You can, but your authenticity has probably been burried deep inside you, under deep layers of conditioning that now prevents you to be attractive. All these validation seeking behaviors comes out of assumption that you are not good enough. It's normal to get these assumptions if you have almost zero experience. You start to think there's something really wrong with you socially and that reinforces the loop. You are just in a loop where you have the assumption that you are unattractive and not wanted, so you act this out in your behavior, and then you manifest the corresponding results, and this reinforces the pattern. Now, if you want to break out of this, you have to do something different. A new game-plan. People become attractive by practicing social skills, getting used to talking to different people, joking around, talking to women, getting used to expressing yourself. You can go about learning this in different ways. You could do Door-to-door sales, pick-up, improv classes, small challenges each day that take you out of your comfortzone, the sky is the limit. Practice being in your body, groundend in your own validation, with self-love, and focus on the proces of becoming better socially, instead of specific results. Only focus on results for the bigger picture view of how it relates to your growth. You'll progessively become better only if you practice. Start small, then bigger challenges, soon you'll remove a lot of layers of conditioning, start to feel more expressive and expansive, more funny, more talkative, more authentic. And then you can present your personality in a more non distorted way. 

Awesome, yeah some of my goals is to create more income and overcome any traumas that im dealing with to better improve my social skills. We set a goal and then we start hacking at away day by day thru daily actions. My main focus with accountability is ensuring that progress is being made daily meaning that we are constantly putting in effort towards our goals EVEN WHEN WE DONT WANT TO. Thats the whole point and my reason to wanting to do this accountability. 

 
 
 
Accountability is the difference between good results and great/exceptional world class results
Do you want good results or do you want un imaginably good results?