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What advice would you give to your inner child having the experience you have today?

The way we breathe is foundational in life, so very happy for you to read you've discovered this absolute key in life! I found the best way to breathe for me personally, is inhaling into your perineum/sacral/navel area, up through your heart and chest area and then past your throat into your mind/ajna area. This will circulate your inherently masculine, sacral and sexual life force into grounded, loving and wise intentions, thoughts, responses and actions. Doing this continuously on a loop, which is a constant state of meditation and awareness and thus obviously not easy to maintain, makes you live from a place of authentic, sexual and grounded energy instead of breathing into and making decisions from your conditioned mind. Breathe a little deeper and life will shift massively.

My experience and deep experimenting with this topic tells us that when you ejaculate, you release all the chi, prana and energetic life force that has been accumulated since your last ejaculation, with the intention of creating the very best sperm cell possible for your offspring. This requires a huge amount of energy from all the organs and systems of your body and after this ejaculation, the body and your subconscious mind feel like: 'our job is done here', and as you surely have felt as a male, ejaculation drains you deeply, robbing you from awareness, attention and overall energy. Energy that could be spent on other things, such as for example self-actualizing, mastery and reinventing yourself (which obviously demands a lot of energy). When you're fapping frequently you're basically wasting your energy away. But on the other hand, ejaculating can also be a great tool for destressing, when the pressure of life is too high so to speak. Find your balance is key, and I'd say one ejaculation once every 10 days is ideal when self-actualizing.

Follow your satisfaction! You are your own best friend and if you find deep meaning, joy and fulfilment from exploring 'topics that won't open discussions', so be it. They make you more enlightened and aligned with your true self and that's number one. Your passion and sharing around these topics might even inspire others so follow your path, so actively looking for opportunities to share your meaningful insights on these subjects is something I'd highly recommend. Obviously, there also has to be a balance between meaningful time alone and finding unity and joy with certain communities. You strike me as a generally very likeable and easy-going person so empathising with people from where they're at shouldn't be a problem for you. Remember that every person has something to teach you. Learn first to understand, then to be understood. Also, from what you wrote you have a lot of interest and skills that scream for communities. Playing bass in a band, bartend in a pub/restaurant where you might have the chance to meet like-minded people, find a harmonious gym with badass group lessons. A balance between both is key from my experience. We so often assume that we are alone in our authenticity and that society is this concrete, holistic and inauthentic machine when it's actually made up of 7 billion extraordinary people just like you. Look deeply into it and you might find the souls you're looking for. Don't expect people to match with your worldview entirely. You might resonate deeply on a few domains of life with one person, and there might be a mismatch on other domains. This is the beautify of life, this is how we learn and how we integrate ourselves, the other and ultimately humanity to a higher level of consciousness, love and understanding. By sharing your value, you enlighten us all Keep shining your light brother!

@Recursoinominado Priceless advice.

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I've recently rediscovered an old golden key that massively increases our inherent radiant confidence and childlike self-worth, and it is the following: Instead of asking yourself: 'what would increase my confidence and self-worth?'; ask yourself: 'what limiting beliefs are blocking my confidence and self-worth?' A small shift in perspective, but a true game-changer; as life is often about de-conditioning and removing layers of inauthenticity instead of adding more layers on top of our core. We often attach our sense of self-worth to the expectations, desires and outcomes that go along with a certain role we've adopted play in life, which is dangerous, as it makes us think we have to prove our worth. If you'll remember yourself as a child you will discover there is absolutely no need to prove worth. So to reclaim your self-esteem, simply ask yourself the questions in a contemplative way; with or without pen & paper, and intuitively feel what comes up while just observing. Really curious to read what came up for you.

I believe revenge stems from some form of rage, anger and resentment you are choosing to hold on to. Rather than expressing this to create more turmoil, distress and chaos in your life, it would be more harmonious to let it pass away through the unconditional healing energy of the Heart. This is an act, nog an idea. Forgiveness, releasing and moving on with walking your highest purpose, deepest fulfilment and most blissfull balance sounds more appealing to me than wasting energy hurting others. I believe the Grand Karma will ultimately teach the other.

@Bojan Hey Bojan, thanks for your input. I feel that this question is not so much about whether the advice is actually right, it's more about the compassionate and deep contemplation towards your past and the wounds of your inner child. As @tsuki put it beautifully: 'The inner child needs no advice, but rather loving attention that is acknowledging its needs.' From that you have written in your reply I conclude you have a rather negative and fatalistic outlook on life, somehow having lost faith in your Self, and thus Life. I truly believe there is a golden, satisfying and deeply fulfilling authentic path for everyone, once you are open to this possibility. You mentioned struggling with security in both of your replies. Maybe you you, aka your inner child, is not feeling secure because the self-talk you project towards it is so negative, faithless and fatalistic. What would happen if you'd sent it hope, tenderness, kindness, hope and compassion? Would that give you some form of groundedness; some form of security? Would that security maybe enable you to actually start actualizing that beautiful list of dreams you have? I believe so!

