Shadowraix

@JohnnyBravo That was beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

What does that say when you need marriage to connect and know each other? You must appreciate the amount of dedication required to make marriage work. If you go into it without having enough, it won't end well. This is why people connect before they marry. You need a foundation to build on build that before you marry.

@kieranperez Essentially, to recognize the nondual is great and all, but that does not eliminate the dual. And still being in this story, you gotta decide what you want to do in it. Something? Nothing? Develop yourself to better pursue what you want? etc You're right its very easy to be caught up in the absolute perspective without also considering the relative. They go hand in hand. The absolute lets you see the strings so you can better manipulate the puppet in the relative.

Not necessary, but it's a deep rooted need you'd have to work on. It's not bad to have friends, I mean you are in this story, so why not have a little fun with it? Enjoy it!

You're thinking about it too hard. It's not a race of who says it first or the most extravagant. Just say you love her when you feel those words are genuine. Say it with confidence. There's no proper time to say it and it doesn't matter who says it first. If anything one might be holding out in fear of the other not being ready. If she doesn't say it back, accept that and let her know she can see it when she feels ready. I've had girls wait over a month for me to say it back but when I did say it they knew I was genuine with it and it made them happy. The only commitment is that you truly feel like you do love her everytime you say it. Women will appreciate a man who isn't afraid to say how they feel.

Yet there is no line between the other and self.

Good catch!

And that feeling is ok. Accept it. Be aware of it. Awareness of the body is showing love to the body. Life is a lot of things. But when you accept and become content with all of those things you can learn to appreciate and enjoy every bit of what it offers.

First consider your goals for acting this way. Adapting your behavior for approval can prove to be very beneficial to you. I'm changing my behavior to effectively get what I want. It's a puzzle. The key thing to be aware of here though is do you need their approval? As in is their approval necessary for my emotional state to not fly all over the state. Trying to solve the puzzle is all fine and dandy as long as you are content with failing the puzzle. Catch what I'm trying to say?

@Bluebird Running off old knowledge but afaik it has to do with neuroplasticity. This reduces as you get older. Although I imagine at a less degree the more you challenge yourself.

While nonduality is an insanely awesome paradigm also remember that God, The Dao or whatever you want to call it even transcends the idea of oneness. It would be error to say it is one and to say it is separate. So make sure to follow the pointers and not confuse it with actuality ?

Don't blame psychologists for the shit of other psychologists.

This is why even Leo says to not blindly believe him. Consider them all full of shit until you verify it themselves. The thing here though is it takes a significant amount of personal development for many to even begin verifying this stuff. Anything they say should be able to be verified through direct experience. Observation. A lot of the people here who stick around probably have verified some things Leo has said. I doubt all. Leo claims to be a very thorough person with his research and inquiry and the amount of times you can verify it yourself shows that. Of course there are still plenty of people who speak of what he says only with pure theory. We've all probably done it at some point. It's something to be aware of.

Ego death is only half the story. ?

Look beyond concepts to find out (:

The subconscious operates by repetition. The more you do it the more the subconscious will try and lead you to it.

I wouldn't Meditate full time. I'm not there yet.

Funny how we need our accounts deleted to be able to step away from it. Something to work on.

17 was just about the age where I started emotionally maturing. Prior to that I was super quiet and socially awkward. It'll get better over time. I'm 20 and I can see the past 3 years involved radical changes. Keep work on yourself and you'll see benefits.

There's only yourself to thank ?

Is that what you want for your life? Or are you just hiding back in the trap of comfort?

Both. This as well. Its all just experiences. I mean whats producing the dimensions and all experiences and chemicals? Its all the same thing. You are just interacting with yourself. Reality is creating illusions and we act like they are 'real' and serious despite the brain also contributing hallucinatory perceptions, why can't we do the same with beings we meet under drugs?

@Truth Addict You've proven your point by taking what I said in a manner not intended. I don't have anything against you either. It's just a discussion. I don't hold ill intents. Anways Emerald summed it up pretty much. The absolute won't be a productive way of looking at this. You need a more relative perspective based on what you want out of life and where you want it to go

The funny thing the very objective world created the subjective world. Both worlds merge into one