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P. D. for role models go for real people 100%, for real. Fictional fantasy land movie characters are so misleading.

Modeling fictional characters is really detrimental imo. It gives you a false image of what a quality human being looks like and is pretty big on " Wanting to look cool , wanting to be special, wanting to be perfect, wanting to be smoothx" , besides many other things. Ofc you may get some insights from them as well. There is a cool exercise in shadow work that helps to understand yourself better : What fictional character do you identify yourself as? Why exactly? I thought of myself as the Avatar, the little kid that was the special snowflake, the unique guy. I thought of myself as Naruto, the special guy with the inimaginable powers, bad with girls, socially inept, etc. These subconscious characters somewhat hold you back from evolving and also give you insight into your egoic desires, etc. Pin down as who do you identify yourself with and why. If you want, or just cosplay mrbean?

@Enlightenment go f*ck 20 clean hookers untill you desensitize touching women

Guys lately ive been playing around with perspective trying to get my good side popping up for that tinder profile. Constructive criticism is appreciated

Idk what kind of anwser are you expecting. You are being needy and you know it. The cure for that is get way more experience with girls overall. Suck it up and go for next. The other thing you may do , that I think is what you want to hear, is getting out of the friendzone and burning the boat by excalating and trying to fuck her. For her to love you you gotta risk her hating you. In short, stop being her friend by negating her attention / validation, make her see you hanging out and having fun with other girls. After you haven't talked for a long time, when you meet up it would be somewhat of a fresh start where you can spark attraction. Plan on escalating on her, get the logistics right. And make the move. Either lovers or not even friends. If she rejects you deal with it. At least you are being honest with yourself and with her. Research getting out of the friendzone, it's a whole technical process. But I highly doubt you will pull out any of this. Most likely you will suffer and salivate a lot over her untill she finds a boyfriend and you feel more hurt. The sooner you move on the better.

https://www.change.org/p/everyone-stop-gender-reveal-parties Read the description lol. " A single-passenger plane crashed after dumping 350 gallons of pink water; a Texas man used his pet alligator to announce baby's gender by placing a watermelon filled with blue jelly in it's mouth, causing a perilous stir and questions about animal abuse. . . " What's next? Injecting pink ink into your testicles and j^zz^ng at your guests? Ugh nevermind that.

@Preety_India what if I say these things but I'm standing up instead of sitting ? does your thesis about limiting beliefs still work the same? Just kidding. Yeah, limiting beliefs go really , really, REALLY deep. Un-inquired assumptions about how the world works are the number one reason for self-righteousness. Then again, self-righteousness is exactly what blocks a noob from inquiring and deconstructing his belief system. Delicious strange loop right there. If someone reading this decides to do the deconstruction thing, take it slow. Shit falls apart really fast and it gets way worse before it gets better.

It is usefull to remember that " an approach " is a concept. and " to be rejected " is another concept. When you walk into a shop and ask the guy who works there where the pasta is, is that an approach? If that guy was a girl, would it be an approach then ? if you had mistaken a random girl at the store for an employee, and you asked her where the pasta was, is that an approach? The anwser is yes, these are " approaches " , but ONLY if you consider them to be. If the store clerk tells you they are out of pasta, is that an rejection? If the store clerk turns out to be a girl, and she tells you they are out of pasta, is that an rejection? if the girl doesn't stop to talk to you because she's speeding to the bus, or going home to her boyfriend, is that a rejection? Well, yes! But only if you consider them to be. So if your insider " incel " guy says he has done 100+ approaches, he means " one hundred " of what he considers to be approaches. This may be saying hi to a girl and she doesnt aknowledge him because she's wearing earphones, and he takes that both an approach and rejection. Or he walks up to a girl, asks for her number straight up, she says nope and he takes that for an approach and a rejection. What I'm trying to say, is that these are all just concepts, and lumping every "approach" and every " rejection " together into the same bag gives the wrong idea of him having done way more work than he has done. Asking a girl for the time and walking away could be an approach. Hard stopping a girl and saying she seems hot and you'd like to get to know her and having an instant date with her is an approach as well. It's not all about black pill. It's because of the slowly collective evolution of society from blue to orange / green that has made dating for men not as extremely easy and biased as it used to. If you are familiar with spyral dynamics, consider this: Not long ago many countries transitioned from being completely blue into orange and beyond. What does sexuallity look like at blue? Parents hooking you up with some boi or girl, marriage being huge, women having not rights without a man by their side, whether their brother or father or husband, raising a family being a huge value, etc,etc. Look up , for example, Muslim countries. Do you see how easier it was to get laid as a man there ?! Now combine this: Easily available birth controll, freedom of choice and abundance in dating ( allowing women to choose, obviously the better guy in the sexual marketplace ) , men locking themselves up in their mancave plugged into Videogames, false sense of socializing from social media, false sex from p0rn and many other modern day comforts that make your survival EASY . Thats a recipe for " incel " You could literally work online, get paid online, shop through amazon , have your food delivered and play videogames all day.

