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@Strikr Maybe you need to get rid of all the other addictions as well, such as complaining, procrastination, whining, overthinking, gossiping, social media, video games... The big picture understanding of this is important, in order to self-actualize, you need to first get rid of the shitty stuff, same with food you know... Your body burns energy to do these things, that couldve been spent on something meaningful to you instead...

@7thLetter It is really hard to provide so much value that the people just wont help themselves but buy your product, Leo does a good job at that in my opinion. He wont manipulate people to buying his courses like crazy, he first provides his knowledge and than mentions it in the part where most people stop the video. His content also isnt about hype and rational things that resonate with orange, blue and green people, which are the majority. They will only sell to people, that are willing to invest. If you compare this to someone like Tai Lopez, Dan Lok, Grant Cardone... they are just manipulators in my opinion.

@CreamCat Fapping and porn are one of the hard ones... You might want to take care of these first. Dont forget that some people are getting over even harder addictions.

@Baz Could this be the thing that Leo is talking about in his SD stage yellow video? The disconnectedness from family... He is also experiencing a similar thing in my opinion, even I am starting as I go deeper and deeper into yellow.

@8Ball Took me dozens of those no fap periods to get used to it. I did fapped like every 5 days, while increasing my consciousness through certan practises and perspectives and then the feel of it started becoming worse and worse. I even gave it up after 30 days, was very guilty. But no worries, if you arent conscious enough, its just suffering to hold yourself back I think.

I discovered that just by loving myself, I become like 10 times more attractive for girls, they are just writing me messages on facebook lol, that has never happened before...

Hey guys, lately Ive been discussing relationships with other men on this forum and I feel kind of disconnected from them. I am only 15, havent had many relationships, rather random ones in nursery and 1 relationship, that I would describe like 2 month true love My breakup has turned me into a better self, definitely made me do some serious work and improve my awareness. But now, my life goal to get true love marriage and children has vanished and I dont even feel like being in a relationship, I just am not attracted to anyone, or if I am, only for a short time and then it goes away. I dont have a problem with this exact thing, if I had, I would probably be broke anyways. I want to ask the guys doing pick-up, why do you do it and how does it contribute your life? My second question is about the fact, that many relationships between orange and blue people are suuuuper duuuper needy. I mean, it almost seems like an illness to me now. What is it like to be attracted on a deeper level, consciousness wise? What is your motivation to even have a partner? Maybe I will feel the urge to have something going on in a year or so, I just dont understand it now. It just feels like I am not even mature enough and nor is any woman nearby and it would just suck the time out of me, that couldve been used to watch Leo and doing the work

@8Ball Thats the reason why I think it should be exterminated from your schedule If you develop higher consiousness, you cant even fap without pain.

@Leo Gura It is quite funny and admirable at the same time that you can actually afford to be so commercial (just kidding) when you bring so much value to the table

@Nic You can start to do these things when you are green. But the problem with green is that its not as developed on its own, so helping others is almost like a disability of some sort.

@Shadowraix Mikaels problem is that he has created bullet-proof armour of excuses.

My problem might be that I cannot pick up the girls I want, but I am ok with it now, my opinion might change, maybe I will start having some of these sexual cravings lol. I am already loving myself and am very passionate about my life, I just feel like I am missing on something when not seeing relationships and dating from some different perspective.

@Shadowraix You are probably right, but damn, if you say that, you just deepen his depression, because he wants to stay there now. He doesnt see the situation out of the box, your words have absolutely different effect on him.

@K VIL What do you mean?

@SFRL I might have the problem that I cannot pick the hot girls... I dont have a problem with that now, but when it comes, I will take action. @Key Elements I think its safe to say that I am developing and loving myself everyday, no joke about that. Actualized.org has really helped me find the way to get over the bad emotions, as I was feeling blue for like a year after that break-up haha. Now its ridiculous. I dont even want a relationship at this time. @aurum I see, these are some good points... Maybe I am actually not doing such a growth at all Probably I should start making some money, learn how to cook, as these things are absolutely unknown to me right now... I love to give people, actually I used to learn languages, because these peple were always surprised I could speak their native tongue. Now its a different story. @Key Elements By high consciousness I mean Leos definition, I dont know if there are some different desciptions of that... I have a couple in my class and they are sooo needy, it is quite obvious, that they should do some inner growth first. Actually, I am very interested in other cultures and I think that is not a problem for me at all! Contemplating dating and relationships might be powerful...

