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Do you know any enlightened people in central Europe, who are organizing events like retreats?

I realized, that when I make someone smile, laugh or give them some great value, I feel the love inside me, just as if I was the other person... Giving and teaching is my real passion.

@Andreas That's a good idea! I am probably doing that already, but I might try to work on it more... Great insight! @Key Elements I am gonna do that once I have some alone time... I am quite busy doing these speeches, creating presentations and materials, getting experience, I am also going to a student leadership institute event in February and I have to book the flight and organize all the things so yeah But thanks for the reminder! Another thing is - how do I not copy someone else? I would like to bring something original to the table, but it's very hard... I still need to grow myself, I will probably invest in Leo's courses on Christmas and start doing intense research on this topic.

@7thLetter Sounds like a good idea, but I live in a small town, its kind of hard to do pick-up and I am 15 as well Maybe I will try something similar... @Shadowraix Yeh... I agree with you, it all makes much better sense to me now. I just enjoy how Leo is not too pushy to be weird, but not too passive either... I will have to work hard to find that balance

@Rilles Reading enriches your personality, as well as your work. You will be able to copy the authors you like, your vocabulary will be larger... You cannot really go wrong with reading

@Equanimitize I see... thats probably true. @7thLetter I am doing most of the things that Leo suggests me to do, I really am not just watching. How can pick-up help you?

@7thLetter I will definitely work on myself, but in what direction, can you give me any advice on that? Maybe from your exeprience and results? I read that book, its simple, but foundational... Maybe I will read it again. But! If people read it too much, its not too good either When you see those people give you extremely strong handshakes and overuse your name Thats what you can see with some of those self-help junkies. @B_Naz Exercises are definitely great, when I talk to my friends who are interested, I always mention the practical side. I have never tried visualization, maybe I should give it a try... I have never really believed in easy and quick 1, 2, 3 steps solutions... But maybe new people need at least some of these to get interested in the first place! Thanks!

Yeh, just practice, practice different writing styles, show your work to your friends/teachers to make it improve, read it, read a lot - this is what my friend recommended me, she is writing a book now, it really is noticable in her stories, whether she read in that time or didnt read... Dont overthink it too much.

@7thLetter @B_Naz I understand what you are trying to say... You are most probably right. I am quite good at finding problems, but nobody really takes my advice seriously, even if they are quietly listening and looking at me and its obvious that they are interested... (I am able to recognize whether someone is or isnt interested, I am not dogmatic about this, its usually only around 15 % of people) I am not going to people, telling them about it, I organize events and meetings, explain what its gonna be about, some of them are very interested, but they dont know how to start self-actualizing... I know its very hard, thats why I am asking... Is there any way to motivate people better, except being a good example? How to become a more motivating speaker, like Leo for example? Are there any good books to read about it? I dont even know if its even possible to do such a thing... I am just curious.

@Wyze Try reading Katie Byron, Leo recommends her. Her techniques are very effective, you just have to do them. The book's name is „Love what is“. It helps you spot every problem inside you in order to stop judging. It could even be blue level thinking, but I dont know you... Realize, that by doing this, you arent helping anyone, especially not yourself. Why be stressed out because of a stupid accident, rather than be happy always?

@Aquarius The fact that he hasnt ended the relationship already or hasnt stopped contacting you is surprising from what I know... Were you telling him to go out or was it him? Maybe he just doesnt want to be rude or something, I cant really tell.

@Shin Neediness for attention and confidence are two different things I suppose...

@Aquarius There are multiple options, he might want you back, or he might be repressing something else... He might also just not want your relationship to end so suddenly, so he is desperately trying to keep it alive.. idk

@d0ornokey Yeh, but she most likely doesnt have self-esteem issues if she wants to become the number one... even though its not healthy...

@Leo Gura Why do the Enlightened gurus of today have or had wives? What is the meaning of a relationship to them? How is it different? It would be great if you did an advanced video on relationships in the future, I think more people than just me were talking about this Also, if you go meditate into a cave or a forest, it doesnt really matter, doesnt it mean that you have almost no life-purpose? I think that these highly developed people are needed to participate on the function of our society, what Sadhguru is doing seems very revolutional.

If you still want it, you are stubborn. We are trying to protect you from the pain you wouldve experienced, if you went into a relationship like this, we dont mean it badly. Just listen to the people who have already been in a relationship, it helps you to see further than just your little paradigm. I dated a girl when I had these issues and it ended horribly, DONT DO IT.

