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@Inliytened1 you mean alternating techniques is fine?

Hello everyone! (^^) I’ve been testing different meditation techniques Leo recommended, and I found that mindfulness & letting go techniques are amazingly affective. I noticed a difference in my awareness practicing it daily for 20 min in less than 2 months. I want do both & explore more, also I want to do other practices like breathing, yoga, contemplation...etc. However, I don’t know if I could alternate between meditation techniques or should I do it consecutively to get the desired result. Also, if I that’s the case, for how long should I do it before I could change to another? Because as you know, different techniques for different purposes. I’m quite new to meditation and all of this and I don’t have someone close that I can ask for guidance. I have a lot to do everyday so it’ll be difficult to do all the techniques I want to do Sufficiently on a daily basis All replies are appreciated ????

@SFRL @studentofthegame @flowboy @pluto @bejapuskas @bejapuskas Thank you all for the advice, you gave me various perspectives on the subject. That helps. Also there are some great advice ❤️??

@bejapuskas what sign do you mean? And what’s the correct reading?

Hi guys, I couldn’t find advice to my particular situation elsewhere, so I’d really appreciate any advice. Here’s the problem. I’ll try to make it short. I’ve been residing in Japan as a student for 5 years, until December 2018. I met my girlfriend from the very first month, and we became couples for the whole 5 years. Until last year, I decided to change my major in university, but that entailed going back to my home country and working for 2 years to collect money for coming back again and study on my own expense. what happened was after 3 months from going back to my home country. Because the job I was expecting still didn’t open for applying yet, she said to me “ this is so stressing, I can’t stop worrying that things will go sideways and you won’t be able to come back after 2 years. Which is already difficult and I’m not shore I can handle it... . I’m 25 and you know I wanna have kids and make a family before 30. But looks like it’s gonna take you long before you get a job and be able to raise a family. I love you and want you, but I’m so stressed and worried about my future.” I replied “ I love you too, and wanna make a family with you. You know how much I’m willing to do to make things happen as we want, but unfortunately, this is the best I could do right now. So, I’ll be really happy if after I come back and graduate from university, you’d be next to me. But, it’s your life too. You’re future too. So, if you feel it’s better to not wait and that it’s too risky, you have all the freedom to find someone else. I’ll still love & support you. And I will wish you all the best.” A few days after, she decided not to wait. I respected her choice, but it’s been 4 months now and I just can’t stop missing here and wishing she would take me back. We’ve had so much together. We grew together, we suffered together, fought together & support each other. I know her so damn well, and she does too. Basically, my life in my home country ( which is Saudi btw) was so damn pale and tasteless compared to what I have experienced in those 5 years, especially with her. All the good memories. Even the tough and bad ones. We dated since we were 19. We had so many planes which will never happen now. And that’s hard to forget, at least for me now. She started searching for another guy, and lately she has been dating this guy, which she might consider seriously. I’m honestly happy she found a good guy that will hopefully make her happy. But at the same time, I’m so envy of him. strangely, I don’t hate him at all. I’m actually relieved in a since because he really looks like a good guy. But I just cannot imagine loosing her. Like actually loosing her. I Cannot imagine her with someone else. I still feel she’s my girlfriend. I still feel I have hopes for us. I know it’s ridiculous and needy behavior. But the idea that bugs me a lot is that we didn’t brake up because we didn’t love or want each other, the circumstances forced us. I know that’s stupid too. But how can I overcome this? Although I know that with the personal development work I’m doing with Leo she will not be happy with me. Because she already didn’t like most of what I do. For example, she didn’t like how I changed the food I eat because we can’t “enjoy” food together as we always did. Also she didn’t like me meditating, thinking it was a religious kinda thing. Although I can see that there’s a high possibility that it might not work and she will eventually be frustrated with me and leave, I still cling to my ideals & hope. how can I just let go of this? I know dating other girls can help, but it’s saudi. It’s difficult. Everything has to be done secretly. Which is so stupid and frustrating. How can I fix myself from the inside and just forget about this rather already over relationship? I want to stop clinging and hoping, but I don’t know how... Thanks in advance ??

@Joseph Maynor that’s true. But I need to start somewhere. I already bought a lot of books and courses and I’m in the process of learning them. Besides all the YouTube videos I watch. Trying to embody everything I learn. thanks for the advice!

@Hello from Russia I thought about that, majoring in something like that will be me spending time on what I’m supposed to be spending time on. Which is my domain of mastery. thanks for the advice!

@St Clair Thank you so much for the detailed thorough advice!! It was really helpful. Appreciate it. To understand your example better, would you tell me what is it your life purpose and domain of mastery? Because you said you used boy scout and kung fu as a means of life mastery. Does that mean that those are what you’re spending 10,000 hour mastering them in life? And your work writing and music is the medium to drive what kind of life purpose? Thanks again.

@Leo Gura still actually have about 3 videos but I watched them quickly and watched the 2 FAQ parts but still one question troubling me. English is not my mother language so please bare with me. taking the life purpose course I found that my life purpose is to share my wisdom with people help them create a better life (still working on articulating it). I’m studying abroad (in Japan). Came immediately after high school and studied Japanese for 2 years, went to college majoring in civil engineering and this is my second year. the problem im facing is that I knew from the second semester that this is not the right major but couldn’t change until now but I can’t decide what major I should be majoring in which would be aligned with my life purpose. Sharing my wisdon with people could include so many things and I’m not sure yet which specific thing I wanna be sharing my wisdom about and help people with. Or maybe I wanna share my wisdom about everything I could. The domain of mastery I chose was personal development. this one also have a lot under. I can talk about how to become open-minded, how to grow your consciousness, how to master your emotions, how to improve your health and diet, etc. So, which major would be the right one? I honestly feel like It would be easier not to go to college and learn about personal development by myself since there’s no such a major in universities. At least where I’m now. but the problem is I do need to go to college to have a good starting job since my family can’t support me since they’re the ones who need support. I already missed so many years and changing majors may cost me an additional year. I’m already 23 years old. so I could major in many different majors but all of them would be just a facet of my life purpose. I’m afraid I’ll be choosing something that I will regret later. I won’t be able to change majors again since I would be unable to afford it. Besides, I’ll be waisted too many years on college. So I feel like this is my last chance and it’s scaring me. I really feel stuck and can’t decide. I would really really really appreciate any kind of advice. thank you very much.