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@Carl-Richard I'm aware of that, but why not?

I've not read all the posts on this thread, but why kindness is not a Turquoise value? What makes the kindness of a turquoise person different from the kindness of a green person?

Thank you for your response, it helps putting things in perspective. But I was referring to the specific meaning behind that question.

Hi. Some time ago I tried to find my zone of genius, but I didn't fully understand the question regarding when you are at your best: I'm not a native english speaker, so I don't understand fully the meaning. Is it asking to find the activity in which you reach a peak in performance or the activity that brings you more joy? Thank you.

Thank you for your perspective, I appreciate. When I was talking about people enjoying little things I didn't mean non-dual experiences. I think average people don't have non-dual experiences when they talk about little things they enjoyed during the day.

Hi. I'm a seeker, and intuitive, and for all my life I've been having a hard time fitting in the world. I've always been a lonely wolf (INFJ, stage yellow), with few friends at any given time. There are some moments when I doubt if the path of enlightenment, the path of purification, the path of inner work is the right one for me. When I'm talking with average people or friends, or watching videos on youtube about people's mundane lives (for example travelling videos, or vlogs, etc.), or doing other stuff like that, I often find myself thinking if maybe people are right. Maybe all this self-actualization journey is not what brings happiness, it's only making me detatched from the world. Sometimes I hear people talking about their mundane life, people telling other people what their day was like, or telling about the cute dog they encountered on their way home, or the joke their coworker told them that made them laugh so hard. People talking about little things that made them happy, the joy of simple things. I'm often fascinated by people's ability to be happy for all these mundane stuff. I often feel excluded from that little gold nugget of joy, like "Wow, how do they do that?". I see myself as someone too much in his head. I know that they don't have the rich inner world and peace and understanding of the world an actualized person might have, but still there's a little, little part of me that whispers me in a loving way "Maybe you should let go of the idea of enlightenment and self-actualization, they're only taking you away from people, from life, from joy. Don't you see that people appreciate life and enjoy it even without personal development? Why shoud you go that far? Why strive so much?". Sometimes I feel like I'm living my life in the wrong way. I know that pursuing enlightenment will give me the capacity to realize the present moment at a enormous depth compared to the degree of appreciation of average people (plus other benefits). But what if they're right? Enlightenment, raising your consciousness is a path for one, and even if there were more people on that path, it would still be a lonely one, because it's inside you. I'm planning to continue raising my consciousness because I intuitively know it's the only thing that will result in true happiness, but still I leave the door open to being wrong. I'd like to hear some advice, perspectives on that, how you approach these moments of innocent doubts.

The matter is more complicated. I think he's starting to open his eyes to the world, and now sees for himself many more opportunities to explore the world, to explore people, and relationships. Maybe he is afraid of commitment, he wants to keep all doors open because he is afraid of feeling stuck, or maybe he's even afraid of losing yourself in the long term so he decides to leave now. He loves you, but he needs to explore, and this makes he feel torn inside, and he's afraid of exploring his contrasting feelings. You love him, and the uncertainty of his internal relationships with himself and the resulting decisions scares you. I think you two should talk more, be more open about what you feel and what you need. You need to expose your innermost feeling and wantings, to see fully in each other in order to make the right decision for both of you. Maybe as Leo said he's just sugarcoating, but I think there are more nuances. I don't think he's so selfish as it appeared to me from Leo's words. But maybe he's right. Remember that when a person loves you. Seeing you suffer makes himself suffer. Seeing you happy makes himself happy. The needs of both of you are valid and are to be respected. But it's not always that simple, because, as I already said, there are more variables at play. There are more perspectives, more needs and wantings, a tug of war between different aspects of oneself, and all of them need to be understood. All of them need to be taken in account. That's why relationships can be so damn difficult and excruciating.

@JessiChell For trauma release, in order of wisdom & powerful exercises imo: The Completion Process - Teal Swan The Anatomy of Loneliness - Teal Swan Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving - Pete Walker Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past - Peter A. Levine & Bessel A. Van Der Kolk Also, here's a complete list of all the techniques and exercises and therapies I found that you could do to return to a healthy mind-body inner balance: Gestalt therapy Inner child work Bioenergetic work Relational Psychotherapy Chakra healing Breathwork Visualization Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) Freudian Psychoanalysis Chanting (chakra) Music Chromotherapy hypnotherapy transpersonal therapy NLP Positive psychology Therapy for cptsd Autogenic training Somatic Therapy (also called Somatic Experiencing, SE) Rosen Work (for sexual and physical abuses) (a type of somatic therapy) Rolfing (a type of somatic therapy) Reichian therapy (a type of somatic therapy) EDMR Sensorymotor Psychotherapy Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) Comprehensive Resource Model (CRM) Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) Tension, Stress and Trauma Release Exercises (TRE) Reverse Kegels Cannabis Wim Hof Method The Lefkoe Method Sedona Method Shadow Work

