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Uhhh there is no way around it. It's a slow process and I struggle with making decisions, taking action , staying motivated and investing cash. For tomorrow: fix floor carpet, window covers, plan installing 24 v converter

I've spent about 2 hours researching fridges, Air conditioning and the principles of thermodynamics lol I'll take that as indirect progress. Vanlife teaches you lots of cool stuff. Mechanics, woodwork, plumbing, electric work, design, etc. Too bad I'm not very passionate about these things. It's interesting nevertheless but sometimes it really makes me feel like a loser for not being competent in these domains and struggling with the most basic stuff. I try not to take it personal whenever I notice myself having these boderline intrusive thoughts .

Actually I just came up with a potentially straightforward innovative idea for generating leads . I don't want to share it yet or hype it up too much before I've tested it a good ammount. Posting this here so I don't forget . Goal for tomorrow ⭕ Test secret lead generating method. Keep progressing in coaching sales and marketing course. Keep reading 100M offers.

Jesus this project is the most I've struggled with something ever. I tested some diy mosquito net blinders as window covers and tried to fix the floor holes in did for the under floor fans I did last time but Idk how to fix it yet. I'll edit this in a moment as I come with a game plan

I did not get into the sales process this call as something urgent and emotionally challenging came up in the moment to her. I'll do it next week. She did say that I've helped her more with our two sessions than a year and a half of therapy, which is something i've actually heard before What's next? 🔲 Polish up my offer and get a rough plan for a sales pitch. Reading 100M offers by Alex Hormozi. The coaching course I'm doing doesn't provide that much solid structure .

Quick post to get the ball rolling. I seriously need to make use of the public journals for accountability. Reviving this thread, time for version 2.0 This is how last version looked like. I lived and travelled in it for 5 months and I saw many things that I didn't like or that were missing. It was okay for a first try but I want to change some things now. It's empty now, I removed all the furniture . Every single day before sleep I will set goals for the next day and update with the days progress. 🔲 Minimal goal for tomorrow : make window covers out of the Pleated blinds from Ikea. 🔲 Next step : design the bed and plan whats needed to make it real.

womens nature is caring and nurturing

testing this stuff almost 80€ for a bottle I better feel a difference one month from here lol I'll start ALA soon. I'll try microscooping the doses even though it's not avised by ACC group. I think it should be more acurrate actually than DIY capsules actually this brand doesnt have colloidal silver as an aditional ingredient and the average particle size of zeolite is aparently 1.7 nm instead of 30nm ( ACZ ) or 20-100 nm ( coseva )

dont touch that sh1t I've spent close to 20k hours on it

What's your take on why is this the case? PUA theory teaches you to be initally almost verbally and emotionally abusive if a girl is extremely hot, otherwise you wont even get on her radar or she will you give that hot girl blaze stare blank and ignore you or give you nothing to work with. If you borderline offend her, that way she can gets reactive, she gives you shit tests that you can pass, etc. It gets you the foot in the door ( I do not aproove of this method ) I think the jist of it is that they want the validation and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with such a person

I'd definitely stay away from strongly mind altering substances at a young age. Using them for healing or instrospection is good but when you start getting in those whacky realms it can seriously destabilize your human life for good pretty quickly. And salvia is one of those substances that can literally traumatize you for life. Trascending ego experiences before properly developing and healing the ego can cause severe backlash and hinder your growth and development. This is not emphasized enough in spiritual comunnities. Healing - > developing - > trascending thats the order of Ego work

the experience of time is subjective. We only assume it's a shared experience. The more novelty you experience the slower time goes by. also tough emotional times stretch time out. if your life is the same every day time will fly by

@Leo GuraI didn't mean that its your blindspot. What I was refering as blindspot is the fact that if right wing christans, as their main mental model of making sense of the world , demonize and dismiss other peoples worldvies as crazy or delusional , it disregards other perspectives so deeply that by definition they can not even have the cognitive skills needed to " hide their masterplan" , because that would requiere the mental skill of taking in consideration other people's perspectives. If they had the skills to take in consideration other people's perspective, they most likely woudn't be right wing christian nutcases. This is what I was trying to say. It's a catch 22 . The ability to "hide a masterplan" requires the ability of considering how others might perceive it. Which they don't have becuase they are ideological nutcases. And if they had the skill of taking in consideration other POV's , they probably wouldn't be ideological nutcases. The solution to the problem is inherently prevented by the nature of the problem itself. ofc minds and humans are way more complex and there are exceptions but this is what I was trying to point out

Just being present and not using your mind for introspection and contemplation will turn y'all into Feral Buddhist Critters

Well why would right-wing Christians hide their masterpiece? They literally belive its a beautiful vision and of that its wonderful for Americans. That blindspot is the real actual cognitive cost of demonizing people instead of respecting and aknowledgeing other POV's. If other people are demons you don't regard their perspective as valid and yours is the word of God, other people are "deluded or crazy", therefore you have your head up your own ass and have no idea how you come across and how disconected you are from other perspectives. They truly belive they are doing good, so why would they hide it ? Strategizing about " hiding their true colors " would requiere the right-wing Christian mind to be able to play chess, but it can just barely be played by that level of cognitive development and thats why they are right-wing Christians

you americans with your 2am closing time and 24 hour diners make me jellous of the amazing logistics. we only have some 24 hour food in ibiza or madrid really and clubbing just starts at 2am. its normal to stay up until sunrise and have churros at 8AM

In spain some many clubs close at 6 - 7AM. Just wake up early and go to the club first thing in the morning 😉

