Radu97

@Sugarcoat yeah be careful how you get your psychedelics. Me as well got scammed really bad when I tried to get some shrooms. Lost 850£ in the process. Was naive and stupid. But you learn from this shit! ?

I live in London as well. I have a decent salary here and can even save around 900£/month and still live alone. But in order for me to save I have to live "cheaply" in a way not spending too much. Just spend on rent, food, training martial arts in my free time and sometimes going out. Other then that not much. Everything got so much more expensive lately from food to electricity, transportation in the city. Even my flight back home to Romania...last year I went on vacation and paid 100£ for the flight including 20 kg luggage...now I paid for the same flight 250€ ? We have to adapt and keep moving forward, find solutions. I'm not the type of person to complain about this situation but these are the times this generation lives in and we have to find solutions to move forward.

Waiter in 2 Michelin star restaurant in London. It's good money but the long hours are getting a toll on my mental health and will quit for sure this year and go back to my home country. Being alone in a foreign country is extremely hard especially emotionally and mentally.

This has become the problem. Because of this grind I basically lost my purpose and don't know why I 'm even working in the first place. I booked a 2 week holiday and I'm going back to my home country in april to stay and think and get some time off with my family for easter. I was even thinking of changing departments to learn something else. But that would mean taking a paycut. Also what makes me go on this downward spiral is the loneliness I have here. While I used to train bjj at my gym at least I had some people to talk to and change a few words. But now due to being exhausted I have no motivation to go and train. I just sit home and do nothing or at least talk with my family. Every morning when I wake up I feel like a train hit me and basically my initiative to go out and live life is almost non existent.

Hi guys! I wanted to share with you my journey for the past 2 years of what I wanted to do with my career and how it turned out to not be what I wanted this leading to a lack of inspiration and motivation for me. Long story short I work in hospitality, in michelin star restaurants. I did a 1 year total internship in Spain during university and during the 2020 pandemic I finished my BA. In 2021 august I left my home country for the second time alone in London this time. I started very strong. All gas no breaks as they say. I was working hard, training bjj on my days off, lifting weights, visiting London, going to football games and even got a promotion in the first 6 months. As this may sound and look good at first after a few months after december I started to feel burnt out. Working 12-13 hour shift with 5-6 hours sleep in between shifts. With the promotion I got more money but it came with more hours worked. I work an average of 55-60 hours a week and also commuting for 45 mins each way. During working here I was also treated as a door mat a lot of the times. The managers saw that I am pushing and doing a very good job therefore I was the only one being asked to do favours like stay some OT or can you come earlier today at work the manager texting me at 7:30 am before that working 13 hours the day before. Don't know how I ended up here but I ended up just working and getting home absolutely dead tired. On my off days I have no motivation to go and workout or go to a bjj class. I ended up abusing weed smoking almost everyday. I stay home as well all day doing nothing because I am just to dead tired from these long shifts. The upside is that I am able to save some money but at what cost? My sleep is almost non existent (I put my alarm at 9:30 am and wake up at 7 and can't go back to sleep this while going to sleep at 2 am), I am losing a lot of weight because my appetite is very low I bearly eat anything all day. I feel very stuck and don't know what to do. My first decision would be to just quit and go back to my home country. But I don't know if I will regret this decision. I really don't know what to do and feel stuck. What do you guys suggest? Because by every week passed I just don't want more and more to not work in this field and in this country. I tried to also have a romantic life by going out on dates but every time we couldn't find common ground on our date time to meet. Or we would go on 1-2 dates but it would stop there. I had a shroom trip a week ago to help me lift my mood and have a bit of clarity in the way my emotions and thoughts flow through me. But after 2 days I was right back in the 13 hours grind shift. What do you guys suggest I do or how do you see this situation from an outside perspective? I feel it is not worth it to grind away my time, health, sleep and personal life for the £. On one side I win better money on the other side I have sacrificed my personal life, health and sleep for it. I also thought that I am wining like a wanker and always find excuses to my situation and try to claim responsibility. This would mean me continuing to work this job and forcing myself through this lack of sleep and lack of motivation to push through and go to train bjj, lift weight and go have a romantic life while working 60 hour weeks with 3 x 13 hours shifts and 2 x 10 hour shifts a week but inevitably this will lead to burnout. Or here as well maybe I'm just wining like a wanker should just shut the f up and keep moving forward. This is what most people tell me. "Hey just shut up and work! When I was your age I would work 25 hours a day 366 days a year!" That's literally what people tell me when I ask for support. (I'm 24 btw). Don't know what to do right now and I became desperate. The thing is if I quit for my wellbeing and go back to my home country my mind/ego views this as a major failure and this automatically make me suffer even more because I was the one who wanted to come to london and work this job not knowing in what I'm getting into. Sorry for the long post guys. Any response is welcomed! Thanks!

