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You are probably right here, everyone in this thread, including you should apply this advice to their lives. I cannot understand, how is this not an obvious trap, maybe I am wrong, I am not in your shoes. Can you maybe describe your situation more precisely? Saying just this and similar things to this seem like victim thinking. Its like a deep blue limitation - you think you should stay like you, because that was always you and you shouldnt be dishonest with yourself and others. The point that you are writing the stuff you are writing in the sexuality and relationships section says something about how you think. If you want to change something, you cannot stay this self you are, its impossible, I dont care about your relationship status, your job or anything, nobody does, but I assume you do want to adjust some parts of your life if you are on this forum. In fact, you can be like this, but change the perspective. This one we are seeing seems so stressful. If you dont mind the side effects of stress, go with it, but its not recommended by almost anyone. If you want to skip here before reading the whole text, be aware of your own ignorance. I dont want to be just as everyone else and tell the same advice to everyone else. It just seems that you are deeply stuck and we want to help you. Its like we are in other dimension, we see what you dont and you can actually evolve and see the thing. When we were at your point, we also didnt want to change, but it honestly feels great. I dont mean being extroverted and banging girls, in fact, I am super introverted and single. Maybe you can keep doing most of the stuff youre doing now but changing the perspective, thus keeping some of your healthy beliefs and moving forward. There is always room for improvement. I dont know if this is gonna help you, maybe you just need time.

@Fuku I do talk to them, but with no intention to sleep with them. I am happy on my own, thats it.

@Caterpillar Hm... thats interesting. What worked for you as a daily exercise when you were starting this journey? What do you eat in that hour? I am very curious, as I am experimenting with my diet and trying to wash off those bad habits.

@Mikael89 I think there is nothing bad about being single but come on... your perspective seems so negative. I have been at the point where you are now, single. I was depressed every freaking day, I know what its like to feel like you, I lost all my respect in one day. But you shouldnt take it like you are useless, you are just stuck in false beliefs. You should experiment, read about human psychology and spiral dynamics stage blue. I think you not understanding these is limiting your life so much. Its not the status of being single, but rather your attitude towards it. It can be made better for sure, there is no way it cant be, just stop being a victim, it can be done and its worth it. You will just stress otherwise.

@Shir I would suggest you reading some evolutionary psychology books. There is wisdom to learn even from apes. What are you doing to make men interested? Its quite hard to engage in a conversation with a woman who is closed off and just not looking like wanting relationship. You have to work on these. Sorry if I am wrong now, but if you are acting like that, males your age might think its impolite to just walk up to you when they kind of feel your negative energy.

How come I cannot be enlightened without being able to talk to girls?

@Mikael89 Maybe you just think you have direct experience of your true essence? I cant believe you cannot change these behaviours, it looks like an obvious ego trap. The number of personalities I had throughout the years... haha. I think they are just different masks that you put on the Self.

@Key Elements @Your place at Heart Thanks guys... I was thinking about why do I actually learn languages. (I already speak 5) I discovered that I am probably negatively motivated and wanted to hear some other perspective.

Hey guys, I want to ask you, if some of you have tried learning Hindi or Sanskrit in order to better understand all the wisdom that comes from India. I am thinking about learning these languages, as I also have friends who speak Hindi. What are your opinions or experiences, if you have some?

@Leo Gura @Key Elements Ok... I am still not clear about my life-purpose... I should definitely think about that. It is not like I am in some kind of crisis, as I am 15, already on a good way as I am starting to solve humangous amount of problems for me that seemed impossible to get rid of before. Does the country we live in have any considerable effect on self-actualization? I am not trying to be the typical person who wants to solve all problems by moving to Thailand or something, but I see there are many more opportunities, gurus and even better foods in other countries, (talking about ripe fruits, that are difficult to obtain where I live) that it kind of seems mad to me staying in Czech republic, where I cannot find anything that good.

