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  1. Hi My name is Rob and I've been doing personal development for a while now. Recently I read a book called: stop thinking, start living and after I've read it, it completely changed my life. Why? Because this book reveals one secret that will completely free you up from your negative emotions. So what is it? "Drum roll" Here we go: There's is something within us called: the healthy psychology functioning. We've all exprienced this, when everything just felt right and no negative thoughts are bubbling up. You feel peaceful and happy right in the moment. Maybe you had this feeling when you're out in nature, watching the leaves in the river floating down, or maybe you had it when you're just sitting still in a room. I'm making the claim that we're always in touch with this feeling. Then why some people are still unhappy? Reason NO.1: they're just not aware of it. They don't apriciate what's in front of them already. Reason NO.2: negative thoughts are in the way of your healthy psychology functioning. Your healthy psychology functioning is like a sealed bad full of air. If you push it down towards the bottom of the sea it will shoot straight up to ground level. Here, negative thoughts are like rocks, maybe sea weed that stops this bag from rising. So how do we get rid of the rocks and seaweed? We're lucky enough to have this unique skill: as humans, we have a natural tendency to dismiss thoughts. Imagine you're watching your favorite tv show, then all in a sudden your mind tells you: well what should I have for tomorrow's breakfast? What will you do after you've had that thought? You dismiss it right? No one really wanna spend time on something pointless, they would just go straight back to their TV show. So do you see what's happening here? If you can dismiss one thought why can't you dismiss another? Also you know what? Negative thoughts are the same story: THEY CAN BE DISMISSED JUST AS EASY. If you catch yourself thinking negatively, and just simply dismiss them without digging into them. Then that negative emotion will fade away into your healthy psychologfunctioning. Keep in mind: emotions will still be there, but after you dismissed the thought, the emotion will just become a feeling and it will fade away after a short while. As Leo said: thoughts triggers emotions. Then, can you see how powerful this technique can be? So my suggestion: DONT TAKE MY ADVISE ON FAITH, GO OUT AND TRY IT OUT. This is challenging to do in the first couple of weeks, but once you sync it all in your subconscious mind, man! You'll be much happier Finally I encourage you to read the book yourself, it's really hard to cover all the concepts here. Peace Rob rea
  2. Hi people My name is Rob and I've been dealing with some small issues lately. I started my self actualization journey last year in May and I achieved a lot during those period. I became an ace studier at school and did well on all my subjects, also I detached myself from social media, videos games and TVs and dedicated all my freetime towards mastering myself. About a month ago I liked a girl in my school and started approaching her and chatting her up. The process was fairly successful because I'm a pretty confident and alpha guy with a lot of talents and an ambitious goal. But sooner or later I found myself constantly thinking about her while I'm doing my homework or reading a book and what's even worse is that I became a bit detached from my big goals. I hated that feeling, but it's hard to resist that feeling of romance. So right now I'm really trying hard to pull myself out of that state. So how should I gain more balanced between relationship and my self actualization journey? Thanks Rob
  3. @charlie2dogs That's a perfect description of love! Thank you! True love comes from a non-needy state of being.
  4. @MIA.RIVEL Thanks for the advice! Much appreciated.
  5. Thanks for the advice!@Holdup
  6. Yeah...... I really need to find a balance, but how?
  7. Hi My name is Rob In my recent post I discussed why teens should get into personal development instead of just doing what society made "easy" to do. Personal development has been a rocky path for me, especially when It comes down to trying to navigate a young mind that isn't sure that how things will work out. I've been through a lot of challenges on my journey. One of those challenges is: being labeled weird. I remember at lunch time I always enjoyed putting in my headphones and start listening to Leo's self help podcast on iTunes. Inevitably there are going to be people who asks you what you're listening. Before, I would always say to them I'm listening to self help podcasts and people will nod and walk away. Until someone said to me once: "you're getting weird. I mean you gave up video games, stopped junk food and now you're listening to those weird stuff, you're becoming anti-social!" Before that would've really piss me off but until I've gained some perspective, things flips around. Those naysayers, are lazy people, or unconscious people. You really think they're living a life like you are? NO! You think they're having REAL fun playing video games and eating junk food? NO! Their superego won't let them go! They're miserable people themselves, they get bored easily and complains about why life not full of excitement. Not like us, we're always living on our edge, trying out new personal development tactics and reading amazing books! We're living THE CHARGED LIFE! Of course those who aren't living it will pin you down and label you weird! You'll be the one who will set yourself apart from the crowd, you will achieve amazing results and live an exodinary life, you will feel charged and excited for the whole day! But they won't, and they're jealous, unconsciously jealous. It's your job to not get pinned down by those people. Next time, don't even react. It's ok to be weird, thatd what I takes to set yourself apart from mediocrity. By the time the real kick-ass results starts to show, that's when you can say: I'VE PROVED THEM WRONG!
