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You act like it will waste that much of your time man. Both have valuable lessons, even if the people pleasing part doesn’t apply to you necessarily. The satisfaction meditation video is just a practical solution to the problem presented in the people pleasing video, so yes I recommend you watch both. Especially when struggling with loneliness. I have the same problem as you and watched both as well.

Awesome post man.

Happy late new year! Last week I decided I had enough of feeling sorry for myself for being lonely and meditated an entire day. Kind of like a solo retreat in my own home. I would meditate on the couch, the usual crossed legs position, when I was eating, basically the entire day. I did a combination of Leo's satisfaction meditation and the Letting Go technique as described by David R. Hawkins in his book. I didn't expect this to magically fix all my problems, but it was either this or the dark path towards suicide. What I experienced astonished me, though I am sure it wasn't an awakening or God realization. I had multiple moments of bliss. I would have zero thoughts for a solid period of time every so often on that day. As I let go more, I realized that I am not my emotions or my thoughts. What I AM yet however I have not fully realized, but this still felt like a huge step. I keep identifying with my thoughts and feelings, even though I have realized before that they do not represent me for who I am. I actively choose to identify with them. With this into account, I realize going about day-to-day life without identifying with your thoughts or emotions is remains difficult. When the feelings become too much however, I switch over to a certain awareness and stillness before I unidentify with said feelings. Even in social settings. On New Year's Eve I was at a party. Even though I was quite intoxicated, there were times where I would hear sounds of people talking and music blasting, yet all I could do was realize it was just in my head. Like the meaning of the sounds or the feelings from being drunk, were just that. Sounds and feelings. They were not me. I gave them meaning, but inherently there was none. I hope some of you can help me out here since I am not quite sure what I am experiencing. I still have my moments where I will take a step back and just observe what is happening to me. My thoughts, feelings, noises, sounds, sights etc. I have tried to "push" this by asking "what am I?", yet my current answer feels incomplete. I feel close to an awakening, but since I have never had one before I am afraid it is my spiritual ego talking. I notice the intrusive thoughts sometimes where I will hype myself up or feel superior because I can see from this weird unidentifying perspective while others can't, only to realize that is my spiritual ego making this a power game somehow.

Not sure whether this belongs in this subforum or the one about dating, but for now I'll leave it here. Recently my girlfriend from uni broke up with me and it hit me hard that besides her I really had no one else I considered a friend there. In a way I used our relationship to cope with my loneliness. I remember vividly when she asked me what I wanted out of our relationship and I simply told her ''I want to stop feeling alone'' whereas she said ''I want somebody that I can improve and he can improve me''. As heartbroken as I was and still am, I know now that no girl can satisfy that inner craving. I have been to parties, done pick up before and am now considering hitting the bars again alone this weekend. This loneliness hit me hard enough that I even approached a girl I had huge feelings for (but didn't work out, she didn't feel the same way) because I was so alone and wanted someone to talk to. She made me realize there could never be one girl that could fulfil that for me. Even her, someone I consider perfect for me, can't fix my loneliness. What is the point of going out for then? Just meaningless sex and upping my body count? What is the point of going into another relationship when I know it won't fulfil me? I feel like no amount of partying, sex and even ''meaningful'' relationships can help me with this. Everything about going to a bar, socializing with drunks and getting phone numbers feels so shallow to me. The best thing that can happen, and did happen with my ex, was that I get a girlfriend and I still feel lonely. Solves nothing except horny issues. Might as well fap from time to time or pay hookers if I am feeling really horny. I watched Leo's videos about loneliness and started doing his ''satisfaction'' meditation daily. So far that is the only step I feel somewhat works. No amount of socializing can make me feel at peace as much as just sitting there. I am pretty sure I was close to my first awakening just a few days ago, but I don't want to hype my spiritual ego up too much. I guess what I am asking is what should I do? Hit that bar anyway? Push through? Get maybe a few phone numbers, best case get laid and proceed like my loneliness isn't there? I feel like at this point no amount of girls, sex, booze, psychedelics or socializing in general can help me. My other option really is doing a little retreat in my own home where I will cut off all electronics and just meditate for at least one full day. Maybe multiple days if I can keep it up. Any thoughts/suggestions are welcome.

