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@Viking I think that you already got enough answers, now it the time to go and try doing the actual work, good luck buddy!

Some of the books there I read and they are great!

@Viking At some point, you are gonna need to break the ice and dive into it... Maybe you will fail 20 times, or even 50 times before you quit addictions, it usually happens, but failure = growth. I used to be hard porn and video game addict, I also was a needy lover... I needed to fail too many times and it hurt as hell, but here I am, almost addiction free, still working on things like diet, but once you get going, it gets easier and easier. You also have to commit 100%, because its easier than commiting 99% paradoxically... Because if you do that, then you are gonna think that every day is THE day when you can slack off. Its not about pushing yourself, that will only create more suffering, but rather being conscious of the harm that its causing you, learn about body awareness and psychology... Do counter-intuitive things, it will show you, how the world is so paradoxical and unrational, contemplate everything.

@Viking By destroying the false assumptions and quitting your addictions man! If you are addicted to dopamine, you have to stop being addicted on it, get that dopamine level down. If you rely on your dopamine levels to be high, they will have to get higher and higher, and you will have much harder time to find stuff that satisfies you. Its completely possible to do that, but your body will suffer and people who do this often die from heart attacks and strokes, its just not even an option for you, no whining. Meditation, studying and actualizing gives you much less dopamine than porn and soap operas. You need to calm down, then you will be able to enjoy yourself, its that simple. Probably watch Leo's videos about happiness, quitting addictions and eudaimonia vs hedonism, they will be very benefitial for you. Just be honest to yourself, did you ever contemplate the question you asked me? If you did, you are lying, no way you did, otherwise you would spot the bullshit almost immidiately.

@Viking Thats false assumption man. Its actually the reason why you are addicted - you assume that your life will get worse without these things. Check out the happiness spectrum, you can meditate or learn, meet interesting and inspiring people - that kind of happiness is like 1000 % better quality than orgasm.

@Viking Did you watch Leo's video on quitting addictions? I did literally the thing that Leo advised me to do and it worked! Just overdo the things, that are safe to overdo (not alcohol, drugs...) with your full consciousness. Try entering a very focused state via meditation or just relaxation and then try to watch your favourite top 10 videos and ask yourself, who are you gonna be, if you keep doing this for the rest of your life? Or try to fap two times in a row, your body will almost deny that, thats when you know its bad for you and even if you succeed, you are gonna feel anxious and tired as hell. I think you get the idea.

Be confident with how you look, learn to make fun of yourself. You can still improve, even if you look bad. You can self-actualize, get rid of addictions, meditate, work on your diet and proper exercise... so much stuff to explore man, looks is just one thing and its not the most important one. I basically look like a gypsy with strange vampire like teeth and I still smile at people, nobody judges me. My mum has the same issue, but she doesnt have the dark skin, that I have. My friends call me words for fun, I got used to it and they accept it, I have no social issues. You can definitely catch up your look with your inner treasure, develop yourself, never give up, you can always get better and better. Learn how to see the big picture and solve problems at their rootcauses, thats probably the thing that can solve your problem!

@Lorcan You are still oversimplifying the model probably, you should stop that...

@Casey Gavin Powers Think about what you can improve by yourself, Leo's videos have really helped me to cure my own depression.

@Shin ... I remember like 10 years ago, me and my friends from primary school used to call it a bone down there...

@Shin this is literally happening to me as I am on the journey, great vid man!

Does it make sense that if I take 100% responsibility, I have infinite free will? By the way, all stages are equally important, they all need to be transcended and integrated. If you take responsibility, but you dont have the thinking of a yellow person and the leadership skills of an orange one, while being too little empathetic, because you did not transcend green, it all goes to trash. It also goes the other way around, if you are a genius, but you dont tell anyone, you are a useless person.

@Emerald I was sleeping over at a cottage with my classmates this weekend. I actually noticed, how blue they are, we played some very hard psychological games and it was so obvious.... Thanks for making me notice that, I wouldnt be able to do that without you probably... I will also work on my lower stages of the spiral, as I am getting more accurate about my position in the spiral...

@passerby Try quitting the porn and other addictions to get the maximum effect.

@Hello from Russia I am reading Deida right now, I think he is yellow/turquoise... great book.