@ivankiss Thank you, that's what I need to hear. I'm often too much in my head. I feel like I have so little time, I feel in a constant hurry to have my life figured out so then, and only then I can relax and live happily. I need to have all the knowledge, all the tools, all the perspectives now in order to do the right choice. I think this thread is one of the first obstacles on my hero's journey. THAT SENTENCE. I think that's what I need to reconnect with. It's hard when you have little time due to engineering. And I want to learn so much: business, music, personal development, ecc. I lose the focus on what needs to be dealt with. The more I think about my future, the more powerful my calling for being a life-transforming teacher becomes. But it's still not set in stone. I have so much to shed, so much to overcome. Other perspectives are appreciated. My heart says YES to many things.

Hi everyone. This is a somewhat long post. This post is a request of help, practical and emotional, but it’s also a way to analyze myself and it can be an opportunity for you to think about your own life purpose. For the past few months I’ve been struggling with confusion, lack of direction, undecisiveness and anxiety regarding life choices and life purpose, to the point where I spent several days paralyzed and suffocated by fear and uncertainty, not being able to study or do anything else. Then the new videos on life advice for young people came out so I felt pushed to write this. My situation: I’m 21 and studying engineering, I’m at third year, and I don’t know if I want to continue. When I chose engineering my life was pretty messed up due to CPTSD (still struggling) and decided for that path because I loved math and I was interested in how computers and internet work, but also because my parents convinced me to do it and I could have a secure job after uni. At that time I didn’t know about life purpose, personal development etc. Last year I started to do some healing practices and started to think seriously about life purpose. I recovered suppressed aspects of myself and purified myself, and started to think about my talents and gifts. These two things made me doubt my choice. Life Purpose: I’ve not taken the LP course yet, but I started with finding my zone of genius reading the book in the booklist. Going through the exercises, I realized that my life purpose resolves around two directions: teaching people and creating. And now I don’t know what to pursue. Knowledge/wisdom or art/creativity. From all the things that I wrote as answers to the questions about what I love to do, the most fulfilling ones where making music and talking about personal development and psychology. Why wisdom: I’ve always had this vision of changing the world, of raising its consciousness, because since I was a child I’ve always been able to see and notice the lack of consciousness, love, beauty and truth in the world (maybe due to CPTSD), how dysfunctional it is, how much it needs healing on an emotional, mental and spiritual level. When I discovered Leo’s channel I found gold because I had already realized many concepts he talked about even though I was not able to articulate them so well. I found someone on the same wavelength as me (I’m stage Yellow, with a little bit of Turquoise). Why art: I almost always feel this yearning to create, to express the beauty of my inner depths, of life. In childhood I learned to play the guitar, then stopped. I learned to play the piano, then stopped. I learned to create music on computer, then stopped. Everytime I stopped was not due to lack of passion, but other issues and/or priorities. Comparison: Teaching knowledge and wisdom may not be the most fulfilling thing for my soul, but if done well it could have a big impact on people. Making art could be very fulfilling for myself, but I sense that it won’t have the same impact on people as teaching. So I have this crossroad: me vs. people. I know that giving to people is key, so maybe teaching would be “better”, but still I feel that it won’t be very authentic, because basically what I will teach is something people have already talked about, something people could discover online and learn. It’s so difficult to come up with an innovative idea. And I will always have this thirst for creativity, for authentic self expression. While thinking about my life purpose, I had the idea to become a math teacher in middle school in order to create a course after classes where I would teach personal development, life purpose and spirituality. This idea came from the intersection of teaching life transforming concepts with targeting the best audience possible to change the world. Like addressing the problems of society at its roots. This sudden intuitive vision brought me to tears. I cried of joy, like I found my purpose, my true calling. So “What’s the problem?” you may ask. “You found it”. Well, I don’t know. When I thought again about being a teacher, I also thought: “Being a teacher is good, it will give me free time to do other things”. Like, that is not really my life purpose, there are other things I enjoy more. But what things? If I pursue either art or teaching I feel like some gifts of mine could be wasted. Then the money aspect came up and it made my doubts grow bigger (teachers don't earn a lot, being financially free would be hard). In addition, after that realization of being a teacher I continued to purify myself and my mind came up with the thought of not being sure if I want to teach. I started to notice that there is a part of me that feels compelled to do it, like it is my duty because I see the dysfunction of the world, I see the dynamics, the problems, not because I really enjoy teaching. I feel compelled to help society evolve because I see a world that needs it, not because I want to do it. And also it could be a projection of my need for healing: I'm trying to fix the world in order to fix myself and people around me. “Okay, but what does all of this has to do with engineering?”. Engineering could give me the opportunity to teach math at school. “So what’s the problem? Do engineering and if the math teacher stuff doesn’t go well try something else. But move”. Yes, I know that. I recently watched Leo’s videos on confusion and on intuition, the gist is: follow your heart, and if you don’t know the direction simply start moving, the path will unfold naturally. However some months ago my body and my mind started to hold me back from continuing university, and it feels like I have to quit engineering, but I don’t know why. I intuitively feel like engineering is not the right path for me, it’s too emotionless, too mechanical, but I don’t know what to do if I’d quit. I’ve also talked with @GreenWoods and he told me maybe I could veer towards becoming a life coach while studying to become a math teacher. Maybe my life purpose is not accurate yet. Not refined. So, there it is. I’m full of doubts and fears. My identity is not solid, is not defined enough. I'm still trying to become whole, recovering. I don’t know who I am. Don’t know how to proceed. In the end I feel like a little kid scared of the world. I have no job experience, nor enough real world experiences related to my passions. What do you think about it? Any advice? I’d really appreciate lots of perspectives. Thank you.

