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Personally more introspection is ultimately a path to greater insight and living a more full life. kinda like unlocking hidden talents and potential that lay dormant in you. Its not for everyone but It is for me.. so would you like to use your full potential? or are you happy where you are.. If you would like more Introspection done well is a great tool. Remember introspection has to be done well. No need to judge or label or feel any pressure about what comes up.. You always have three choice with whatever come up. Deny and bury let go of Accept and move on you will systematically start to untie yourself and latent abilities will start to surface.. Enjoy your journey!!

I dont mind which beliefs, I had a pretty good child hood . I am mostly concerned about things that have be overwritten and reframed so much they are nolonger relevant..

Any Ideas on making affirmations any more effective.. I have a two pronged approach.. Find out why current affirmations are not working ()limiting beliefs) lets face it below affirmations are beliefs.. If you dont really truly believ it it will never happen.. But the second prong I dont know what I can do to improve.. Currently I write allot., revise, record thoughts and feelings, repeat affirmations every morning, visualise, try and put itno some emotional and physical context. Uhmm what else?? Not sure what else would you be doing..

imagine that. not taking pain personally its just there an watching it like we watch a passer by,.. genius!! I am sending out all my compassion and love lady peacock your pain is my pain..

Great question..

Just be mindful of the difference between the actual feeling.. and the dreams, thoughts that follow it.. BIG difference..!! Dont trust me on this one you will discover for yourself. Its really subtle but I get that you have a feeling about a life full of the things you are passionate about.. so far you've told me about the things you are passionate about and you've told me about what values you hold dear to you.. you love beautiful weather family safe secure environments luxuries your ok in splurging on nice things in life you value , value, dreaming, practicality, happiness,companionship,. If thats what you truly value.. go for it.. You wont mind doing all the work required to get there.. awesome!! I am going to enjoy seeing you create this life.. keep us up to date!!

Oh yeah the truth may be there,, I dont really care about truth. truth is just a version of who things should be. that could change.. I am happy with that. I dont know if there is a universal truth.. I kinda dont care.. I am happy in just doing the process of moving towards that.. what else do you need?? Be,challenge, discover, move, calibrate, and repeat.. until infinity.. Im am happy with that..

I have this down already.. There is no me.. I have no body or at least where it starts and finishes is a matter of controversy.. I am definitely not my thoughts.. hahaha.. I know this stuff, I am yet to actually feel it though.. I am one of those ones that gets the theory or at least some of it.. But I am yet to put in the 10,000 hours and start really experiencing it.. looking forward to it though..

I just want to say how jealous I am that you can hear your nagging feelings. I have to work soo hard to hear mine.. thats a real gift to be able to hear those emotions.. good for you it put you way ahead of the curve.. Those nagging feelings are sooo usefull for keeping you on track and give you a real sense of purpose and direction.. enjoy it!!

Convinced, Ok based on what evidence??You will find its just your own misguided beliefs and the dogamtic standards set by society. Its not a fact. you can have or chose anything in your life.. I dont really believe in motivation.. I do belive in self awareness.. i.e. I laid in bed for ages this moring untill it ovccoured to me I could be doing something better that more aligned with what i was about.. Pehaps you need to understand better what you are about and expoand it a bit, and then you can see if the actions and thoughts you hold are congruent with that?? Loneliness is a reflection of ones opinion about how much interaction they feel is normal. There is no empirical standard for what makes one a loner.. Its only a cultural norm.. If you feel lonely maybe its because you have an inner desire to have more human friendships.. If you have accepted it then fine but if the tension is still there, you have to either deny it, accept it or do something about it.. up to you.. Impossible to ever miss a train that keeps on coming around in a cirle.. Nothing is ever to late. know why?? because now is still happening.. the life situation which passed by is gone sure but you still have now.. You will always have now until your dead, and who knows mabye even after that?? Close friends IS a relationship.. Its just not a sexual one!!

Despite what others might think Women at all age groups go through different amounts of social pressure which can very much so reflect on what they want from and man.. Of course there are some underlying motives that are somewhat universal like the instinct top be protected or well kept ect.. but there is both going on at the same time. to what degree highly depends on your cultural and emotional environment... as maturity and life experience kicks in and has a chance to shape ones perceptoion so to does the requirement thats will meet ones needs.. I have met some 25 year old that dont give a rats ass about muscles and money.. But I have also met some 40 years olds who only think about money and muscles..

Wow, i share you view exactly.. But it is where we are right now.. all we can do is drop the dependance on superfical attraction or try and accept it.. dont beat yourself up for being superficial.. Its really fine.. Its just where you are at this stage.. Thats fine!! Just be fine with it.. (i need to be too) For sure, we are not all in the order of unbiased perfect gods that accept all truths.. We are but humans.. just enjoy it or let it go.. If you want to do something else do it.. If it has power over you learn or develop the ability to let things go.. it actually a thing.. I find it quite hard . so I cant really speak.. But at least it is something you can do. dont beat yourself up if you cant contorl that urge, all you can do is accept or let it go. there is no should or control insofar as what you want out of your life.. Your choice!! dont forget to have some compassion for yourself..