At the exact moment that he knew... he f*cked up. Just kidding, it goes deeper than that. If you are familiar with spiral dynamics, this might help you. Colour like beige, purple, red and blue have been on this planet for thousands of years, they have become almost natural, in contrast to orange, which is here for like 300 years or so... Humans are not affected so much by biological evolution (but its getting faster with birth control), so they are very fixed to the history of their genes, its all memory. Imagine, that you are a man in a tribe, a few thousands years ago, you see an enemy emerging and its a death fight. Either you kill all of them and their girls will love you, or they kill you and all your friends and also family and will use your mum, daughter, cousin as a sex slave. This is subconcious instinct. Who do you think would have a bigger chance of surviving in these circumstances? Of course, the evolution of attraction goes deeper than this, but this is how ti generally works from what I know.

@graji Thanks brother, I am not a med student, but I like understanding things, so I will definitely check that out

@Emerald I see what you are pointing to now... But literally every stage of the tier 1 thinks, that its values are the best, or maybe close to the best. I also dont understand, why it can be, that if a blue person goes into orange, he doesnt become orange. (if he does value it of course, friends might just make him do it...) From what Leo is saying, I imagine green as someone, who is disgusted by grafitti, sex, drugs, alcohol... People who do these things are usually orange or red in my point of view, I have never seen it as you are seeing it. Do you think, that if a girl is really emotional, volunteers in a hospital, is very caring, has many friends around her... that it can actually be blue? Its not like a dogma, it really appears to me as green, how is it not green? The same with orange, I have a friend, who is probably still a bit blue, but he is so obsessed with science, he could gradute from high school in the age of 15 and he criticizes even people like Wim Hof, he would think they are literally cheating or using some technological device in their lungs... I just feel that these things that you named can appear in any stage in tier 1, its not just a matter of blue.

@graji Is it safe to follow his regimen without his control though? I think its very risky, but I really want to try it!

@Emerald I dont understand, what do you mean by blue/orange... Can you describe it more accurately please? It just feels that there is no way, that most of my classmates are blue. I am probably very green, some orange, some yellow, but... my classmates are green or orange, maybe some are red and blue, but its definitely not the majority

@Emerald What country do you live in?

Hey guys, I think that my relationship with my mum and dad could be a lot better, I am making it grow by helping my parents cook, vacuuming and stuff like that, but when I am running around, only helping my parents, I cannot really grow that much, if you add school and other necessities to the equation. The problem is, even if I do help them, they still say that I dont know what life is about (they are both quite neurotic people) and that I should stop watching that weird bald man and the weird bearded man and rather focus on having fun. But they dont see inside me, they think that meditation and contemplation is meaningless, they dont see my inner growth and they are so brainwashed and close-minded, but I have to have a good relationship with them, because I live with them and will live with them for a long time from now. I have been doing self-development for like half a year now and it has really made a difference inside me. But my parents only see me watching my hand and saying mantras, as I am practising Kriya yoga. They dont respect Leo, because they think he is just another faculty of Arts students without any deeper knowledge. How do I balance that? I dont want to accept their blue values, it would slow down my growth and I wouldnt feel like I am living to my fullest...

@7thLetter You might be partially right, but I live with them, they can see me watching Leo and doing all these spiritual practises. In my opinion, its better to tell them that I am gonna do Wim Hof method, than if they thought I am fapping or something... I live in different conditions. But generally, I agree that its not a good idea to tell others about it, if you dont actually know that it might help them. About your job... I think that you should keep this private and focus all your brain power to your actions and improvement. Actions speak louder than words, when it comes to business and making money in my opinion.

@brugluiz Congratulations man, how are you feeling?

@Elisabeth Thanks Elisabeth, itsd great that we are finally starting to agree on this, sometimes, I have these kinds of explosions of immatureness, which cause me to think that everyone else is deluded, I have to work on transcending the lower stages in order to move deeper into tier 2. If I would actually find a way to make money, oh man, that would be huge in my age. I dont mean that kind of selling ice-cream thing, even though I might want to start with that, just to see what its like. I meant that some people who graduate from college and work, even like 40, 50 year olds (my parents' friends) sometimes seem so stubborn and selfish to me, its incredible. I understand its more complex than just that, but when I am starting to see all these opportunities, like finding a life purpose, meditating every day... Life seems so full.