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Guys, I recommend you to watch the video on overcoming addiction. It has helped me so much! Discipline alone will probably make you suffer. If you fap, you suffer from tiredness. (there is bunch of energy in those balls) If you do nofap by choking yourself, it will bring only very few positive effects which will be negated by the stress. If you increase your consciousness through meditation though, you can actually be so aware of the negativity that comes after the orgasm, that you wont even want to do it anymore. This is at least what worked for me, even though it took a loooot of time. I think its worth to at least try it. Go watch that porn, but be aware how tired and sick you are afterwards. Its only a short term pleasure.

@MarkusSweden You sound like mentally ill haha, imagining girls. No offense though.

@Mikael89 Thats a great decision, but be aware of the traps that are waiting for ya! I have already found many.

@Omadorinlooper Good that you are interested! Try out different diets for yourself, then you will see which one suits you the best Cronometer.com is a good site to do the nutrient maths. You can find some good content on youtube too!

@Solace You are right, but Mikael has the problem of being not aware of the fact that he is what he is. @Mikael89 Do you actually think that you are fully conscious of the suffering?

@Serotoninluv @Joseph Maynor Thanks so much, I think I understand it better now after asking so many questions. @Leo Gura Should I look for an instructor to introduce me to the practise, maybe correct some immodest habits (in order to then be able to self-correct myself) and then maybe continue myself or should I just dive straight in and find out myself?

@Mikael89 Please differentiate between I cant change and I am too lazy to change. It will just end this conversation.

@Fuku I am not like the most attractive male in the group, but I dont really mind. My friend is a hockey palyer and is very good with girls, maybe I should try to see his point of view and learn some of it.

@Serotoninluv Thanks for your opinion. That will probably help me find the best method for me. About the people with different opinion, if my friends sometimes seem disguisting to me by what they they are doing, should I try to see why and relax? Should I look for situations like that?

@Mikael89 You can, youre not willing to. You are the only thing thats keeping yourself from getting enlightened. Go watch Leo please. Maybe when he gets enlightened one day, you will regret not listening to him. So we both resonate with what enlightened masters are saying - that means that one of us is framing their teachings in some way.

@Mikael89 Why do you continue giving yourself up to the ego then? Or rather giving your ego up to itself?

@Mikael89 Of course you will die haha. Are you happy with that?

@Mikael89 Thanks, didnt know that. I dont drink or take drugs, I just have an experience of accidentally drinking something, thinking it is a juice in the morning as a kid. I think parents were drinking at night or something, dont know. I am suspecting it was red wine looking like a strawberry juice haha. Stop dodging the advice we are trying to give you, we might as well stop and you will continue to be possessed by your ego.

1) Are you aware of the fact, that ego likes to prove that its not wrong. The fact that you are replying to this topic all the time is just that you want to see that everyone is wrong in your mind. Its just ego partying hard. Just read the thing you just wrote. 2) This by itself is a bigger ego strenghtener than working on yourself and doing orange self-development. 3) The same thing, your ego sees nothing. Its like you are an ant trying to say that you understand maths and see 4D.

@Emerald I actually think that many people found Leo that way, when they were transcending from where Mikael is now haha. Does alcohol help you with that seriously? I am a non-drinker (15 years old) and I have a strongly negative relationship to alcohol, I hate it, its ruining my fathers life and I dont even like the taste. Partying is harmful for my psyche as well. What is your perspective to that?

@Serotoninluv Thanks for your perspective. On the spiritual practises... I tried to do some of the methods already... Today I had a free hour at school, so I went to the corridor, sat there and did some mindfulness meditation. It actually worked super well, I felt like I was in another dimension. But I am wondering, if that isnt just an ego trap and I am just thinking that I am making these results, since it was like my 3rd time doing it. What do you mean by people with different perspectives? Like completely different approach to life or just in some fields like relationships for example?

@Emerald Which meditation method did you use in order to experience this? Do you think its good to try out different methods or just stick to the one that seems to work? For example with the letting thoughts pass and do nothing method, I only had very limited improvement going on, but with the mindfulness meditation technique, my consciousness shifted in a few day. Is that an ego trap actually or is it a sign of something?