@Evelyna yes, you can inquire all emotions to find out what beliefs are they attached to just being present allows you to notice and feel. It doesnt adress the root causes, and if thats your main tool, you will keep experiencing these negative emotions over and over .If you have trauma, fears, phobias , etc, being present will only do so much. In practice, you can be present and still get triggered inmensely. This is not theory, you can see this for yourself. Also being fully present during challenging emotional situations is unrealistic. Some emotions are so strong they will sweep you off of your feet and leave you curled into a ball. This is the Personal Development subforum and there is too much woo-woo in this thread, no offense

@Evelyna yes, i just explained it above " If you have a belief that people owe you respect, and then someone disrespects you, you will consistently feel triggered throughout your entire life. If you find out you hold that belief, and then reframe it to " no one owes me respect ( with the proper justifications and taking in consideration all objections our mind may come up with ) " , you won't be triggered that much or not at all. " This is one of the core pillars of emotional intellgence i just dont understand what do you mean with

That doesnt fly in the real world. If you have some fears, fobias, traumas, just being present with it is not enough. If it only was that simple humanity would be way saner and functional than it is. If you are present with fear and anger, you will feel fear and anger. It's one step above repressing it. It allows you to feel them and possibly let them go, which is not a garantee. It's just the beggining. Through introspection and contemplation you get to the root causes that generate those issues, solving the problem from the very root. The more core and essential the situation and beliefs are to your survival ( whether social, physical, or of your identity and beliefs ) the stronger the emotional reactions will be Saying you will become non-reactive to emotional responses by simply being present is a long stretch. You will be stuck at the level of feeling the negative emotions and suffering to release them for the rest of your life, when If you understand your subconscious, you can stop the emotions from appearing in the first place Anger specifically orignates from feeling hurt in some way. because someone crossed your bondaries, doesnt respect you, doesnt take you in consideration, isn't interested in your wellbeing... etc. It's helpful in that it coerces you to impose yourself on whoever is making you feel hurt. It's a survival mechanism to look out for your own interest

@James123 What buddhist talk gets right is to be present and feel your emotions. If you resist them , you will suffer. You are your emotions, but also, you aren't your emotions, you're the observer. The no-mind bias against " thinking " holds people back from introspection and understanding what triggers those emotions inside of them. If you have a belief that people owe you respect, and then someone disrespects you, you will consistently feel triggered throughout your entire life. If you find out you hold that belief, and then reframe it to " no one owes me respect, and some people are just lost in their own problems" , you won't be triggered that much or not at all. So in that sense, you can definitely control your emotions, but indirectly, which is the way to go. And that is emotional intelligence, together with recognizing and understanding all the nuances of how different feelings feel. Calling it an illusion is spiritual bypassing, just like saying " well your dog is my dog because possesion doesnt exist so ill take him with me. Absolute Truth is different from relative truths. Just being present and not using your mind for introspection and contemplation will turn y'all into Feral Buddhist Critters So to anwser again OP's question, meditation is good but it will only get you so far

I don't recommend that perspective because identifying yourself with your emotions is counter productive. Yes, definitely dont try to micromanage and obsesively controll your emotions, fully feel and experience them without judgement, but don't make it personal by identifying yourself with them . " understanding the totallity of consciousness without analysys " is not a good strategy to develop emotional intelligence. It requieres deep understanding of your identity and beliefs. Rather than I'm angry ( or I am anger , " I'm not different from anger " in the case of that speaker ) , i'd go with " I'm experiencing anger, or anger is happening ", or a belief of mine about this specific situation is triggering anger in my body " if you want to be more elaborate. It gives you a healthy distance . You control your emotions by understanding and reframing the beliefs that trigger them, sometimes very subconscious beliefs about your sense of self, how the world should or shouldnt be, what is right or wrong, how people should or shouldn't behave, etc .

@Joshe " Meditation " helps you to become aware of your thoughts and behaviours , it's only the first step . Meditation = observing without judging. If you cant even notice your thought patterns, good luck changing them. There are dozens of different meditation techniques depending of what you're doing it for . It also can slightly increase your baseline of consciousness so that you can notice your emotions during your day to day life, not just the thoughts, and then you know where to look to understand your beliefs ( being triggered points at subconscious beliefs ) Then you need a journaling, introspection and contemplation habit, for exploring your beliefs and subconscious mind. You don't need to wait for them to appear, you can actively seek them out with the right questions. "What am I truly afraid of here?" When facing resistance to change "How is this serving me?" When stuck in negative patterns "What am I avoiding?" When procrastinating etc Thats for for pulling out the weeds. If you want to plant new beliefs it's a whole different game, which is what Leo's course will be about. Reprogramming your subconscious mind requieres consistent reminders , habits, mantras, visualization, identity change, etc. If you elaborate more on how exactly do you want to " permantly change your mind " I may provide more perspective cheers

@UpperMaster The bottom line is that when you find yourself in certain situations, you suddenly feel certain negative emotions ( or a lack of positive emotions ), and to get rid of them, you feel the urge to take certain actions, in your case speaking and oversharing . This is seemingly against your own benefit, at least logically, but in actuallity oversharing is benefitial from your emotional POV, because it provides relief from those certain emotions that you are trying to get rid of when the get triggered , probably guilt, regret, and a cocktail of other emotions. Practice observing the sequence: trigger ( interacting with people ) → emotion ( guilt , regret ) → urge to overshare ( for relief ) → action. ( oversharing ) This is just an example, since you haven't provided much detail this is as accurate as I can get. See how it applies to your case Have you ever had other OCD tendencies or is this the first time you experience something like this ? Let me know if this resonates with you. Feel free to send me a PM to get more detailed ( up to you )