@tsuki Love this, thanks for sharing

Also don't forget that women are also deeply conditioned, imperfect and insecure. We often put women on some sort of pedestal, telling ourselves we have to be someone in order to be with someone. The one for you doesn't require you to be someone else, because she will accept you for who you are, including your conditioning and your shadow. There is a book called: 'The Manual: What Women Want & How to Give it To Them' that goes into great depth about this topic and will deeply unwind your conditioning. I still had it on my laptop, you can download it here.

Loved your advice, thanks for sharing. Reminds me of my first breakthroughs in experiencing in true expansive and authentic confidence and your words made me experience those times again. Thank you :-)

@RoerAmit Hey Amit. Thanks for taking the reply my man. I can really sense that you are serious about making a serious shift in your life and that you are ready to actualize those beautiful dreams of yours. First of all I want to start of that we are in a time period in life where Covid-19 is happening and there are a lot of global shifts happening. This is also felt on the personal level. Times in 2020 are hard, so be aware that you are not the only one going through these strong emotional feelings, shifts and healing periods. That being said, I would love to give you some specific advice. It sounds like your basic needs are met, you have shelter and food, an internet connection and resources, such as YouTube and this blog. This is already something you can be grateful for, as a lot people don't have this. 790 million people don't have a constant supply of drinking water. Gratitude opens our heart, the gateway to our Higher Self where all our higher inner guidance and love comes from. Yes, we can try to self-actualize and become a better version of ourselves, but it has to come from a grounded place of gratitude, abundance and security. Taking the time to appreciate what is already present and abundant in your life, will help to find joy while setting your mind at ease, giving you a grounded base level op calmness, peace of mind and clarity to work from. You also said that body awareness helps you, so those together daily will assure you that you have the calmness you need to build from. You mention your parents a lot. And I can definitely relate to this. It's true our parents are imperfect, but try to see them as that. Imperfect but still beautiful. Parents have their shadow aspect, as everyone does, but so do we. Try to appreciate the positive, beautiful and loving aspects of your parents, and do your best in this. How you see your parents, and what you expect from them, is what you will get out from them. There is also a high chance that the things that actually annoy you about your parents, are things that are triggering certain aspects in you that still need attention and focus, things that are imbalanced within yourself. Life is a mirror that mirrors everything back to us. I had to learn this the hard way, that the shadow aspects that annoyed me about my dad, are and were actually shadow aspects that were inherent and present in me, even though I wasn't conscious off this. This take radical open-mindedness and honesty. Make a list of things that annoy you about your parents, and be honest if these are things that you also display. Forgiving your parents through the magical, healing and unconditional loving power of your heart (chakra) is the key, because hey, we're all suffering, we all have our problems and we all have our personal journey of imperfectness. The moment you stop blaming your parents for your moods, your unhappiness and your anxiety is the exact same moment you can start taking full responsibility for your dreams. You mentioned a lot of things you want to achieve, and that is beautiful. The moment we stop dreaming as human beings is the moment we start to die. But it's one thing to dream, and it's another to take consistent, and responsible baby steps towards those dreams. Doing those breathing exercises, doing those workouts, practicing those guitars scales and riffs, offer and create value in your business. There are no quick fixes in life. Life is holistic in nature, meaning you have to focus on all the aspects, clear the holes in your balance and focus on the long term. Find a balance between self-actualizing and growth vs enjoying and playing. Know your priorities (use Maslow pyramids of needs as a good starting point) and take responsibility on a daily, weekly and yearly basis to achieve those goals of yours. Both for the playing (collect movies, music, art, books that you love and inspire you, that lift you up for example) as the improving (songs you can practice, exercises you can do, meals you can cook, friends you can learn from, etc.) . It doesn't matter if you miss days, but some form of consistency and believing in yourself, in the long run, is key. Focus on the things you have, the things you can do and start there. It sounds like you have a lot of beautiful dreams and HUGE potential, maybe make a vision board of things that really motivate, push you and inspire you, so that when you wake up, it doesn't matter what you parents expect, desire or want from you, you will be kicking is ass regardless because you know who you are, what you can and what you want. Be kind to yourself : ) In the end it is your inner child that is having trouble with all of these things and compassion, mildness and self-recognition for all the things you already have and are will do wonders! I believe in you my man

@flowboy @Preety_India Do your best to see her/him as the hurt, imperfect and conditioned inner child that she/he is, feel the resentment, frustration and other negatively charged emotions you feel towards him and transmute those into love, forgiveness and compassion by breathing the energy from your root and sacral area into your heart. Emotions are energy in motion in our energetic being, and the emotion literally has to be healed and transmuted through the supernatural and extremely powerful healing energy of the heart (chakra). I learned the hard way that healing and forgiveness is a verb; an act, not an idea. You hold all those judgments, negative emotions and frustrations, and your job is simply to rid your energetic being from these emotions so you can be free, authentic and freely flowing again! The emotions you feel stem from the other person, but you are the one who holds on to them. Hope this makes sense and helps!

