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@universe My past relationships have been pretty low quality. But good learning experiences. Yeah, my most recent relationship was pretty betraying I suppose in a few ways. I actually left her about 8 months ago and debating on getting back into it a little. But to be fair I am very happy without a partner at this point though too. I just notice much higher quality women being interested and I do get approached by them occasionally. I have a hard time not going for lesser quality people I suppose around me though, or at least I did. I have removed many friends and relationships just in this last year. I have one friend that is sort of local that I will go hike with sometimes now. But all the others are just online now. No more losers, thieves, junkies etc. And to be fair I know a pretty substantial amount of people locally. I guess at times I would just enjoy someone to have sex with or to go do some fun stuff with. But I realize that isn't really important. I actually could see it being a burden having a partner again, but I suppose a lot of that is just thinking from past experience. I have an issue deciding on what I would like them to look like as well. Conflicting ideas of what is attractive etc. Then the thought of settling for someone low quality. People are not really upfront about who they are initially and it becomes fairly easy to pass over bad traits of people initially in a relationship. I get that is stuff really not worth overthinking. Kind of like choosing the friend. Just kind of get and idea of what would be good and go from there. I never bothered to get any of those girls numbers or anything since I made the OP. I had one I was going to ask for it, but it was more of a just to get it thing. She lived quite a few hours away from me, and I probably would not make the effort to start a relationship being that far away from someone. But who knows maybe it would have went somewhere. I suppose I fear getting emotionally evolved with someone who might take me for a ride financially, emotionally, etc.

I have a couple girls that would be fairly easy to get to go out on a date. Not sure exactly how I want to go about it. Definitely be a lot more picky and look for warning signs. I kind of just want to have fun and explore it a bit. Any good dating tips you have used? Any good ways to suggest going out on a date? Looking to just talk to them in person.

@Moreira I would like a relationship. Just not looking to get stuck with someone I don't want to be with. And looking to see what a variety of different women could offer.

It's anything you want to create it to be. So if you want it to be pessimistic and meaningless, then that is an option. It is meaningless though in the grand scheme of things. More than likely no one will remember us in 300 years. But if you want to make it something you can enjoy, then do that. Find a meaning for it.

@JustThinkingAloud This advice actually helped me a lot. Approached probably 10 or so girls since.

OP may find this useful.

@JonasVE12 Understandable, I can see why you would like to break away from it then. Best of luck to you.

I would say if you enjoy it and don't let it take over your life, then it probably isn't a huge deal. But I suppose others may have a different opinion. You clearly want to stop doing it for whatever reason, or feel ashamed. It can be a slippery slope though. If you cannot control yourself enough to refrain from the thoughts.

Does it hurt you or others?

I got hit by an uninsured driver while having medicare. It did cover quite a bit. But I have to pay $600 out of pocket. Thing is I had just got checked to see if I was okay and not doing to die of some sort of internal damage or something I might not be aware of. Just got something to help with the pain, some sort of shot? I can't remember the name of it. And I believe the bill was thousands of dollars before the medicare. I would have been fairly crippled by the amount owed if I did not have that insurance at the time. I can't really imagine what it would have been like to not have the insurance at all. That or if the person had seriously injured me. I do regret not having uninsured motorist on my policy. But to be fair I did not really consider a circumstance like that I think mostly the issue revolves around the regulation of the industry. A lot of people become the lab rat for newer medication without really realizing it. Companies can "pay off" your doctor to prescribe specific medications. It isn't the best system by far and needs a lot of help. Here in America I think you have to be quite well off to pay off doctors bills. Medicare itself really needs a lot of improvements. But possibly with quite a bit more funding this is something that could really be good. The industry as a whole needs a bit of an overhaul.

I do meet quite a few I could approach while running too. So that is another option. But just not really sure how to just be friends with them prior to doing a date?

These girls I have meet just work at stores. I don't really frequent other social settings where I would meet them often to really become friends.

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I currently can walk the 5 miles pretty easily. But come spring time I want to be able to jog the entire thing. Any tips on getting to that level? I walk it 3-5 times a week currently.

@Hellspeed I want to use it as a stepping stone to achieve my goals in life. And set myself to have more discipline. I feel much healthier and better overall since doing it.

I jogged 3 miles of it today. Thanks for the help again guys.

@General 2 No doubt. Some excellent stories to reflect on and observe too. I am going to read his other books too.