@SFRL Do you think my approach is polluted in some way? I am specifically looking for these holes. It just feels like I dont even need to push myself anymore to be ok with being single.

@SFRL Thanks for recommendation! It might take some time to get to these two books, as I dont have that much money to buy books, so I am just trying to look for them in libraries in my town. What are they about might interest me, why do you think I should read them?

@Mikael89 Thats the problem of the ego. It is never happy with what it has. You might have so many more possibilities than people living in North Korea, but you just dont enjoy it, as long as you are stuck there. Just be open to the fact that if you were born somewhere else, you might be 30 kg and dying tomorrow.

@Max_V As long as you are willing to keep working hard, you are ok. Just be open to the possibility that your work until now was almost meaningless and you have to change the approach, if you want further benefits I dont know if you are or arent open, just pointing out this trap thats waiting for you out there.

@5thPablo If someone has an emotion, its only inside his head. If you have this kind of feeling, its obvious that you created it unconsciously. I know its hard to do in a relationship, but once you try extracting the love and happiness from the other person, you immidiately get needy. You should seek happiness inside, not outside.

Stop thinking that looking people in the eyes or saying hello is a sign of some sort of confidence, I think its very misunderstood. You can live without these things and still be happy, in some cultures its inappropriate to do this. People can be introverted, not communicating with others if not necessary and still be happy and passionate about life. I think your approach to your problem is a bit incorrect, it sounds like you want to conquer your fear and anxiety, which is not the right thing to do. Just stop creating this problem, watch videos on high and low consciousness, think about it, make notes, apply it to your life. Consciousness and radical honesty are really the 2 things that can solve any problem in my opinion. (if you are healthy) The advice to stop believing that you exist might sound stupid, but it has helped me a lot with my anxiety Its almost ridiculous how effective it is... Sadhguru said this very nicely, he said something like: Which one do you want to conquer, a riverside or a desert? (desert = bad emotions) If you dont want to conquer it, why do you even go there? Understand that its you who is creating that anxiety, you just arent aware of it, thats why you have to increase your awareness, figure out how, there are many ways, start with getting rid of your addictions, Leo has a brilliant video on that!

@Arkandeus I understand what you are trying to say here. I think its nice of you, but I dont agree at some points you mentioned. I dont think Michael has it so hard, he lives in Scandinavia, which is a great country to live in in my opinion. He also mentioned that he is physically and financially stable, that he can travel. Not everybody can afford that! Pain is also a very good opportnity to rise and get over your bullshit of the past, seriously, sometimes kindness doesnt solve anything, the person has to actually see that noone is buying it from him, then he will maybe start to be willing to change. You also dont acknowledge the possibility, that the people trying to help him were in the same state and got over it, so they probably know what they are talking about. Just by creating his thread in order to get some help, Michael has showed at least a tiny interest in improving, but he went back to his beliefs, which are now probably even stronger as other people are just reinforcing them. Even if he didnt want to change anything about his life and wanted to keep living in the traditional European way, his stubbornness is going to destroy his life anyway, he just cannot think like this, without suffering. Maybe suffering is what he needs now, but not in the long term, as its bad for his emotional and physical health.

It for sure is hard work to quit, but its well worth it. It will begin to seem like its a stupid idea to fap, if you do it with full consciousness. Also be aware of the shitty feeling afterwards... No way fap can be justified later on.

@Mikael89 You read the Bible too much and you dont understand it, bad for you. Jesus didnt probably know what exactly is happening to him and the people he was talking to back then were stage purple/red dumbos.

@F A B I just want you to look for other ways to go around this problem. Also watch Leo, its a powerful habit