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I have a friend that suffers immensely.. and I’ve come to realize he very much tends to hold on to his past. So i’ve been bringing up lately that him working on letting go of those things would help him feel so much better.. while I was trying to understand what’s been making him hold on for so long he made a comment, “what if I don’t want to let go”. I asked, why would you want to hold onto something that makes you sad? And it’s sounding like him letting go in his mind means he doesn’t care. So basically, certain things from his past that make him very sad, he also holds dear to him. I didn’t really know what to say to that because it does kind of makes sense. But also, it doesn’t, because you can still care and hold certain things dear to you while letting go of the attachment? What would you say to someone you very much care for that is has this mindset? He’s such a good person and deserves to be happy so I very much appreciate any advice! 🙏

@Keryo Koffa by letting go, I mean being willing to feel it, not suppress it… I’m trying to encourage him to let it out so it can be let go. And of course here for him as he does that. I guess I wasn’t clear enough with what I meant by that. I’ve always known he tends to hold onto things but I brought it up after he mentioned that he wants to cry a lot but pushes it away and gets down on himself about it, things like that. Can’t remember exactly what it was he said. But I don’t think advice always has to be a negative or intrusive thing anyway..There is a way you can bring things up to people to help inspire them, influence, etc….But yes, my main concern is being a loving, emotionally supportive friend. ❤️

When I meditate, the emotional pain I had been distracting myself from arises… I just try to stay present with it n allow and breathe. But if there’s something else I could be doing to help release whatever energy this is within me… I would love to hear suggestions and thoughts. Thank you

@Davino this is the most encouraging thing ever ❤️

@Davino so I just did it, and meditated for a little after, and I still feel the contraction but it’s already so much less intense!!! ❤️ I’m so happy

@Davino OMG this is so helpful and makes so much sense now. I am definitely going to start doing the kundalini in addition to the meditation.. and I’m so excited that I know what to expect and that it will help so much with releasing. I can’t wait to feel lighter and happier within myself. Thank you!

Has anyone else experienced this? it’s very intense every time I am present in myself….

Sooo I went a tad off track these past couple of years in my personal development journey. And I am motivated to make some changes now! For one, I deactivated my social media. So that’s why I’m posting here.. on my spare time I consume a lot of educational content as far as YT videos and audio books, but looking for suggestions on a good place to just scroll (other than this forum or other forums really) lol that is more high consciousness and less of just a mindless distraction like social media can be. OR, any other suggestions on what I can do to replace social media time on my phone that is a higher consciousness activity? i have been building healthy habits outside of phone stuff already, so specifically I’m looking to see suggestions on that. TY!!!

@Carl-Richard ahh, I see where you’re coming from. Completely agreed!

@Ulax I am super curious about this!

@Carl-Richard how would you reframe that thought then? Of course being aware without any thought would be ideal And yesss, love musical instruments. I need to start playing my guitar again

@Yimpa great idea on the cooking videos. I do enjoy cooking. Any favorite yt channels? That’s crazy about the AI knowing what that 😶 I have never used AI!

@Yimpa habits outside of phone use are fine for now, already working on that stuff. Just curious on something entertaining/ higher consciousness as far as phone stuff

@Davino thank you!! what is immersive reading? i do listen to a lot of audio books already

@Davino @Thought Art I was watching this video of Bernardo Kastrup (my favorite philosopher). At one point in the video he was using a metaphor comparing physical death of the body, and ego death through high dose psychedelics. He mentioned there about the decrease in brain activity. (I just assume he was correct). I realized it kinda makes sense. Because during meditation wouldn’t your mind activity be decreased because of the stillness, and being present, etc… you would be more open to insight maybe insight Doesn’t require brain activity.

If psychedelics decrease brain activity, why the increase in insights…(metaphysical insights mostly)?

Is it because mind activity detracts from accessing truths. — maybe a better question for the other sub forums

I contemplated on if I do want kids or not, and if I had to boil it down it’d be ”having kids feels risky.” Is that a mindset of someone that should have kids? Side note, I did smoke some marijuana before I contemplated so I’m sure that affected my mindset, maybe slightly more paranoid. But just curious if anyone has thoughts on that because I’ve been undecided for forever! Mostly out of fear it seems!