I am currently doing the satisfaction meditation as explained by Leo in this video: Really struggling with loneliness so I thought I might as well give it a try. I haven't consistently meditated in months and thus am building up again starting with 20 mins everyday for a week. My goal is definitely 1 hour and from time to time multiple hours on a day.

Hello everybody. As I tried to make love with my girlfriend, my dick just wouldn’t fit. Her vagina would not open up at all. I mean the entire scene was set. We had tons of foreplay and she said she was ready. This would’ve been her first time having sex, but unfortunately it just wouldn’t go in. I was rather disappointed with this tbh. I thought it was my fault at first, because my dick would get soft at the worst possible times. Eventually I did get it hard though, yet it just didn’t fit. Before you say: did you finger her first? She has stated to me before that she doesn’t really like fingering, so she never does it. She only feels stimulation on her clit. We did look up online what it might be and we think that her vagina just needs to be used to have things inside it to get bigger. Something like a dilator, which for those of you that don’t know (I didn’t either) is a buttplug for vaginas. Anyways, please let me know what you guys think. Much love <3

@petar8p It's my first time doing it with a virgin. My only experience is with my ex girlfriend and a bunch of hookers. I shall try this though, @Leo Gura Don't think that's the issue. She looked it up and we think it's something called ''vaginismus''. Basically erectile dysfunction for women. She is already trying different exercises and meditation (I forced her the last one tho lmao). @StarStruck It was. She was so tight only the tip of my middle finger would fit. I am used to this as well, but with her it just wouldn't go in. @Yarco She was dripping though. She has stated to me before that she masturbated on the idea of me. That just holding hands with me would make her wet. You're right though, she doesn't have any experience with guys. Her ex was non-binary with a female body. It's all new to her indeed. @Raze Ding ding ding! She thinks this too yeah. Already looked up some exersises and she is currently trying both that and meditation.

So there is a girl which I have loved a lot for the past few years. We were never a thing, never dated. I have personally dated other girls throughout these years and I'm sure she has dated as well. I am just honestly sick of thinking about her everyday. The times I came clean with my emotions she didn't respond the way I wanted her to and honestly I don't think she has the same feelings. I know I can't get her, I don't mind that I can't get her, but I just want to forget about her. I want to stop viewing everything with her in mind. I want to stop dreaming about her and pretending to have conversation with her in my head. I want to detach from her. Forget her. I am not being dramatic when I say it feels like a curse. I can straight up kiss and make love with other girls, meanwhile the only thing I am thinking about is her. How do I detach from her? Do you guys know any guides, books, whatever. I want to associate no emotions with her. I want to be able to pretend like she doesn't exist and just move on with my life. I am tired of feeling let down every time I think I am getting close. I am tired of constantly having her in my thoughts. Please, any suggestions would suffice.

There you go. What a strong boy you are.

Atta boy, let it all out. Such a big boy.

Riiigghht... you know so much about me just so that you can just guess out of pure luck what my issue was. What does ''being neurotic for absolutely no reason'' even mean btw? You think people choose to be neurotic? Like people just like being neurotic? Holy fuck have you not learnt anything? ''???'' lil bro, it's really not that deep. You think you're ''all wise'' and ''deserve'' to be in the whatever seperate forum section, yet here you are delibaretly laughing at someone for sharing their own experience. So wise, so wise. I'm sure you know a lot about nutrtition, I would even go as far as marrying my future daughter to you. ???

These past few years I had been very strict with eating clean. Like I would have no sugars, no junk food, no nothing. I was the cleanest man in my environment yet I would still not lose weight. I was stuck at around 18% bodyfat for so long. I didn’t understand why. I worked out 3-4 times a week, my routine was incredibly rigid. Greens and fruits were my best friends, yet somehow I was still fat. Last month I had my first actual “cheatday” were I ate whatever I wanted after months of cutting. After having learnt about calories I went into a deficit for months and finally lost the fat part of the weight. You don’t understand how relieved I felt. Afterwards I went on vacation to Greece, Italy and Turkey. In all 3 places I listened to my desires and let loose. Sure, I felt guilty because I was so used to eating clean. But at the same time man, I hadn’t eaten ice cream in years. I haven’t had a singular pepsi for years. Chocolate, cheesy bread, pizza. You name it, I hadn’t touched it for so long. I felt such a relieve After my vacation I went back to eating clean and lost the little fat I gained during my holiday. I decided to go on a bulk but keep it clean. I still make oreo cheesecakes or biscoff cheesecakes, albeit a high protein version I found on Instagram. This satisfies all the cravings I have. I eat fruits, nuts, wholewheat bread, lean meats, seafood and too many greens lol. I now make all my own meals and order out only 1-2 times a week. After becoming a chef I don’t crave junk at all, though I already have plans for my next cheatday. Do you need junk? Is it good for you? After years of eating clean I honestly think it doesn’t matter that much. Like I felt great on a physical level. Mentally I had other problems, but clearly just “eating clean” didn’t solve them. Is it the end all be all? No I don’t think so. Cheating 1-2 times a week is not something to be ashamed about. Live life a little man. After I got into cooking I couldn’t wait to try genuine Italian pizza or Greek seafood because I wanted to know how the best of the best make their meals. Safe to say I tried it all and Italian ice cream and Greek waffles have become my all time favorite meals.

