Devi Shanti

@Michael569 [clapping hands] its tottally true. A mistake I often see here in this forum is people trying to give a "magic formula" to pick women, but in fact women are human beings, and every human being wants to feel special in a relationship. My advice for you is don't simply 'throw the hook for any fish', but choose someone who you like and invest on know her, listen to her, make her feel special someway. We women know when a man is just looking for any sexual partner. Good luck! @MM1988

@MsNobody quit everything @ajasatya said plus everything made by wheat flour. Is also a good idea washing your nasal passages with warm water with a bit of sodium bicarbonate and salt (OR only one of them, but the two together is more efficient). You can do this in the morning or anytime you feel its necessary. You can buy a neti pot (tutorial) or just use a syringe. Eucalyptus is an excellent plant for vaporizing or use essential oil. Hope you get better!

Hi Kaity! Something I consider important that made the difference for me is to be connected with nature. Study a little about the moon phases, the feminine cycles and try to feel it day-to-day. And I dont mean only the physical and biological phenomena, but also a metaphysics perspective.. Go deep! If you know each phase and its characteristics, you can use it to develop self knowledge and potentialize your power as a woman. This can even regulate your menstrual cycle and synchronize it with the moon (it really happened to me). Even the experienced farmers are guided by the phases of the moon to manage their production because they know all nature changes because of it. We are not different. If we are connected with our real nature and flowing in it, appearances dont matter, because it is not about stereotypes, its totally about pure reality. Magic things can happen when we are tuned to nature

Being the exact person you want to stay with for all your life. Imagine this person and work on being "her". The other person who you want will recognize you. Its a matter of vibration, do you understand? similar attracts similar. As everything I am saying here, Im just referring to personal experiences, ok? I can not give a general answer. Well, in my case, I met the man I married in an environment that was all about me (yoga, music, healthy meals...), and so I could see we had many things in common, to begin with. The day after we hang out, and the conversation we had made me feel I could get old with him without ever getting bored. There he was, being totally honest, transparent, sincerely interested on me, not only on my body. This kind of meeting doesnt happen very often, do you agree? To my way of seeing, physical attraction is often the first one. Beyond this, people will feel attracted to what they care for in life (for some people it ends on "physical attraction", then they discover there is a person inside that body and many times do not like it). About authenticity and purity, what I think is when you have strong principles and are loyal to them, your horizon of possibilities of relationships will be strict and precise. So, basically the real thing is work on your own personality. You will find someone looking for someone like you. I think its authentic if it is sincere, not only a tentative of imitation of some pattern from cinema, tv, etc. We need more than this to keep a marriage, but if we dont have it, its just brotherly love. I would say you to try to have a social life, go to places do the things you value, meet people with interests in common, accept invitations and if you find someone special, just be yourself and dont be afraid of ask her phone number and call her on the next day What exactly do you mean?

@Nahm So did he hahaha @SgtPepper Im afraid that I didnt get what you mean on "to be spiritually inclined", cuz for me what you said about your partner and about beeing "positive, passionate, and committed to living growth-based life" is the core of a spiritual oriented life

@zambize Case 1: I had a hole inside myself, desperately trying to fill it with "someone's love". I was selfish and wanted to be satisfied more than to satisfy. I was not really sensitive to other's emotional struggle. I didn't have much patience with other's failures. I really tried to be altruistic, sensitive and patient because I knew it was the "correct", but it didn't came from inside. Case 2: Before I started an engagement with a person, I already had inside myself a will of taking care someone, giving him my best, building a family, be a better person to someone and to myself. Now, in our relationship, I put all this things in practice, and Im conscious that every time I am patient, I speak softly and meekly even when Im angry or frustrated, I find a calm way to express my feelings, I give up something I wanted to meet a need of him, for example, I am polishing myself. Having domain over my emotions, I become a tranquil person, peaceful and more love flows through my heart, and happier I am and do good to people around me. Thats why marriage is a spiritual path. We become happier and more peaceful making the spouse happier and more peaceful. I would say to you that we know thats is real love when you like a person so much that you could face the worst part of you to be a better person to make her/him happy. But, an important thing is that all this only is possible if you find a person who is willing to do the same thing for you. How do you know? well... I learned through suffering a lot with wrong men I hope you dont have to go through this.

Hi people, Im @ajasatya's wife. He showed me this thread, so I think its a good opportunity for me to inaugurate my profile on this forum. Well, reading the comments, I was surprised because I only saw one time (in @Nahm's comment) the main word about this topic: LOVE. Marriage is about love. If you dont feel love or at least are willing to grow this feeling for a partner, there is a great chance of a frustrating relationship. The moment I realized I was ready to marry someone was when, even when not in a relationship, I felt a sincere real love in my heart, wich I needed to share with someone special. It was a different feeling from when I was in previous relationships, when I wanted someone to love me. I found myself in a sterile life, starving for a land where I could plant and grow the best of me. So, with an open heart, I found someone as well to accomplish a healthy and happy relationship, then, we married. When I say love is the main thing in a marriage, is because we need this like water to keep going together. It takes love to be patient with other's failures; it takes love to help the other with his difficulties; it takes love to ensure meals in time and clean clothes everyday; it takes love to endure hard job to provide all material necessities; it takes love to take care of each other, specially when sick; it takes love to deal with issues concerning one's relatives... etc, etc, etc. BUT, the same love is what make you happy when the other is happy, enjoy each day and night together, give a goodbye kiss and a welcome home kiss, having someone to share anything and have someone with whom you can count on anything; someone who knows you better than anyone and want to make you happy (because you make him/her happy!). Love is the best thing in this world, so, if you have a chance to grow love in your heart, keep the challenge! Love transforms us in better people who can transform the world in a better place. Maybe this would seem too romantic, but what I say is what I have been experiencing and seen some couples in my social circle do so. I hope this was helpful in someway.