@Viking I understand your situation. I used to be just like you not a long ago. But it was probably because I didnt have enough energy because of my bad mental and emotional habits and also addiction - lack of energy. Now when I fixed most of these, I feel much more relaxed and making jokes and fun of myself just seems natural. Meditation also helps a lot. That doesnt mean, that you should be very social, you can most definitely be focused on reading, meditating and stuff like that, but observe it, maybe you can find a problem there, maybe you have some kind of false belief or fear that needs to be fixed. But maybe you are just not interested in meaningless talk. Find a balance, experiment, I would recommend you to work on addictions and beliefs, start meditating if you arent, these things make a difference, especially nofap. I dont know you, so I cannot really give you any relevant advice, but extraversion and happiness are connected. Dont confuse extraversion with neediness and addiction on people though! Most enlightened masters are very social and extraverted, they are also very happy - does Sadhguru, Mooji or Eckhart Tolle seem like someone who is not social or rages a lot?

@Shin Thanks Shin, I appreciate that! You are the chosen one as well!

@Aquarius I dont think that you are trying to teach anyone... I just saw that you are in a similar situation as I am, so I wanted to tell you what I learned. Trying to save you some time Hope it helps. @ajasatya Thanks! I still think that I am not mature in most areas... I need to get kicked real hard to realize something, I used to be a serious narcissist and I just couldnt understand what people are saying me indirectly. I only started to learn about that lately.

@Ampresus I just wanted to tell you that there are more things that you can learn via self-experimentation and I also wanted to give you some advice on how to ask better questions here on this forum. You cannot read my whole personality from these posts. My message: Think about what you are asking and what you are answering. Be vigilant - there is always room for improvement, not only in the things you try but also how you try them and how you learn from it. I dont think you didnt succeed... I just said that there is room for improvement.

@Aquarius Lot of my friends are also angry when I talk about these things, but... Why would you be angry about that? You need to mature to that point, just let them be themselves. I understand your pain, I tried to teach my friends about Spiral dynamics and all the spiritual stuff that Leo talks about and how profound it is, how meditation can change their life - their mind was blown away, but the next day, they told me that they wanna stay in orange, because its pleasant... If a person isnt genuinely interested, you cannot count on them that they are gonna listen to you unfortunately. Only very little people are like this, I dont know how old you are, but I need to be friends with 15 years older people in order to get some juice from the relationship. Its a hard pill to swallow, you need to think about how are you contributing your friends and how can you learn from them, its like a feedback loop. Understand that people dont enjoy if you tell them what to do, before people start to leave you because of that.

@Ampresus If you dont watch most of the videos, you wont even know if they apply to you. If you arent patient enough to watch a video, how can you be patient enough to develop a skill? Have you ever watched a whole video that you thought doesnt apply to you? I watch almost all videos and all of them apply to me, its very likely that you are underestimating his content or you arent doing notes... I dont know man, try to think about it. I didnt say anything about self-experimentation being bad, you just dodged the answer and said some that I wasnt even talking about. The thing with self-experimentation is, that you need to try tons of different things, but you are obviously closed off, its visible just from the way you talk. Try to not be so stubborn, you are more open than most people, but please read what I actually told you. If you know something for sure, how can you be vigilant and keep experimenting, with the belief that you already know the answer? Its impossible man.

@winterknight Thanks for the answers! I will try doing this inquiry every single day from now on. Is there any other useful psychological field that might be worth looking into?

@winterknight You were recommending some books, which included Zen teachings of Bodhidharma and Talks with Sri Ramana Maharshi - we have both of these in our local library actually, I will go read them asap! What is your recommended technique of meditation/yoga/contemplation? You were also talking about talking with a psychoanalytic if possible - I have friends who are really good psychologists and brain scientist, what should I ask them? How to get the most juice out of the conversation with them? (we are talking on today's evening)

That's is the thing that I am warning you from! You just belief the things that Leo says, if Leo doesn't say them, you have to ask, don't worship him dude... That's an ego trap. You can definitely learn from Leo, but don't use him as the only learning source. I thought about that and I was probably right, using your common sense doesn't mean looking it up on Leo's channel, try thinking about it for yourself - why would you not be charismatic? What does it even mean to be charismatic? Charisma on command is a useful channel, but be aware that he is not conscious of many things and his channel seems like a typical one, that is stuck in orange, those tricks are all fake, if you don't fix yourself, even by applying his advice, you're gonna be basically fake confident and charismatic. Most things will come naturally, as you become more conscious, sober and happy. It's good that you know, but don't really be so confident that you know something, as you can see, there are still things that you need to learn, many of them. You are on a good path, but stay vigilant, always.