It sounds like you're in a pretty hectic home situation my man. You should be proud of yourself that you are doing a full time job and still paying attention to your girlfriend, little brother and your creative work. Sounds like you're doing a lot of great work and spreading a lot of love, so be kind to yourself, try to be as open as you can in your creative needs towards your girlfriend and she will probably understand and give you some space. Allowing you to balance and invest your energies in a more harmonious way! Keep shining your light my man, curious to hear what you're creating as well.

People in general don't have perfect self-esteem and do require validation from time to time. When we're not in a relationship we need to validate ourselves constantly, but that is the beautiful thing that stems from a relationship, you can give that validation and recognition to eachother. Try to give her that extra small compliment from time to time, this has a grat chance of enhancing her self-esteem massively in the long term, which in turn will make her less needy to external validation, approval and recognition. When you're in a relationship, you have the power to mold and create the other person.

Play it LOUDER in the morning when he's sleeping and make sure he can't put it off!

The magic from love, intimacy and deep passionate union is not only that is one of the most beautiful things in life, it's also deeply similar to the unity you create with reality. It can be the greatest muse for your life purpose and all your creativity. Besides, being in a relationship is one of the quickest way to self-actualize because you're constantly confronted with a deep mirror you can learn from and share with. All the things you mention you need is not needed, if you truly find deep union and love inside of each other, all the rest is just icing on the cake.

@SonataAllegro Ask yourself why do you want to buy this book? The word 'Yoga' is derived from the Sanskrit root 'Yuj', meaning 'to join' or 'to yoke' or 'to unite', meaning that yoga is a practice to unite with the Source, Your Higher Self, The One, God or whatever you'd like to call it. There are many paths of yoga, for example. 1. RAJA YOGA Raja yoga focuses on meditation and contemplation in order to fully realize the self. Known as the royal (Raja) or king path of yoga, it is based on the eight-limbed path toward self-realization outlined in Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra, and tends to attract the more spiritually devoted practitioners. 2. BHAKTI YOGA Bhakti yoga is the path of devotion, emphasizing devotional love for and surrender to God, the Source or the One Creator. By seeing the Divine in everyone and everywhere, Bhakti yoga cultivates acceptance, tolerance, forgiveness and unconditional love for all beings. Bhakti yoga also involves a lot of chanting and kirtan (call and response) that evokes feelings of love, connection, and bliss. 3. JNANA YOGA Jnana yoga is the path of wisdom and knowledge (Jnana), involving a disciplined study of scriptures and constant inquiry into the nature of the self. Any form of study into the nature of the self or the truth of our existence will aid in reaching deeper states of you. Often called the yoga of the mind, Jnana yoga is well suited for the more intellectually inclined. 4. KARMA YOGA Karma yoga is the path of selfless action, the yoga of doing. Selfless service is the heart of karma yoga. Remaining completely detached from the outcome of their actions, Karma yogis are in continual service to the betterment of all beings with no intention of physical gain. Karma is fundamentally about learning lessons. One learns through positive action that as you help others, so are you helped. It’s a rewarding teaching mechanism in that sense. And one learns through negative action that as one hurts others, so are you hurt, in order to understand the consequences of your actions. Negative karma can be resolved by discharging the soul imprint through forgiveness and understanding. Karmic experiences can be prevented by understanding their core lessons before they are attracted. 5. MANTRA YOGA Mantra yoga is the yoga of sound. Considered sacred utterances, mantras are syllables, words, or phrases representing a particular attribute of the Divine. There are certain seed mantras that resonate with each of the unique energy centers or chakras. One of the most common mantras is ‘OHM’, which resonates with the foundational vibration of our existence. Mantra yoga is the practice of becoming centered through the repetition of mantras. 6. HATHA YOGA Hatha yoga, which most people think yoga to be these days, is the practice of yoga postures, or asanas, using the conscious combination of the breath and body movements to rise to higher states of clarity, groundedness and peace of mind. It sees the body as the primary vehicle for self-actualization and transformation. You also have your unique path. Know that your journey in life is absolutely unique to you and will most likely involve many of the aspects mentioned above. For example, you can simply imagine combining certain daily postures, with a mediation and/or contemplation practice, studying certain philosophies you resonate with, while also being compassionately proactive about helping or serving others. Hope this helps

