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@bejapuskas I am suprised that you think that I have any other source. This forum as a whole would in fact be better than just looking at Leo's vides, but besides that I can't find much you see. I don't use him as the only learning source, I rarely watch the entirity of his video's because I get bored. I only watch the ones that apply to me, read the comments and if I have questions I ask them on this forum. When I posted this topic I didn't know much about charisma and still don't. If people explained to me why it was a part of self-actualizing, I thought I would understand it better. When I look it up on the internet I get these ''free tips and tricks for better charisma right now buy it'' sites. That is also the reason why I said: ''Following up on that, do you guys know any good books about charisma? Any recommendations are welcome.'' Yeah I agree with this. This is one of the reasons why I unsubscribed and why I said small insights. Because in many of the cases the guy doesn't show the whole picture. Sometimes in his small insights he invites you to an advertisement which is supposed to help you with the subject he talks about. Made me really uninterested in his content. On one hand people tell me that self-experiment is the only way you truly know something. That is what I do, self-experiment, and now you tell me that I am probably wrong and don't know anything. Nice man, sounds like a great adventure.

Hello everyone. This might not be the place to ask this, but I don't know if I can talk about this with anyone in real life. I don't have teachers that teach sexual education. While reading about highly effective teen habits, I stumbled upon: ''Teens should know a lot about sex before even thinking about engaging in it''. Since I am a teen, and I have my needs, I wonder what the actual f is going on with sex. Can someone give me a clear summary about it? Like can someone list all the dangers or how it works maybe? Just linking a good source for a teen to understand could be enough. All I could find were sites who talked about sex in way that it made me feel 20 years older. That didn't feel good. All I know is that you should never have sex without a condom and some kind of pills? That viagra makes your d hard. That those people on porn websites somehow are masters in the so called ''pull-out technic''. Oh and that my d can actually break. Any information about sex is welcome. I am new to self-actualizing in general, but this has always been my weak spot. I have never had sex, but of course am thinking about it.

@Elisabeth Wauw thanks for all that information. I am gonna have to re-read this every few weeks. @Girzo Uhmm... you see I have never bought lube or massage oil. You know where I can buy that by any chance?

@Equanimitize I realized that first bit very fast in my journey. Just a few months ago I was very socially awkward and didn't understand why. By being conscious during my social interactions I discovered what made me repel people. I discovered that I always had it in me to be very social, but suppressed it unconsciously. Charisma on Command is a really good channel. It gives you small insights in one of the biggest plays in our world. All played differently by different people. Nice insights. @Girzo Simply saying to yourself ''I can handle it'' over and over during any kind of situation can get you much further than ''50 techniques on how to have confidence, tips & tricks for you NOW!'' That is something I know.

@bejapuskas You don't think I try before posting anything on this forum? I tried to look it up on Leo's channel and couldn't find anything. Looking it up on this forum didn't have much succes either.

@How to be wise Thanks for the advice. I will buy his booklist this weekend. 09-11-18 Today was an exhausting day. I am typing this while having done my shamanic breathing session.I feel tired, but will start meditating in a few minutes. I had many tests for school this week and my instructor told me I should eat more food with protein. So that's what I am going to focus on this week and next week. I still want to go to a massage salon, but haven't found the time. Same with the nutrionist. When I first started my journey here, I thought I had to learn everything as fast as possible. Recently I have been taking time to absorb information and I guess it works. ''No More Mr. Nice Guy'' is almost finished, 20 pages left. In the end Glover talks about sex, which picked my interest. I posted about the things I should definitely know about sex. You can find the post here: About the girl in my class... I think she is definitely attracted to me. I mean she always finds ways to touch me, I think I noticed her melting in my eyes or it was just the opposite. There is another girl in my class which is part of the experiment. When I am social, funny and active they both seem to be interested. And when one hasn't come to school for lets say 1 day, first person they look for is me. I have to admit with the first one I am far more close than the second one. I want to learn more about charisma. I will buy Leo's booklist this weekend and beg to god that he has atleast reviewed one book about charisma. Followed up by that I will buy one charisma book, The Anatomy of Loneliness and Spiral Dynamics. These will be the last books I will buy before I will start only lending books from the library. Last time I went to the library in the inner city I was just amazed. There were so many books. I couldn't choose. I still need to read ''No More Mr. Nice Guy'' so I didn't lend any books. I will lend books from the library, definitely, after those last 3 books. That's all for now. Take care.