@Mind of a beast Tony Robbins has some stuff on NLP, and he teaches how the brain and beliefs function, so you could give his books a try, especially Unlimited Power and Awaken The Giant Within. But research them before you buy, to ensure they have what you're looking for. However, NLP was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. You can research their work too.

@Mind of a beast You could try Eben Pagan stuff on learning if it's not too expensive. Or even NLP.

@Darvid Thank you, I'll definitely check it out! @Austin Actualizing What are your thoughts on Jim Simons and Peter Lynch? Are they more knowledgeable and skilled than Warren? For some people they are.

@IAmTheHolySpirit Thanks!

I've just finished watching Leo's video "Money Psychology - The Inner Game of Mastering Money". He talks about mastering the domain of money, gives a healthy set of mindsets and ways to manage money and he outlines some traps and dysfunctional behaviours. Then he says that if you want to master this domain seriously you have to read books, go to seminars, do courses, ecc. basically finding the right resources. I got the psychological aspect of money and I'd like to know what are these resources. I'd like something practical. I've already read the first book in the Money section of the booklist. Thank you.

@Mjolnir Check these out, I think these videos are life transforming:

@Jude_ Agree. I'm thinking about learning transferable skills like marketing or public speaking while exploring my passions, because I don't really have a direction in my life and I want to remain open to various possibilities.

@universe I'm studying, and I don't have any income stream yet, but I have some money my parents gave me. I just wanted to know the resources that could teach me what I need to manage money the best way possible. I'm learning about investing, I also read Money: Master The Game by Tony Robbins and The Rich Man Of Babylon by George Clason, so maybe all these books I read are enough, but I don't know. The way Leo talked about money and mastering it made me think there is a whole world I just scratched the surface of. @Jude_ I didn't mean business resource only, but yeah, I 'd like to learn that practical knowledge of managing money which I think business people (for example) have. Thank you both!

@Jude_ I've already read Think And Grow Rich and Rich Dad Poor Dad too, but thanks as well. I'll try the other ones.

@Austin Actualizing @Average Investor Thank you guys!

@Deepak sadhwani @hyruga Thank you!

I've been doing energetic and psychological work for some time and I've been able to feel the chakras that tipically are referred to as the front chakras. Now I'm starting to feel the spine chakras. Is this a good sign of energetic/spiritual progress?

I'm experiencing something like that, but I'm healing from traumas. I've not recovered fully yet. I suspect it could be a root chakra issue. Check out info about the role of that chakra and how to heal it, both energetically and psychologically. Energetically, the best technique I found is visualizing the chakra being flooded by light/love/acceptance/God. Psychologically the best techniques I found are Inner Child Work, Parts Work (Gestalt), Somatic Experiencing.

@Matt8800 I'll give it a try and ask you this. Maybe it won't end as expected but let's do it anyway. Is there a way you could receive insights about my life purpose? I'm having a hard time finding my path in life and I'd like to know if you could do that (please don't tell me Leo has the Life Purpose course ahahah). If for some reason you can't do that, maybe because of a free will issue like you shouldn't tell me what choices I have to make, could you ask the divine what is the most important thing I need to know/learn to find my path? Like the most important step I need to make now to find my true calling.