@Loba tysm man I try to come up with things I hate about her, but if I'm being honest to myself I know that I still love her. Like I know she has many flaws. She's not the perfect girl which I won't find ever again. Yet I know I still love her. I just know that I can't stay mad on her for too long or be upset with her for more than a few days. I will try this more deeply though, especially the part about ''Try seeing those in this person, instead of just the good, try to detach through an honest, detailed introspection as to why this person is not right for you.'' Because if she was right for me we would already be together. But we aren't, so clearly we are not compatible. If she can see it, surely I can too. @puporing I am not saying I have tried pick up extensively, something I probably should try, but I have tried to ''fuck'' these feelings away. If it wasn't with some random chick I would just pay hookers. Yet this proved to be of no success. I would be mid-lovemaking and think about her. Or mid-kissing someone in a club and thinking about her. It would ruin the entire experience. Of course, like most other people here, I hope to achieve awakening one day and fully forget about her. However I can't just trust that I will magically awaken. That is a whole another process, something which you should pursue with much more grounded reasons than ''wanting to forget a girl''. @eos_nyxia The answer to these questions is just being my utmost self, because I can be that with her. I am in my best mood when talking to her. Normally I am not that social or anything, but with her I can just talk away. We have had hours of conversations because she understands me and I her. We think about people a certain way, have the same type of humour etc. I guess my inner desire to socialize comes out when talking to her. My inner need for social affection. @Gesundheit2 For the past few weeks I have made it a habit to practice Law of Attraction everytime she comes to my mind, which happens way too much per day. So I already do these things.

Hello everyone. Yesterday I felt like being an approach RSD guru and decided to go out on my own here in Milaan, Italy. I thought it only made sense that this city has a good nightlife and that I should give it a try before I leave. I try to enter 1 club. “Sorry there is a dresscode and those shoes aren’t allowed.” I try to enter another club. “Sorry this is a private party you can’t get in through payment or whatever.” Already defeated, I walk to the third club where I knew I could get in but had to pay €30 for the entrance. Fuck it I thought, game requires sacrifices I guess. I walk in and lo and behold there are 20 girls just dancing on a podium. There were only 2 other guys there. What the actual fuck is this place. I talk with one of the girls who approached me and I soon realized they are strippers/hookers. Left without even finishing my drink. Now I have had a similar disappointing night in Turkey, where I couldn’t even get into a club without having a girl with me. The fuck are these stupid rules man. When I was in Crete, Greece I could literally walk into any club without anyone batting an eye. Why are other places so goddamn hard to walk into? You might say “approach some girls and try to get one with you to one of clubs” and I tried this. But said girls were always scared and wanted to leave the convo in 5s. I am still a newbie and just wanted to try some nightgame here my god why is it so difficult. Does anyone know how I find some clubs who will just let me in? Or at least not have strippers/hookers as the main attraction? I think I’ll stick to daygame for a long time because this club life where you get in if you have some status and wealth really doesn’t suit me. Why can’t a man just party in peace for God’s sake.

@Something Funny you’re right it’s huge, but not all the clubs are in walking distance for me so I was limited with how many I could visit. For some reason most good bars (with cheap drinks) are on the outskirts of the city while I am staying close to the Duomo. Even those on Tripadvisor are not in the city centre. Also it was not like I could get the shoes that night with most stores being closed, not that I was planning to anyway. Everything is so expensive here.

