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@Villager Albert Thank you, do you know the name of that gene?

@BlackMaze You're welcome! You can also use the Advanced Research button, and the Research By Author option.

I'm sorry to hear that, but dude, after things like this I'd hardly think about spiral dynamics and consciousness. Recover psychologically first. Rielaborate with someone helping. Process the feelings. Shake the tension off. This is mandatory. You're still triggered by the event. Then you can think about it in a conscious way.

@SamC In dating, courses are better than books. RSD (Real Social Dynamics) as various users reported, is one of the best groups of coaches in the dating scene. There are several RSD coaches: Todd (IMO one of the best because is analytical and shows you every step with detail and a high quality reasoning), Max, Owen/Tyler, Madison, Julien, Jeff, and I think there are others. Some of them have a lot of useful youtube videos. Leo recommends Owen/Tyler older videos (they're not on youtube anymore, so search them on google). On youtube you can also find these channels: The Natural Lifestyles Travel Bum Productions Sasha Daygame Austen Summers Other sources: Eben Pagan/David DeAngelo Mystery Method Mark Manson In the Dating, Relationships, Sexuality section of the forum a lot of useful advice has been given. Enough to satisfy all your questions, I suppose. If you want Leo's advice, you could use the Advanced Search and search for Leo's answers (Search By Author option).

@hookdump Yes, you're right. Better safe than sorry. Thank you.

@Superfluo @Applegarden Got it, thank you!

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Does anyone knows a great book/video/whatever that explains the cause, the effects and the relationships, both static and dynamic, of the chakras when you work on them? I've been experiencing some obstacles in opening them and I'd like to understand the behaviour that I observed. For example, can a chakra block other chakras? Can a chakra open when you open another chakra? In what ways a chakra closed by some event can be opened? How to know if a chakra is ready to be opened or if a chakra needs you to open another one first? How to overcome specific blockages? How can a closed chakra manifest physiologically, what are its related sensations? What is the best approach given a certain physical response when working on a chakra? I already read the book on the booklist about chakras and kundalini, but although the author gives a certain step process, I didn't find what I was looking for and actually chakras are not linear: you can open one of them but it can close again when you work on another one. I'm looking for a resource based on the physical feelings a chakra can express through. So, somatic descriptions mainly. Thank you.

@Michael569 Do you agree with @UDT 's view on phytonutrients?

@studentofthegame Great! Remember that every action is bidirectional (third newtonian law): for every movement there is a part/more parts of you that want to go in that direction and a part/more parts of you that don't want to go in that direction. And that the desire to change, in various degrees, is always a desire to escape something (it's not bad to escape per se, but be mindful of this, because it can interfere with healing). For example, I had plenty of times when I rushed the healing session to arrive at a point, without realizing this way of doing things was a waste of time: if you rush you're not unconditionally loving, and you don't heal. There's no better way to heal IMO, good job! However give yourself permission to enjoy social life (without bulldozing bulldozing yourself). Tip: use social interaction to test and map your healing journey, to see what needs to be dealt with and what you overcame. Great! Emotional vipassana is mindfulness for emotions/sensations, give it a try. I've been healing for 3 years now (talk therapy + emotion integration with various methods), and before that I used to introspect a lot every day, like at school, or in the free-time because it was a defense mechanism. Now I don't really know, I'm going forward on automatic pilot. I've not finished yet. But I had to deal with other priorities, so my journey has slowed down in the last months. I'm not so focused as in the beginning. Also, my capacity to visualize mentally has been impaired by my sixth chakra blocking it. The most powerful technique I found is the Completion Process by Teal Swan. It is a mix of emotional vipassana/IFS/inner child work/freudian psychotherapy/somathic experiencing (SE) geared towards all type of traumas. The second most powerful technique is parts work as described here. It requires less time than other methods and your subconscious does the work. However it requires a pretty high level of awareness of your fragmented parts. Now I'm exploring TRE (Trauma Release Exercises), they don't involve visualization, and they seem powerful, but like Shamanic Breathing, they require a lot of time. The most efficient system is to: First, dig out the things you want to deal with (emotions), using talk therapy, journaling, inner child work, visualization, NLP, shamanic breathing, EMDR, kriya yoga, using crystals, ecc. Second, integrate the emotions feeling them, using emotional vipassana, inner child work, TRE, parts work (gestalt), psychedelics, ecc. Fun fact: during night your subconscious tries to heal the emotions that you dig out during day. So you work even when you sleep (it's normal), but don't expect miracles. Tip: if you want to speed the process in a healthy way, try Teal Swan's paintings. I made a review of them in the Self-Help products review section.

@datamonster @UDT @Yarco Thanks!

@studentofthegame I'm not Matt but I definitely recommend inner child work and/or parts work (gestalt, two-chairs exercise). Healing occurs mentally and emotionally/physically. You have to feel deeply the emotion to integrate it. You have to stay with it. Be unconditionally present and loving, even when it hurts, because it's resistance that hurts, not the trauma. Talk therapy is very useful because it organizes and makes sense of events, but in the end it makes you aware. Nothing more. Then you have to feel fully the underlining emotions to heal, and talk therapy usually doesn't deal with this. So, sometimes you need to rielaborate mentally what happened, and talk therapy is the answer. Sometimes you need to elaborate somatically the emotions, and talk therapy is not powerful enough. I've tried a little bit of EMDR on my own, it seems promising. It seems that the eye movement makes traumas surface, so that you can deal with them physically, feeling them.