Thank you for the reply! I will be doing some thinking in the next few weeks and also talk to my therapist maybe I get a better insight. Even though I have these fears and insecurities, the fact that I am still young (24 y.o.) motivates and inspires me to take this risk no matter the outcome. I have nothing to lose but a job that I don't care about and maybe temporarily a secure paycheck. I have no debt, no house mortgage, not married, no children so being in this situation makes me go for this change even more.

Hello guys! I am in a rut now with my life purpose. Just to give a little background I am 24 yo and live in London. I am originally from Romania and moved to London for a job opportunity. I work in the luxury hotel segment and work 50-60 hours a week plus commuting hours a week. It started to take a toll on my health like lack of sleep, I started to get very tired and lost my motivation to workout, train bjj etc. Before I used to be very active, train a lot, meditate and just have an overall high energy. Since last december I started to get very tired and all I did was work and sleep for the past 2 months, I beardly trained or did anything outside work. It has become a monotony for me which gets me depressed and unmotivated. I am having these thoughts of changing my career because I got tired of late nights, getting home at 2:30 am and waking up at 8 to start my next shift. Even though I am doing very well at my job and even just got a promotion, I feel totally disconnected from the job and just work for the paycheck to be honest. The problem is with changing my career is that I don't have too many funds and I am always afraid of the lack of funds I have. Since I like working out, been weightlifting for the last 7 years I thought a nice change would be to start a fitness course and get into fitness and helping people get in shape and better overall health. But I am very afraid of making this change, if it's worth doing the change and what financial opportunities I can have. Currently I have 5000 pounds in my account, 1200 is the course which would leave me with 3800 to survive. I was thinking of just having a part time job just to cover my bills and food while I focus on this course but as I said I very scared if this is the right decision and I don't want to regret it after. I would like to hear you guys thoughts and maybe a couple stories to get me inspired since as I have mentioned before this rut with my job and my fear of making this change has paralyzed me and I don't know where to start. Thanks all!

Hey guys! What do you guys think of Facebook changing it's name to Meta and it's involvement in creating the Metaverse. I see a lot of hype with this but also a lot of financial involvement as well. I invest in crypto and Decentraland is a coin (MANA) which has skyrocketed since Zuck made the announcement about the Metaverse. I for one don't really like the idea of it maybe because I am afraid and don't really understand it yet. (You fear what you don't understand). What do you guys think of it and I would also like to hear Leo's perspective as well regarding the future of society with this in my opinion radical idea. (as I said I find it radical and threatening because I am a bit afraid of the idea because I don't really understand it). But also I don't really find it practical at all in the short-medium term. From my experience from travelling the world from 1st to 3rd world countries I highly doubt 2nd and 3rd world countries will adopt this technology any time soon (20 years at least). Here is a link with as well. Metaverse Link Reaction Thanks all!

I stopped watching Joe Rogan 2 years ago. He went down the right wing misinformation rabbit hole. When he got covid and said he took ivermectin it finally convinced me 100% that he is an idiot with a huge following which will create more idiots who listen to him and take his bro science seriously. Also the lack of interesting guests made me keep distance from his podcasts. Whoever takes joe rogan seriously and who believes what shit he is spitting on that overrated podcast should check himself/herself seriously lol. Ps. Sorry for the hate and rant here lol i am just frustrated with how much misinformation and little regulation is online. ? Dues to the bs misinformation my whole family doesn't want to get vaccinated. I am the only one in a family of 10 (grandparents and brothers included) who got vaccinated. And this due to ideology and misinformation.

