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@Salvijus Thanks man! Much appreciate that! I love watching how all these things Leo suggests to me are starting to work after a year of hardcore growth, its super rewarding! Good luck with your life purpose too man!!

You guys are just pointing out the negative things, but there are things to be learned from lower stages, but you have to combine them with the higher ones to reach your full potential. In beige, you can get enough rest, physical health, hormonal balance. In purple you can master relationships, family and rituals (habits). In red you can master motivation, execution and maybe sexual energy... In blue you create some order/schedule that fits you, you become responsible for your actions and very industrious. In orange you use these principles to lead other, you can also develop social skills like extraversion and assertiveness. In green you should become more compassionate, but if you combine healthy red ad healthy green, you will stop letting other walk all over you and maybe you will stop respecting the nonsencial hierarchies created by blue. In yellow you just become highly open and systemic and in turquoise you can finally master all the bad emotions and traits like volatility, withdrawal and neuroticism - many people even in yellow suffer from emotional pain, not as much as an average blue, but turquoise is the real deal here.

@Aquarius Well, I am 15 years old, doing high school and stuff, but I am doing best... I didnt particularly want you to give me a detailed view into your personal life... I wanted to you to observe yourself, ask yourself, if you want to live like this or if you are just full of lies... I dont know you and your friend, I didnt say that you dont know, that you can learn, I just wanted you to contemplate

@Aquarius Maybe he is actually right, try to be 100% honest with yourself - if you saw yourself in a classroom of 50 people and you wanted to choose the 1 person, that you would be willing to rely on - would you point at yourself inside the large group of others? Be freaking honest, if you are only gonna read and never actually apply what you read, thats just mental masturbation! I dont know where you are in life, whats your career, health, relationships and mind like, but... There is ALWAYS room for improvement. Even if you consider yourself a stage or two higher than your friend, you still probably have something to learn from him, be open to that possibility. Observe yourself, do you actually act according to the good books that you read? Can you spot the shitty ones? Do you execute on your plans?

Is he actually turquoise or just kidding lol?

@Hellspeed He probably means it like that if you are true yellow, you are gonna be open to learning from the lower stages, as well as from the higher ones. Orange can become open to learning from beige - how they follow their gut feeling and stuff... Good leaderships skills are red thinking (Adolf Hitler) but they are destructive, if you dont transcend green's compassion... you get it now?

If your meditation practise and life purpose are decent enough, you wont even want to play video games anymore. The feeling of good fight, accomplished meaningful work, awakening or a big aha moment are much more rewarding than a victory in LoL...

This is so true. My friend has huge eyes and looks basically like a mutated elf, because his hairstyle is the typical Lord of the Rings one. But he is dating a girl, who is super hot and has also graduated from Harvard, so she isnt dumb either. He is super driven, social and compassionate. Thats the qualities you should be looking towards

@Mafortu Its good to be open to art, to embrace your feminine essence. I understand what you mean, but the negative thing about video games is the addiction about them. Every addiction you have is stopping you from achieving eudaimonia.

@Viking I think that you already got enough answers, now it the time to go and try doing the actual work, good luck buddy!

Some of the books there I read and they are great!

@Viking At some point, you are gonna need to break the ice and dive into it... Maybe you will fail 20 times, or even 50 times before you quit addictions, it usually happens, but failure = growth. I used to be hard porn and video game addict, I also was a needy lover... I needed to fail too many times and it hurt as hell, but here I am, almost addiction free, still working on things like diet, but once you get going, it gets easier and easier. You also have to commit 100%, because its easier than commiting 99% paradoxically... Because if you do that, then you are gonna think that every day is THE day when you can slack off. Its not about pushing yourself, that will only create more suffering, but rather being conscious of the harm that its causing you, learn about body awareness and psychology... Do counter-intuitive things, it will show you, how the world is so paradoxical and unrational, contemplate everything.