@John Iverson There are probably more problematic things than social media. I think its a personal prefference, if you want to use them or not, but as other people are saying, you probably shouldnt use them 24/7. Just take it easy. I think your problem is, that you are hard stuck in the victim mentality, or you have a short term crisis. Its just that if something bad, yet small, happens to you, you feel like killing yourself. When you get a girlfriend or spend a good day with your friends, you feel like you want to live long. The problem is, if you stay in the victim mentality, being controlled by your ego and your hormones, you will never be satisfied. I dont know, where you come from, maybe US, maybe India, maybe some other country. But if you are focused on satisfying your ego, it will keep pointing out more problems and more „necessities“ and keep wanting more and more. If you are broke, you want money, if you have money, you dont want to loose the money, its the same kind of stress. If you live alone, you want friends, if you have too many friends, you want to be more alone maybe. If you are constantly overeating, you might want to eat healthily, but if you eat only healthy, your ego might want to convince you, that you should relax and hammer that ice cream at night. Do you see my point? I understand where you are, I have been there too, I lost my girlfriend, lost my friends, I felt like everyone is against me... Dude that bullshit, you should be grateful you are even alive at this point, many people die every hour, yet you survive, isnt that awesome? Try to raise your consciousness or watching some enlightened teacher on youtube, they might open your eyes, because „they are not in the system.“ Thats what has worked for me, maybe you have different needs to solve your depression. Just experiment, try out different paradigm, change your beliefs... By crying about yourself all the time, you will stay at the same point all the time, its called insanity.

@TheBeachBionic Your intelligence got hijacked by hormones

@Igor82 Can I ask you where do you buy your vegetables and fruits or how do you find a good one?

@Barry J Watch the videos on spiral dynamics, they are very eye opening!

@tashawoodfall Just watching or listening to an enlightened teacher on youtube can really make my mood a lot better, just absorbing their energy and love. Maybe this can be a temporary solution...

@beatlemantis Him being more passionate with other girls is not that surprising. I dont mean this like an insult, but its basically an evolutionary issue. Our psychologies are beyond our bodies and our bodies „think“ we are in the nature, building tribes and being alpha leaders. (talking about men) In every body, there is a selfish gene, which wants to be spread (reproduced) really badly and in as much quantity as it can. Basically, ego is built around the selfish gene. Therefore, if you are an animal, like human, you have the instinct to reproduce as much as possible, if it doesnt threaten his atractiveness or family. (which will kill of the other selfish genes) Theres a whole book named The Selfish Gene, I recommend you read it. It also explains why brothers and sisters care for each other (because, they have 50% selfish genes from each other) and why grandmas are so caring (because they cannot reproduce anymore most of the time, so they just want their genes to survive) and many more... Hope tis helps you understand your reationship. You staying with your boyfriend might be a fear of him not reproducing your genes as well...

@tashawoodfall Its just ego in panic-mode, your mind creates this reality... I have been to depression myself and got out of it this way.

@ExodiaGearCEO Leo has a great video on this - Awareness alone is curative and How to overcome addiction. You just need to raise your body and mind consciousness and if you do so, you wont be able to play anymore, it will seem deluded... It took me some time, but I dont play video gams for quite some time and I was for sure a hard addict with my brother and friends being also hard addicts, so I was hard stuck. Hope it works for you!

@tashawoodfall I felt exactly the same for some time, it really feels like shit. But then Sadhguru said, that we are creating all suffering and I am not sad anymore...

@Igor82 Ok! Thanks for some new perspectives, you inspired me to make another experiment, much appreciated man!

@Igor82 I was wondering how many bananas do guys like him and you actually eat... 25 isnt the number I was thinking about, it seems like too much, but maybe I can try it for a while... I tried to measure what you eat on cronometer, and here are som outstanding numbers: Manganese: 700 %, Copper: 500 %, B6: 1000 %, C: 900 %, A: 2600 %, K: 2700 %. I am not a nutrition expert, the other nutrients look kind of ok, but isnt this too much? Explain please.

@Ayilton Haha, youre funny. The books I read helped me understand what mistakes I was doing in my relationships. Some of them were Red queen, Selfish gene, The way of the human body... Really cool books! @DK092 I dont know man, I just feel like enlightenment work is giving me so much more value than a relationship. But maybe when I develop myself further, I will discover what are you talking about now... I used to be very needy, stage blue thinker, thinking that morals and loyalty will get me somewhere... Now I became more detached and I dont feel any desires anymore, which makes me want to continue doing this work.

Hey guys, Some of you were talking about reasons to date or get a girlfriend/boyfriend other than pleasure. What are these?

@Fuku Thanks for your recommendation! I also sometimes eat them, but they arent a must anymore... @Igor82 That video is very interesting! I personally feel the best when I eat just fruit in the morning and then when I eat other things, the good feeling kind of runs out... But as other people suggested, I tried to use cronometer, and it says that eating a lot of these can bring up some dangerously high numbers... (500 %) I am confused, can you advice me, what kind of numbers should I be looking for? What do you eat in a day? Do you follow this guy?

@Igor82 Thanks for advice man! Is there any food I could just eat every single day and not be defficient? (with the right supplements)