Shodan

It's hard to explain for me to you, but I think Swami Vivekananda explained it most clearly. Even tho I am catholic it's just an inspiring individual for me I look up to.

If you can't manage the emotional part of unfulfilled sexual desire, this is a sign you focus on it too much. Try to get busy as much as possible because this way youre channeling your attention towards more valuable activities than basic primal needs. Our evolution gave us a choice unlike evolution of other animals, you have to choose for yourself. Are you civilized enough to go for more spiritual life and control your your actions, be mindful about it? Celibacy IS possible and crucial for proper spiritual growth. But it must be completety concious and thought out decision.

Dont get caught in all that "x male" crap, its all fake because its based on stereotypical assumptions. Last thing you want is playing this exhausting game of aspiring to some kind of social status, it's all true only if you start to believe it. Be real and approach the problem in more rational way, try to find a pattern of addiction if its connected to anxiety etc.

Well, be aware because even after being 8 months into my longest nofap, cutting out porn and all related things, my femdom addicion came back and it is present to this day. Dont want to discourage you but I dont think theres other way around than stop using porn completely and never use it again in this life. The neural pathways are too strong to rewire completely in one lifetime. We are the products of the porn industry, I think I would rather live without internet than discover all this harmful content as a teenager. It sould be banned and stay illegal but we all know this will never take place in our sad world

If you really confused by flatline try tribulus, this herb really ballance out lack of masculine energy. Beware tho, I was experimenting with extract during nofap and it made me even somewhat agressive. Anyway, you must simply go through this period, I remember after 6 months of no PMO there were no longer flatlines or bad weeks. It just takes some suffering to rewire

This is what happens when you can't keep your passions at bay. You have to come to terms that not everyone is satisfied attached to single person, although polygamy is highly unnatural concept that is definitely degrading to woman. What have you expected to happen after such practice in the first place?

You can sign up on Tinder or another paid services if you reduce the sexual act to nothing more than exchange of fluids. However, reducing yourself into flesh parts like somebody said before, doesn't appeal to a human who classify himself as a spiritual being. Just be careful what you pray for young lady and be safe, some egocentric guys might want to use you one day and I'm pretty sure you will regret it afterwards,

Completely nonsense sir. Being "picky" is the sign of a high sense of self-worth and sometimes even having a courage to stand for your own values and respect moral rights.

What I see there is the curious case of young woman representing incel victim mentality, probably due to accepting mass media unrealistic and unnatural way of being. Heres a story which can make you feel a bit better about yourself Feeling unworthiness is pretty common. Often we feel this way because we doubt our worth. In our culture it’s so easy to feel ‘less than’ with the onslaught of perfect-looking people with their perfect relationships and perfect jobs – at least how they’re pictured in media. But how do we get beyond the feelings of inadequacy when they creep in? What motivates us to ditch the idea that we aren’t enough and begin to accept our greatness? As a former model, I understood that a model is never good enough. She is always photoshopped to perfection and her value is strictly based on her exterior. Sadly, I just accepted this ridiculous reality about the profession. But after leaving the modeling world, I remember a time when those feelings of inadequacy were stronger than ever. I was back home attempting to put my life back in order but couldn’t shake the idea that I was not enough and definitely not good enough for a second chance. I remembered that a nearby Church had an 24 hour adoration chapel and went with the thought – “if he can’t help me, nobody can.” The tears could not be stopped that night, so I just let them go. I told him how horrible I feel about myself, my past, and my fear that I would never persevere in doing the right thing. He just listened. I cried until I felt exhausted. Hunched over, sitting on my knees on the floor, I looked up at him. I saw him and he saw me –the broken, tear-soaked, confused girl who just admitted every fear and fault. (...) God doesn’t want to photoshop you. You are enough. Too many women believe that they are not enough, not worthy of forgiveness or second chances. I get it. I used to believe that. And while you may very well feel that way, it is not reality. ( Leah Darrow)

Such factors contribute to lack of ballance which may be taken with positive attidute and encourage to find ballance through connections with other person, self realisation etc. or threated as a lost position in life, feeling of lack of something wich leads to supression of those feelings and seeking for cheap alternatives on regular hich brigs joy only temporary. Thats how i perceive this concept and its sharing of my own interpretation rather than attemption to convience anyone of it. Everyone desire is to ballance lack of some values from both sides and there are many ways to do it.