Hey man thanks for sharing, can definitely relate to both of them. Try to recognize that the fear of death has some deeply beautiful aspects. It shapes our limited time as mortal human beings on planet earth into something more meaningful; continuously and subconsciously driving us beyond our highest potential. True infinity in this human form would get boring I think, as it is time that makes experience About the existence of hell, I can relate to that and here are my thoughts stemming from my experience. I believe our fear of the existence of hell stems from religious control and brainwashing mechanisms. Religion uses the story of 'hell' as a control mechanism to deceive humanity in following certain sets of moral rules. One example: 'If you have premature sex, then you will got to hell' This doesn't only limit our massively powerful, natural and metaphysical sexual force as human beings, but it also creates a form of fear and guilt, both resulting in lower consciousness. This is just one example obviously, but religious morality creeps in everywhere. What worked for me to release these fears is to actually experience them really deeply. This is not fun, but I do believe that feeling them deeply and then releasing them helps, at least they did for me. Some ideas: Watch The Exorcist alone at night Read 'The Long Hard Road Out of Hell', by Marilyn Manson (strongly recommend this one actually, as he struggled with this moral and religious issue massively and he broke out like a rockstar. Not a fan of his music but reading his autobiographic thoughts on this gave me a huge understanding in this issue, helping me to resolve this issue once and for al) Maybe even try taking psychedelics such as mushrooms with the sole intention of understanding and resolving your beliefs around this topic. I know these may seem scary at first, but they helped me to understand this. Understanding, seeing how Religion deeply deceived you and then channeling that anger, frustration, disillusionment and sorrow into what is truly meaningful for you, such as mastering your deepest dreams and most satisfying service. For me these religious beliefs stem from my grandparents perspective and were conditioned within me when I was young; they run deep and cannot be solved by just observing in meditation above. Now that I am older I can also see the huge benefits they planted in my life, so I can say that the frustration has fully faded away. Anway, hope this helps

I believe it to mastery of the self and your highest service. Once you realize that you truly expand, multiply and magnify Love, Light & Consciousness, both within and without, by serving others, and that ultimately service is the most beautiful thing there is, more satisfying than sitting in meditative bliss, your own will and your Higher Will align and you become a pure vessel of the One, automatically, seamlessly and magically driving you beyond your deepest dreams, highest potential and wildest expectations. Enjoy the ride!

@Barbara Hey Barbara. I can definitely relate to this. It is true, we are conditioned with all sort of outdated, beliefs and paradigms that don't serve our highest purpose and who we truly are. This means that we simply cannot solely depend on our mind for decision making. The mind is great for analyzing, filtering and understanding all the data and experiences we take in, but we cannot trust it as our main source for navigating life, because our highest truth is beyond our analytical understanding. There are a lot of things that can help you in navigating life in a more satisfying, authentic and smooth manner. The first one is understanding the differences between your analytical mind, your emotions and your intuition. Your intuitive feeling, stemming from the area around your navel and sacral chakra area is very powerful and will often contain a lot more truth than the neverending, relative, black-and-white voice running through your mind. I wondered if you're open to the metaphysical and have ever considered using Tarot for shaping your perceptions and intentions? Can do wonders if you're open minded to certain metaphysical concepts. Anyway, the main point. Human Design. It is in my eyes the highest form of human understanding. It is a mechanical philosophy that is all about one things: decision making. How do I make decisions as myself? How do I differentiate between what is me and what is not? How do I navigate life successully as my true self. I've done many years of personal development and this was the final master key that finally unlocked my root problem, which was overcoming the struggles that mental decisions caused for me. It can be quite overwhelming at first, but I'm willing to help you and give you a short reading of your personal chart, which would give you a concise, clear and trustful method of 'authority and decision-making' for your life personally. Shoot me a message if your interested. Hope this helps!

If you've done a lot of self-actualization work you can get value, meaning and juice from every movie, as every single character, scene and story adds to your understanding as human being on planet earth. There is value in higher consciousness movies and low consciousness movies, you either learn what meaningfully inspires you, or what doesn't. That being said, I do know what you understand in valuable movies and I've actually made a blog post about this on my blog. It includes some of the most enlightening, liberating and mind-blowing movies I've watched along my journey! Hope you enjoy : ) 13 Highly LIberating & Inspiring Movies

Hey, Sounds interesting. I am a creative centipede with a lot of projects and creative endeavors and I'd love to turn things up a notch. I can definitely relate to what you say about procrastination due to the fact of not having anyone holding me accountable, but on the other hand, I can also see that I sometimes try to 'will' myself into things that may not be harmonious or right for me at this time, creating unnecessary pressure on my heart and life. So that's why I'm curious what your goals are. Creative goals, entrepreneurial goals, physical goals, social goals, ... ? Curious to hear more