@Moksha thank you ❤️☺️

For the past year, I’ve mainly been focusing on dating, and realized I’ve been in doing mode and thinking mode for most of this time. These past few weeks, I’ve been feeling more like getting into my body and feeling things through, slowing down, etc. Once I started doing this, some sadness and depression has come out. I assume it’s been in there this whole time and I’m just now in my body enough to be able to really feel it. once I get back into doing and thinking of course with the distraction, I feel better. What kind of balance do you all feel is healthiest for staying happy but also processing and allowing emotions to move through you? Is there any sort of practice you feel has worked best for you. I just kind of been doing mindfulness and body awareness practices. Thanks

Finally found someone I REALLY like! And I am needing advice! Because unfortunately, I am not feeling pursued much. And I don’t know how to go about changing this dynamic. maybe I showed him that I liked him too much too early so he’s just like oh I don’t have to put much effort in because I know she likes me. I was very vocal about that on our first date (I literally told him he was the handsomest and best personality with anyone I ever went out with lol). BUT yea… when we’re together we click and I can tell he likes me too. But then just not a lot of texting, (hard for him to at work and i think maybe he’s a gamer so I know how that can suck ppl in). And our last “date” — we had plans for what day we were getting together but he didn’t set any time or place. When the day came I asked if we were still getting together (which I feel like I shouldn’t need to). And he was just like yea I’m still down for meeting up later. Ok great, but a time or place without me having to ask would be nice So idk, if I was a man pursuing a woman I would want to lock that down. What I ended up doing was going out with my friends and meeting up with him afterwards because I was annoyed about that and wasn’t going to wait around. I called him while I was there and that’s when we figured out plans. He wasn’t assertive then either really was just like whatever you feel like doing! He’s very laid back. soooo yea! Currently just being casual because that’s how he’s being. But also he wants sex and I don’t really feel comfortable till I am feeling more pursued by him and with how casual things have felt. (Met up with him 3 times so far, each time we’ve hung out at his place after going out and I spent the night). Prly should’ve waited for that too. thoughts and opinions please!!!!

@Emerald @flowboy UPDATE! Spiritually related and I know this is the dating section so just fyi if that type of stuff doesn’t interest no need to read! But figured maybe some people here would appreciate it Synchronicities/interesting timing, law of attraction, psychic predictions coming true, as well as going with the flow of what life is bringing me, I think has lead me to my ACTUAL future husband lol (hopefully maybe) I was referring to that guy as my future husband to my friends after the first date! I wanted to being that energy into the universe and I realized that it was more that he was just the exact type of guy I pictured myself with rather than any actual feelings yet. And now I’m thinking that scenario meant to happen as a learning experience for me to meet the right one? ?SO after I decided to move my focus elsewhere from that guy, I found a dating site that had the most type of men that are my type. And in my bio I described what I am a fan of personality wise. (Law of attraction) So THEN. I meet this guy, very much my type as well, ends up fitting the personality description great too. And now a little back story…. I saw a psychic that had a very good reputation back in my early 20s. She knew a lot of things but also predicted a lot of things and I do believe some psychics are legit. So check this out! she said she saw me marrying someone that his work had to do with houses or buildings. (This guy is a union plumber). Also having multiple properties, and she specifically mentioned Arizona and/or San Diego. (I had gone on a San Diego trip prior, and to this day it’s still one of my favorite places). I was JUST talking to someone about that like 3 days ago for the first time in ages. So he is from San Diego!!! (Synchronicity for sure.) I had no idea either until after I met him in person. He wants to move back there and has goals of flipping houses and having rental properties. I also am big into home renovations personally so that fits perfectly! There were other big things that fit what she said too but I don’t want to ramble on too long. All of this seems like too much to be a coincidence to me! So I will see how things progress but it’s feeling very positive! I have a little bit of butterflies and smile when I think about him, his love languages I very much like as well so we are off to a great start ?

@Average Investor So true. I never even thought about how it could come off that way. But in all honesty I was kinda trying to distract myself from the anxiousness of not hearing from him yet…and be able to have a fun night whether he canceled or not. He went out all night the night before and was still sleeping at 3:30pm. So yes I did think it was a little rude as well so there was a bit of what you described mixed in for sure lol and direct communication would have saved some frustration!

@flowboy I do want to say that. But he never responded to my last text a couple of days ago… so it would be really random, unless I initiate AGAIN.. yesterday I was anxious today it’s whatever, I’ve accepted it probably ended up just being a good learning experience. If he perceives it as me losing interest it’d only be because of his lack of effort so if he wants to regain my interest he’ll have to actually put some effort in. if for some reason we do talk again though that will absolutely be being said.

That sounds perfect. I feel better about this. It is what it is I’m happy to have had the experience either way. Look forward to checking out the channels ?