@non_nothing So trusting each other is really what matters during sex?

@non_nothing So staying a virgin for the rest of my life is healthier? @Spiral Thanks for the tips @SFRL Strange how I also live in the Netherlands, but haven't gotten sexual ed. Thank your teacher for me if you ever see her. @F A B Thanks for sharing this with. It could come pretty handy.

@Rookie Foreplay = sexual activity that precedes intercourse Escalation = a rapid increase Kino = a gum obtained from certain tropical trees by tapping, used locally as an astringent in medicine and in tanning. @SFRL Gosh I wish people would stop reacting to my topics if they didn't have any useful information for me.

Hello everyone. This might be off-topic, but I think it belongs here. It doesn't have anything to do with meditation etc. At least, that is what I think. When I was young and would try to sleep, I would lose my balance. I would feel like falling even though I was clearly just laying on my bed. Literally it would feel like I was on the edge of a skyscraper and about to fall. I always would 'safe' myself by making sure I am still laying on my bed. These weren't dreams, since they could happen like 2 secs after laying on my bed. Anyone who has experience with this and/or can me explain what it means? I basically lost my balance several times while trying to sleep.

07-11-18 Hello there again. Not much happened today, besides that I am scoring!!! Literally my first crush of this year has recently decided to app me randomly. Now we can have talks of half an hour! Even my best friend noticed that there is something going on between us. I will stick to the plan though: The only reason I date girls is to see what kinds of them are out there. So I will be prepared later in my life. If she asks me out I will say yes, but won't focus my entire life around our relationship. I will keep it smooth. Regular gym exercises, school and diet change have made me tired. My fitness instructor told me how I should eat more food with protein, so that is what I will start to do. For now on I bring some kind of fruit to school besides my bread. Everything goes fine actually. Next 2 books I will buy are the one from Spiral Dynamics and ''The Anatomy of Loneliness'' since I really struggle with it. I also want to start learning about self-inquiry, more on that in the weekend. I actually look forward to my next shamanic breathing session as well. My next big plans are going to a massage parlor and to a nutritionist. Just my basic needs I guess. My neck and back hurt for such a long time, I think it's time to change that. I am sorry that this one is short. I have to learn for Biology. Take care everyone.

@Leo Gura I would love to come, but I might be too young.

Hello everyone. Since I started meditating and doing mindfulness things during my day the centre of my forehead always tightens up so much until I am not mindful/in meditation mode. This happens while I try to sleep, my meditation sessions, my shamanic breathing sessions and with mindfulness in general. I have no clue what it means. It just tightens up and hurts pretty bad. Especially during meditation while I am laying down I can really feel it burn there. That's why I always meditate in a sitting position, even though my legs don't like that after 10 mins. If anyone can help please help me. I have no clue what it means. If it helps: I started meditating 2 months ago (currently I do sessions of 30 mins), this week will be my fourth time doing shamanic breathing (also 30 mins each session). When I am in the train or in my bed and I am bored I become concious of where I am. This also has a result of a hurting forehead.