@Viking By destroying the false assumptions and quitting your addictions man! If you are addicted to dopamine, you have to stop being addicted on it, get that dopamine level down. If you rely on your dopamine levels to be high, they will have to get higher and higher, and you will have much harder time to find stuff that satisfies you. Its completely possible to do that, but your body will suffer and people who do this often die from heart attacks and strokes, its just not even an option for you, no whining. Meditation, studying and actualizing gives you much less dopamine than porn and soap operas. You need to calm down, then you will be able to enjoy yourself, its that simple. Probably watch Leo's videos about happiness, quitting addictions and eudaimonia vs hedonism, they will be very benefitial for you. Just be honest to yourself, did you ever contemplate the question you asked me? If you did, you are lying, no way you did, otherwise you would spot the bullshit almost immidiately.

@Viking Thats false assumption man. Its actually the reason why you are addicted - you assume that your life will get worse without these things. Check out the happiness spectrum, you can meditate or learn, meet interesting and inspiring people - that kind of happiness is like 1000 % better quality than orgasm.

@Viking Did you watch Leo's video on quitting addictions? I did literally the thing that Leo advised me to do and it worked! Just overdo the things, that are safe to overdo (not alcohol, drugs...) with your full consciousness. Try entering a very focused state via meditation or just relaxation and then try to watch your favourite top 10 videos and ask yourself, who are you gonna be, if you keep doing this for the rest of your life? Or try to fap two times in a row, your body will almost deny that, thats when you know its bad for you and even if you succeed, you are gonna feel anxious and tired as hell. I think you get the idea.

Be confident with how you look, learn to make fun of yourself. You can still improve, even if you look bad. You can self-actualize, get rid of addictions, meditate, work on your diet and proper exercise... so much stuff to explore man, looks is just one thing and its not the most important one. I basically look like a gypsy with strange vampire like teeth and I still smile at people, nobody judges me. My mum has the same issue, but she doesnt have the dark skin, that I have. My friends call me words for fun, I got used to it and they accept it, I have no social issues. You can definitely catch up your look with your inner treasure, develop yourself, never give up, you can always get better and better. Learn how to see the big picture and solve problems at their rootcauses, thats probably the thing that can solve your problem!

@Lorcan You are still oversimplifying the model probably, you should stop that...

@Casey Gavin Powers Think about what you can improve by yourself, Leo's videos have really helped me to cure my own depression.

@Shin ... I remember like 10 years ago, me and my friends from primary school used to call it a bone down there...

@Shin this is literally happening to me as I am on the journey, great vid man!

Does it make sense that if I take 100% responsibility, I have infinite free will? By the way, all stages are equally important, they all need to be transcended and integrated. If you take responsibility, but you dont have the thinking of a yellow person and the leadership skills of an orange one, while being too little empathetic, because you did not transcend green, it all goes to trash. It also goes the other way around, if you are a genius, but you dont tell anyone, you are a useless person.

@Emerald I was sleeping over at a cottage with my classmates this weekend. I actually noticed, how blue they are, we played some very hard psychological games and it was so obvious.... Thanks for making me notice that, I wouldnt be able to do that without you probably... I will also work on my lower stages of the spiral, as I am getting more accurate about my position in the spiral...

@passerby Try quitting the porn and other addictions to get the maximum effect.

@Hello from Russia I am reading Deida right now, I think he is yellow/turquoise... great book.

At the exact moment that he knew... he f*cked up. Just kidding, it goes deeper than that. If you are familiar with spiral dynamics, this might help you. Colour like beige, purple, red and blue have been on this planet for thousands of years, they have become almost natural, in contrast to orange, which is here for like 300 years or so... Humans are not affected so much by biological evolution (but its getting faster with birth control), so they are very fixed to the history of their genes, its all memory. Imagine, that you are a man in a tribe, a few thousands years ago, you see an enemy emerging and its a death fight. Either you kill all of them and their girls will love you, or they kill you and all your friends and also family and will use your mum, daughter, cousin as a sex slave. This is subconcious instinct. Who do you think would have a bigger chance of surviving in these circumstances? Of course, the evolution of attraction goes deeper than this, but this is how ti generally works from what I know.