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Top Notch books I've read: Teal Swan - The Completion Process (a little theory + powerful exercise) Teal Swan - Anatomy of Loneliness (in depth theory + exercises) John Bradshaw - Healing the Shame that Binds You (in depth theory + exercises) Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past - Peter A. Levine & Bessel A. Van Der Kolk, 2015 (examples + powerful exercise) Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving - Pete Walker, 2018 (in depth theory) Keep in mind these are not academic books, so the theory presented in them doesn't encompass everything from A to Z and with a lot of technical info. Check my other posts on the forum to gain further info about healing traumas. The best approach is a top down + bottom up approach. These are the best method I tried. Top down: talk therapy (classic psychotherapy), Journaling Bottom up: Somatic Experiencing/Somatic Psychotherapy, Trauma Release Exercises (TRE), Bioenergetics, Shamanic Breathing/Holotropic Breathwork, NLP, Parts Work, Yoga, Inner Child Work. If you want specific theories, go for Internal Family System (IFS), Gestalt Therapy, Inner Child Work, Common Defense Mechanisms, Ego-State theory (underlined the most practical and results-oriented).

I'm curious. These White and Yellow people have a name? A race name? Maybe, if you're interested, you could read some occult books, some stuff on aliens and extradimensional beings that claims to explain "alternative" versions of history.

@Leo Gura What about learning some skills like coding/digital marketing/copywriting/web development/etc. (the fancy ones) in order to achieve financial independence? Why do you think it is better/easier to find a low-capital business idea rather than learning marketable skills? (I'm deciding which skills I'm going to learn in order to achieve financial independence)

Some time ago I posted this: Since then I continued to think about my life purpose, and to contemplate how my mind functions and what are my passions. And some minutes ago I think I cleared some doubts about what I wrote in the old post. It seems to me that my life purpose is along the lines of: "Talking about and explaining the relationships and dynamics of systems, their counter-intuitive behaviours and how to manage them". For systems I mean pretty much every system: mind, body, politics, nations, organizations, societies, internet, reasonings, processes, actions, events, relationships, etc. My mind functions in a logical, mathematical way, often in a non-linear fashion. The former life purpose I came up with was talking about personal development, philosophy, metaphysics, epistemology, psychology, business, etc. at school as a math teacher. Then I started to question why I liked the idea of doing that, and I understood that I like to translate how I understand and make sense of the world to other people (hence my other desire to do art). Hey, I could even transform it into art. I like all the stuff @Leo Gura puts out, but I personally feel that when he doesn't interconnect the topic of the videos with all the facets of human affairs, there's something missing. It doesn't feel complete to me. I don't think I've finished questioning, but I feel this new purpose is more authentic, more mature, more flexible and more true to me. Or at least I feel so. Now it makes sense why I feel so attracted to various stuff like math, internet, all kinds of psychology, all kinds of philosophy, medical sciences, physics, etc. But I'm also adequately good at it, not excellent. I'm basically relying only on talent with this new purpose. And I don't really know how to make a vast impact with that. I don't know who would need this skill. Do you have any advice on how to market this skill? Do you know which field could be related to that? Any tip, suggestion, idea?

@Poop If something begins, it has an end

Don't know how often. You can find them in the forum

@amenX @Rilles @Thewritersunion @JosephKnecht @SonataAllegro @mmKay There's also the Actualized.org Textbook and the Video Summary thread if you want

@amenX @Rilles @Thewritersunion @JosephKnecht @SonataAllegro @mmKay The issue has been brought up many times in the forum, but I don't know what Leo thinks about this

@seeking_brilliance Thank you.

Smells like dogma (joking).

@Yarco Thanks for the input. @Kailash Bhattarai Thank you.

@Kailash Bhattarai What's your business about? Just curious.

@Space @Username Thank you!

Hi there. I'd like to improve my fashion. I'm very much clueless about matching clothing , style in general, trends, principles, etc. I'd like some advice, and to learn the principles and ideas behind fashion. What are you're favourite styles? Which are the best big stores to buy clothes? How do I choose a style?

@UDT @PursuitofLight Thank you

I've seen several times this ratio. Is there an optimal ratio for health? What ratios are unhealthy and why? How can I choose the right ratio?

@Leo Gura Which do you think are low-capital bizs?

Hi there! For most of my life I've been living in one city, since I was born. For most of my life I've been around the same people I grew up with (generally speaking). But now I'm opening my eyes to new possibilities, like moving to a different city, take a certain job just to explore, travel to a new place or country solo, forming new friendships and relationships, embracing other souls with the glance of your deepest love. But in this moment I'm feeling angst because there are so many choices I could make. There is a whole world to explore, and I'm afraid of exploring it because I know I and it won't reach an end, and I could loose time, money and relationships if I explore as I'd like. For most of my life I've been mostly in my head, and now I feel ready to be more grounded, more down to earth, more in touch with reality. And sometimes it feels too much. How do you choose where to live, given that there could be millions of places that could be your next home? These thoughts apply also to other areas of life. How do you savor new places and experiences? How do you find your partner? What if, in the middle of your career, you have to change everything just to experience a little more of this world, and you lose everything? How do you know when you found your home, your place? Online I see people doing all sort of things, I see all sorts of passions, all sorts of activities, all sort of relationships, all sorts of job, all sorts of ideas, and I feel overwhelmed by how many things there are out there, and how little time I have to decide the direction of my life. Then I think: "What if you couldn't ever find what you seek anyway?" Then I would settle, or I would make a logical choice to maximize the benefits. But this answer doesn't satisfy me, and is not based on emotions and love and intuition. These videos that came to my mind express really well this feeling (short videos): How do you deal with this existential challenge? Any advice or personal anecdote or whatever is appreciated.

You don't know that for sure. Until you tried all the possible ways to discard a theory or a position, you can't know for sure that's bs. It may seem too outlandish to you, but that's just a common unconscious defense people adopt to dismiss something too far-fetched for their level of knowledge and experience. It may be true or maybe not. This leads to this issue: Maybe all that stuff you perceive as bs can become a self-actualizing tool because in your seeking of whether that stuff is true or not you open your mind. Then, if that reveals itself to be true, maybe it can open new doors to self-transcendence, to truth. You may discover new practices to elevate your consciousness. Maybe you casually find an extra-dimensional being that gives you a RASA for free

That's what I'm planning to do too

@Byun Sean Thanks. Do you know some good channels worth noting? @aurum Thanks, sometimes I forget the basics.

@Toimur H Sir, I have to say that this is a wonderfully written advice. Nicely schematized and incisive but still vastly enough encompassing.

@cuteguy @Nahm I've been there, I know how sneaky we can be. But I also know that this isn't his case. He's more loving than I am as I see from his post. Mine was not aimed to undermine his love, but to point out traps that everyone can fall into. Like a friendly reminder.

@Mikael89 That's wonderful, but only if your decision of letting people suck your love for their only benefit comes from a place of conscious decision and not from a place of dysfunctional abandoning yourself. Otherwise it's not love, it's an unhealthy reenactment of a dysfunctional relationship behaviour that's not based on unconditional love

@Shin @cuteguy Guys, thanks for the support, but my question was not a personal one. I was questioning the nature and inner mechanics of Goodness.