@Mikael89 I think you are in a state so deeply depressed, that literally nothing can change your mind = enlightenment is nowhere near, its like more opposite way than the opposite way. You are talking as if it were no growth available for you. Maybe you can watch the video Zen Devil from Leo. It will basically will tell you, that there were deeply enlightened people, who were not like Leo, who probably couldve been enlightened by now, if he didnt sacrifice so much time on actualized.org anyway, they are the people, that you wouldve listened to according to what you are saying. But they were raping, stealing, murdering etc... Enlightenment isnt everything. Do you think Sadhguru, Tolle, Mooji, Jesus, Mohamed, Buddha, Shiva, Krishna and whichever enlightened people you are listening to, do you actually think they are stupid in the „unreal reality“? For example Sadhguru was a freaking businessman before, he wasnt a victim thinker without a „life“. He took action in life!

@Mikael89 Thats just you pointing out the mistakes of others... Really, stop it, it will destroy your life and you will have fewer opportunities and experiences. It is no good. You cannot change a perspective in an instant, thats like your old perspective is criticising the new one and you only see it black and white. Thats like not changing it at all. There is a huge freaking difference between having this or that perspective. example: I dont have a girlfriend. My life sucks, I will never be fulfilled, I am absolutely useless, the whole universe is against me, everyone is a god damn fake and I cannot change, otherwise I will become a dishonest slut that cannot like him/herself as he/she is. example 2: I dont have a girlfriend, but who gives a sh**, I need to survive, my family has no food. I need to go to the market and sell to earn for livelihood. Maybe someday I will have time to do that. example 3: I dont have a girlfriend, because I am a heterosexual girl. example 4: I dont have a girlfriend, because I actually feel good not having one. (you cannot see this perspective from the box you are in probably, its not like a bad thing, even gurus, that I assume you admire in at least some cases, talk about.) It feels like every relationship I would have will be super low consciousness and I need to do the actual work to experience the real thing.

You are probably right here, everyone in this thread, including you should apply this advice to their lives. I cannot understand, how is this not an obvious trap, maybe I am wrong, I am not in your shoes. Can you maybe describe your situation more precisely? Saying just this and similar things to this seem like victim thinking. Its like a deep blue limitation - you think you should stay like you, because that was always you and you shouldnt be dishonest with yourself and others. The point that you are writing the stuff you are writing in the sexuality and relationships section says something about how you think. If you want to change something, you cannot stay this self you are, its impossible, I dont care about your relationship status, your job or anything, nobody does, but I assume you do want to adjust some parts of your life if you are on this forum. In fact, you can be like this, but change the perspective. This one we are seeing seems so stressful. If you dont mind the side effects of stress, go with it, but its not recommended by almost anyone. If you want to skip here before reading the whole text, be aware of your own ignorance. I dont want to be just as everyone else and tell the same advice to everyone else. It just seems that you are deeply stuck and we want to help you. Its like we are in other dimension, we see what you dont and you can actually evolve and see the thing. When we were at your point, we also didnt want to change, but it honestly feels great. I dont mean being extroverted and banging girls, in fact, I am super introverted and single. Maybe you can keep doing most of the stuff youre doing now but changing the perspective, thus keeping some of your healthy beliefs and moving forward. There is always room for improvement. I dont know if this is gonna help you, maybe you just need time.

@Fuku I do talk to them, but with no intention to sleep with them. I am happy on my own, thats it.

@Caterpillar Hm... thats interesting. What worked for you as a daily exercise when you were starting this journey? What do you eat in that hour? I am very curious, as I am experimenting with my diet and trying to wash off those bad habits.

@Mikael89 I think there is nothing bad about being single but come on... your perspective seems so negative. I have been at the point where you are now, single. I was depressed every freaking day, I know what its like to feel like you, I lost all my respect in one day. But you shouldnt take it like you are useless, you are just stuck in false beliefs. You should experiment, read about human psychology and spiral dynamics stage blue. I think you not understanding these is limiting your life so much. Its not the status of being single, but rather your attitude towards it. It can be made better for sure, there is no way it cant be, just stop being a victim, it can be done and its worth it. You will just stress otherwise.

@Shir I would suggest you reading some evolutionary psychology books. There is wisdom to learn even from apes. What are you doing to make men interested? Its quite hard to engage in a conversation with a woman who is closed off and just not looking like wanting relationship. You have to work on these. Sorry if I am wrong now, but if you are acting like that, males your age might think its impolite to just walk up to you when they kind of feel your negative energy.

How come I cannot be enlightened without being able to talk to girls?