  9. Hi My name is Rob and I'm currently 15 years old. Little back story: i got into personal development because something happened which made me realised that how much of a stimulous response animal i was, so that led me into personal development. One of the main challenges of getting into personal development in such a young age is that all my friends has no idea what this 'self-help' thing is and most of them think I'm crazy and weird. Most people in my school plays video games and eat junk food, so as soon as you detach yourself from those nasty stuff, people will label you as: weird. This is the NO. 1 obstacle to jump over if you wanna self actualise when you're a teenager, but you know what? its worth it. You'll feel so much better about yourself and realising your goals. Now i spend my lunch time reading self help books in the library for at least 40 mins which gave me some massive gains on my personal development, also I'm dragging more people into this field which is awesome! You might come up with objections such as: well, I'm only going to live once as a teen, why not just relax and do all the teens stuff when I'm at my age? Well, do you see all the people that has a screwed up life, maybe someone on the street, maybe that guy from the grocery store, or even your parents. If you're currently doing all the crazy stuff that your friends does, do you see whats going to happen 20 years down the road? Can you imagine how miserable your life will become?? Visualise it, feel into it. The other thing is when you're young, your mind isn't in a fixed state. So bad habits are still pretty easy to get rid of and good habits are still easy to install. Imagine you got everything handled before your mind becomes rock solid. Man, god knows what results you can generate. My advice is: If you're a teenager, watch leo's video: One last point: put down your bloody phone! You brain is now probably booked to it like a drug. I'll write a separate article on why should you give it up. So one simple challenge for you: don't touch your phone after you wake up for 1 hour. Invest that time into reading book, exercising, whatever. Just don't touch your phone. Rob
  10. Good on you man! Let's self actualize together!
  11. No, not yet. Because you're mind isn't stable during puberty. If you seek sprituality you're likely to become detached from reality and experience depression. My advice: focus on building a strong ego and get a successful career. Then you can start seekinf enlightment. Rob
  12. True.
  14. True, but sometimes we form negative thought on ordinary things. In that way we can dismiss the thought and gain some perspective on what we really need to do about the problem.
  15. I told my parents. Somehow they're saying: you're just a teenager, don't put too much stress on yourself. Do what other teens do! But think critically about what your parents offers you. Overall, we are on the driver seat of our own amazing fulfilling life! Rob
  16. If that happens, drop all your thoughts, and feel into the emotion. Don't try to control it. Express yourself if you want. Try it out! Don't try to resist the emotion. Btw:
  17. It's never too late to realize, the scary thing is not realizing al all
  19. Hi I'm not sure if I've found my life purpose or not. I loved piano back when I was very, very young, way back in kindergarten. So I kept playing, kept playing for about 8 years now. Early in the process I was just kinda grinding it through but the more I play, the more excited and energized I am to play more. Right now, hours passes without me even noticing if I'm on my piano. But who knows, this might change. Human brains are so dynamic. Btw it's not really about finding one thing, you can have multiple purposes. Like I really enjoy playing golf as well! Rob
  20. Hello there Ive never been to any parties because I don't really enjoy them. Not because I'm anti-social, I preferb going out to a shopping mall or coffee shop for a meet up and watch a movie or something instead of partying and getting drunk. Also, I hate alcohol. They make me sick. One more point: if your friends are not involved in self help or they're close minded, don't discuss about self help with them, that will make your friends think you're weird and push you away from they social circle. Rob
  22. It's going to be hard, but you know what? We're going to do it no matter what! Rob
  23. Lets work together towards self actualizing, man!
  24. Awesome! Let's self actualize together! See you on the other end! Rob