@Something Funny I did and already know of those. Most are bars not clubs. The ones that are clubs won’t just simply let you in for whatever reason they can come up with.

Just coming in to state that cbum is juiced up. You won’t get his type of physique without going on various steroid cycles. Other than that I agree with your post.

I wonder what you guys think of this guy. So far I have only seen like 5 videos and a few shorts, but tbh I think the guy is legit. Gives me much better vibes than most RSD videos. Here some of the videos I watched:

Hello everybody. Yesterday I came back from Crete after a long week of partying, drinking and kissing. I learnt a lot in those few days. It was also my first time drinking! On the last day we went to a waterpark and I actually managed to get the Instagram and a kiss from an employee. I tried to get her to come out with me that same evening, since it was my last day there, but she said she was unavailable. Now normally I would just think “whatever, enough fish in the sea” and move on. When I told her that I would be leaving the next day however, she was really upset and kept sending pictures on Instagram calling me cute and adorable. She insisted on me coming back, saying that she wished that kiss lasted longer. I think you can see where I am going with this. I can afford to go back in August. My dick is telling me I should, but my mind says it is just too weird to travel all the way back for one girl. I learnt a lot of game and intend to do more approaches back at home anyway, so why travel all the way to Greece for a girl? Then again… I really want her haha. What would you do? Currently I am planning to go back in August, but will keep doing approaches on random girls until then. It’s not like I’m married with her after all.

Please don’t take this post too seriously. Yesterday I partied drunk for the first time and had the time of my life. I finally get what people mean when they say they are more social when drunk. I understand that for pick-up relying on being drunk is not a good strategy, but I feel like this experience showed me how social I can truly be if I gave 0 f*cks. I talked and danced with so many girls and even guys. I made like 3 guy-friends at that club alone. I have been struggling a lot with socializing and loneliness and this experience has given me hope that I don’t need to be scared and alone forever. With that out of the way, the “small dick” joke did make some girls burst out in laughter. Though there were also plenty who were simply like “you know that is not a good pick up line right?” which confused me at the time. I wasn’t even trying to hit on them at that point, I just had way too much fun calling my own dick small. Are there any other counter intuitive things to say like this? I feel like they are a lot of fun. Going out at clubs is a bit difficult though I won’t lie. Girls decide in 2 seconds whether they will dance with you or not. Regardless, I complimented a lot of men and women and they all seemed to enjoy that. Made me feel great too. If anyone has a bit more experience with clubs please feel free to share some advice. I will go out tonight again and I will call my dick small again!

@Girzo Unfortunately I am only here for a brief time. Just graduated and my friend and I wanted to celebrate by clubbing here. I actually got another girl’s instagram and a kiss while I was at the water park today. I am slowly learning this game haha

God I wish they had DMT in Crete lmao

Hello everyone. So I would say a week ago or so, I experienced something I hadn't in a long time. I laid in bed late at night and for some reason my mind blacked out. Like it went quiet. Not in the sense of mind voice was gone, but as if I was nothing. Like there was nothing. I hope I make sense when I say these things because that is truly what it felt like. Like my thoughts were just thoughts. I looked around and my walls and windows were just that. Empty space like myself. I felt like I was in an endless pit. I was just trying to sleep and then this happened. I even got a bit teary. I was stressing about so many things and now they were all gone. After a few minutes of intense ''being nothing'' it calmed down and I came back. The only other time I had experienced something similar was during meditation a year ago. Back when I was very into it (im sorry guys I havent meditated in a while I know you're all ready to cite all the reasons I should start again but just bear with me). During this one particular meditation session I entered ''a state'' I guess where my thoughts went quiet. I literally had 0 thoughts for a solid 4-5 mins and was astounded. It was not even like a special session, I was just going through the daily habit of meditating. Nothing out of the ordinary. Anyways I guess my question is: what did just happen? Like does it have a name? Was it a state? Or something more?

@Ryan_047 Welcome to yt lol. At the end of the day it's a platform where everyone competes for your attention, so of course some of his titles and thumbnails will be clickbaity. I personally don't know how they got to 3.4-4.4g/kg protein per day without overusing protein powder or just eating chicken all day. I am struggling to get 160g in everyday, yet here he says that doing twice that is perfectly fine. Regardless he makes the best fitness yt videos as far as I know.

Lets just sense whether or not it gives me cancer. Surely I know my body better than any study or doctor.