bejapuskas

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  1. You are a machiavellian, stop seeing so much shit in other people, stop judging them and stop being so affraid of their intentions, it is no good for you. You can absolutely be good with girls, just in a different way, you will also get different (probably better) type of girls. You are probably not authentic enough, you have just accepted some dogmas about relationships from others, it's not the real you Get over it!
  2. @Shin I have heard that yoga helps with focusing Maybe you can try it
  3. For me, the key was to focus on presence and start making progress NOW.
  4. I tried it yesterday for the first time, but after 8 minutes I felt intense pain in my arteries around my elbows, so I stopped. Is it normal for this to happen or was it correct to stop doing the exercise? I want to get back to it after a week.
  5. @LiakosN Yes, actually physically dangerous, but I don't know, if it's true or not... I mean, anything is physically dangerous if you do too much of it, right, but some things should be especially taken care of. What do you think @Leo Gura ?
  6. @okulele That's interesting. I feel like I am running away from these problems. I usually do my own thing, then they ask me to come, but I am too lazy to come, and when I come they usually argue, shout or discuss meaningless topics, that they don't even understand. I should probably take the responsibility onto myself.
  7. I actually heard from my friend who tried it and did a bit of research on it, that it can be a bit dangerous, is that right or just a hoax?
  8. @brugluiz Go watch some David Goggins and then try to whine Suffering to growth is a good and exciting way to develop yourself After you discover the helplessness of the ego, you will find that discipline and pain feel 100 times better than laziness and boredom.
  9. Your arguments are still based on assumptions, you cannot see a star infinitely far away, just as you cannot see a sign that is 50 km away from you, it's too far, basic physics. Black is not a visual mistake. You see black if there is no light basically. I fell that you include more emotion in this than I do, observe yourself. If we were 1 thousand years ago in the past, I could say that the fact, that the Earth is flat, is an educated guess, now I would look like an idiot, you never know, when science could be wrong.
  10. @okulele It's a nice idea, I like it, but I cannot imagine, that my parents and brother won't discuss these points after the discussion... They just care TOO much about what others think. They give up their emotional health for their quality of life easily... Can this make the problem even worse or do you think that it can solve it?
  11. @Ali123 Try it and see
  12. Your arguments stand on assumptions, you cannot know
  13. Who said that the Universe is covered in stars? Even if it wasn't, there could be an area without stars... The stars could also be so far away, that the light that is coming to you hasn't yet arrived...
  14. @okulele That's a great idea, but it will be hard to make it work. I actually don't feel like talking with them at all, but it is probably worth to try at least once... Maybe I don't enjoy their company because they have always been there and I take them for granted? It just popped up in my mind... What exactly do you talk about? Do you ever say what you dislike about the others? Do you discuss the problems? Are you trying to be 100% honest and direct in the conversation and say everything you think?
  15. Try doing 14 cold showers a week
  16. @Eric Tarpall You actually care so much, but you are resisting it, you don't face your fear. What resists, persists. Try journaling.
  17. I started journalling today and I am pulling up all this dark shit from myself. Thanks for advice, I am just a liar.
  18. @Sahil Pandit That's probably quite accurate. Well, I need to solve my own shit first... Is there a way for me to get what I want without making them feel like bad parents?
  19. Why would you want to surpass them?
  20. @Michael569 Hm... I see. Maybe I am still not completely healthy. My doctor prescribed me the stool testing by the way, so I will get more insight about my guts. My blood testing went really well, there are probably almost no other problems in my body.
  21. But striving for perfection is also a trap. You can become excellent at your field, contribute society, but by craving perfection, you will go mad, there is always someone, who is better than you at something.
  22. @Michael569 I started eating less sugar and I immediately started feeling better, I am probably almost healthy by now I will still see the nutritionist and do the testing if necessary, but it's getting good again quickly
  23. @Aquarius Men on these sites don't work like that unfortunately.
  24. @Aquarius This is like going around a playground, telling children that the Santa doesn't bring them any presents Also you cannot really generalize. It's just kind of obvious, that men on chatting sites usually want sex. You cannot really have any high expectations there sadly A regular person has a huge ego and when it's a rational man like this one, he will want you to love only him, there are probably almost no exceptions there. Nowadays, telling people about this stuff is an easy way to repel them. (I've tried it myself, it doesn't help, it does exactly the opposite - think about counter-intuitiveness, the Universe isn't linear!) I understand that it's hard to grasp, even sad maybe, but you cannot really disagree with reality