund my first project - Strategizing and planning. I plan to launch my first project after saving money for a part-time job, and finishing the LP course.