I will add her book on my booklist. Thanks

Hello everyone. I think this is the best place to describe my situation. I already felt quite lonely and learnt to live with it. Now that I started meditating, reading books, quit gaming and quit eating junk food, overall trying to improve, I feel even more lonely. Whenever I think about the succes I am chasing I feel happy. Whenever I listen to Russian music I feel happy. Whenever I go to school and fall back in the usual routine I feel lost. I feel like a machine doing the same thing every day. I don't hate school, since I started watching Leo's video's I found motivation to enjoy school. It's just my fellow students, friends and family. I can't laugh at the same jokes everyone else does. I don't understand some, think some are dull or can't hear them clearly. I have a few friends, but after my break-up with the gaming community I have no relatable situations left to share with them. Believe me I tried making new friends, but whenever I try that I need to force myself to laugh with the jokes to ''be a part of the group''. I got myself already out of those situations, but now there is only one guy who is kinda my friend. He is an introvert, doesn't share much, and is even better at school than me. In general me and him are different, so we can't like do things together after school. I feel lost as you can see. My family is muslim, I parted my ways with islam (they don't know though). Sure I can laugh with my mom and dad, but at a certain point it stops. Especially with my dad, we can't relate. The only person who helped me during the summer break with loneliness is my autistic brother. He has classic autism and I have cried several times on his shoulders. I believe you can see the problem I have with him, he doesn't respond. I can talk to him about all my feelings and he laughs. The guy laughs. Imagine having that happiness... Right now I listen John Lennon ''Imagine''. I don't know why, I don't have much Green in me. Since I started listening that song I do have more of it, so it's probably good I listen to it. If anyone can relate and help, please. I am 14 years old, meditate for 2 months. Everyday 30 mins. I read my books everyday. I do shamanic breathing sessions every Friday. So far no mental breakdowns during those sessions. All I got was laughter. I guess my brother does influence me. Take care.

@Talinn I think it was Thursday when I, for the first time, went to the local park after school. My mom expected me to go home and waited for me, but I was having a walk in the park. It felt pretty amazing. The silence there, compared to the city. How everything is fine there. I spotted 2 parrots and they just did what they always do. As you said, everything there didn't have a purpose. It just was. I think I will go there again, without a backpack. It hurt my shoulders.

04-11-2018 Hello everyone. Not much to say about today. Right now I am at my dad's house. I have finished ''Iron John'' and have already started with ''No More Mr. Nice Guy''. After a small fall back in my old routines I managed to pick up myself and do what I want to do. Read my books, meditate etc. Shamanic breathing on Friday went well, I did better than all the other times. This was my 3rd time doing shamanic breathing. Soon I want to focus on self-inquiry (whatever that means), read the Spiral Dynamics book and read mindfulness books. Sports and school are going well. Next week I have a lot of tests and a pitch about a book. The book plays in the historical events of Iraq, mainly Saddam's regime and the fall of his regime. It's about a girl, 15 years old, who wants to be an architect. Personally I hate romans, but even this book wasn't a good roman. It tried to, but failed. Meditating is going better and better. I try to be concious of myself whenever I feel itching/pain which keeps me out of my mind. It helps pretty well. I can finally be concious in the last minutes of my meditation session as well. Usually I would focus on the pain and my thoughts at the end, but now I can be concious! I think small, little improvements are rising up. About my previous post, I still feel a little bit down of the loneliness. Someone said that I should accept that it is fake. That loneliness isn't real. I just have no clue how. If anyone can help me with that, feel free to send me a private message or reply here . I got in contact with my best gamer friend after 3 months. We both met in a different gaming community, but switched from games. We are the only two from that old community who play the new game together. I don't know what happened to the rest. However I am facing a dilemma. I wanted to quit gaming, but whenever she is online and asks me to play with her I really want to. I often don't play in my private time, only with her. If I want to get deeper in self-help, do I need to stop having contact with her and leave the gaming world? If it is adviced I will do it. I am starting to eat really healthy. I want to keep it going for the rest of my life. I still need to find that feeling to enjoy eating some fruits and vegetables. I will admit, some fruits I find pretty disgusting. I only eat them because they are healthy. Same with nuts etc. Take care.

