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What I noticed is, that kids (mostly pre-school) often naturally have the qualities we want in others and in ourselves, like confidence, focus, happiness, energy... So I guess it would be possible to bring meditation to schools but maybe for some people in the conventional education system, it's just too late.

@soos_mite_ah You can learn a lot from both socializing and solitude. Just follow the thing that feels right, don't force anything.

@SQAAD Fear like this is a predictor of suffering, not a predictor of what will actually happen Also by not fearing or not resisting the existence of rape, genocide, racism, child molestation, heart disease, corona virus etc., you are not adding wood to the fire of the issue, you are just feeling better for your own sake. And when you feel better, it's usually easier to work on stuff.

@PukkaDanks Exactly! It's hard to be present just sitting around, not having anything to do and not knowing what to do. @Sigitas Thanks for the recommendation. Maybe you have a good intuition, if you are doing the practices without being here and now, it's hard to enjoy them to their fullest. You can never become something you are not, you can just think that you did.

Why do you think mostly psychopaths live in the present moment? At no point on the path should you be going for something that doesn't feel good, that is not true, or become somebody/something you are not already in this moment. Do the practices and things that work for you, only you know what's the best for you, from your inner feeling.

@flowboy That really sucks that you wasted your time and resources. At least you've set down your boundaries and won't invite him to tripsit again, many people would have problems saying no to others. This is the kind of good quality post we need more of on this forum.

Maybe the lack of connection has a different root cause - too much time spent online together, only a few real life interactions, not listening deeply to the other one and trying to present mostly your own ideas, being decenteralized with confusion about the other because of the before mentioned assumptions... I don't know you, so these might be just speculations, but consider.

What about the number of people tripping together, was that ok, or would you rather try again alone or in a smaller number? Perhaps it's really hard for anyone to look after 6 children at one time... But yeh he wasn't ready, at least you know now and can share it with us, thanks a lot for that

Are you here and now throughout the day, or are you trying to time travel and be in a different state than in the here and now? Maybe you could also try yoga with a teacher, it is also a physical and energetic exercise, so you are working on more types of „muscles“ at the same time. And the results come more immediately. But never try to have results in the moment, if you are not having them. That is just not how it works to be in the present moment.

@soos_mite_ah Hey, I think I can relate. Perhaps what could help is to stop focusing on others, but on yourself. What feels good for you, what feels bad for you. Then you just follow the good feeling. Perhaps one on one conversations (be it in a proffesor's office or a café, doesn't matter almost at all) resonate with good feeling, and huge parties with meaningless group chats resonate with bad feeling. I guess you might not have as much life experience as someone older than you, but by trying different things and seeing what works for you, you will estabilish good values that you can trust almost always and also gain more life experiences, as you're gonna weed out the unfulfilling things and trying new, interesting things that you can do. Also, try not to limit your social circles to your school or some other institution, that can seriously limit you. Perhaps look up some interesting events in a nearby city and go there, since you will have a much higher chance of meeting someone you resonate with. If you don't have social anxiety and low self-esteem, it should be easy to chat them up. For example I love learning languages, so at the age of 14, I used to go to speeches of professors to the department of Asian studies in my city about the Chinese and Japanese culture and language, and I met amazing friends there, most of them older in age. I get it can be harder as a girl, since people will want to date you, but still, you can reject them if you don't feel like it, or start a relationship, if you think it is a good idea. Don't limit yourself to spirituality, often highly developed people have a passion or a life purpose, that they are working on, so you might not even think they are worth talking to, if you don't consider this about them. Good luck.

@Sandy6 See, if you yourself selflessly shine on others, there will be more than one sun for you. Just walk out of the shadows and look around There is not a single doubt about you in my mind.

So what would you like in a real friend, what is it, that a real friend wants in you?

Do you consider your friends real friends? Can you count on them? Can you open up and be sensitive and honest with them?

@commie What are the points I am missing?

@commie Sorry, it was probably an error. I am not saying porn is like having sex, but I was assuming it has a similar effect as prostitution. Why would it be bs? In that time frame, internet became available in many countries, most likely together with porn, so if porn really has this influence on society, then it only makes sense that there numbers decreased not only in one country. The fall of the communist era and censorship was probably just another related event, that accidentally happened at a similar time, but I don't think it was the only cause of this.

I think looking at this in terms of infinity = zero is misleading. Because the word/number zero still holds meaning, as can the word infinity. In maths you can have many kinds of infinity that you can count with and arrive at sensible solutions to real world problems, or you can also use zero in maths. But what Leo is talking about here is none of that.

@Gesundheit @Rilles You can watch ted talks on youtube by prostitutes, they actually pick their clients, which is understandable from my pov though. @commie There was a study done in the former Czechoslovakia about this. Czechoslovakia (Czechia and Slovakia as for today) used to be a communist state under a heavy Russian influence with high levels of censorship, therefore there was very little porn available for Czech and Slovak men. After the communist era was over (1990s and on), the censorship became basically non-existent and internet porn has also been available in Czechia and Slovakia since then. The sexual assault rates are now, according to the Czech police, about 40 % lower than they used to be. So porn isn't pure evil for humanity, it has some positive effects too, although there is this thing with the porn industry contributing to a lot of corruption and devilry behind the scenes of it including rape and sex trafficing... So I wonder what a better, pragmatic solution would be.

@Don Wei You look good man. I think one face pattern can fit both sexes equally well. For example I also look very similar to my sister but neither of us looks weird or anything like that x) And I've seen cases of this many times in families, like when the daughter looks like her father etc... It's totally fine

@Artsu Why is it a problem?

There are meditation circles with the school psychologist now at my school, I haven't been there though. I don't know if it's a good idea to bring it to the lessons and „force“ people to meditate, what do you think?

@VincentArogya

@Don Wei Leo grows a beard, because without it, he would look more similar to my age and nobody would take him seriously

Please be careful with posting about Red Pill and similar ideologies. You can find pieces of wisdom literally anywhere, but we don't want the newbies on this forum to accept some toxic ideologies about human relationships. If you are wise enough not to trap yourself, sure, but there are many videos on youtube from people who have walked down the path of Red Pill / RSD etc... and have not gotten what they truly wanted in the first place. You can live a good life and attract people, boys and girls, through authenticity too.

@Carl-Richard Education institutions like that are starting to appear in the Czech Republic where I live too, but they are more like alternative projects, not that common. It's nice to see that these kids don't have problems with academics as many people might thing. I also have a personal experience with studying under teachers who had working experiences from Germany and the Netherlands (not Norway but I suppose it's kind of close in terms of quality) and I could feel the difference kinda.

@VincentArogya Feels good huh