Hey guys! I am sure you have already heated about what apple is doing right now regarding your photos on your phone. Long story short apple will scan all of your photos on every apple product from iCloud for the purpose of combating child abuse. There is an AL that will scan the photos and if it matches a real human being will take a look and report it. What do you guys think about that? I am a bit uncomfortable with this. Especially that I use only android and google products like drive, photos etc and I am sure google is worse then apple when it comes to privacy.

@Leo Gura yes I am able to sustain myself. During the pandemic I have worked a lot to save money for the visa to pay it and sustain myself there for the first month when I work to pay the rent, food etc. I am 24 y.o. The thing is ever since the pandemic started she started acting like this. I have gone to spain when I was 19 as well by myself twice and she actually supported me. I will be leaving for london on the 13 th of august and I am super excited. Covid test, rent, plane ticket everything organised. The thing is even if I am very motivated and happy that my dreams are so close to coming to fruition (amazing job and training bjj at an amazing gym) hearing my mom telling me all this is making me have doubts....which I am conscious that it's bs but it sometimes cripples in my mind sometimes. Thanks all for the responses! Appreciate it!

She basically guilts me in a way that even though I know it's the right thing to do is to go to London and profit from this opportunity I feel as if I am doing the wrong decision, I will regret going and she also makes me feel completely unworthy and shitty as a person while we fight. I am conscious that there is no way for me to explain to her what I want in life even though I am calm and try to communicate with patience. She is way too down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theories, nationalism, anti-vax and guilting me that I am the only one that got the vaccine. I should have not taken it because all my family didn't take it etc

Hey guys! Sorry in advanced for the long post. Long story short I have landed a great job in London and I will be leaving in mid august and start work. I am originally from Romania and I have been before traveling and working in spain before but nothing like this. For the past year I have been trying to seize this opportunity at a great company in London and basically my visa is accepted everything organized etc. Basically I am very close to fulfilling one of my dreams to work in a great company where I wanted and to train jiu-jitsu at one of the best gyms in the world (as I also train hard to become a black belt and one day open my own gym). The problem is my unsupportive family mainly my mother. Ever since the pandemic started she started going crazy. I got my vaccine dose which my mom despises me for. Basically ever since the pandemic started she started going down the rabbit hole of conspiracy theories, world domination, online info wars censorship, we are going to die from the vaccine etc. When I applied for the visa I was shocked that she MY MOTHER! told me that she wished with all her heart that they UK gov would refuse my visa just so I don't leave them. She says that I am going to London because I don't appreciate anything I have here and that I am going to slave to the UK government so the english people stay on welfare from my taxes. She is involved in doTerra MLM and when I had covid wanted me to ingest her essential oils. She also gets her info from facebook groups which spread misinformation and pays a shit tone of money to a local guru for self development but in reality this guru spreads misinformation about the pandemic, conspiracy theories and much more and my mom literally believes everything this guru says. We have been having fights ever since the pandemic started and I tried to stay calm and try to explain her what I want from life but she disses me away. I am even going to therapy one a week to know how to deal with this but every time she has something to guilt me for. She also says that she made me, I am her child therefore she is my life. I am leaving for London in 5 days. You think cutting ties with her is a good idea?

My mom and younger brother are the same. They pay a lot of money for courses of "self development" to a local guru and this guru like brainwashes them with all kinds of conspiracy theories like the same I got the vaccine and I will be infertile in 10 years or that this is WW3 but with the end goal of controlling the population etc. My mom also buys a lot of essential oils and when I had covid she started giving me some to cure the disease. LOL She also reads fake news on facebook groups so typical facebook antivax mom LOL. Ever since the pandemic started it's been like this. I had countless arguments with my mom when I told her that I want to get the vaccine. I just avoid them because al they do is talk this sort of stuff at the table when they eat and basically everywhere. So I just avoid their company leave them in their ignorance because no matter how hard you try to educate them they are stuck in their little bubble.

Ok I see . Thanks all for the info Leo really do appreciate it! It's just that all these debates online have me confused to how things work and continue to be. But I will still do research. Thanks!