@Your place at Heart I already discovered this when I was on my way out of Islam. The only part of Islam that interests me is Sufism. I already discovered that both Sunni and Shia don't see the point Mohammed wanted to make clear. @Your place at Heart Wait, transformation period? What do you mean with that? And how did you understand that it wasn't real? All I know is the deep pain I feel in my heart every night. @Your place at Heart This is part of the struggle. I know I have to accept it. After I watched some videos of Leo he said that I should better get used to it. That's the issue. I had no clue how. Now I know that I have to accept that loneliness is fake, I just don't understand how it is. Does it work the same way as spirituality or non-duality? Like, does it need to be experienced somehow to be understood?

@Elisabeth You said: ''You also...'' I meant examples of these kind of hobbies. I have seen your previous examples.

@non_nothing This one.

@Elisabeth I go to the health club 3 times a week. Maybe I can get something done there. I just don't know what. @Elisabeth Any examples?

31-10-18 Hello everyone. Today I am not very motivated. Same as yesterday, I feel lost. I don't know what to do. I am eating healthy, going to the gym 3 times a week, have keeping my grades up and everything is supposed oke. I meditate, read my book everyday and still. I don't know what I am doing. I feel lost. See this post for more info: I think I am seeing spirituality as a distraction from my loneliness. For a long time I avoided confronting my real emotions, but I guess it was loneliness all along. As I said everything else goes well. Today though I got mad with my dad. Reflecting on the situation: I think I am wrong. I am gonna apologize to him. This will be the first time I ever apologized to him by myself. I guess ''Iron John'' is a good book. Literally the cutest girl and her gf in my class invited me to go with them all the way to their tram stop. I always travel with the tram. As I said, I am feeling lost, lonely. When they walked further into the tram I just stood still. I didn't know what to do. I felt ashamed and decided not to follow them. They looked back from a distance with confusion, but I ignored. School + sports results in no contact with my mom during the day. I dislike most of the students in my school, so you can understand how I am going through my day. I somehow feel comfortable not talking with my family. Besides with my brother. I wish I could be with him 24/7. Last note: I think I am falling in love with Arnold Schwarzenegger. Not literally, but the seeing him as a role-model to follow up on in my sport career. That is one positive thing

Alright I don't know for sure if I am the favourite teen, but I think I did a good job with the title. I need book recommendations. There has been a change of plans. Instead of always buying every book on my booklist, I will try to lend as much as possible from the library. I looked up many books and it turns out that most of them are available there. Here is what I already have read: ''Mastery'' by George Leonards ''The Six-Pillars of Self-Esteem'' by Nathaniel Branden ''The 7 habits of Highly Effective Teens'' by Sean Covey ''The Element'' by Ken Robinson (terrible book) Here is what I already have ordered, but still need to read: ''Iron John'' by Robert Bly ''No More Mr. Nice Guy'' by Robert A. Glover Keep in mind that I am 14 years old. So don't expect me to read books from Abraham Maslow. ''The Six-Pillars of Self-Esteem'' was hard enough. I think I'll read Maslows books later in my life. Right now I need good books about spirituality, religion, psychedelics, psychology or philosopy. The last 2 categories are the most important for me. Any books which can benefit me because of my early interest in these categories will be highly wanted. Take care.

@Max_V In some way I can understand your view. It's just that since Leo talked about all the subfields of self-help, I am so interested in all of them. I mean I want to find my life purpose, become a master in politics, learn more about religion, go in depth in spirituality, become good with girls and relationships, learn about psychedelics, read biographies from people I look up to and from dictators. When I made my booklist and I got to choose the categories, I already got so excited. I have decided that right now I will focus on simple things and work my way up from there. That means books on philosopy, psychology, dating & relationships, masculinity and femininity.

@LorcanYou are right about the first bit. Just when things started going good, my sex drive started. I thought it already had started, guess I was wrong. Next book I'll buy is ''Spiral Dynamics: Mastering Values, Leadership and Change''.