Gotta love all of those abstract generalizations and finger pointing. Not a single concrete thing was said LOL

Uhh, I don't know if that's gonna do anything. You can make your phone not pick up the signal but it's still there being sent from the router? And also, if you go to your phone wifi options, you most likely will see like 25 more closeby wifi signals being picked up, not as you had the only router in the whole city X D

LOL this sentence

At first I was hoping for Alex Grey instead lol iykyk

Green salt bizz.

@28 cm unbuffed Good luck, but what the vibe I get from you is that you will have to suffer way more for way longer to finally crack up and transcend the "nihilism problem". I just wanted to put in your awareness that it is possible to live through an entire life, all 80+ years, without handling this issue, simply by not dealing with it directly, avoiding looking inward and distracting yourself with other aspects of life. Not adressing the issue is one way. You will be dragging it for the rest of your days but it is a way.

@28 cm unbuffed you will not escape this feeling of nihilism until you shift your driving motivation from being logic / rationallity to FEELING. You feel "nilihistic" because the vast majority of humanity is wired to be hyper-logical and expect logical rational anwsers to the purpose and meaning of life. You expect a goal, an archivement or an experience to fulfill you and make you happy. You feel that you have to do x y z because it will give you a reward, and the reward is suposed to be meaningful and fulfilling to you. Vast majority of humanity is autistic in that sense. And I do not use this term in a pejorative way. It's simply the perfect description of that hyper-logical condition. Or at least it seems to be the perfect description of the condition from the other end, once you shift to Feeling over Thinking and analyzing. Check my old posts if you want a more in depth explanation. I went over this like a dozen of times already.

I think now I understand him better. He found himself the oportunity to milk spreading conspiracy by getting product sponsors on popular click-baity videos. I'd pin him at unhealthy orange with a green shadow.

yea i got bamboozled

@Rilles i think you posted wrong link

Im a bit confused about what is ment by awakening. I understand it has to be experienced because words will never do the trick, but I hold in my mind that awakening simply is a the same as an insight, just a deeper insight into a facet of the nature of reallity. Awakening = profound insight into reallity. Yes or no?

Google your question?

Watch many of leo's episodes about ego so that you understand it from multiple angles. Basically, "ego" is that groundless sense of self that everyone has. It's that " I " , " Me " . But most importantly, it's a STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS. You don't know what ego is because you never stepped outside of this one state of consciousness, besides sleep or lucid dreaming perhaps. That's why people talk about samadhi, or "everything being one" etc. Because EGO is a " contracted" state of self. A samadhi experience would merge that sense of self with your whole field of experience, and you would " indentify yourself " with that whole bubble. You would become thewhole room, per se. There is much more to it.

If you have been a year or more into meditation it's common to experience a phase of numbness leading you into a dark night of the soul. If you want to experience emotions, for me what allways work for example , listening to some beautifull singing, alcapella or even busking on the street, some animal rescue videos or some pictures of beautifull women make me emotional as well. Oh also, there is no way I watch a David dobriks vlog without smiling all along the video. different people feel emotional in different situations, but there are overarching themes as we are all suposed to be coming from the same species lol. So that would be Alturism, colaboration, laughter, approval from big crowds, etc.

So I wanted to share this Insight I had a while ago about the existential nature of the self / other and the sentient / inert duallity. Not long before this, I had a short Samadhi experience while doing some neti-neti and focusing on Actuallity meditation. I'm saying this because I applied the "Mu" insight while talking with a co-worker face to face. That day I had been pondering: what does it mean that something is alive? How is it possible for something to exist and be " dead, inert, not sentient " ? This notion felt so absurd. So I was chatting with, lets call him Paul, and as I was directly looking at his face, eyes, mouth moving, etc, I asked myself " how can I be sure of him being "alive", just like " I am " in my direct experience? What I saw was his mouth moving, making sounds, facial expressions, etc while I was PROJECTING on him the idea of " human being, alive, sentient, not inert and different from a rock " . This kind of freaked me out for a while. I felt as if he was a robot, as in ", just moving but no person inside ". I asked myself " what's the difference between him and a rock?? And I could't find a proof of him being more alive than a rock is, the only difference being that I was projecting that he is "alive" and that "he" displays more intelligence and movement. I imagined him being made of stone, but a kind of stone that is intelligent, could move, had a girlfriend, could comunicate, and looks and feels like flesh. WOW. IT'S THE SAME!! I thought " oh god, I'm fucked " . I knew I won't be able to shake this off. And that's how the dead / alive and inert / sentient conceptual duallity colapsed in my mind. Since then, I don't look at others the same way. Anyways, Paul is a cool guy. No idea what he was saying though LOL. TLDR : Others = Mu. Rocks = Mu. The only difference is that I project one is alive, human, sentient and rocks are not intelligent, not alive, etc. wtf. Is this what Leo means with "others" being imaginery? Edit : yes, nevertheless I'm still nice to people

I'd get it over spotify. what for , if you can play music from youtube with your phone screen off ?!

I didn't know. It was one of these uninquired unconscious assumptions I had. That " others " are real. Then I wanted to know , how can I know if they are real? Therefore looking for a " proof " , but as I said, I found none.