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The media is not institutionally racist towards white people. People of all races die, but mostly only white deaths are showcased, making it harder for people to sympathize with other races. The media are actually very biased in this sense. You don't need to blame yourself for being born white just because someone who looks similar to you is an idiot. I am locking this, please do not post similar content.

@kray Do what Hugo Oliveira suggested every time, it can make her wet which makes everything easier and less painful. Condoms are not only preventing pregnancy, but also STDs. Sometimes queer people mistakenly think that using condoms is useless and they end up catching diseases. I think not jerking off everyday might help you get out of your head and become more in flow.

@Javfly33 They definitely do. I mean, many of them do, there are asexual women also, but that is not the majority at all. I mean yes you can offer them other things and those are very cool, like if you can develop connection on intellectual and emotional level, I just get the sense that this area is something you might be afraid of or in denial of, but it is very very important. As for the other question, I think a relationship is better for developing love, since if you only go for like one night stands, that's not the best sex you can get, that's fantasy. In a more long term relationship, you get to know the other person better, you become more synchronized, connected, comfortable with each other...

Last week, my classmates Omar from Morocco and Ibrahim from Syria organized a speech and a discussion block about Syria. Many Syrians are hopelessly trying to get a better life in Europe. One of those people was a 3 years old Alan Kurdi, whose body was found on a beach in Turkey. "After Alan's death, absolutely nothing changed" says Ibrahim. "My father used to travel regularly from Damask to Duma to his workplace. He used to see his colleagues as they were lying down on the concrete with bullets run through them. In the end, he had to leave this job. When there was a storm before this discussion block, me and Omar were joking about the thunders being exploding bombs. Many people who I've known have died in war. Obviously my family died, obviously many of my friends died, my uncle... The situation is really hopeless, because Russia and China are preventing the EU from intervening and the American army also cannot do anything, because they do not have any allies in Syria. The main three military groups functioning in Syria are the Islamic State, the corrupted totalitarian government's army and the radical opposition." Every time somebody from the Middle East opens their mouth I feel like I shouldn't complain about absolutely anything. My life is just too good to be true, to the extent that I do not even want to believe that what Ibrahim and Omar were saying was true. This points at a larger issue in our society where there is so little diversity and unbiased information. For example, there is no way that a Syrian could travel to the US, so US citizens are probably not gonna encounter a Syrian person in a classroom and hear their story in a politics or history class for example. All the information shared in these classes and also in media and therefore basically most major information sources is so extremely biased that it is ugly. This week we also had a discussion about how ignoring art subjects, especially theatre and film, in education leads to enhancing this single perspective bias. Many people in our school have had a chance to perform in a theatre play and act a character that was oppressed in the play, which might have drastically changed their perspective. Imagine politicians could perform in such plays as a part of education.

@Javfly33 You talk as if women did not want these things. That's delusional. What is this masculinity you're talking about? Do you think relationships make it harder to love and lead?

@Strangeloop Do you actually think you're gay or do you still feel like being attracted to women?

Have you considered that hatred and admiration might be the same thing?

Yeh I think OP could definitely be straight and just shy/insecure/embarrassed or maybe bisexual with preferrence for something else, or anything really. I suggest being honest with the girl, because if you are not honest, it might increase the shame if that is the problem.

I think you might have some idea that your attraction should not be obvious, otherwise the woman might become turned off, perhaps you felt some sort of performance anxiety or insecurity? Don't think of this as something to just get over with, you're missing the point.

I think the most important values of such group are honesty and openness.

I think some excuses might include that this model is more difficult to remember, it is not simply colours. I can also see how it is easier for judgemental people to use Spiral Dynamics for devilish purposes than the Cook-Greuter one.

@Strangeloop Just do what feels natural and good and what you both want. Perhaps this time you might feel less shame or you might realize different things, let us know!

I agree, without your own understanding, you might just swim in meaningless ideas others have put inside your head and not be able to make sense out of any of them. It is wise to reflect on the kind of friendships you've had, see what you have enjoyed and perhaps give what you want to receive. Create some boundaries as well for the people you want to keep in your life.

@Hardkill But men can still have bad sex. They still have their boundaries that can be crossed, you might still feel ashamed or something, even though you did not for example think you would before engaging in the sexual activity. @Arcangelo This perspective is biased. If you think that all sex workers or even a majority of them work like that because they are simply horny, that is just your projection. There are many women who are being disadvantaged by the larger socio-political system that discriminates their gender and race for example, leaving them with no other work option. Please be careful with projecting your own biases. There is no such thing as basic reality, no such thing as general truth. Only simplistic, incomplete thinking, that is usually driven by bias. @Gesundheit Yeh I mean why not communicate this, if you do not enjoy sex with your partner, tell them about that, both men and women can improve. Some women probably do not know how to give oral sex, because they do not have a penis and cannot imagine how it works, what it feels like to have one. It is not common sense, but it does not mean one cannot learn how to be better at sex. Both men and women can improve.

@Hardkill I think the point is, women want sex, they can enjoy sex, they can crave sex, just like you. There is nothing wrong about sex or wanting sex or having sex with a woman, there is nothing wrong about enjoying sex. You don't need to be ashamed. Drop the shame and don't victim blame yourself, make sure you get proper consent and communicate well with the other person, care about their pleasure and feelings. Stop listening to RedPill it is seriously toxic.

@Aaron p Do you have any more tips or safety measures perhaps for those who are not familiar with psychedelics? Because it can often happen that somebody takes a psychedelic and they become horny and confused because nobody told them they can become so horny on a psychedelic...

@sleep Do you think your personality is an unchangeable given?

This sounds like contemplation is trying to arrive at an answer whereas critical thinking is something like questioning the position where the question comes from or like studying the metaphysics of that question.

The size of the dose matters soooo much. Two different doses are like two different substances. And no you can't predict.

Does anyone here maybe have experience with this that they could share?

@sleep Maybe you haven't quite resolved this, what is it about you that is unworthy of friends? Is there anything at all?

@Roy You are being quite delusional there. Even if you have a one-night stand with a person you know, not a horny stranger who you do not give consent to, things might feel awkward and giving consent might be awkward. It is not like every man would enjoy almost any sex with almost any girl, that is just so wrong. And certainly a man can have sex and not enjoy it, or even get raped. People on this forum have faced this, so please be careful about what you post here. I think it is indeed because of the false beliefs about sex and human connections many Redpilled boys believe. It is totally normal for a girl to want sex more often, it is also a question of how much the person she is having sex with cares about her pleasure. If they are caring, she will want more, if they are not caring, she will not want more maybe, makes sense? Also a woman needs more buildup, more foreplay, but if that is provided she can feel extremely horny. This doesn't only work in a bubble. @How to be wise It does have things to do with fear, for example if somebody believes they need sex to feel happy, they seek it so much and they think that any sex will do, their self-esteem becomes so low. Perhaps women take more time to start feeling horny but like if they do, then it is quite easy to tell that they are.

Sounds good bro. If you feel performance anxiety or some other insecurity that's ok, it doesn't really matter so much. That's how you think about that, it is nothing serious. You can get over performance anxiety by being nice to the other person and using not only your dick, Leo has good videos on that. You can watch those, even though many things are pretty easy and you can learn them just by listening to the other person.

I don't know whether you can know something without experiencing it for yourself, that is an epistemic question. But I think it is true and I am confused that Leo says otherwise if he actually does. Or he probably means something slightly different.

Maybe "someone like me" suggests fear of opening up, vulnerability etc...? Is that it?