Simply because what is natural state for this individual is perhaps just repressing uncomfortable experiences from the past which stays in the subconcious whole life. The aftermath of all of them are permanent changes in one's personality or way of being as we call it. What comes naturally is manifestaton of both environment and genetics to some extent (experiences of our ancestors probably). We can't separate mental states and spirituality because they are in fact connected to each other

Of course they do need and always will. Its much wider idea than basic safety and if an individual haven't received enough of it in the early adolescence , then theres a high possibility he/she will have to find a way to compensate the lack of it in the future

Perhaps I used the wrong examples, but I meant rather lack of some sense of protection etc. from some opposite sexes so they have to play their cards expressing those masculine features. May be imo due to their early childhood problems with those, like when raised without father

That's actually easily to observe, I know a few girls who compensate lack of physical feminine atraction and attention from oposite sex (who are very short for example) with being bossy or posses other traits characteric for men. However, my observation may be based on stereotypes rather than seeing more complex nature of those individuals.

@XYZ @Emerald The whole idea is overly interesting for me and seems to explain somehow my addiction to fem-dom porn content. Personaly I think that feminine energy is more about being creative than watching romantic movies etc. I hope it is so because I HATE all the romanticism in our culture, even romantic comedies. Do you think I should I start to appreciate all this sweet stuff in order to connect with my inner female for perfect ballance?

You describe it as annoying which is very often description about the first time you face withdrawal symptoms. It's easy to escape reality once in a while and replace it with passive forms of entertaiment to let the stress go away for a moment. This is the best solution for most of the people every day, even tho there are so much activities to enjoy instead. Sadly, most of us don't remember what kind of people they used to be before they hit puberty and switched to digital drugs of porn industry and self-pleasure activities. I'm not saying thats the only problem but it makes it less clear what are the real problems. However, so called "brain fog" goes away very slowly during reboot so it's easier to quit out of frustration than continue rewiring. It's all normal, do what you feel is the best for you.

This study proves that physiologically, there's nothing wrong with semen retention, so prostate cancer argument is invalid. Interesting thing is that according to this text, men who released semen more frequently had an urge to eat food high in nutrients and energy, which somewhat confirms the spiritual aspects of abstinence and it's health benefits.

I agree with @pluto about porn, just google yourbrainononporn its scientificaly proven to harm its users. I believe that moderation is the key when it comes to fapping if you don't feel bad afterwards but avoid porn by all costs. It's a toxic entertainment and my story proves it

First of all, you shouldn't blindly follow whatever you read in the book, but rather take questioning approach and use knowledge in the way it suits your lifestyle. If the idea of keeping the seminal energy doesn't appeal to you, why does you practice it in the first place? Secondly, my opinion is that you should be completely honest with your woman and just see what does she thinks about the idea. Just out of curiosity, is it true that having such "dry" orgasm can be achieved by training PC muscles? It would be interesting to try that, especially if the energy doesn't go away with such practice. However I am not sure if pleasure for free, that is without side-effects and being tired afterwards. Ive heard that semen can go back to the bladder causing infections

I wish I could do the same, but it seems that the only reasonable way for me to live in peace without suffering the urges is cut out most of the triggers, which works well for me so far. It's too hard to overcome fetish to neutral female body part as I'm wired into being aroused automaticaly. Even after 230+ days being free of PMO some time ago I surrendered as a result of boredom and pre-abstinence flashbacks. I can go without it for 3-4 months but eventually all the rationalisation brings me back into victious cycle. I am expecting that after at least 5 years of being chaste I will rewire the bad habits and will be able to enjoy it without need to act or getting addicted, like you do. Otherwise I must get to the point when it will be happening in moderation, without blaming myself for my weakness which is unhealthy

Urge is just a neutral hormonal signal, you can fight, make it stronger by letting it take control over you or you can balance it out by meditation or consider using some proven natural herbal tonics such as lupulin, licorice etc. Or just get busy with your hobbies! Example with a book is helpful when you getting bored in a place where you can face triggers like in public transport. Plus its self impovement actvity at some point

Doesn't that trigger you into full relapse? I think it takes helluva self discipline to stop chasing more explict material if you have already started looking at such nudes. Anytime I was peeking or let my imagination run wild led to my old habits soones or later, isn't that the case for you? I can't disagree more. Then why your intetion is to look after those things that makes you feel vunerable? Personally, I became pretty good at avoiding teasing my eyes. Usually I take a look in another direction, enjoy the surroundings or read a book.