Picking up on a few things here.. Nothing wrong with you but yeah you probably dont fit into the usual norm of what girls find attractive.. Or at least the girls you find attractive.. I am similar in the way that I find some types of girls attractive but they dont find me attractive.. I too am at that stage of saying do I compromise myself to obtain something which may be a dud any ways. Once we get what we want it isn't what we think.. Effort is a scary thing I can hear you want easier results, and they do exist but they are superficial and have little efficacy.. I would suggest a mulitprong approach.. get to the bottom of exactly what it is that you want with a relationship.. emotional or sexual needs do some short term things that helop you to superficially feel better Dom some inner work to help you slowly but consistently get those needs met. Some needs you may not ever be able to meet either internally or externally.. i.e swinging from a chandelier with a hot supermodel. I guess even that is still doable but its then become a matter of how committed you are.. So I guess some awareness of just how far you are prepared to go and then be very clear about acting with according aggression. cold approach is no different to talking to someone at the counter of a checkout.. I can see my mates who frame it different.. They expect something out of it.. and hence they sabotage the possible results.. Cold approach is the same as talking to a cousin or a friend from school.. no different.. You have to be really clear not to go in with the perspective that you need or want something .. You have to go in wuith the perspective of what would I like to give this sitautaion.. I saw a girl the other night and she was by herself so I went up to say hi and see if she was up for some fun.. I had no intention of getting anything out of her.. Well, Do you admit your can become what ever you like?? Do you admit that your overestimating the effort required?? We all do it.. Do you admit some of your issue are that you have not developed the appropraite amount of fortitude to get over these issues.. So far all of these things are correctable

Oh, i have soo many questions.. When I go in cold I used to think of going in state pumped and shocking my target to notice me, It worked great but I could never get the girl I wanted.. I go plenty of interest (old,not atrractive to me, boring, nasty ect) but none that I was interested in. I have pretty specific taste (possibly fetishs) .. Im not sure what to do with this limiting belief.. I am at the stage now where I go out and socialize but I have no intention of closing.. Because I cant find what I want that wants me back.. Happy to be alone.. But it sounds a bit like an excuse.. Any advice

I feel your pain.I am in the same boat, And I also find it hard to accept the realities of the situation.. Its helps to share here with like minded people though.. I have an instinct that love can be polygamous in nature hence it will more than likely go this way in the future, but for now until we master this stage of our consciousness probably may be a wiser idea to focus on where your at with your current in the moment partner. I think about your motive for looking back and it sounds as though you look back out of regret.. I do the same thing. I would think it ok to look back if that really what you want, but you have to be committed to that path of getting back 100% and just do it or accept in the holding pattern you will just be stuck in limbo. I feel the over arching value here is one of commitment.. Should one be 100% committed in all situations, I dont know, Feels as though you could benefit from having options in some situations. Thats up to the individual and the situation. Sit down and weight up the options of options and whether they align to your master life purpose.. there is no reason you you cant find that thing you regret from some other source in your future. Well at least the intrinsic underlying need any ways.. There will be times when your past comes back to remind you.. i.e. random meetings with common friends ect. and it may bring these things back up.. depends on what you do and think and how you frame these events as to how they will ultimately affect you. It will take you as long as you chose to solve this.. Some are able to drop it in a flash. I know my ex has dropped me in a flash.. and move on. Look at it from a strangers perspective. would a stranger to your life view your inability to let it go as a strength or a weakness. what would an omnipotent being look down on your situation and say.. something like"OMG your heading for a collision course with a rogue planet from outside your solar system and all you can think about is your relationship" I am not trying to diminish your perspective of that important relationship but I think more perspective you can see can only help to give you a feeling of what is right to do.. I am constantly reminding myself I can be whatever I want and that what I am doing right now is consolidating that... Unconsciousness is not just about you not understanding something deep inside yourself its also about realising that there are a million different external views to your own.. Actual spending some time to go through some of the other view points is actually expanding your awareness.. Major reason why people come here?? The only way to deplete pain and anguish is to face it and each time you face it re-frame it and unlearn all those old fear responses.. Takes effort and time and ability to face fears and intelligence to be able to re frame the fear when you face it.. i.e. when I get scared of something is behind me in a dark rook I stand still and let that thing come and get me.. it never does and i walk away thinking I beat it.. just a bit though.. each fear has a different way to face and re-frame. re-frame is changing the view point of that fear. i.e. seeing a pesky naughty child as annoying, or that that child may have lost his mother to cancer today as does not know how to handle that emotion. You can pretty much re frame everything in a million ways.. takes practices though.

Sounds as thought you are coming from a place of scarcity. I do it too.. Its not rational but it is a real feeling we have. We really do believe that we cant find someone of that same calibre. Of course you will never find his equal but there are possible relationships that can be of equivalent value.. Also The pain of cutting the emotional bonds and memories and experiences is real too. just ask people who lose kids or loved ones in shock accidents.. That being said it does not mean it cant be or should be overcome.. That is your choice . you are free to be your own slave or to create your own freedom.. Hard as it is. Decide what you want from life and do it.. There is no right or wrong (in the big scheme)