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@Bird Larry Try Kashiwa Daisuke, Lambert, Radiohead, Crywolf, Koda, Porcupine Tree, Pink Floyd, SYML, M83, Goodspeed You! Black Emperor, Olafur Arnalds, Iamthemorning, Novo Amor, Harold Budd, Leprous, Bersarin Quartett, CLANN. Some of my favourites songs are made by them.

@SQAAD Yes, I can't control sleep, but sleep problems can be of different nature. For example, I have trouble sleeping because I have suppressed rage that shows up during the night as muscular tension. If you want better sleep, you have to identify the cause. Also, insomnia can come from a lot of suppressed rage and the inability to face our own wounds.

@SQAAD Can the problem be health-related? I've been having the same problem for a year and taking B-vitamins, vitamin D3, going to the gym and improving my sleep (this is critical, because how do you know you sleep well?) and changing my environment (like going to a city near the sea if you can, for vacation) helped a lot, I regained a lot of energy and focus. I think the main culprit is a stagnant or dysfunctional environment.

Do a workout for a month, then see if something changes

Hi! I've been sedentary for almost two years due to covid, pandemic, university and so on. About year ago I started having health problems, like fatigue and other symptoms. I tried to optimize my diet and I started supplementing, hoping that would solve the problems. It did not, although it helped. I also found that my health problems also came from sleeping poorly. So, knowing that working out makes you sleep better because it tires you, some months ago I started exercising again. I experienced some problems with that, I posted them here if you're interested in helping me: I talked with a personal trainer who suggested to increase carbs intake and start exercising with a light bodyweight training to increase muscle mass and metabolism., then after some time to add a bit of cardio. I started doing some light bodyweight training, but I've found that it did not help very much, and that when I'm in the middle of the bodyweight workout I'm already tired. It's not like I cannot physically do it, rather I feel like my whole body numbing a bit down, like wanting to sleep. I try to exercise three times per week, and this is my bodyweight workout: 10 push-ups ‌20 triceps dips ‌7 diamond push-ups 10 cobra push-ups ‌20 abs ‌10 "superman raise" (dorsal+leg raise) ‌5 pull ups ‌5 dips ‌5 pull ups ‌5 dips I've recently talked with a friend who suggested me to start hitting the gym. So what I'd like to ask is: what should I do? Improve the quality of my bodyweight training or going to the gym? What are the fundamental differences between bodyweight training and the gym regarding the impact on the muscles? Should I add some weights to my bodyweight training? Should I add some isometric exercises like the plank? Should I do the bodyweight workout every day? Where can I find excellent bodyweight trainings, courses and explanations? Thank you!

@Vision Also healing practices, shadow work, Inner child Work, contemplation

I don't have children, I'm still young . The bottom line is: What do you value the most? And how can you align yourself and your life towards those values? Does having children and especially dealing with them align with your core values? Do you want them because you feel forced by people, society or other, or because it's an authentic desire of yours? How could you design your life now and in the future to make raising children coexist with other aspects of your life and especially make it so that it doesn't corrode other aspects of your life?

@Jannes @Michael569 Thank you both, really appreciate the feedback. And I'm not vegan nor vegetarian. I eat meat along that quantity of legumes.

@Leo Gura I too have some difficulty with understanding death and what happens after it. I understand you are pointing to a paradigm shift (or even a "consciousness" shift ) that we are not grasping, but still I'm confused regarding what happens after the last moments of your life, when your eyes lose the light, so to speak. I'm eternal because I'm consciousness itself, but what form does consciousness/I take after this body I believe is me ceases to live? I know I need some mystical experiences to make the leap and really understand what you're pointing to, but still I feel you may give some more accurate pointers to what happens, more accurate in the sense that they approach the issue from a stage yellow perspective going towards turquoise.

@Rob06 Raising kid is tough because it forces you to confront with the part of your shadow which you haven't integrated yet, and teaches you empathy, patience, how to set and enforce boundaries, how to be vulnerables, how to consciously deal with another vulnerable person, and so on. It will be tough, especially if you had a dysfunctional childhood, because all your traumas will be triggered by your children (you are in the parent role now). If you value psychological healing and integration, then yes, raising children is a valuable road. You also need the right partner

I have rings attached to the parallel bars but they're hanged low because I wanted to do some special exercises. Forgot to add I also do 10 squats. Yes I'm planning to do this. Years ago, before all of this, I also hit the gym for some time and I really liked it, but now I'm questioning if the gym is healthier than calisthenics regarding ligaments, tendons, elasticity, and flow of movements, and what should I do about it. That's the main issue. My goal is to get bigger, but I don't know if the quantity of muscles I need to get to my goal size will be provided by calisthenics or I have to go to the gym. And since I want to speed up my metabolism and tire myself to sleep better, I need some intense training, but not so intense that I slack off and feel it's not right. There's a balance I'm aiming at, and the question is: is calisthenics the right type of workout to achieve that sweetspot? Or should I go to the gym so that I get some muscles as a baseline, and then I do some calisthenics with those muscles? Can calisthenics bring me to that baseline better (faster, easier, healthier) than the gym? I eat about 200g of legumes every day, don't use stimulants, my iron is okay, I'm driven (although I'm stressed due to dysfunctional relationships), my thyroid is fine. My blood tests are fine. I sleep poorly though, yes. Don't really know why. I think due to tense muscles during the night. Other than that, I created a list of possible physical and mental causes which I'm tackling althoug slowly due to fatigue. Good, thanks.

@Joel3102 The key is to be relaxed. If you're not relaxed everything else will be useless. The problem then becomes how to be relaxed if you're chronically tense?

@Gabith Don't forget that your issues could be due to traumas and emotional wounds that need to be resolved. Check my signature to know more if you're interested.

@Michael569 Isn't it HLADQ2 or HLADQ8?

@Michael569 Thank you very much for the reply!!!

@Vision My posts on healing:

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@Ulax Check out my posts on healing

@Vision I have several posts on healing (see my signature). Check them out to learn psychotherapeutic healing modalities.

Anxiety = fear-based emotions Caution = logic-based reasonings

So what do you do? Give up to the monotony and learn to appreciate the boring life? I'll try to be proactive but I have to have the right expectations.

Agree, but still the highest peaks of love can give you an opportunity to experience unity, even though a decent level of purity of this experience is very rare and brief. The ego grasps those low peaks of Love and twists them for its agenda in every way possible, but still there are those peaks. You may not recognize them consciously, but still you recognize it in some way otherwise you wouldn't have that strong charge of love. Maybe you recognize it subconsciously but your ego and its layers of self-deception prevent you from recognizing that consciously.

So all long-term relationships are going to fester even if you are proactive about it consistently?

Very enlightening, I understood now, it clicked. Falling in love is basically giving yourself permission (as in "permission slip" said frequently by Bashar) to experience metaphysical unity through another person and making your True Self radiate with less or no human bullshit to interfere.