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@Knowledge Hoarder I said what I felt like personally. I wasn't stating a fact. Notice the word "feels" in the title. If you seek truth, manipulating, and playing the game of the world can certainly "feel" like a backward step. Maybe leo can do both at his level of understanding but its certainly conflicting for me at this stage of my life. Its like having each leg on a different boat,

@Leo Gura You are very likely misinterpreting my words. It's not creepy at all. Its creepy infact, when I am seeking pleasure from a sense of lack. It only escalates my pain and I only want to use the other person to fill the void. That's what's creepy!

I recently watched Leo's episode on how to get laid and while I get the gist of what he is saying, I just couldn't wrap my head around the idea of pursuing sex like that. Ultimately, leo was highlighting the importance of inner work and becoming more self-aware as a result of which, one will naturally become attractive. And I agree with that. People in general are naturally drawn to me when I am genuinely happy. But one other thing that happens whenever I am that conscious is that I do not want to pursue sex, or go to a party and talk to a girl just because she looks hot. I'd rather write a poem when I am like that or shower unconditional love on anyone that is around. Edit: My point is that if, ultimately, "truth" is what is making you attractive and if at the end, self-awareness is going to give you the kind of relationship filled with deep love and intimacy, why not prioritize truth directly (if you can), rather than spending 5-10 years jumping from one 5/10 relationship to another? Makes sense?

Some stuff about me ? I am a seriously introverted guy. I don't go out much and even when I do, I go alone. Right now I am focused on my career and spend some of my day doing consciousness work. I am not engaged in any socialization whatsoever and I am 21. I have never been in any relationships or ever had sex. A lot of people have advised me to try going out with girls, because, as they told me, its important to learn about these things at my age and to really understand the mechanisms of girl/boy bonds and I am at the appropriate age according to them. But I don't buy that. I don't really feel the need for any human being. I already feel like I am satisfied alone. It just doesn't occur to me.

@Armik That's Me right there..!! ☺ Boy I often wonder how similar we all are from inside.

@Zane Thanks Zane. It really helped. I've read some of your other comments on different posts and they really resonated with me.

What, according to you, are some characteristics of a Well-Lived life? @Leo Gura

@Leo Gura But don't you think as one grows as a person, the things that he care about also changes. So what if someone values to be the best swimmer in the world and has been practicing for years but somewhere along the way, as he matures, he starts valuing living a life of service and his dreams start appearing rather selfish to him. Now in his mature psyche, the idea to be the best and win gold medals feels childish. So he is not motivated to work that hard anymore. So would it not be a better strategy to find a new source of motivation (regarding swimming ) which is aligned with the new mature psyche rather than quit swimming altogether and find other career more suitable to the new values?

This question has intrigued me often. Let's say that you hate football. But that hate usually comes from a negative judgment you have made about it. So even the anticipation of playing football feels repulsive to you. But what if you choose to play football regardless and confront the bad feelings. Soon by repeating the activity, your past beliefs about it will start to change and you might begin to enjoy it. Now you judge it in a positive way. This makes you incline towards it and makes you practice it even more and this further improves your skill which gains you appreciation. This turns into a positive feedback loop which makes you feel really passionate about football. Now you think it is your calling. But is it? Using the principles of Mastery, I think we can certainly be passionate about anything. I think what most people fail to see is that passion comes afterward. First, we have to build a certain momentum through discipline because at the start it feels like shit. After enduring these things, the forces in us begin to align towards that particular aim and we feel more and more motivated. If this is right, then how can we use our present inclinations to decide our calling? What if, currently, we are negatively biased against a certain activity but could end up very passionate about it if we go that road.

@Scholar I think math is just our linguistic projection on the raw reality. Its designed in a way to avoid any ambiguities in quantitatively describing the world we live in. We only follow a very narrow rational path which ensures least possibility of any discrepancies so that we don't fool ourselves along the way in trying to tell our story about the reality. We keep our facts aligned with reality. This is why our descriptions seem accurate. We are not revealing the truth, we are merely describing it. Its like if I say the sun rises in the east is accurate and start wondering how we became so accurate in our understanding of that truth. But if you look closer sun rising in the east is just a description of the way things already are. No wonder its accurate. We see reality then try to make a story about it using our language. We label every aspect of reality then connect those labels. Then we use reality again to confirm our story, if it works we say we understand the reality, if it doesn't we change our story.

I have seen many examples of people now that are following this pattern. Heres how it goes:: Someone is confused about his life and things are not going the way he intends. So he starts doing personal development, reading self help books and watching videos like Leo's. Soon he is well informed on topics like these and start giving life advices to his friends & peers. This gains him some sort of appreciation which he enjoys. Now since he lacked any form of purpose previously and was not good at much, he plans to do something with the knowledge he has gained in the self help field. Perhaps become a self help coach or a consciousness teacher. His intention is backed by a belief that enlightenment is the most important thing and any career that doesn't revolve around it or neglect it in some way is not good for him.

@Dan Arnautu But How Can I predict right now whether I can be among the best? Right now I am even less than average. There is nothing in me right now that I can point towards as an indicator of this much success in this field. I don't know whether I can be among the best. But I am willing to try. And my willingness is all I got. I don't have any past accolades to tell me that. @JKG Thank You Mate. It helped. @Ritu Thanks. I appreciate that.

I am a 21-year-old guy and I don't know much of science and math but I am willing to go this road and sacrifice my next 10 years honing these skills. and become a physicist. I have not known to be good at these subjects in the past as I never really studied them seriously. I used to suck at math at school and I have had a very poor education. I never read a book in school. Studying repelled me and I still face past fears when I try to study a topic I was afraid of back then. I am trying to master the basics of these subjects currently. Things that they taught way back in early school years. What I often wonder though that is it a bad strategy? Should I rather spend my time mastering something that I am already a bit good at? Because I really don't know much of science and math and given the age factor, it sometimes makes me doubt my path. I had to overcome a lot of emotional blocks because I never really saw myself as a book person. The age factor makes stuff unmanageable. I just started and I don't even remember the math they taught at school and I am currently in college where they teach advanced calculus. You can imagine the dilemma I face. Every time I see those calculus books I am reminded of how bad I am at this. It makes things harder for me. I like solving problems and the kick one gets from it but the constant reminder of my inferiority makes me wonder whether I have come the right way.

Here is mine : One day while I was running in my college campus early in the morning I heard some strange noises. I suddenly became very alert because it sounded like some strange animal. My heart started beating faster but I kept running. I meditated just before that so I was very calm. Suddenly from nowhere a wild dog came rushing towards me grunting and barking. I was afraid but I wasn't able to identify with my fear completely because of the after effects of meditation. I didn't feel like freaking out and I didn't really want to. In my minds eye I could see that just in few moments I am gonna feel a lot of pain and I surrendered to that future completely. I was ready to get bitten by that dog. I closed my eyes and allowed things to manifest as they wanted. I could hear the dog approaching near but then suddenly he stopped, stayed there a bit and went away. It was as if he just wanted me to surrender. What's the bravest thing you have ever done?

Hotness is an opinion, a filter which most people today tend to see through. Animals don't even have mirrors to see what they look like. Sexiness, hotness are just deep beliefs rooted at the heart of the pop culture. In animal kingdom if you are healthy and of high status then you are hot.