Shadowraix

A lot of advice here will reflect where our desires lead us. I'm going to try to give you advice that can be applied relatively to you. Don't worry about trying to be the most conscious person or the most good person. What are your desires? Don't be more conscious than you already are. The goal here is for you to act in a way that reflects where you are in life. We aren't going to take the same actions as some guru because we aren't gurus. You are you so while you can take in advice to consider the best choice should be a reflection of what you desire in life. Your past will haunt you if you don't put in effort to become content with it. Your past is in the past it is not in the present moment you are experiencing. Love your own ignorance, love your own doings in your past. Love yourself so that you can take in your experiences and and continue to change. Holding grudges on yourself will set you back. Ultimately you not being at peace is resistance so acceptance must be practiced here. Moving there when you are resisting currently is just an attempt to run away from your resistance instead of tackling it head on. Would you move if you were perfectly content in your current situation? Or is your desire to do this only to run away from your current discomfort? What does your intuition say? Its very easy to stray off path of your goals if you consistently run away from discomfort. My advice would be you still have a lot for you to work on. Do you want to help raise somebody before you have your shit figured out?

Questionable. Visual artifacts aren't too uncommon for people in general. I've had visual snow ever since I was a kid. Used to think I was just seeing air particles. Psychedelics can also exaggerate these effects.

That's why you find a woman who wants it from the start. Trying to convert a woman from monogamous to poly will introduce way too many issues. Especially if they are doing it for you and not for themselves.

@CreamCat it's not that they don't work per se it is just many people jump into it without being developed enough to handle such types of relationships. So they end up hurt because they still have things they need to work past. Too much fantasy not enough real world experience I see is the culprit to people moving into it too fast.

@Smika I have read on masculine and feminine energy in a much broader sense as it being a route in how the physical plane is manifested. (Gender principle kyballion) But your explanations really tied up the more nuanced examples of how this applies and balances itself out. Very insightful ?

Not as many people are open to poly or open relationships. But if you are either of the two and don't feel satisfied being in a monogamous relationship it will eat at you to stay in it because you are repressing a part of yourself. I had a similar conflict with my ex whom was really upset that I was ok with having sex with other women if it was allowed in the relationship. If you are monogamous and the conflict is just her not liking you accepting poly relationships existing maybe she took it the wrong way like you suggesting you want a more open relationship. I also went through this with my ex.

@Emerald Does some videos of her own.

Being authentic doesn't mean you can't change or become successful. It means you will only change and become successful if that is what you truly want instead of just blindly giving into the wants of others.

The short answer is to be infinity. You as an ego are a finite part of the infinite and what it means to be you is what you are currently experiencing. Its like a house broken up into rooms with no doors or windows. Might be possible for you to break the walls down to some degree (samadhi)

There is no bypass. Your only option is to tackle them head on. You don't get over things by running away but by dealing with them. Your egoic forces statement is just an excuse to give in to it.

Sometimes it can be a hard thing to accept there is no correct path and their path on living life is just as valid and correct as yours. Life is about living. You can't go wrong with it.

You are treating dictionary definitions as some form of law in how we must use language. It is indeed a standard, but that doesn't mean you have to follow it all the time. There is no correct way to use words. And words can take on as many meanings as you want it to. Language standards conform to how we use language, not the other way around. Be flexible. - Reality will break every model you build of it many times over. This is because it is not bound by logic or making sense.

No its simply you don't understand what I am trying to say. What you are calling something is also nothing. I'm not claiming nonexistence. You won't progress if you stick to rigid definition because the limitations of language already makes explaining this stuff incredibly difficult. The something-nothing dilemma is not the existence-nonexistence dilemma. But you are taking my words as if they are the same which means what you and I are talking about are different things.

Life is a puzzle. Which option solves that puzzle best for you? Don't just think short-term, but think long-term. You can both go to university and seek truth. Your 'ordinary life' will adjust as you have more realizations. You'll just naturally desire to do things. Embodying the truths as you go. This is a journey, so no need to rush it.

You're equating nothing to nonexistence. Consciousness is nothing. Something is nothing. Consciousness is something. Collapse the something-nothing duality. The only way for consciousness to be something is to be nothing. You can't be red if you are blue, you can't be big if you are small. But it can absolutely take on those attributes because it has no attributes. It is formless. Stop relying on what sages are saying. Its all bullshit until you directly realize these truths for yourself. (Including me)

@Mikael89 you get something from nothing. It's like finite being in infinite. Duality inside nonduality. It's both something and nothing at the same time.

You are creating a duality because you can't seem to accept the paradoxes of reality. Something Is nothing. You see, it collapses. There is no such thing as using words correctly. We alter and manipulate the meaning of words all the time. Being pedantic won't help you see what people are trying to point to. You will never understand if you focus too much on how they are pointing instead of looking where it is pointing.

You can experience nothing but not your typical notion of nothing. Collapse the duality of something and nothing. Go find that experience before you say such things.

Do whatever you want. Feel free to quit if you feel that's the best path for what you want.

Do not give them any answers. Enlightenment is a journey of self discovery. You can only encourage them to find it. Suffering is an essential experience. To hide that from them is limiting their self discovery.

Authenticity is about following the root of your desires, but even those are based on your experiences in life. There are some things you as an ego are born with to facilitate the programming of the mind but otherwise the subconscious learns and builds from scratch.

@Mikael89 Stop trying to defend your notions and go do the work to figure out what love is. You won't know what others is talking about until you have direct experience. Transcend rationality.

My ex-girlfriend (only ex cause I am moving) is the exact same way. When I started my journey and shared to her my realizations she loved to listen and think about it. A lot of the insights clicked with her too. She's also watched Leo and found a lot of advice to help her in her life. Her and a couple of my friends love talking about these kind of topics. Do I can reaffirm they are out there. I've had a year and two months of amazing memories. So glad you found someone too. ❤️

If I'm remembering correctly you've expressed negativity towards drugs on here before so it's really no surprise that you say this. Drugs come with risks yes. But all altered states of the mind are a part of the big picture. Just turns out some of them can help you zoom out to see the big picture better. You still gotta do the work but psychedelics can get you progresses faster initially than progress without it at all. Different methods work for different people. Your path is the answer and if drugs are involved its a part of it.

You have specific wants that you want fulfilled to enjoy a relationship. So this is ultimately an issue with you. Finding the ones that fulfill those wants are far and few in between but that'll probably be the case for most people. Work on your resistance to the qualities you don't like.