@_Archangel_ @Rolo @herghly @ShugendoRa @Thestarguitarist14 Thanks!

@Michael569 Mhm no, that's the basic nutritional support for the brain, he writes. A basic multivitamin to be in optimal vitamin range. He writes that you may have to take more capsules a day, but still, comparing those doses with those of a basic multivitamin and mineral from the supermarket, they seem too high.

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@datamonster Maybe you can start small, in your house. Being an example. Ripple effect like. Don't know. Going big is nearly impossibile as you said.

@Thestarguitarist14 Why outdated relationship paradigm? What do you mean? @mikelyons She has two types of videos: psychological/relational ones and spiritual ones. I think the former category is very advanced to really pinpoint psychological problems, unconscious patterns and traumas. Teal psychological content revolves around emotional recovery and stability through healing, feeling, nurturing, integrating. Not emotional mastery. Her videos also offer powerful frameworks taken from clinical psychology (see IFS, ego-state therapy, inner child work, gestalt therapy). Leo's videos are about logic, epistemology, the mechanics of mind, Truth. Her spiritual videos are a different form of spirituality than Leo's. She is more New Age oriented, while Leo is more metaphysically/philosophically oriented. She's a clairvoyant, Leo's a mystic. She's mostly sixth chakra, Leo's mostly seventh. In our work here, she prepares us, Leo guides us (simplified). She's a great example of divine feminine, Leo's a great example of divine masculine (I'm projecting a bit). Agree.

@aurum The spirit comes after survival. Once the system of survival functions optimally, you can introduce noble pursuits. Tech is a wonderful tool if used wisely, because it greatly amplifies our capacity of minimizing resource waste.

@Thewritersunion Oh my god, what a wonderful, stage yellow video. I feel this is the video I've always wanted to see. However it doesn't take into account human psyche, ego and devilry. But this could be overcome by proper education from the ground up, since childhood. Epistemological/philosophical/ethical/moral/relational education. The challenge for us is to shift from today economic system to a more systemic economic system. We'll arrive at that growing through the spiral dynamics ladder. If we try to insert systemic approaches, lower-consciousness styles of economics and politics will corrupt also that systemic parts introduced and could slow down the process, both pragmatically and in the mind of people.

Nope, you'll feel better and better on average, but you'll see the dreary lack of creativity/values/love/wisdom in society, people and basically everything that surrounds you because you'll be more sensitive to emotions, intuition and noble aims. So you'll have to be strong and grounded in your own principles and wisdom to not be swayed and feel like you are the wrong one. You'll have to deal with loneliness maybe. As a side note: if you are healing from a very dysfunctional home, and you still live with your parents, it will be extremely hard to heal fully. I'm not quite sure if you can heal completely still living with the same people that hurt you.

@Matt23 The rabbit hole awaits you... If you're serious, healing will become a journey, one of a kind. Brace yourself, a new path begins. When you'll be in deep waters, you'll realize there's hardly anything more valuable, noble or meaningful than healing/love/acceptance. You'll be tested. By yourself and by Universe/God/destiny/whatever. Don't give up. Remember, feelings are the key. You have to be brave to feel. Everything. Hope you'll find what you're looking for. (I'm being a bit overly dramatic ahahah, good luck)

@Matt23 Check out also "Healing The Shame That Binds You" by John Bradshaw, a stage yellow with peaks in turqoise book on trauma/shame. There's not a single page I haven't underlined. However it's a bit analytical, it doesn't cover fully how to navigate emotions, how to work with them. It's geared towards a mental/psychological work, not emotional/body work. Also "The Completion Process" and "Anatomy Of Loneliness" both by Teal Swan. Extremely powerful exercises that combine the best of several psychotheraputic/clinical approaches. The theory is not extensive, but they're some of the most impactful books I read on trauma recovery and IFS (I haven't read many books, I'm not an expert in the field, but I can sense that they are some of the best).

@Leo Gura Pretty much. People are becoming the parodies of theirselves. I bet some people even became average rich by selling courses/books/etc. on how to make money selling courses/books/etc. on how to make money

The reporter is too harsh in my opinion and distorts the meaning of what she says. She wants to create a dialogue, even if she's presenting herself with a victim mindset. A dialogue that could make interesting stuff appear. I see honesty in her words, and responsibility for creating harmony. However this attitude comes from her not seeing how people view her. She seems to not understand how poor people will react. And the reporter is missing that she is unaware of this, thus being IMO too far judgmental. Or maybe she is aware of the possibile reactions of poor people, but then she's not being wise. The problem is ridiculous, and I can see that it can be met with anger, shock or even hatred, but I still see a women suffering who wants to be understood. Even though she wants to be understood by the very people who will judge and blame her because of what she wants to be heard about. So a bit pointless.