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@Leo Gura LMAO I just finished the test and about to post it Why you gotta say that.

I noticed that happening when I did strong meditation sitting. The raw data is quite clear (the sound the movement of their mouths) after I did it. I don't people noticed but I really enjoyed that feeling (as much as I hated the meditation). I personally found it easier to talk cause I'm usually a lot more restricted. I can give out without caring about the mental chatter about what I just said. What kind of meditation do you do? You seem to know that your ego wants that. I think it's okay to give the ego what it wants. Just observe that it's the ego. You denying the ego is also egotistical.

I think it's better to discuss the dynamics of the forum among the members themselves.

What is your stance on anime? More chimpery?

What is this? Why does it work? It seems like it's just an arbitrary thing. Could you explain?

Try to realize the reasons people do things to you. Trace back the reasons of an event. Why did that person do that? What if there was a similar person to me in my shoes? What would I feel towards that person?

RSDTyler??

What's the difference between approaches that let you dig up the root cause of a negative limiting belief and just doing straight on affirmations or visualizations? I think I have an insidious fear of rejection that makes me extremely calculative when I'm interacting with other people. I always plan what to say and how to say it. I'm never authentic. I'm always aware of what I shouldn't say. I'm not familiar with tackling the root cause of a limiting belief. I believe(pun not intended) it's about digging up an event in your past and changing your stance on it(reframing). I'm not sure how that process goes. What should I do in my situation? How should I deal with other beliefs that I find they have a root cause? If you can recommend resources I would like that as well.

I'm honestly fine with hypervigilance. I would say that I in fact enjoy it. I want it to be my temple. It's a cage for me now. It's holding me in so many ways.

It doesn't sound like there is fear. There is merely desire for a certain way of operation (calculating in the moment). You might actually have a limiting belief which is "people don't matter" implied from "I don't care about people." Or it's just that you didn't learn that people matter which is saying that a belief didn't get installed that usually gets installed in other people (possibly genetically or through social conditioning) Do you think it's a limiting belief?

I'm reminded of the statement Leo made in his video "A Vision For The Self Actualized Life" where he said "Wiping the whole slate clean". I'm interested in how would that be possible and how to go about it.

Some random thoughts: The more your resonate with an affirmation the better When you affirm from a place of gratitude you tend to be more accepting (I'm grateful for being confident) You don't need to believe them. I don't know if you can apply Progressive Overload to affirmations. I'm interested if someone can offer an opinion about this.

I think he wants to talk about childhood beliefs and beliefs that stop him from realizing his potential. I don't know about a particular technique but I know that I have some beliefs because of how I interpreted my behavior. For example I know I have a fear of rejection because I supplicate to other people. I'm extremely calculative and hyper vigilant when talking to others. Working on gaining confidence doesn't necessarily solve the root cause. I'm unsure about the root cause I don't know how to tackle it.

Your words felt ALPHA

I'm in a 3rd world country living amongst the side that's rebelling against the government. I don't know shit and I don't really care. People around me get dumbfounded when they know how much I don't know. My friends occasionally makes fun of it. It's almost negative that I don't know some fundamental things, I guess I've got other things to worry about for now. I'll work on that later if need be.

I know this might seem an indirect approach but I recommend working on your voice. The thing is that you can force yourself to act and visualize how you will go through a situation but sometimes your body doesn't follow, your voice mumbles and stutters and it's so low. I've tried doing voice deepening exercises for a couple of days and the results were astonishing. I began to experience fulfillment through purely hearing my self say words to my self. It is really satisfying. I think this is a good approach because it takes a lot of effort out of the table. IT'S MUCH EASIER TO RAISE YOUR VOICE when you work on your voice. It's still one aspect though and you gotta keep it consistent with voice deepening exercise. It's gonna take a while to lock in. You still gotta be careful when talking with a about deep voice. A person can have a deep voice but his mouth is blocking the full potential. He's not enunciating fully subconsciously. I speculate that these people are used to being semi assertive (aggression control after long habitual pattern).

Keeping mental focus on an activity is both shared by visualization and meditation. Fundamentally we're speaking about the same thing. I personally have a curiosity into which aspects of my visualization works. I'm keeping mental tabs and tracking what works and what doesn't. Kind of a neurotic attitude but keeps the job done. That would be like: (oh I'm getting nervous that means I'm visualizing the situation well and going through as though it's a real one so it's +1 experience point. Let me sit with it and watch this sensation (apply other techniques as well xD) let me continue this scenario it seems a hard one yet one I can visualize that I can do.)

We're basically in a rat race chasing things outside of ourselves to become fulfilled. I think being fundamentally different entails having different agendas. You can connect with somebody deeply but he's gonna wanna do things his way. He's gonna wanna do what he wants to do. That's where we feel alone. And even if we succeed at not being alone that will not bring us fulfillment by itself. Hedonic adaptation will kick in.

In a sense you're a slave to everything your biology inclines you to do. Even the resistant of that could be argued that it is biologically induced. You disliking one aspect of that biology is the bias here. I don't know why reproduction is a bias for life forms. What created that desire in the first place? Is there one true and only desire for every thing that exists and that is simply being? Is life the result of the expression of that force? Who knows.

I've got the book but I haven't read it yet. It's not in my priority list for now I think it's a bit abstract dunno.

@Leo Gura HAHAHAH nice find

Leo, what's wrong with the follow button? I can't follow threads/people. I click and nothing happens

Did you read his latest book? The ABCs of Success. I'm not sure what kind of personal development he covers.

I've never really hung around any forum. I think I'm here to stay.

What does a typical work day schedule look like (in a minute to minute basis)? How many hours do you work per day? Do you have off days?