I found this book very practical in business relations with other people. As well as protecting yourself from uses of power. Such as con-artists, cult leaders, and the like. The book is filled with many stories through history that will have you reflect on situations that you have been in. Where you give away your power. As well as seeing other peoples grabs for power. Have you ever received something from a friend, then to later be at their whim for a favor? Have you ever been betrayed by a friend? Do you ever appeal to someones interests, when asking a favor? Power hides in many forms until you realize the source. The 48 laws will reign true in your day to day life. I found myself bored on some stories sometimes, but many were very interesting and memorable. Many major figures through history are in the book. From Nikolai Tesla to many great kings and war leaders. Very detailed and each law shows the law in act and the reversal to the law. I think this can be applied at really any level of spinal dynamics. I find myself in a more green area, but I bow to many powers from orange people. Using this book has already saved me money and relations with others. Using these laws in practice in a non-evil way can still be very beneficial. But beware though your taste for power may become more hungry. If you find yourself enjoying history or psychology, then this is the book for you. 8/10 for reading enjoyment. 7/10 for page layout for easy reading. 10/10 for practical use and learning. 10/10 for value. I bought this book for $10.50 on ebay. Using this laws should save me much more money in the long run and I already paid off the book. My favorite laws were: Law 2: Never Put trust in friends, learn how to use enemies Law 3: Conceal your intentions Law 4: Always say less than Necessary (My most needed skill) Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but take all the credit. (Me reflecting on selling out my business and not doing so was the best choice) Law 9: Win through actions, never through argument. Law 10: Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky. (my ex) Law 16: Use absence to increase respect and honor. Law 19: Know who you're dealing with-Do not offend the wrong person. Law 20: Do not commit to anyone. (Or any side) Law 38: Think as you like, but behave like the others. Law 44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect. Law 46: Never appear too perfect.

@7thLetter I've heard it several times, but will listen to it again. Thank you haha.

Made up my mind and going for my business I am passionate about. I have a pretty good list going of everything that I need and want for it. Was wondering if you guys have any good sources for business plans to give me some extra ideas I may be forgetting?

@Nahm Lots of the laws you can use to deflect power from lower stages. But power itself can be used for a lot of greed. I found it helpful in a few situations I had been contemplating. As well as some marketing and things to do with customers. Not really to gain power over them, but to simply watch myself from making a mistake or getting ripped off. It's a good read. I think you should give it a try.

It's been a week since I left now. The days are moving slow, but working on getting over this. Mostly worried about falling into bad habits to fill the time this was taking up, but still moving in an overall positive direction. She was bringing me down in many aspects of life, but I did love her. My mind is constantly looking for something new or doing something new. I have a few businesses just a few steps away from being in full motion, but still lacking some strength on getting onto them fully. Some of it took years, but mostly due to lack of funding, but on a good track now. I've been removing a lot of people from my life. So not many left that are really there often. But trying to find higher quality friends is not quite the easy task, when the community is typically orange/Blue. Lots of addicts and not a lot of hope for many it seems like where I am. Any mentor I have seem to have found usually has a very troublesome life. I've been thinking of taking a solo trip to travel, and just found a local mediation retreat facility. But not sure what would benefit me the most at this point. Feel uneasy not making a lot of progress in the last 6 months, but I can manage it. Not sure if I can relocate with some of the opportunities I have here. Even leaving for 10 days might be a stretch, but I want to give it a go. I am just fearful of bad habits consuming me more and more again (Facebook, gaming, etc). I've managed to keep a excellent diet and exercise routine through it though. Posting to get some opinions on what you have done to help get out of a viscous cycle.

Update for anyone who cares: She messaged me to "come get my shit, or it is going in the trash" today, so I stopped by and grabbed it. Thankfully got a few things that will net me a fair amount on ebay and I just gave her a bunch of the stuff I had for moving in. She reeked of weed and cigarettes, and was hanging out with her old friend. Her old friend where here boyfriend was going to beat up my ex over just wanting to move out and made a massive spectacle about it. Sad to see her going into a bad pit, but not really my problem anymore. Oh and she shorted me the $60 that was for the phone bill, so I just left a heavy ass desk their and look at it as a clean up cost. Going to just block her number and move on.

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@Spence94 I've been diving into a lot of business focus lately. Reading about 2 hours a day, 1 hour meditate, 2 hours walk/jogging, and trying to find more productive uses for the rest of the time. Wrote out a full business plan and have been taking action. However, still working on some travel and time to think. Thinking about a 5 hour road trip to see my grandma for her birthday.